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9 Ways to Get Less Haters and More Fans in Business

People buy who we are BEING, not what we are DOING.

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How is it, that even though we may have competitors who are far less intelligent, capable and competent than us, have raging success and a tribe of dedicated followers who simply adore them – and we don’t?  The difference is, that they have realised that people buy ‘us’ – not our products and services.  People buy who we are BEING, not what we are DOING.

The secret is in the way we build our networks and in particular, HOW we make those people FEEL about themselves when we communicate with them (directly or indirectly).

There is a well known story about Jennie Jerome, who was Winston Churchill’s mother.  When she was asked about having dinner with two men (Gladstone and Disraeli), she said –

“When I left the dining room after sitting next to Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But when I sat next to Disraeli I left feeling that I was the cleverest woman in England.”  

Guess who won the hearts of the nation during this time?

As experts in our field, it is important for us to lead with authority.  Afterall, weak leaders have a weak following.  However, how we make people feel when we are leading with authority is something we must pay very careful attention to if we wish to be a leader that is liked.  For Edupreneurs, getting this balance right can be a real challenge, as the very reason the majority of our audience come to us, is because they are seeking skills and knowledge from us – but if we communicate that in a manner that makes our students feel ignorant, incompetent and of lesser significance than us, we immediately lose their business AND our reputation.

We have all modelled what ‘leadership’ is based on that which we have been directly exposed to, or been led like others.  Unfortunately, this isn’t always a good thing.  

I don’t know about you, but I can think of teachers, kids club leaders and bosses in my past who not only crushed every ounce of soul in my body, but also made me feel nothing but hatred, disgust and utter repulsion towards them.  Can you?  Would you call these people ‘leaders worth following?’. I think not.

As a real life example, very recently I was scrolling through Facebook and came across a public status of a stranger.  

Their status was about how they were thinking of creating an online course – my absolute passion.  

Naturally, I saw an opportunity to help and offered some advice for online course creation.  What happened next was nothing short of shocking.

The response to my advice and freely given support was to be mocked, sworn at and abused, not just by the person who had written the status about creating a course, but by a number of her friends too.  

Turns out this person had created online courses before so totally knew what she was doing – on account of that, my advice was a bit like serving her up a big fat plate of lemons to suck on.  **Awkward**.

However, do you think her response made me want to do business with her? To give my money to her? and importantly to be led by her?

About as much as I’d like to perform a lobotomy on myself.

Even worse than just losing just me as a customer, because her post was public, my commenting on it meant that it showed up in MY newsfeed for all of my thousands of friends and followers to see too.

Within minutes my inbox – as well as groups that I am a member of – were plagued by connections of mine who had seen the response to my freely given support – let’s just say that none of them are going to turn into her customers either.  OUCH.

Because people buy who you are being, not what work you are doing.

I tell this story because it is very important for us as leaders and educators and people who are aspiring to become authorities in our industry that we must be very aware that who we are being is more important than what work we are doing.

Every time we speak and communicate with others online we are building our brand.

Our brand is who we are.

Our brand is how people feel when they communicate with us.

If we want to become successful industry leaders, if we want to build a following of people that like us and buy from us consistently; if we want people to share our work, celebrate our successes and encourage others to follow us too, then we must be very aware of who we are being – because people by us, they don’t buy what we sell.

I was recently in attendance at what can only be described as quite a life-changing conference in San Diego in October organised by Cole Hatter and his family.  Thrive had 26 of the world’s most incredible leaders and speakers.

One of the speakers, Jordan Harbinger talked about this very point in his talk, which was called “People Buy You”.

Here are some of the key things that I pulled out from Jordan’s talk and interpreted in my own way, that as educators, Edupreneurs and leaders, we must never forget if we would like to be successful and loved along the way:

1. Networking creates opportunities

Need a book launch to go well?

Want your blog post shared?

Want to build partnerships with people with huge lists?

Want to get connected to an influencer?

Whatever it is that you are looking for is much easier to obtain when you know someone, who knows someone. That’s a fact.

The thing is, how can you expect people to do you any kind of favours, if they don’t like you?

I have found in my 11 years in business, from my own experiences trying to build my profile from nothing, and from many who have contacted me to ask for my help when they’ve just started out; I can categorically say that help is not handed to you based on how many people you know, or how many people are on your list, or how influential you are.

Help is handed to you based on whether you’re a nice person or not.

