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5 Straight-Forward Ways to Find Motivation Within Yourself

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You’ve taken advice to start a new habit or set a new goal from someone that seems important and knowledgeable. But, most, if not all, of the time you fell short.

Even though it sounded like good and reasonable advice at the time, when it came to doing it, you either just didn’t, or you found some reason to rationalize not doing it. Either way,  nothing inside you said, “no, I’m doing this.”

The reason it didn’t work is because if our motivation to do things comes from an outside source, the moment that outside source isn’t there any more (which is likely most of the time), we aren’t going to keep doing whatever it is we were trying to do.

So to make sure we actually stick to the plan, we have to be able to motivate ourselves, we can’t outsource motivation and hope to succeed. Getting the idea from an outside source is great, but to follow through, you have to internalize the motivation.

Here is 5 ways you can drive yourself to success:

 

1. What is your “because” clause?

If you don’t want your goals to slip into the abyss of “I’ll get to it when I have more time and energy” you have to understand why you have the goals you have.Meaning, there has to be a “because” clause at the end of declaration that you are going to achieve your goal.

For example: I am going to meditate for 15 minutes every morning because I want to have more clarity, focus, and presence.

If you don’t have “because” clause, you won’t be clear on why you are doing something. So, pushing yourself to keep going when it isn’t new and exciting, will be virtually impossible. Why torture yourself by slogging through the hard parts if you don’t even know why you are doing it.

Your “because” should be pretty easy to identify. Just ask yourself, what impact are you looking for in your life as a result of your goal? The answer should not be that you complete the goal. You have to figure you why you want to achieve your goal. Then, the motivation is the because clause in the sentence.

 

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2. Give yourself only two options, succeed or fail

You don’t like to fail. I don’t either. It’s why we find it so hard to start something new, it means we might fail. It also creates a tendency in us to rationalize stopping or procrastinating when things get hard and it feels like we might fail. It is a seductive thing. We are very good at rationalizing why quitting is ok and why it is different than failing.

So, you have to guard against yourself. The best way to do that is to put yourself in a position that you can’t quit without failing. To do that you have to commit to what you are doing in a way that the only thing you can do is either do it, or fail.

Here’s how, and it works with whatever you are doing. Tell people what you are going to do. Tell them your “because” clause. And tell them you will not quit for any reason until you’ve done it. Tell people you respect, people whose opinion matters to it. Maybe it’s your spouse, your friends, your parents, or your colleagues. And then ask that person to follow-up with you regularly to check your progress.

This isn’t easy, but it is ridiculously effective. If you really want to push yourself, put yourself out there in a way that either you get the job done or you let down people you respect. You’ll be impressed at how hard you will work to make it happen.

 

3. The big picture isn’t that important. Focus on the small one

A huge reason we often lose motivation is that our goal feels so far away. If our goals are big and powerful, there’s probably a sizable gap from where we are to where we want to be. After we lose the buzz of getting started, covering that gap can feel impossible.

But in reality, that gap is just a bunch of small steps strung together. Each one of which you can absolutely do. And after you’ve done one, and then another, and then another, eventually you look up and you are nearly there. The key is to keep moving. In order to keep moving, you have to take those small steps.

So, how do you see a bunch of little doable steps instead of a uncoverable gap? I’m sure you’ve heard, break up your goal into smaller goals, six weeks, two weeks, one week. That’s good advice, but I’ve always found it really hard to follow.

Instead, I find telling myself that each day I have to spend 2 minutes doing something to take a little step towards my goal. If I get in 2 minutes, the day is a success and I feel good about things.

You’ll find if you just commit to the two minutes, you’ll often get more in. Two really is enough. It keeps you in touch with the goal, it creates and keeps momentum. You don’t have to sit down and create a year long plan with 52 week-long bench marks.

You just have to take two minutes and do something that moves the ball forward. You can do that every day. When you do, let yourself feel the success, don’t worry about how much you get done, it doesn’t matter. It only matters that you do it.

 

4. Can you see it? Touch it? Feel it?

After we set our sights on some audacious goal, if we want to stay motivated to complete that goal, we have to believe it is possible. As you may know, our brains are bad at telling reality from fiction. That’s why The Blair Witch Project freaked me out for quite a while after I learned it didn’t really happened. I knew it wasn’t real, but my mind saw it and there wasn’t anything my intellect could do about it.

You can hijack the same mechanism horror movies have been hijacking for decades. If you vividly picture yourself completing your goal, your brain will believe you can do it because it has already seen it, even though you just forced your brain to picture it.

It’s easy to do. I find, right before I go to sleep to be a good time. I’m always lying in a quiet dark place, so it’s perfect for visualizing things. Picture your success, what it feels like, sounds like, and if it has a smell or taste, add that in. The more senses you can get involved, the better. Then drift off to sleep knowing you’ve made that success a little easier as a result.

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius

5. Visualize failure

Sometimes I need a little kick in the pants. You probably do too. Visualizing your success is important to getting yourself to believe you can actually achieve whatever you have set out to achieve. But on the days when you don’t even feel like spending the two minutes I discussed above, and we all have them, negative visualization is the trick you need.

You visualize what your life looks like in a month, year, or five years if you quit and fail to achieve your goal (the time is relative to the goal you have, pick the time frame you expected to complete your goal if you stick to it). Really visualize it.

