Motivation
5 Straight-Forward Ways to Find Motivation Within Yourself
You’ve taken advice to start a new habit or set a new goal from someone that seems important and knowledgeable. But, most, if not all, of the time you fell short.
Even though it sounded like good and reasonable advice at the time, when it came to doing it, you either just didn’t, or you found some reason to rationalize not doing it. Either way, nothing inside you said, “no, I’m doing this.”
The reason it didn’t work is because if our motivation to do things comes from an outside source, the moment that outside source isn’t there any more (which is likely most of the time), we aren’t going to keep doing whatever it is we were trying to do.
So to make sure we actually stick to the plan, we have to be able to motivate ourselves, we can’t outsource motivation and hope to succeed. Getting the idea from an outside source is great, but to follow through, you have to internalize the motivation.
Here is 5 ways you can drive yourself to success:
1. What is your “because” clause?
If you don’t want your goals to slip into the abyss of “I’ll get to it when I have more time and energy” you have to understand why you have the goals you have.Meaning, there has to be a “because” clause at the end of declaration that you are going to achieve your goal.
For example: I am going to meditate for 15 minutes every morning because I want to have more clarity, focus, and presence.
If you don’t have “because” clause, you won’t be clear on why you are doing something. So, pushing yourself to keep going when it isn’t new and exciting, will be virtually impossible. Why torture yourself by slogging through the hard parts if you don’t even know why you are doing it.
Your “because” should be pretty easy to identify. Just ask yourself, what impact are you looking for in your life as a result of your goal? The answer should not be that you complete the goal. You have to figure you why you want to achieve your goal. Then, the motivation is the because clause in the sentence.

2. Give yourself only two options, succeed or fail
You don’t like to fail. I don’t either. It’s why we find it so hard to start something new, it means we might fail. It also creates a tendency in us to rationalize stopping or procrastinating when things get hard and it feels like we might fail. It is a seductive thing. We are very good at rationalizing why quitting is ok and why it is different than failing.
So, you have to guard against yourself. The best way to do that is to put yourself in a position that you can’t quit without failing. To do that you have to commit to what you are doing in a way that the only thing you can do is either do it, or fail.
Here’s how, and it works with whatever you are doing. Tell people what you are going to do. Tell them your “because” clause. And tell them you will not quit for any reason until you’ve done it. Tell people you respect, people whose opinion matters to it. Maybe it’s your spouse, your friends, your parents, or your colleagues. And then ask that person to follow-up with you regularly to check your progress.
This isn’t easy, but it is ridiculously effective. If you really want to push yourself, put yourself out there in a way that either you get the job done or you let down people you respect. You’ll be impressed at how hard you will work to make it happen.
3. The big picture isn’t that important. Focus on the small one
A huge reason we often lose motivation is that our goal feels so far away. If our goals are big and powerful, there’s probably a sizable gap from where we are to where we want to be. After we lose the buzz of getting started, covering that gap can feel impossible.
But in reality, that gap is just a bunch of small steps strung together. Each one of which you can absolutely do. And after you’ve done one, and then another, and then another, eventually you look up and you are nearly there. The key is to keep moving. In order to keep moving, you have to take those small steps.
So, how do you see a bunch of little doable steps instead of a uncoverable gap? I’m sure you’ve heard, break up your goal into smaller goals, six weeks, two weeks, one week. That’s good advice, but I’ve always found it really hard to follow.
Instead, I find telling myself that each day I have to spend 2 minutes doing something to take a little step towards my goal. If I get in 2 minutes, the day is a success and I feel good about things.
You’ll find if you just commit to the two minutes, you’ll often get more in. Two really is enough. It keeps you in touch with the goal, it creates and keeps momentum. You don’t have to sit down and create a year long plan with 52 week-long bench marks.
You just have to take two minutes and do something that moves the ball forward. You can do that every day. When you do, let yourself feel the success, don’t worry about how much you get done, it doesn’t matter. It only matters that you do it.
4. Can you see it? Touch it? Feel it?
After we set our sights on some audacious goal, if we want to stay motivated to complete that goal, we have to believe it is possible. As you may know, our brains are bad at telling reality from fiction. That’s why The Blair Witch Project freaked me out for quite a while after I learned it didn’t really happened. I knew it wasn’t real, but my mind saw it and there wasn’t anything my intellect could do about it.
You can hijack the same mechanism horror movies have been hijacking for decades. If you vividly picture yourself completing your goal, your brain will believe you can do it because it has already seen it, even though you just forced your brain to picture it.