Help his handed to you because you are genuine, kind, considerate, enthusiastic and clearly willing to help those individuals back if they ever needed a favour returned.

I see so many business owners and entrepreneurs who are using the excuse that they have no money, that they have no connections, that they have no list as the reason why they are not yet successful or the reason why they are not yet putting 100% effort into achieving their dreams.

Time and time again I share my story of how going from homeless to having a 7 figure business within 18 months was no lucky strike for me. I had no money, I had no supporters, I had no investors, I didn’t even have a mobile phone – let alone a phone number to call!  Jeez, I didn’t even have a HOME!  Yet I managed to succeed and I put this purely down to the fact that I was willing to build relationships with people.

I was willing to bare my soul and make friends.

I was willing to be helpful and give my time, my friendship and put my hands to use.

The saying ‘it’s all about who you know’ is absolutely true. However please keep in mind that it does not mean how many ‘high and influential rich people you know’.  

It means ‘how many relationships’ you have made regardless of their status.

2. When you give without expectation, rewards come back tenfold

We’ve all heard the saying that ‘giving is receiving’ and this is very much true in the world of Edupreneurship. You don’t have to have a lot to give, in order to gain a lot back.

You can share somebody’s post, you can leave a positive comment, you can recommend them to someone seeking their products or services. You could give them one of your products or services, offer to help them run one of their future events  – there are so many ways that you can give to others.  When you offer unexpectedly without any expectation of reciprocated favours you will be amazed at how far this will stay in the memory of those you helped.

Not only does it make you feel good.  From my own experience, unexpected gifts come back to you especially in the form of love, gratitude and support which to me is the greatest gift of all. No money, position or status can possibly trump the feeling of being loved and liked by others.

3. Act immediately when opportunities present themselves

For a lot of people, the thought of networking fills them with so much dread that they’d rather knock their own teeth out to see the dentist than go to ‘networking’.

As human beings anything that is new and unfamiliar instinctively generates fear inside us – it’s a natural instinctive response to protect us from prospective danger.

This is why when we are faced with meeting new people for the first time we can sometimes feel nervous, shy and embarrassed – because we don’t want people to judge us, think little of us or dislike us.  Whether we consciously realise it or not, our body releases chemicals to make us feel deterred by that situation.

However if we are limiting the relationships and friendships that we’re building, we are directly limiting our success and our potential, so we must learn to push through this fear, discomfort and dislike of networking if we wish to gain formidable success.

4. Everything in business is about people

People buy people, not products.

People follow people, not marketing copy.

People love people, not branding and services.

You can hide behind your emails and your beautifully designed website all you like, but if you stop building relationships your success will curl up and die.

Therefore grab every opportunity that presents itself to build a new relationship you don’t have to go ‘all out’ to meet up with someone for coffee.  In fact, I’d go as far as saying be careful about how you are investing your time – Think wisely about how you build these relationships; a quick phone call, or a few messages in chat thread can be enough to make a friendship start.

The only way to make those fear chemicals in our body subside is to show your body that there is nothing to fear – just new friends that you haven’t made yet to go and meet.

5. People will want to help you when they feel emotionally connected to your mission

Share freely and passionately about what you care about and what you are trying to achieve

I started my business working in the corporate space (business to business).  My clients included the federal government, educational institutions and large industry bodies. I started my business at the wise old age of 19 years old and I was a blonde-headed female with a fresh-faced grin from ear to ear.

Naturally this meant that I didn’t have that immediate heir of authority when I walked into large corporate boardrooms to present my training proposals. I felt like I had no choice but to be someone that I wasn’t in order to ‘survive’ and ‘prove that I could do it’.

It was stifling oppressive.

As I moved through the ebbs and flows of business sometimes high, sometimes low, I felt like I would lose my credibility if I did share any of the lows I went through.  I was worried that I would look ‘incompetent’ if I dared share my entrepreneurial challenges and human nature.

I worked hard to conceal the cracks and silently suffered as I tried to paint a picture of perfection.

I didn’t notice that as I filtered out all of my failings and only shared my wins and successes in the pure attempt to look ‘professional’ and ‘good at my job’, I was actually slowly building a bigger and bigger wall of unapproachability.  

The ‘successes’ that I thought was going to make people feel inspired, just made people feel like I was ‘nothing like them’, ‘inhuman’ – even intimidating and egotistical.  I had no idea.