Now, because you obviously want to succeed, having a clear picture of failure will push you to take the two minutes and do something that pushes you forward and guarantees you don’t fail today.

You’ll act so you make sure what you just visualized never comes to fruition. After you take that action, and this is critical, congratulate yourself and picture your success and how you took yet another step toward it. Don’t let the negative image sit on your brain.

What luck, you are absolutely in control of your own success

You are going to be the biggest reason you succeed. No one talks to you more than you talk to yourself. No one has more control over how you spend your day. Take advantage of the position you have as the person in charge of your life. When you have a goal you want to achieve, use the five strategies above to push yourself towards that success.

Thanks for reading my article! What things do you do that help find the inner motivation to push you?

Craig had an “aha” moment when he realized he didn’t want to be a walking contradiction to his son, teaching one set of values and living a life driven by a different set. So he had to make a change. He started Forge Tomorrow Today to help others in the same boat. Craig put together a guide to help you lock in your motivation so you are willing to crawl up the mountain if necessary, but you aren’t willing to quit, get it HERE.

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  1. Craig Boneau

    Oct 15, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    Lawrence, I’m glad you found the article helpful. I agree, Number 1 is huge. If you have that nailed down, everything else is much easier.

    I’d love to hear how the others work for you. Come back and share when you’ve given them a try.

  2. Lawrence Berry

    Oct 13, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    These are all some great ways to help yourself to stay motivated. I haven’t heard or tried some of the ways mentioned, but they seem very rational. Number 1 is one of the biggest things that keeps me motivated, sort of like realizing what my purpose for doing something is. Many do things just for the sake of doing it, not having any purpose behind the act other than financial gains. I will have to try out visualizing my failure, its seems like a great way to get driven.

    • Craig Boneau

      Oct 15, 2015 at 7:23 pm

      Lawrence, I’m glad you found the article helpful. I agree, Number 1 is huge. If you have that nailed down, everything else is much easier.

      I’d love to hear how the others work for you. Come back and share when you’ve given them a try.

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5 Important Facts You Need to Know About Motivation

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Whether you are trying to lead a team of employees, teach a child, or even get through your own workday, staying motivated is key. Nonetheless, this isn’t always as easy as waking up and deciding to be motivated.

There’s a lot to know about motivation and what it can offer you – whether you are trying to motivate yourself or others, thus below are 5 points that are the most important to know:

1. Goals are Crucial

This one might sound like a cliche but you should make sure to set smaller goals on the way to the bigger one. A large project can be intimidating to work on – whether this is a job at work, weight loss goals, or anything else. The best way to keep motivation high is to take these jobs one bite at a time.

Rather than looking at a massive job, break it down into smaller goals or milestones. Focusing on completing these will be much less stressful than looking at an entire project all at once.

2. Give a Reason Why

If someone is working without purpose rather than working toward something, they are bound to lose motivation. After all, why shouldn’t they? On the other hand though, a purpose will make any task easier to accomplish. Think about being given a boring task; it would be easier to suffer through this if it was part of a bigger, more interesting project instead of just a meaningless task.

“When you feel like quitting think about why you started.”

3. Positive Reinforcement is Better Than Fear

It can sometimes seem that threatening to fail a difficult student or fire a lazy employee can be the best way to get them to work. However, while this may work for a bit, these employees and students fall back into old habits quickly.

What is more lasting, though, is positive reinforcement and incentives. Instead of threatening to fire an employee, it may work better if you promise employees the chance to grow. The concept of reward vs. punishment has been studied many times and the general consensus is that someone is far more likely to be motivated to correct and improve their behavior when they are promised a reward for improvement instead of a punishment for stagnancy.

4. Motivated People are More Engaged

This fact just makes sense; if you are motivated about what you are doing, you are going to be more engaged. If you aren’t motivated, you won’t be nearly as engrossed in your work and won’t pay as close of an eye to it. There are two main ways this is crucial. For repetitive work or tasks, this means that you will be more attentive to detail, making you more detail-oriented and thoughtful of the task at hand.

In addition though, this makes more motivated people safer as well. If you are working in dangerous conditions, those people who are paying more attention to their jobs are bound to be safer on the job than those who aren’t. For example, imagine a doctor not being interested in or paying attention to his job; the results could very easily turn catastrophic.

“Throw yourself into some work you believe in with all you heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Creative Tasks are Easier to Get Motivated For

No matter how motivated you are naturally, if you are doing a simple, mind-numbing task constantly, you are bound to lose that motivation eventually. However, this can be combated with the use of more creative tasks.

Obviously, you aren’t always going to have a creative task available. There will also be a need to fill out a spreadsheet or do a mundane, repetitive task. When you can though, it is much easier to get excited and motivated about a task that gives you room to think.

This is a technique that can be used in any setting, not just the workplace. Take a classroom full of children for example. If a teacher announces that the class is going to do a worksheet, you won’t hear any excitement. On the other hand, if a teacher tells a class that they are to do an experiment, you are likely to see more children get excited.

While adults may not jump up and down in their seats like an elementary school student would, creative tasks still help to keep them engaged in what they are doing and make them feel like their ideas matter just as much as their labor.