It’s easy to do. I find, right before I go to sleep to be a good time. I’m always lying in a quiet dark place, so it’s perfect for visualizing things. Picture your success, what it feels like, sounds like, and if it has a smell or taste, add that in. The more senses you can get involved, the better. Then drift off to sleep knowing you’ve made that success a little easier as a result.
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” – Marcus Aurelius
5. Visualize failure
Sometimes I need a little kick in the pants. You probably do too. Visualizing your success is important to getting yourself to believe you can actually achieve whatever you have set out to achieve. But on the days when you don’t even feel like spending the two minutes I discussed above, and we all have them, negative visualization is the trick you need.
You visualize what your life looks like in a month, year, or five years if you quit and fail to achieve your goal (the time is relative to the goal you have, pick the time frame you expected to complete your goal if you stick to it). Really visualize it.
Now, because you obviously want to succeed, having a clear picture of failure will push you to take the two minutes and do something that pushes you forward and guarantees you don’t fail today.
You’ll act so you make sure what you just visualized never comes to fruition. After you take that action, and this is critical, congratulate yourself and picture your success and how you took yet another step toward it. Don’t let the negative image sit on your brain.
What luck, you are absolutely in control of your own success
You are going to be the biggest reason you succeed. No one talks to you more than you talk to yourself. No one has more control over how you spend your day. Take advantage of the position you have as the person in charge of your life. When you have a goal you want to achieve, use the five strategies above to push yourself towards that success.
Thanks for reading my article! What things do you do that help find the inner motivation to push you?
Motivation
Why Your Morning Routine is Destroying Your Flow State (And How to Fix It)
You wake up with massive goals. You have a project to finish, a presentation to prep, and high-priority work that needs your absolute best energy. But before you can touch any of it, your morning gets hijacked by logistics.
Picking out clothes, figuring out what to eat for breakfast, checking emails, and answering texts—these activities silently transform your morning from a work block into a coordination block. And according to peak performance experts, this is the biggest disaster imaginable for your productivity.
Rian Doris, founder and CEO of Flow Research Collective—who has trained teams at Audi, Accenture, and the US Air Force—argues that those first few hours of the day are capable of producing more output than the rest of your day combined. But only if you know how to leverage your biology.
Here is the neuroscience behind why your current morning routine is killing your productivity, and the radical protocol you need to adopt instead.
The Neuroscience of the First 90 Seconds
Flow state is that elusive zone of total absorption. It is the state where your inner critic goes quiet, hours feel like minutes, and you produce your most creative, high-leverage work.
The absolute best time to drop into a flow state is 60 to 90 seconds after you wake up. There are two neurological reasons for this:
- Your Cognitive Load is at Absolute Zero
Cognitive load refers to the amount of information you are holding in your working memory. Think of it like your computer’s RAM. To access a flow state, you need maximum RAM available. When you first wake up, your cognitive load is naturally empty. You haven’t had any conversations, checked any emails, or learned about any new problems.
- You Are in the “Hypnopompic Window”
When you sleep, your brain waves oscillate between deep delta and theta states. Research suggests that the brain waves of a flow state hover right on the borderline between alpha and theta—which is incredibly close to the brain waves of sleep.
In sleep research, the first 1 to 5 minutes upon waking is called the hypnopompic window. During this tiny window, your brain waves are perfectly primed for flow, and your “flow proneness” (your ability to access and sustain the zone) is at its absolute peak.
The Coordination Trap
So, what destroys this sacred biological window? Coordination.
The moment you start wondering what to make for breakfast, doing quick admin tasks, or checking Slack, you instantly spike your cognitive load. Worse, these logistical decisions drive your brain waves into a high-frequency beta state, pulling you further and further away from flow.
You wake up perfectly primed for genius-level deep work, and you ruin it by deciding what color shirt to wear.
| The Coordination Block (Average) | The Flow Block (Elite) |
| Action: Checking emails, planning breakfast, coordinating kids. | Action: Sliding instantly into a pre-planned, high-leverage task. |
| Brain Waves: Forced quickly into stressful Beta waves. | Brain Waves: Seamless transition from Theta sleep to Alpha/Theta flow. |
| Cognitive Load: High (RAM is maxed out immediately). | Cognitive Load: Low (100% of RAM dedicated to deep work). |
| Result: Distracted, reactive, playing catch-up all day. | Result: 3 hours of output that beats a normal 12-hour workday. |
The “Wake Up and Flow” Protocol
If you want to get three times more done in your first three hours than you currently do in a 12-hour day, you have to adopt the “Wake Up and Flow” protocol. Here is how to redesign your life for it.