Then one day, I’d had a particularly bad day in business.  The Government had unexpectedly retracted a budget that funded almost my entire client base and I lost everything overnight.

$2.7million in contracts, my office, 23 staff and a 6 figure tax debt that now couldn’t be paid.  It sucked.

Like most level-headed entrepreneurs, my immediate response to this situation was to have a deep and meaningful few weeks with a bottle of wine.  

Eventually I ran out of self-pity and with nothing to lose, I decided to share with the world what was going on.  I held nothing back.

I told the shameful, gut-wrenching, heart-breaking, credibility-destroying full story right there on Facebook.  I don’t know why I did, but I did.

The response blew my mind.

“People can tell. They know — maybe consciously, perhaps unconsciously — if you are truly interested in them or just fakin’ it in order to manipulate or “get something” from them.” —Bob Burg

The messages of love and support came flooding in. Recognition, acknowledgement and celebration poured in all around me.  

It quickly became apparent that my image of perfection and constant success made me look so different from everyone that was around me, that nobody could relate to me at all. Everyone just thought that my life was perfect and that therefore they could not aspire to be me.

Since sharing my royal stuff-ups and disasters, my following has grown, my connection with others has increased dramatically, my friendships are endless and the media love having me as a guest – all because struggle is much easier for people to relate to than constant success.

People don’t buy your success, people buy you.

To buy you, they need to know who you are; they need to know your story and they need to know that they are like you too.

One of the greatest components of all of our favourite movies and books is that the hero is the one that is most like us. If we could not relate to the hero then we would not be able to idolize them or aspire to be like them.

I have found that the more I share my story – the highs, the lows the bits in between; the more human I am.

Importantly, I found that it doesn’t need to be a great story of some magnificent feat.

You don’t have to have climbed Mount Everest with a goat on your back to be admired by others; you simply have to show that you are human.

LOVE, JOY, EXCITEMENT, FEAR, TREPIDATION…. All emotions help you connect with your audience – allow your audience to ‘feel’ you by sharing your journey as you go.

Don’t be afraid to share your stories – the good, the bad and the ugly.  It’s the only way to get everyone cheering with you when the happy ending comes.

JOURNAL:

  1. What is your story?
  2. How did you get where you are?
  3. What challenges have you been through or are you going through?

Do not feel fearful about sharing this with others.  

People buy you – not what you do.

6. Dig the well before you’re thirsty

This means creating friendships long before you need anything from them and they will be there for you when you do.

7. Always be generous

I live by this one as so many people have helped me when I’ve been down on my luck.

I started from scratch like most entrepreneurs and found myself starting from scratch a couple of times after – there is no way I would have any of what I do today if other people hadn’t shown me such generosity.

I had complete strangers give me a sofa to sleep on, put food in my belly, give me an internet connection to use, even borrow a car.

The generosity shown by these people will never ever be forgotten and when the time comes that they need a favour I would give them everything I have in return.

But this point isn’t just about being generous to those who have helped you – this is about being generous day in, day out to people you don’t even know, or for no particular reason other than that you have something to give.

I’m not I’m not selective about who I help – I give my advice freely to those who are long term unemployed and homeless and to multi billionaires.

Give give give give.

Giving makes recipients grateful, thankful, fond of you and also feel like they owe you one back; and you just never know how that reciprocation may unfold.

8. Generosity is the currency of networking

People only have three things to say about you to others:

  1. They like you
  2. They dislike you
  3. They have no idea who you are

When you give to others, you are only giving them something to sing your praises about.

9. You must give and ask for help

A fundamental human need is to feel like we have a purpose; and that often comes from giving, providing and helping others.

You can actually create fans by asking for them help.

When people feel wanted and needed, they feel good.

You will be amazed how many people want to help you if you ask them.

Never be afraid to ask for help, direction, advice and guidance you’ll be amazed at what can come back.

  • Be the connector –  if you know people that can benefit from connecting with someone else,  introduce them to each other
  • Use the ‘Benjamin Franklin’ method to your advantage – this is all about asking people for their advice or recommendation when you meet them. EG if you’re going to a new town or location, reach out to someone and ask a recommendation for their favourite bar or restaurant.  You never know, they may end up offering to show you around themselves.

JOURNAL:

  1. Who are you who are you being?
  2. Who do you want to be seen as?
  3. What impression what impression are you painting of the kind of person that you are?
  4. do you come across as a likeable, lovable, friendly, approachable person that others would like to be friends with?
  5. What can you do today to start being more likeable?
  6. What can you do to build better relationships with others today?