How do you maintain your motivation from day to day? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Things You Must Do When You Lack Inspiration

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Yes, we do feel motivated by reading quotes and watching movies like The Pursuit of Happiness and Soul Surfer. The protagonist makes you feel you are the hero as psychology would call this Experience-taking. However, sometimes these things are not enough to drive you to accomplish your goals and dreams.

Our mind and body wants peace, yet a lack of inspiration shouldn’t slow us down. We wait to be inspired and get no work done because of it.

Is inspiration  important to make us successful in our lives? Yes, because it acts as a trigger for the shotgun as it initiates the very vital ‘Beginning Process’ of which we are frightened to jump upon.

What exactly should you do when you lack the inspiration? Read the 5 points below:

1. Meditation Matters

You don’t need to do deep meditation wherein you train your mind to attain the desired state of consciousness. Meditation involves analyzing  all kinds of emotions like anger, hatred, compassion, and love. According to many psychological studies, it is revealed meditation drastically minimizes anxiety and stabilizes cognitive ability.

It not only allows you to become inspired but keeps your body physically fit. Today, people are suffering from mental illness like depression. Even when someone is stressed, it is hard to get inspired. If you are a beginner in meditation, you can still experience results. It eradicates all the hindrances that come in the way by calming us down. It is no revelation you perform better when you are relaxed and mindful.

If you are new to meditation check out the iOS app Calm and Android app Headspace. Using proven meditation and mindfulness techniques, these mobile applications train your mind for a healthier, and happier life.

“Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

2. Pausing Social Media

From your smartphone to your computer, shut everything off and give yourself a needed and short break. Remember, there were no mobile devices 100 years ago so people had to find different ways of entertainment. Perhaps, talk to an old friend or ask the cute girl out in your class.

The psychology today surveyed 100 individuals of which 50 were given all the digital facilities and 50 were provided only the required devices. After the experiment, it was proved that the later group did 85% more effective work than the former. Digital Media is becoming crowded and constrained, so do not forget to stop and pause from time to time.

3. Take a Chill-pill

In our current culture, people seem to be rushing and hustling to get things done, andthey don’t take the time to give their body and brain much-needed rest. According to Phyllis Korkki, a writer for the NY Times, “Employees generally need to detach from their workspace to recharge their internal resources that provide cognitive recharging.”

According to Beth W. Orenstein of Everyday Fitness, “It is easy to get frustrated when we feel uninspired. When these moments come, it is often a good idea to take a break for a few days. Sometimes your mind just needs a break from all the noise and hustle.” We must realize if we don’t rest, our bodies and minds will have no time to recharge, and our inspiration levels will lower down.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Jim Goodwin

4. Miracles of Music

This is a head and heart combo, because scientifically, when you listen to your favorite music the soothing effect connects your brain and conscience emphatically. Maybe all you need is a soft jazz (it’s okay if your genre is a heavy metal) to get you out of your creative funk. Music does have a large influence on your emotions. Maybe you’re having a bad day and it is affecting your working ability. Listening to your favorite song might lift your mood and thus allow you to be more productive, innovative and creative in what you will do.

5. Shout out loud

Scientists bring this factor out frequently because people today don’t share their stuff. Their mind becomes a locker room where junk is stored, yet this garbage has to be removed. This negativity can and strain can be abolished when you shout loudly (at a place far which is calm and quiet).

Next time you feel uninspired, try attempting any of the above and you will be surprised how effective it works, because as psychologists say, “Human Beings came with a manual. All you need to know is how to read it.”

What are some ways you find inspiration? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Way To Begin…

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We all start somewhere. We may not know what our dream is to begin with.

This was certainly the case for me back in 2011. I’d hit rock bottom and everything in my life had gone wrong. There was no meaning in anything I was doing and I didn’t know why I existed. I had no dream and zero goals other than to survive the day.

My anxiety and stress levels were so high at that point in my life that just getting to go to bed at night was good enough.

 

So how do we begin anything?

I believe the way we begin is often by accident. We don’t always know when an idea is going to hit us or our life is going to change. For me, I certainly had no clue. My life up until that fateful day was spent chasing money and things that I thought mattered.

These were not things that mattered to me; they were things that mattered to society. Getting to where I was on that day was a complete accident. I always thought I was going to be this big time businessman importing stuff from China.

I thought that because I was born in the lucky country of Australia that I was entitled to success. This fateful day would soon teach me how wrong I was.

“Being wrong is often where it starts. Being wrong is where the accident of your success journey can begin”

 

There is one common trigger

That trigger is a low point where you decide that enough is enough. It often all begins when your pain levels reach and extreme point. It feels like your life is going to implode and that if you died tomorrow, it wouldn’t even matter.

My low point in 2011 became the defining moment where everything changed. I was not purposeful about my new path, but I had definitely had enough. Many of us get this same trigger. What I’ve found is that too many of us don’t use it. These low points are a gift and when you come face to face with one, you need to make the most of it.

These low points are the motivation and change in mindset that you need. I took my sign that my life needed to change and became obsessed.

 

What does the start of the journey look like?

It doesn’t look all that flash to begin with. The start of a journey towards success never does look amazing.

Mine was so simple it almost seems make-believe. I want to describe it for you in extreme detail so you can see just how simple it was.

On that fateful day where everything collapsed, I made a very small decision. It’s probably the smallest change in my life I have ever made. This decision changed everything.