Step 1: Ruthlessly Eliminate Morning Coordination
This might take you 6, 12, or even 18 months to achieve, but it requires a radical redesign of your life. Negotiate with your spouse to handle the morning school run while you do the afternoon pickups. Tell your team you will not be available online or in the office until 11:00 AM. Do whatever it takes to recapture your morning and turn it back into a pure work block.
Step 2: Prep the Night Before
“Wake up and flow” does not mean waking up and figuring out what to do. You must identify your most sacred, high-priority work the night before. Set everything up so that when you wake up, your laptop is open, the specific document is loaded, and your water bottle is full. The goal is to slide directly into the task within 60 seconds of opening your eyes, without breaking the hypnopompic window.
Step 3: Move Your “Morning Routine” to Later
Delay the standard morning routine. Do not meditate, exercise, or shower first thing. Drop straight into your flow block for two to four hours. Then, use your meditation, workout, and shower as a tool to reset your brain and boost your flow proneness back up for the second half of the day.
Save all coordination—email checking, admin, logistics, and trivial decision-making—for the late afternoon. Those tasks do not benefit from flow, so they should never be allowed to steal your most valuable cognitive window.
Protect the first 90 seconds of your day, and it will completely change your life
Checkout this great video by Rian Doris on how to tap into your flow state
Motivation
Why Motivation Fails Students During Exam Season (And What Actually Works)
Exam season has a way of revealing something most students only realize when it’s already too late: motivation is unreliable when you actually need it. At the start of a semester, everything feels under control. There’s energy, clear intentions, and the belief that this time will be different. Studying feels manageable because there’s no pressure yet, and it’s easy to imagine staying consistent.
But as exams approach, that changes. Stress builds, time feels tighter, and the motivation that once felt natural starts to fade. Students begin relying on willpower, then guilt, and eventually last-minute panic just to get through everything. The pattern is familiar, yet it keeps repeating.
The problem isn’t that students are lazy or incapable. It’s that most people try to build consistency on something that was never meant to last. Motivation is emotional, and exam season is stressful by nature. Those two rarely coexist for long.
That’s why high-performing students don’t depend on motivation. They rely on structure instead.
The illusion of “I’ll study when I feel like it”
Most students fall into the same trap without even realizing it. They tell themselves they’ll start when they feel ready, or when they’re in the right mood, or when they’re a bit more focused later in the day. It sounds reasonable in the moment because waiting for the “right mindset” feels natural.
The problem is that this thinking slowly breaks consistency. You wait for motivation, it doesn’t show up, so you delay studying. Pressure builds, then you cram at the last minute, feel guilty afterward, and promise to do better next time. Then the cycle repeats.
What makes this so difficult to notice is that it still feels like effort is happening. You’re thinking about studying, planning it, and stressing about not doing it. But none of that translates into actual progress. When studying depends on how you feel, it will always be inconsistent because emotions are not stable under pressure.
High performers approach this differently. They remove emotion from the decision entirely. Instead of asking whether they feel like studying, they decide in advance when studying will happen and treat it as non-negotiable. That shift alone changes the entire dynamic.
Systems always outperform willpower
There’s a point most students only understand after struggling for a while: you don’t rise to the level of your motivation, you fall to the level of your systems.
A system is anything that makes the right behavior easier to repeat than the wrong one. It reduces friction, removes unnecessary decisions, and eliminates the need to rely on willpower throughout the day.
For example, studying for a set block of time with a clear plan will always outperform waiting for motivation and then rushing through material under stress. Consistency isn’t a personality trait; it’s the result of design.
When systems are in place, performance becomes predictable instead of emotional. You stop depending on how you feel in the moment and start relying on a structure that carries you through.
This idea also shows up outside academics. In real life, people often struggle with long-term decisions because everything feels overwhelming when there’s no structure behind it. For instance, when managing education-related debt, people often look into options like private student loan consolidation as a way to simplify repayment and create more clarity around their financial situation. The goal isn’t just financial relief but reducing decision complexity so it becomes easier to stay consistent over time. The same principle applies everywhere: structure reduces pressure, while emotion increases confusion.
