Life
4 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Morning
Even the happiest man on earth will fall into the negative emotional state sometimes. But staying in the negative state throughout the day isn’t a productive and efficient way for us to perform well.
The best way to stay at the peak state is by mastering our thoughts. But, what’s thought? Most people never realize it but everything that appears and runs around in our mind is simply the answer to the questions we’re asking ourselves.
Let’s say when you’re telling me you’re feeling excited right now, what just happened in your subconscious mind? You’re asking yourself – “What am I feeling excited about?” And the answer is what delivered the intense emotion of excitement to make you believe that you’re indeed feeling excited.
But what if your mind keeps asking questions like “Why am I feeling upset?” or “Why am I not successful”? Your mind will automatically seek for those answers to prove them right too. That’s why most people are living in a devastating state, feeling that everything in this world is against them.
Fortunately, we can change and control our thoughts. As I mentioned above, your brain will automatically seek for the answer, we will just need to ask the right questions.
Ask these questions every morning before anything else to set your mind right for the day:
1. What am I feeling happy about right now?
Most things we want in life are our mean goals, and it always lead to the universal end goal – Happiness. Why we want to make more money, live healthier, be more intelligent, and make more friends? Because we think those will make us happy, but then we’re feeling upset by not having what we want just yet.
Rather than seeking for happiness from our external world and focusing what we don’t have yet, we can actually find happiness within ourselves. Asking yourself why you’re feeling happy will force your mind to seek for things that we already have.
You will start to notice there are actually many things you can feel good about – your relationship, your house, your career or even your beautiful memories.
What if you can’t think of anything that makes you happy right now? Decide to feel happy for no reason then. We don’t need any reason to feel good about ourselves and our life.
2. What am I feeling excited about right now?
Next, we need to feel the excitement and passion for pushing ourselves throughout the day. We can gain more energy and fulfillment from excitement to perform better and achieve more in life. Asking yourself what makes you excited allows you to have a clearer picture of what matters the most in that day.
It doesn’t need to be a huge thing such as changing the world or transforming your life because your subconscious mind will automatically seek for the answer (even if it’s small).
You can be excited for small things in daily life:
- The on-going design project
- The coming dinner with family
- The workout routine for today
3. What am I feeling proud for right now?
Knowing what you’re feeling proud for now is powerful. Most of the time we focus so much on how far we still need to go and feeling exhausted and upset about it. But by asking this question, you’re looking back on how far you already came with the achievements and accomplishments.
Besides, this question also helps improve your relationship with others, especially with the closer ones. You can be proud of your spouse, your siblings, your son or daughter. Your subconscious mind will then ask why? With that, you’re now focusing on their strength rather than their weakness and imperfections.
4. What am I feeling grateful for right now?
This is the last question to ask yourself every morning – What am I feeling grateful for right now? Appreciation and gratefulness make such a big impact to those who practice them. You can never feel grateful and hatred at the same time.
When you’re asking yourself this, you start to see people and things around you as a gift, start to see every event in your life is how it should be rather than complaining about how unfair life is. Besides, you will start to learn how to forgive as well.
“When you are grateful – when you can see what you have – you unlock blessings to flow in your life.” – Suze Orman
5. You get what you ask for
If you haven’t noticed, this is how it works – you get what you ask for. When you’re asking why or what makes you good, your subconscious mind will answer your questions with evidence and references that make you feel good.
So, stop asking questions like “Why such bad things happened to me?” If you want to turn things around. Master and control your thoughts by being aware and adjust the questions you ask yourself.
Which questions do you ask yourself every morning? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!
Life
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Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

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Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
Life
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we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)
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