“All I did was decide to walk around the neighborhood block, where I lived, once per day”

The duration was so short that it was impossible not to do. At this stage in my life, I was not conscious of anything and knew nothing about success or psychology.

I did this walk for a few days and then my mind told me that I wasn’t maximising the time. See, I am one of those crazy people who always has to be hyper productive. In this case, my hyper-productive mind was the greatest gift I had been given.

The next part is still a bit blurry. Having had no clue what to do other than doing my daily walk, I did what all millennials do: I asked Google for answers. I’m not sure what the series of search terms was that led me to Tony Robbins, nor do I care.

Once I found a Tony Robbins video on Youtube, I became hooked. All the answers I was seeking became instantly available to me. At this point, I turned into a total freak.

I got my iPod, downloaded a whole bunch of Tony Robbins audiotapes, and went for a walk every single day. Many of these walks became longer than one hour. I walked as fast as I could and I had a look of determination on my face that made me look like I had been possessed by the devil.

So the turning point was really these walks, combined with listening to audiotapes.

 

What does all of this mean for you?

That’s a damn good question cowboy. What it means for you is that you may be over thinking your next move. Your next move needs to be a decision. I recommend making lots of small decisions and trying many new things.

The thing that will take you on the next journey that could lead to your life’s purpose and / or dream is probably way simpler than you think. As humans, we over think success and we look for gianormous triggers or external factors before we’re willing to make a decision.

I believe it’s the small decisions that help you begin. It’s the little things you’re dismissing like taking a walk around the neighborhood block that could potentially change your circumstances.

 

Finding that trigger or habit is not enough

Even if you discover something like walking, which has a major effect on you, it’s not enough. You still need to get off your ass and make a decision. What is that decision you ask?

That decision is to no longer to accept your current results. It’s a decision to cut off from everything else and become intensely focused on one pursuit. If all you do is find a new habit that keeps you in the same rut you’ve been in, you’ll never start your own journey.

I used to be so lazy, indecisive and lack discipline. These were the traits that were holding me back. On many of these walks I went on, I decided that I’d no longer settle for these loser behaviors.

 

See yourself for what you can become, not who you currently are

“When you begin a new road towards success, you have to think of yourself differently. You absolutely must see yourself as who you can become and not who you currently are”

During my transformation, I focused on all the potential that I had and what I would look like in the future. I thought about standing on stages in front of thousands of people and doing something that filled me with joy and passion. I saw videos of thought leaders like Eric Thomas and told myself that I could live my life at the same level.

To this day, those thoughts have never left me and I never will let them go. Until you’ve been all the way to the lowest of lows, you’ll never know what it’s like to dream big.

You have so much more within you. Yes, people will laugh at you and think you’re dumb. The only reason they think like that is because they are pissed off at their own failures and misfortunes.

 

Going to Mars

Let me give you an example of people not believing. I’m coaching this young kid right now and he had the idea to take his product to Mars. When he told me that, he thought I’d laugh like everyone else. What he didn’t expect was for me to encourage him.

I told him that if he truly believed that his product could be on Mars, that he should shout it from the rooftop. I told him that he should look people in the eye and tell them he was going to Mars with his product!

If he focuses on who he is right now – a young kid with no money, no work experience and no product – he would never get started.

If he believed all the critics who have never achieved any such goal as going to Mars, he’d never begin.

The way to begin is not just to make a decision, but be bold and believe in yourself. You must believe before anyone will believe in what you’re starting.

If that means you are going to take your product to Mars then so be it.

 

***Final words***

Don’t let any outside force stop you from beginning any longer. You’ve wasted enough time as it is and life is too short to waste any more time. Go out there and begin. The start is always the hardest part, but it’s also the most rewarding.

Remember what I said before: the beginning will be made up of a few very small decisions and actions. Don’t look for that massive defining moment because chances are it will never come.

Get started right now and believe you were born to do something incredible. We’re all capable of greatness once we find a way to begin. Beginning the journey is where it all starts. No one knows what the end will look like and that’s half the fun.

Time to take the first step.

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You Can Have The Best Day Of Your Life Today – Trust Me

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Today was one of the best days of my life.

The last month, in fact, has been a dream. I’ve had to pinch myself to make sure I am not fantasizing about what I am experiencing.

The last year has been full of very hard work, lots of tears, a rollercoaster of emotions, forgiveness and gratitude.

I’ve recently got the career opportunities I’ve wanted, I’ve been able to get better at public speaking, my writing has been read more than ever and I have some amazing new friends. I’m not saying this to brag because that is definitely not me; I’m saying it to inspire you to have your own best day.

To have the best day of your life, you must setup your life the way you want it.

 

Decide on what you want

This fantastic day didn’t happen to me by accident. I earned every minute of it through my efforts. Those emotions I spoke about are what gave me the energy to power towards this phenomenal day.

I decided what I wanted. I painted a rough picture and focused on how I wanted to feel more than anything. Trying to be too exact can often put this goal of an ideal day too far into the future that you never get to touch it with your two beautiful hands.

“You’ll know when you have made the right set of decisions because each day will get closer to being your best day”

You’ll feel a shift in your psychology, your emotions and the presence you give to other people. You’ll start noticing that people compliment you a lot on the positivity you make them feel.

Positivity is infectious and it’s how you get the courage to make the right decisions that will give you the end result which is your best day.