Why motivation breaks under pressure
Motivation works well when life is light and flexible, but it tends to collapse under pressure. During exam season, the mind is already dealing with overload. Multiple deadlines and responsibilities make it harder to think clearly, and everything starts to feel heavier than it actually is.
On top of that, pressure creates emotional resistance. The more important something becomes, the more overwhelming it feels, and the more likely you are to avoid it. It’s not a lack of care; it’s a natural response to stress.
Then there’s decision fatigue. Even small choices like what to study or where to start slowly drain mental energy. By the time students finally sit down to work, they’re already mentally exhausted from deciding how to begin.
This combination is why even motivated students struggle. The issue isn’t effort, it’s the absence of a system that removes these mental barriers.
What actually works instead
Students who perform consistently don’t wait for motivation to show up. They build routines that function regardless of how they feel.
One of the simplest changes is setting fixed study times. Instead of deciding every day when to start, the time is already defined. When that time arrives, studying begins automatically. There’s no negotiation and no delay because the decision has already been made.
Another important shift is lowering the pressure for every session to be perfect. On days when energy is low, the goal isn’t to push harder; it’s to stay consistent. Even a short focused session is enough to maintain the habit. What matters more than intensity is continuity.
Environment also plays a bigger role than most students realize. When distractions are everywhere, every study session becomes a battle. But when the environment is structured in advance, same place, fewer distractions, everything ready, starting becomes significantly easier.
Planning ahead removes another major obstacle. When students decide what they’ll study before sitting down, they eliminate the hesitation that often leads to procrastination. The work becomes execution instead of decision-making.
The identity shift that changes everything
At a deeper level, consistency stops being about habits and becomes about identity. Struggling students often think they need to try harder, but high performers think differently. For them, studying isn’t something they negotiate with every day; it’s simply part of who they are.
That shift changes behavior in a powerful way. When something becomes part of your identity, you stop debating whether to do it. It becomes automatic.
And once that happens, motivation is no longer necessary.
Final thoughts
Motivation feels important, but it was never designed to handle pressure. During exam season, it rises and falls constantly, which makes performance unpredictable if you depend on it.
Systems don’t behave that way. They don’t depend on mood or energy. They simply run in the background and keep you consistent even when things get difficult.
The students who perform best aren’t the ones who feel the most motivated. They’re the ones who no longer rely on it.
Because in the end, success in exams isn’t about studying when you feel ready. It’s about making sure it happens even when you don’t.
Motivation
How to Armor Your Mind and Build Unbreakable Belief: Lessons from David Goggins
David Goggins is not interested in sugarcoating the truth. He is not interested in giving you cookie-cutter motivation, and he is certainly not interested in resting on his laurels. After retiring from the military, setting records in ultra-endurance racing, and releasing a massive bestselling book, most people would enjoy their success.
Goggins decided to become a smokejumper.
For the past few years, he has been jumping out of airplanes into the remote Canadian wilderness—places inaccessible by vehicles—to fight wildfires for $15 an hour. Why? Because the life we live is the ultimate competitor. It will find your weakness and hammer you. To survive and thrive, you cannot afford to get soft.
In a powerful conversation, David Goggins laid out exactly why he continues to seek out suffering, how he processes his childhood trauma, and the specific strategies he uses to armor his mind. Here is how you can build the kind of belief that makes you unstoppable.
Checkout this great interview with David Goggins:
The Danger of Success (And Why You Must Cap It)
Success is dangerous. More money, more fame, and more comfort can easily make you soft. Goggins believes that if you want to continue evolving, you must learn to “cap” your success.
“I have to continue to reinvent the wheel of the mind and figure out more ways for people to pull from,” Goggins explains. “To do that, I can’t just say ‘I have this resume, I’m good.’ I must cap myself so I can come back with better, more unique knowledge.”
When the noise of success gets too loud, Goggins forces himself back into the “mental lab”—which, for him, means digging holes in the ground, waking up at 5:00 AM, and freezing in the wilderness fighting fires. Growth does not happen on a podcast or during a corporate speaking gig. Growth happens at scratch.
The One-Second Decision
When you are doing something incredibly difficult—whether it is Navy SEAL Hell Week, a 240-mile ultra-marathon, or launching a difficult business—your brain will inevitably try to force you to quit. Goggins calls this the “one-second decision.”
During Hell Week, recruits are subjected to “surf torture”—sitting linked-arms in the freezing Pacific Ocean. In that environment, the brain shifts into fight-or-flight mode.