I hope this has helped you take a closer look at how you are painting a picture of yourself in the public domain and how you can better build relationships and wider networks of people who love you.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this – tag me on Twitter @CordinerSarah or start a discussion in my Facebook group ‘Entrepreneur to Edupreneur’; and of course please do share this with anyone you feel may benefit from it.

Whilst this article is written in my own words, I would like to acknowledge, celebrate and credit the incredible Mr Jordan Harbinger who’s talk ‘People Buy You‘ at Thrive 2016, inspired this post and all of my thoughts within it.

If you EVER get a chance to see him, attend one of his events or work with him – GRAB IT.  He truly is inspirational and as delightful and charming in person as he comes across online and in his podcasts.  He has certainly made a fan of me.

Sarah Cordiner is a Postgraduate Qualified Course Creation Specialist with over 180,000 student enrolments in her online education programs, from 181 countries - Sarah Cordiner helps organisations, experts, speakers, coaches and consultants to create and launch online courses, coaching programs, membership subscriptions, and build successful education-based businesses with her simple to follow tech and marketing support thrown in. During the initial outbreak of COVID-19, Sarah donated over $1.35 MILLION worth of places in her education programs to help small business owners get online. Sarah was listed by the Huffington Post as "The Top 50 Must-Follow Female Entrepreneur 2017", has had her course creation work cited in Forbes and Times Higher Education, and was listed as the Number 1 e-Learning Blog on 'e-Learning Feeds'. Sarah is a 16 times published author (and 5 times international number 1 best-seller), host of the Course Creators Podcast and holds the record for being the youngest University “Executive Director and Head of Campus” in Australian history - a university that was ranked number 1 in Australia at the time of her leadership and is one of the most remote university campuses in the world. Sarah has won multiple awards in educational entrepreneurship, having gone from homeless to having a 7 figure education services business in just 18 months of moving to Australia from Europe. 

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Icarus Syndrome: How to Catch Yourself When Success Comes Crashing Down

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You know the story. A guy gets wings made of feathers and wax, dad tells him not to fly too close to the sun, guy ignores dad, wings melt, guy falls into the sea. Classic.

But here’s the thing about Icarus. He didn’t crash because he failed. He crashed because he was doing so well.

That’s the part we don’t talk about enough.

What Icarus Syndrome Actually Looks Like

Icarus Syndrome isn’t some official diagnosis you’ll find in a medical textbook. It’s more of a pattern. And once you spot it, you start seeing it everywhere.

Picture this: someone lands the promotion they’ve been chasing for years. Suddenly they’re saying yes to everything. More projects, more travel, more risk. The confidence that got them there starts to tip over into something else. Overreach, maybe. A bit of arrogance. That quiet voice that used to say “hang on, is this a good idea?” goes strangely silent.

And then it all comes tumbling down.

The tricky bit is that success and self-destruction can look almost identical from the outside. Both involve ambition. Both involve pushing hard. The difference is usually invisible until it’s too late.

Why Winning Can Set You Up to Lose

Ever noticed how a winning streak makes people a little reckless? There’s actually a reason for that.

When things go well, our brains get a hit of confidence that doesn’t always match reality. We start believing our own hype. The wins feel like proof that we can’t lose, which is exactly the moment we’re most likely to.

Turns out, success shrinks your awareness. You stop questioning yourself. You stop listening to feedback because, well, look at all this evidence that you’re right. The people who used to challenge your thinking? You might start tuning them out.

The other day someone told me they’d made their worst decisions not when they were struggling, but when everything was going great. That stuck with me. Because it makes a weird kind of sense.

Struggle keeps you humble. Success can make you forget.

The Warning Signs Worth Watching For

So how do you catch yourself before the wax starts dripping?

It usually starts small. You notice you’re brushing off advice you’d normally take seriously. You’re taking on more than you can realistically handle, but telling yourself you’ve got it. You feel a bit untouchable, like the normal rules don’t apply to you anymore.

Sleep goes out the window. You’re running on adrenaline and calling it drive.

And maybe the biggest one: you stop asking for help because asking for help feels like admitting you’re not as on top of things as everyone thinks.

This part’s a bit uncomfortable, but the very traits that fuel success, the ambition, the drive, the refusal to quit, are the same ones that can quietly steer you off a cliff. Same wings, different outcome.