 

The best day is often the simplest

You don’t need to fly to the moon and back to experience the best day of your life. What’s crazy is that your best day is simplistic. Your best day is unique to you and no two best days are alike.

My best day was dumb as hell. I spent time with a magnificent person, ate healthy food, enjoyed the sunshine and realized that I’ve become a champion in my own eyes (in my humble opinion).

 

Breaking the groove is the key

Days will flow into years without you realizing unless you stop your mind in its tracks.

Breaking the groove of your boredom and habits that don’t serve you, will allow you to get closer to your best day. During your best day, you’re present and fully aware of everything that’s going on.

Your best day is not about being productive; it’s about living in the moment and being happy and grateful for everything your best day has brought you.

“Until you get out of your messed up routine that has put you into a landslide of nothingness, you’ll continually miss every opportunity to have your best day and then repeat it for the future”

Routine is not all it’s cracked up to be. Routine has got you to where you are. It may be time to break it into little, tiny pieces.

 

Every day can be extraordinary

I’m not at this level yet but I know people who are. What if the circumstances of your day didn’t get in the way of it being mind-blowing? What if all you had to do was develop enough of a positive mindset to see mostly good things happening?

Being inspired, like how I’ve just described, is possible. Anything is possible when you believe it is. Each day can be your best day once you get on a roll. Before you can do that, you need to know what your best day feels like. Once you get a taste of it, you should have the drug that will get you addicted.

The people who I’ve seen have the best day, every day, have four main traits:

– They practice nonreactivity
– They find happiness in the littlest things
– They write down three things they’re grateful for every 24 hours
– Their default facial expression is a smile

 

Try and outdo yourself

Okay, so I have had one of my best days. Do I stop here and say “Yay I won?” Hell no brothers and sisters. The goal is to make your life into something that feels like that best day, every day. Writing down your best day is crucial because you’ll be surprised how easily you forget the contents and feelings of that day.

When you reminisce on that day, try only to do one thing: remember how you felt. For me, today, I felt confident, relaxed, inspired, happy and loved all at once. It’s the best feeling in the world and almost impossible to describe fully in words.

The whole challenge of describing my best day is how I know that I’ve hit a peak in my life.

At the top of the mountain, you feel like nothing can take you down. From this position, you feel like you can help so many people to live an inspired life.

Emotion starts to drive you and you concentrate on the way you make people feel rather than trying to be cool or sound smart / funny. The world, after your best day, will never be the same again.

You’ll have a permanent high to reflect on.

You’ll know what it’s like to have truly lived.

What’s important will finally become clear to you.

You’ll have ridiculous clarity on where you are going to spend your time.

 

It’s your turn

You’ve heard about my best day, now I want you to have yours. I want you to hit a new record in the story of your life. Having the best day of your life is possible for all of us. It’s not a far away land that we can never reach. It’s not a land that can only be reached on a golden chariot.

Today I’ve had my best day. Today I want you to have your best day. Your best day is where you show everybody the best of you. It’s where you show us all what you’ve been up to behind closed doors.

Your best day is where you get to celebrate, knowing that you’ve become someone you can be proud of. It’s your turn to have the best day of your life.

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  1. Craig Boneau

    Oct 15, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    Lawrence, I’m glad you found the article helpful. I agree, Number 1 is huge. If you have that nailed down, everything else is much easier.

    I’d love to hear how the others work for you. Come back and share when you’ve given them a try.

  2. Lawrence Berry

    Oct 13, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    These are all some great ways to help yourself to stay motivated. I haven’t heard or tried some of the ways mentioned, but they seem very rational. Number 1 is one of the biggest things that keeps me motivated, sort of like realizing what my purpose for doing something is. Many do things just for the sake of doing it, not having any purpose behind the act other than financial gains. I will have to try out visualizing my failure, its seems like a great way to get driven.

    • Craig Boneau

      Oct 15, 2015 at 7:23 pm

      Lawrence, I’m glad you found the article helpful. I agree, Number 1 is huge. If you have that nailed down, everything else is much easier.

      I’d love to hear how the others work for you. Come back and share when you’ve given them a try.

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5 Important Facts You Need to Know About Motivation

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Whether you are trying to lead a team of employees, teach a child, or even get through your own workday, staying motivated is key. Nonetheless, this isn’t always as easy as waking up and deciding to be motivated.

There’s a lot to know about motivation and what it can offer you – whether you are trying to motivate yourself or others, thus below are 5 points that are the most important to know:

1. Goals are Crucial

This one might sound like a cliche but you should make sure to set smaller goals on the way to the bigger one. A large project can be intimidating to work on – whether this is a job at work, weight loss goals, or anything else. The best way to keep motivation high is to take these jobs one bite at a time.

Rather than looking at a massive job, break it down into smaller goals or milestones. Focusing on completing these will be much less stressful than looking at an entire project all at once.

2. Give a Reason Why

If someone is working without purpose rather than working toward something, they are bound to lose motivation. After all, why shouldn’t they? On the other hand though, a purpose will make any task easier to accomplish. Think about being given a boring task; it would be easier to suffer through this if it was part of a bigger, more interesting project instead of just a meaningless task.

“When you feel like quitting think about why you started.”