“You forget every reason why you wanted to be there,” Goggins says. “You don’t care about SEALs, you don’t care about your country, you don’t care about that gold Trident. All you want to do is go home and be warm. In that one second, most people fail.”
How do you survive that second? You have to separate your physical body from your mental state.
While his body was freezing in the water, Goggins would mentally place himself on the beach next to the instructors holding warm coffee. From that mentally “warm” place, he would think logically: Where am I going to end up if I quit? How am I going to feel tomorrow when I am warm, but I have to live with the shame of giving up?
You have to project yourself forward. You are trying to optimize for right now to stop the discomfort, but you will pay for it with decades of regret. If you can gain control of your mind for that single second, you can survive the ordeal.
Why Motivation is Useless Without a “Clean Garage”
Most people treat motivation as a permanent fix. They think that if they just watch the right video or read the right quote, they will finally have the drive to change their lives. But motivation is fleeting. You have to learn to perform at your highest level when you are the least motivated.
Many experts preach the value of discipline, but Goggins points out a massive flaw: You cannot put discipline into a cluttered mind.
Think of your mind like a garage. If your life is disorganized—full of drama, stress, and unresolved issues—your “garage” is a mess. You cannot just throw “discipline” into a messy garage and expect to find it when you need it.
“You have to be able to find all these different things in your mind,” Goggins says. “I meditate two hours every single night because I refresh and reorganize the garage… so then discipline is in there, organization is in there, and when I wake up, I’m ready to go.”
How to Build Real Confidence (Stop Pounding Your Chest)
There is a trend in the self-help world of standing in front of a mirror, pounding your chest, and shouting affirmations to build confidence. Goggins laughs at this.
True confidence is not delusional; it requires undeniable proof.
“You must build belief,” Goggins insists. “It comes from the everyday resume, the things I know I’ve accomplished, the real hard work, the real calluses on my mind.”
If you want to stop feeling sorry for yourself and build real self-esteem, you have to do the work. You build belief through the daunting tasks you put yourself through. When things get difficult, you don’t rely on a hollow affirmation; you look back at the actual suffering you have endured and say, “I have survived worse. I can knock this out.”
The Power of the Live Autopsy
To write his latest book, Never Finished, Goggins had to do something incredibly difficult: he had to return to Buffalo, New York, to confront his abusive father.
He didn’t go back looking for an apology. An apology would have just validated his trauma and given him an excuse to be a loser. He went back to understand the “Beast” that had terrorized his childhood. He learned that his father had been brutally abused by his own father.
Instead of feeling sorry for himself, Goggins performed a “live autopsy.”
“When people die, they figure out why you died in the autopsy,” he explains. “But we never do live autopsies to figure out why we’re dying while we are alive.”
By facing his past, understanding the generational trauma, and unpacking his deepest shame, Goggins was able to be reborn. If you are struggling, you must go into the archives of your life, study the things that broke you, and use that knowledge to forge yourself into something stronger.
Conclusion: Be the Standard
The world is tough, and it will try to break you. You cannot shelter yourself or your children from it indefinitely. Instead of hoping for an easy life, you must build a person who can withstand the pressure.
You have to have pride in yourself. Write your own mission statement. Decide exactly who you want to be, and hold yourself accountable to that standard every single morning. Face your demons, organize your mind, and never, ever stop fighting the one-second decision.
Entrepreneurs
Peak Performance Psychology: Secrets from the Real-Life “Wendy Rhoades”
If you have watched the hit TV show Billions, you know the character Dr. Wendy Rhoades. She is the brilliant in-house performance psychologist who helps ultra-wealthy hedge fund managers and cutthroat founders unlock extreme performance, navigate crises, and destroy their mental blocks.
But Wendy Rhoades isn’t just a fictional character trope. The Wall Street Journal recently compared the fictional Wendy to a very real person: Dr. Julie Gurner.
Dr. Gurner is one of the most sought-after executive performance coaches in the country. With a background in adult psychopathology and forensics—including a stint working in a Supermax prison—she now spends her days in the trenches with CEOs, billionaire founders, and elite operators. She helps the top 0.01% reach the next level psychologically.
In a recent interview, Dr. Gurner shared the exact traits, mindsets, and peak performance psychology strategies that separate the ultra-successful from everyone else. Here is how you can apply them to your own life.
1. The Defining Trait of the Top 0.01%: Audacity
When looking at the ultra-successful, one trait stands out above the rest: Audacity.