Pulling Yourself Back From the Sun

Okay, so what do you actually do about it?

First, get honest about the story you’re telling yourself. Are you flying high because things are genuinely solid, or because you’ve stopped checking? There’s a difference, and only you can tell which one it is.

Keep people around who’ll tell you the truth. Not the yes-people who clap at everything, but the ones who’ll gently say “mate, are you sure about this?” Those people are worth their weight in gold, and they get rarer the more successful you become.

Slow down enough to notice how you’re actually feeling. Success can mask burnout for a surprisingly long time. You feel great right up until you don’t.

And look, sometimes catching yourself isn’t something you can do alone. If you’re feeling stretched thin, if the pressure of keeping it all up is starting to weigh on you, talking to someone helps more than people expect. Getting proper psychological support in Western Sydney or wherever you are isn’t a sign you’re falling apart. It’s usually a sign you’re paying attention.

Flying Smart Instead of Flying High

Here’s the thing Icarus never got told. The problem was never the flying. It was the ignoring.

His dad gave him a middle path. Not too high, not too low. He just got carried away.

You can enjoy your success without letting it make you stupid. You can keep climbing without pretending you’re invincible. The trick is staying awake to yourself, especially when everything looks like it’s going right.

Because that’s exactly when the sun feels closest.

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Quick and Meaningful Ways to Do Charity

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Finding time to give back can feel overwhelming. Many people want to help others but think it takes a lot of time and planning. The truth is, simple, effective ways to support charity fit into busy lives. Whether you have a few minutes or a couple of hours, you can make a positive impact in your community. Helping others benefits those in need and gives you a sense of fulfilment and connection.

First, understand that charitable efforts can be quick and meaningful. You don’t need to organize a big event or donate a lot of money to make a difference. Small actions can make significant changes in others’ lives. Here are some ways to show generosity today.

Food Bank Donations

One of the simplest ways to help is by donating to a food bank. A food bank donation helps people facing food insecurity by redistributing surplus food and providing healthy meals. When you donate, you nourish someone’s day and ease their burden.

Local food banks often rely on donations from individuals and businesses. You can donate non-perishable items or fresh produce from your garden. If that’s not possible, consider making a monetary donation, which food banks can use to buy the needed food items. Every contribution counts and helps ensure families receive meals.

Volunteering your time at a local food bank is another great way to get involved. Many food donation organizations need help sorting donations, packing food boxes, or distributing meals. This hands-on work lets you see the positive impact of your efforts. You can also build friendships with staff and other volunteers as you work toward shared goals.

No-Cost Options

Charity doesn’t always have to cost money. You can donate your skills or time. If you’re good at graphic design or enjoy writing, your expertise can support local nonprofits’ outreach efforts. You might create promotional materials, manage social media, or offer training sessions.

Another no-cost option is to share charitable organizations on your social media. Inform friends and family about the causes you care about. Increased visibility can lead to more donations and volunteers. Sometimes, raising awareness matters as much as giving money.

Used Goods Donations

Decluttering your home is a great way to support charity. Look around. What items do you no longer use? Clothing, household goods, and toys can help someone in need. Local shelters, thrift stores, and nonprofits often welcome gently used items. By clearing out what you don’t need, you can provide useful items to those who can’t afford them.

You can enhance this experience by organizing a donation drive in your community. Involve friends and neighbours to gather more items together. This can become a fun community event that promotes giving.

Random Acts of Kindness

Doing random acts of kindness each day is an easy way to help others. Simple actions, like buying someone a coffee, leaving a nice note, or helping a neighbour carry groceries, can spread goodwill. These acts not only brighten someone’s day but also promote kindness in your community.

Try setting a goal to do a certain number of kind acts each week. This can become a good habit that changes how you interact with others. It doesn’t matter how big or small the act is. What matters is the intention behind it.

Skill-Based Volunteering

Using your professional skills to help a charity can foster personal growth while supporting those in need. Whether you are a teacher, marketer, lawyer, or accountant, your skills can greatly benefit nonprofits. Many nonprofits need help in areas where they can’t afford to hire professionals.

Some food donation organizations specifically seek volunteers with certain skills, so look for a nonprofit that matches your background. You can create change by using your expertise and meet others who share your interests.