3. Positive Reinforcement is Better Than Fear

It can sometimes seem that threatening to fail a difficult student or fire a lazy employee can be the best way to get them to work. However, while this may work for a bit, these employees and students fall back into old habits quickly.

What is more lasting, though, is positive reinforcement and incentives. Instead of threatening to fire an employee, it may work better if you promise employees the chance to grow. The concept of reward vs. punishment has been studied many times and the general consensus is that someone is far more likely to be motivated to correct and improve their behavior when they are promised a reward for improvement instead of a punishment for stagnancy.

4. Motivated People are More Engaged

This fact just makes sense; if you are motivated about what you are doing, you are going to be more engaged. If you aren’t motivated, you won’t be nearly as engrossed in your work and won’t pay as close of an eye to it. There are two main ways this is crucial. For repetitive work or tasks, this means that you will be more attentive to detail, making you more detail-oriented and thoughtful of the task at hand.

In addition though, this makes more motivated people safer as well. If you are working in dangerous conditions, those people who are paying more attention to their jobs are bound to be safer on the job than those who aren’t. For example, imagine a doctor not being interested in or paying attention to his job; the results could very easily turn catastrophic.

“Throw yourself into some work you believe in with all you heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Creative Tasks are Easier to Get Motivated For

No matter how motivated you are naturally, if you are doing a simple, mind-numbing task constantly, you are bound to lose that motivation eventually. However, this can be combated with the use of more creative tasks.

Obviously, you aren’t always going to have a creative task available. There will also be a need to fill out a spreadsheet or do a mundane, repetitive task. When you can though, it is much easier to get excited and motivated about a task that gives you room to think.

This is a technique that can be used in any setting, not just the workplace. Take a classroom full of children for example. If a teacher announces that the class is going to do a worksheet, you won’t hear any excitement. On the other hand, if a teacher tells a class that they are to do an experiment, you are likely to see more children get excited.

While adults may not jump up and down in their seats like an elementary school student would, creative tasks still help to keep them engaged in what they are doing and make them feel like their ideas matter just as much as their labor.

How do you maintain your motivation from day to day? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Things You Must Do When You Lack Inspiration

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Yes, we do feel motivated by reading quotes and watching movies like The Pursuit of Happiness and Soul Surfer. The protagonist makes you feel you are the hero as psychology would call this Experience-taking. However, sometimes these things are not enough to drive you to accomplish your goals and dreams.

Our mind and body wants peace, yet a lack of inspiration shouldn’t slow us down. We wait to be inspired and get no work done because of it.

Is inspiration  important to make us successful in our lives? Yes, because it acts as a trigger for the shotgun as it initiates the very vital ‘Beginning Process’ of which we are frightened to jump upon.

What exactly should you do when you lack the inspiration? Read the 5 points below:

1. Meditation Matters

You don’t need to do deep meditation wherein you train your mind to attain the desired state of consciousness. Meditation involves analyzing  all kinds of emotions like anger, hatred, compassion, and love. According to many psychological studies, it is revealed meditation drastically minimizes anxiety and stabilizes cognitive ability.

It not only allows you to become inspired but keeps your body physically fit. Today, people are suffering from mental illness like depression. Even when someone is stressed, it is hard to get inspired. If you are a beginner in meditation, you can still experience results. It eradicates all the hindrances that come in the way by calming us down. It is no revelation you perform better when you are relaxed and mindful.

If you are new to meditation check out the iOS app Calm and Android app Headspace. Using proven meditation and mindfulness techniques, these mobile applications train your mind for a healthier, and happier life.

“Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.” – Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati

2. Pausing Social Media

From your smartphone to your computer, shut everything off and give yourself a needed and short break. Remember, there were no mobile devices 100 years ago so people had to find different ways of entertainment. Perhaps, talk to an old friend or ask the cute girl out in your class.

The psychology today surveyed 100 individuals of which 50 were given all the digital facilities and 50 were provided only the required devices. After the experiment, it was proved that the later group did 85% more effective work than the former. Digital Media is becoming crowded and constrained, so do not forget to stop and pause from time to time.

3. Take a Chill-pill

In our current culture, people seem to be rushing and hustling to get things done, andthey don’t take the time to give their body and brain much-needed rest. According to Phyllis Korkki, a writer for the NY Times, “Employees generally need to detach from their workspace to recharge their internal resources that provide cognitive recharging.”

According to Beth W. Orenstein of Everyday Fitness, “It is easy to get frustrated when we feel uninspired. When these moments come, it is often a good idea to take a break for a few days. Sometimes your mind just needs a break from all the noise and hustle.” We must realize if we don’t rest, our bodies and minds will have no time to recharge, and our inspiration levels will lower down.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Jim Goodwin

4. Miracles of Music

This is a head and heart combo, because scientifically, when you listen to your favorite music the soothing effect connects your brain and conscience emphatically. Maybe all you need is a soft jazz (it’s okay if your genre is a heavy metal) to get you out of your creative funk. Music does have a large influence on your emotions. Maybe you’re having a bad day and it is affecting your working ability. Listening to your favorite song might lift your mood and thus allow you to be more productive, innovative and creative in what you will do.

5. Shout out loud

Scientists bring this factor out frequently because people today don’t share their stuff. Their mind becomes a locker room where junk is stored, yet this garbage has to be removed. This negativity can and strain can be abolished when you shout loudly (at a place far which is calm and quiet).