Audacity is the refusal to follow the “imaginary rules” that govern most people’s lives. Society teaches us certain boundaries: you cannot apply for that job unless you have exactly five years of experience, a small startup cannot pitch a major bank, or you do not belong in certain rooms because of your background.
According to Dr. Gurner, the top 0.01% operate with an almost complete unawareness of these artificial limits.
“They don’t follow the rules that everyone else seems to follow that are actually very artificial,” Gurner explains. “That audacity to go for these larger things… is really how they skip steps that everyone else is still trudging through. We’re all going on the crowded path, and they just find this little dirt road to get to outcomes we are eight years away from.”
How to Apply It: Adopt the disposition of “What if it goes right?” instead of “What if it goes wrong?” We chronically overestimate the true risk of failure. In reality, most failures are temporary and quickly forgotten by the public. Take the side path. Shoot the uncomfortably large shot.
2. The Repetitive Reflex: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses
There is a common misconception (the halo effect) that high performers are exceptional at everything. In reality, they are usually only great at one or two things—but they lean into those strengths relentlessly.
Dr. Gurner points to Elon Musk as a public example. Musk is a visionary company builder and resource gatherer, but he famously relies on operators like Gwynne Shotwell at SpaceX to handle the granular day-to-day operations, NASA contracts, and internal management.
“If you start as above-average on something and put force behind it, the separation between you and everyone else is dramatic,” Gurner notes. “But if you focus all your time on the things you are below average at, maybe you’ll bring them up to average. That’s not where you get escape velocity.”
How to Apply It: Identify your unique, outlier strengths. Double down on them. Stop judging yourself for the things you are bad at, and either delegate them, outsource them, or partner with someone who thrives in those areas (the “spreadsheet person”).
3. Stop Suppressing Negative Emotion: Use It as Fuel
The modern wellness world is currently obsessed with stoicism—the idea that you should remain perfectly tempered, suppress extreme emotions, and remain unaffected by the world.
Dr. Gurner pushes back hard against this, arguing that suppressing intense emotion is a massive waste of energy.
“If you have anger or rage, why would you suppress that?” she asks. “You are killing a source of energy that you could channel into something absolutely phenomenal. There are so many wonderful companies and careers built on spite, anger, and ‘I’m going to show you’ energy.”
Humans are meant to experience a full spectrum of emotions. If you have been wronged, you can choose to let that anger destroy you, or you can use it to work 80-hour weeks, build an empire, and make your life phenomenal.
How to Apply It: Do not let negative emotions turn you into a toxic person to those around you, but absolutely use the internal fire of a perceived slight or past failure to fuel your daily actions.
4. Be Quirky, Not Humble
If you want to reach the highest levels of success, “be humble” is often terrible advice.
Humility is frequently confused with modesty or self-deprecation. If you constantly devalue your contributions, the people who desperately need your specific skills will never find you. Knowing what you are great at, and proudly sharing it with the world, does not make you arrogant—it makes you useful.
Furthermore, do not sand down your edges to fit into a corporate mold.
“Everyone is pushing toward conformity, and it is the wrong path,” Gurner says. “If you push to fit in with everyone else, and then you’re mad that your outcomes aren’t different, there’s a reason for that. We remember people because of their quirks.”
How to Apply It: Own what you are great at loudly. Lean into your strange hobbies and unique personality traits. The friction of your “weirdness” is exactly what makes you memorable and separates you from the conformist pack.
5. Reframe Obstacles as Challenges
At the end of the day, Dr. Gurner says her main job as a psychologist is simply to help high-achievers get out of their own way. We all know what the optimal decisions in our lives are, but we invent excuses and barriers to avoid doing the hard work.
The simplest, most scalable tool to fix this is reframing.
“How you frame everything is how you approach it,” Gurner explains. “When you see an obstacle or a problem, reframe it into a challenge. Think, ‘How could I productively think about this that is equally true?’ We get so tunneled in that we don’t see other ways of thinking about the same challenge that could get us amped up to tackle it.”
The Bottom Line: Don’t Ignore the Haunting Agitation
Many people walk around with “haunting agitation”—a nagging voice whispering that they could be doing more, living bigger, and fulfilling a dream they abandoned long ago.
Do not let that whisper become a scream of regret later in life.
The difference between those who achieve outlier success and those who don’t is simply a willingness to make sacrifices. Map out the life you want, figure out exactly what it costs (both financially and in terms of effort), and have the audacity to go get it.
Checkout this incredible interview with Dr Julie Gurner
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