Next time you feel uninspired, try attempting any of the above and you will be surprised how effective it works, because as psychologists say, “Human Beings came with a manual. All you need to know is how to read it.”

What are some ways you find inspiration? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Way To Begin…

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We all start somewhere. We may not know what our dream is to begin with.

This was certainly the case for me back in 2011. I’d hit rock bottom and everything in my life had gone wrong. There was no meaning in anything I was doing and I didn’t know why I existed. I had no dream and zero goals other than to survive the day.

My anxiety and stress levels were so high at that point in my life that just getting to go to bed at night was good enough.

 

So how do we begin anything?

I believe the way we begin is often by accident. We don’t always know when an idea is going to hit us or our life is going to change. For me, I certainly had no clue. My life up until that fateful day was spent chasing money and things that I thought mattered.

These were not things that mattered to me; they were things that mattered to society. Getting to where I was on that day was a complete accident. I always thought I was going to be this big time businessman importing stuff from China.

I thought that because I was born in the lucky country of Australia that I was entitled to success. This fateful day would soon teach me how wrong I was.

“Being wrong is often where it starts. Being wrong is where the accident of your success journey can begin”

 

There is one common trigger

That trigger is a low point where you decide that enough is enough. It often all begins when your pain levels reach and extreme point. It feels like your life is going to implode and that if you died tomorrow, it wouldn’t even matter.

My low point in 2011 became the defining moment where everything changed. I was not purposeful about my new path, but I had definitely had enough. Many of us get this same trigger. What I’ve found is that too many of us don’t use it. These low points are a gift and when you come face to face with one, you need to make the most of it.

These low points are the motivation and change in mindset that you need. I took my sign that my life needed to change and became obsessed.

 

What does the start of the journey look like?

It doesn’t look all that flash to begin with. The start of a journey towards success never does look amazing.

Mine was so simple it almost seems make-believe. I want to describe it for you in extreme detail so you can see just how simple it was.

On that fateful day where everything collapsed, I made a very small decision. It’s probably the smallest change in my life I have ever made. This decision changed everything.

“All I did was decide to walk around the neighborhood block, where I lived, once per day”

The duration was so short that it was impossible not to do. At this stage in my life, I was not conscious of anything and knew nothing about success or psychology.

I did this walk for a few days and then my mind told me that I wasn’t maximising the time. See, I am one of those crazy people who always has to be hyper productive. In this case, my hyper-productive mind was the greatest gift I had been given.

The next part is still a bit blurry. Having had no clue what to do other than doing my daily walk, I did what all millennials do: I asked Google for answers. I’m not sure what the series of search terms was that led me to Tony Robbins, nor do I care.

Once I found a Tony Robbins video on Youtube, I became hooked. All the answers I was seeking became instantly available to me. At this point, I turned into a total freak.

I got my iPod, downloaded a whole bunch of Tony Robbins audiotapes, and went for a walk every single day. Many of these walks became longer than one hour. I walked as fast as I could and I had a look of determination on my face that made me look like I had been possessed by the devil.

So the turning point was really these walks, combined with listening to audiotapes.

 

What does all of this mean for you?

That’s a damn good question cowboy. What it means for you is that you may be over thinking your next move. Your next move needs to be a decision. I recommend making lots of small decisions and trying many new things.

The thing that will take you on the next journey that could lead to your life’s purpose and / or dream is probably way simpler than you think. As humans, we over think success and we look for gianormous triggers or external factors before we’re willing to make a decision.

I believe it’s the small decisions that help you begin. It’s the little things you’re dismissing like taking a walk around the neighborhood block that could potentially change your circumstances.

 

Finding that trigger or habit is not enough

Even if you discover something like walking, which has a major effect on you, it’s not enough. You still need to get off your ass and make a decision. What is that decision you ask?

That decision is to no longer to accept your current results. It’s a decision to cut off from everything else and become intensely focused on one pursuit. If all you do is find a new habit that keeps you in the same rut you’ve been in, you’ll never start your own journey.

I used to be so lazy, indecisive and lack discipline. These were the traits that were holding me back. On many of these walks I went on, I decided that I’d no longer settle for these loser behaviors.

 

See yourself for what you can become, not who you currently are

“When you begin a new road towards success, you have to think of yourself differently. You absolutely must see yourself as who you can become and not who you currently are”

During my transformation, I focused on all the potential that I had and what I would look like in the future. I thought about standing on stages in front of thousands of people and doing something that filled me with joy and passion. I saw videos of thought leaders like Eric Thomas and told myself that I could live my life at the same level.

To this day, those thoughts have never left me and I never will let them go. Until you’ve been all the way to the lowest of lows, you’ll never know what it’s like to dream big.

You have so much more within you. Yes, people will laugh at you and think you’re dumb. The only reason they think like that is because they are pissed off at their own failures and misfortunes.

 

Going to Mars

Let me give you an example of people not believing. I’m coaching this young kid right now and he had the idea to take his product to Mars. When he told me that, he thought I’d laugh like everyone else. What he didn’t expect was for me to encourage him.

I told him that if he truly believed that his product could be on Mars, that he should shout it from the rooftop. I told him that he should look people in the eye and tell them he was going to Mars with his product!

If he focuses on who he is right now – a young kid with no money, no work experience and no product – he would never get started.

If he believed all the critics who have never achieved any such goal as going to Mars, he’d never begin.

The way to begin is not just to make a decision, but be bold and believe in yourself. You must believe before anyone will believe in what you’re starting.

If that means you are going to take your product to Mars then so be it.

 

***Final words***

Don’t let any outside force stop you from beginning any longer. You’ve wasted enough time as it is and life is too short to waste any more time. Go out there and begin. The start is always the hardest part, but it’s also the most rewarding.

Remember what I said before: the beginning will be made up of a few very small decisions and actions. Don’t look for that massive defining moment because chances are it will never come.

Get started right now and believe you were born to do something incredible. We’re all capable of greatness once we find a way to begin. Beginning the journey is where it all starts. No one knows what the end will look like and that’s half the fun.

Time to take the first step.

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You Can Have The Best Day Of Your Life Today – Trust Me

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Today was one of the best days of my life.

The last month, in fact, has been a dream. I’ve had to pinch myself to make sure I am not fantasizing about what I am experiencing.

The last year has been full of very hard work, lots of tears, a rollercoaster of emotions, forgiveness and gratitude.

I’ve recently got the career opportunities I’ve wanted, I’ve been able to get better at public speaking, my writing has been read more than ever and I have some amazing new friends. I’m not saying this to brag because that is definitely not me; I’m saying it to inspire you to have your own best day.

To have the best day of your life, you must setup your life the way you want it.

 

Decide on what you want

This fantastic day didn’t happen to me by accident. I earned every minute of it through my efforts. Those emotions I spoke about are what gave me the energy to power towards this phenomenal day.

I decided what I wanted. I painted a rough picture and focused on how I wanted to feel more than anything. Trying to be too exact can often put this goal of an ideal day too far into the future that you never get to touch it with your two beautiful hands.

“You’ll know when you have made the right set of decisions because each day will get closer to being your best day”

You’ll feel a shift in your psychology, your emotions and the presence you give to other people. You’ll start noticing that people compliment you a lot on the positivity you make them feel.

Positivity is infectious and it’s how you get the courage to make the right decisions that will give you the end result which is your best day.

 

The best day is often the simplest

You don’t need to fly to the moon and back to experience the best day of your life. What’s crazy is that your best day is simplistic. Your best day is unique to you and no two best days are alike.

My best day was dumb as hell. I spent time with a magnificent person, ate healthy food, enjoyed the sunshine and realized that I’ve become a champion in my own eyes (in my humble opinion).

 

Breaking the groove is the key

Days will flow into years without you realizing unless you stop your mind in its tracks.

Breaking the groove of your boredom and habits that don’t serve you, will allow you to get closer to your best day. During your best day, you’re present and fully aware of everything that’s going on.

Your best day is not about being productive; it’s about living in the moment and being happy and grateful for everything your best day has brought you.

“Until you get out of your messed up routine that has put you into a landslide of nothingness, you’ll continually miss every opportunity to have your best day and then repeat it for the future”

Routine is not all it’s cracked up to be. Routine has got you to where you are. It may be time to break it into little, tiny pieces.

 

Every day can be extraordinary

I’m not at this level yet but I know people who are. What if the circumstances of your day didn’t get in the way of it being mind-blowing? What if all you had to do was develop enough of a positive mindset to see mostly good things happening?

Being inspired, like how I’ve just described, is possible. Anything is possible when you believe it is. Each day can be your best day once you get on a roll. Before you can do that, you need to know what your best day feels like. Once you get a taste of it, you should have the drug that will get you addicted.

The people who I’ve seen have the best day, every day, have four main traits:

– They practice nonreactivity
– They find happiness in the littlest things
– They write down three things they’re grateful for every 24 hours
– Their default facial expression is a smile

 

Try and outdo yourself

Okay, so I have had one of my best days. Do I stop here and say “Yay I won?” Hell no brothers and sisters. The goal is to make your life into something that feels like that best day, every day. Writing down your best day is crucial because you’ll be surprised how easily you forget the contents and feelings of that day.

When you reminisce on that day, try only to do one thing: remember how you felt. For me, today, I felt confident, relaxed, inspired, happy and loved all at once. It’s the best feeling in the world and almost impossible to describe fully in words.

The whole challenge of describing my best day is how I know that I’ve hit a peak in my life.

At the top of the mountain, you feel like nothing can take you down. From this position, you feel like you can help so many people to live an inspired life.

Emotion starts to drive you and you concentrate on the way you make people feel rather than trying to be cool or sound smart / funny. The world, after your best day, will never be the same again.

You’ll have a permanent high to reflect on.

You’ll know what it’s like to have truly lived.

What’s important will finally become clear to you.

You’ll have ridiculous clarity on where you are going to spend your time.

 

It’s your turn

You’ve heard about my best day, now I want you to have yours. I want you to hit a new record in the story of your life. Having the best day of your life is possible for all of us. It’s not a far away land that we can never reach. It’s not a land that can only be reached on a golden chariot.

Today I’ve had my best day. Today I want you to have your best day. Your best day is where you show everybody the best of you. It’s where you show us all what you’ve been up to behind closed doors.

Your best day is where you get to celebrate, knowing that you’ve become someone you can be proud of. It’s your turn to have the best day of your life.

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