Getting involved in charitable activities allows you to help create a better world. The good news is you don’t need much time or money to make a difference. Whether you volunteer at a local food bank, donate items, or do random acts of kindness, your efforts can lead to real change. These small actions can bring great fulfillment, improving not just the lives of those you help but your own, too.

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Why Recognizing Progress Can Lead to Better Habits and Performance

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Most people can remember a moment when someone pointed out that they were getting better at something. It might have been a teacher who mentioned that an essay read more clearly than the last one, or a manager who noticed that a task was finished sooner than usual. The comment may have lasted only a few seconds, but it changed how the person felt about the work in front of them. That small shift in feeling is often what separates someone who keeps going from someone who quietly gives up.

Progress is easy to overlook. Improvement usually arrives in pieces that are too small to feel impressive on their own, and the person making the effort is rarely the one who sees it first. When nobody names those pieces out loud, the effort starts to feel pointless. When somebody does name them, the effort starts to feel worth repeating. Understanding how that works, and learning to do it on purpose rather than by accident, is one of the most useful skills anyone in a teaching or leading role can develop.

How Noticing Good Behavior Changes What Happens Next

People repeat what works for them, and very little works better than being noticed by someone whose opinion matters. Many teachers and managers, though, were never taught how to use positive reinforcement in a steady, deliberate way, so their encouragement arrives at random moments and slowly loses its meaning. Practical, well-structured methods for recognizing and encouraging good behavior solve that problem by giving praise a shape and a purpose instead of leaving it to chance. Anyone looking for a clear starting point can review this article on positive reinforcement techniques by Youngstown State University. Studying this kind of material online also makes it easier for working teachers and professionals to build new skills around a full schedule, without stepping away from the classrooms and teams that they already serve.

Why Setbacks Are Easier to See Than Improvement

Problems announce themselves. A missed deadline, a failed test, a disrupted lesson, or an argument in a meeting all demand attention immediately, because something has to be done about them. Improvement makes no noise at all. A student who reads a little more fluently this week than last week does not interrupt anyone, and a colleague who has stopped arriving late does not create a situation that anybody needs to handle.

The result is that attention flows toward what is going wrong. Over time, people learn that the quickest way to be noticed is to struggle, and that doing well simply means being left alone. That is a discouraging lesson, and it is taught without anyone meaning to teach it. Deliberately looking for improvement corrects the balance.

The Link Between Small Wins and Lasting Habits

A habit is built from repetition, and repetition depends on how the last attempt felt. When an attempt ends with a sense of having moved forward, the next one starts more easily. When it ends with nothing at all, the next one takes more willpower, and willpower runs out. This is why recognizing progress is not simply a kindness. It is one of the practical mechanics of habit formation.

Small wins also make a long goal feel possible. Someone who wants to improve their writing, their fitness, or their grades is looking at a destination that is months away. If the only measure of success is arrival, then every day before that is a day of failure. If the measure is movement, then almost every day can end in something worth acknowledging.

What Makes Encouragement Actually Land

Not all encouragement has the same effect. A vague comment like “good work” is pleasant to hear and forgotten within minutes, because it does not tell the person anything they can use again. Naming the specific thing that improved gives the comment weight. Saying that someone explained their reasoning clearly, or handled a difficult question patiently, tells them exactly which behavior to repeat.

Timing matters as well. Recognition that arrives while the effort is still fresh connects clearly to the action that earned it. Recognition that arrives weeks later feels like a formality. Honesty matters most of all.

Recognizing Progress in a Learning Environment

Classrooms show all of this very clearly, because students are constantly forming opinions about what they are capable of. A student who believes they are bad at a subject will read every difficulty as proof, and a student who has been shown evidence of their own improvement has something to weigh against that belief. Pointing to a specific piece of earlier work and comparing it with a recent one is often more persuasive than any amount of general encouragement.

This also affects how a class behaves as a group. When students see that steady effort and cooperation are noticed, those become the normal ways to act. When the only things that draw comment are disruptions and mistakes, the classroom slowly organizes itself around those instead.

Recognizing Progress at Work and at Home

The same pattern holds well beyond school. In workplaces, people frequently leave roles they are good at because nobody ever indicated that the work was valued. A manager who regularly names the specific things a team member has done well builds trust that survives harder conversations later, because criticism from someone who also notices success is easier to accept.

At home, the effect is much the same. Children, partners, and family members respond to being seen accurately. Mentioning that someone has been more patient recently, or that a difficult task was handled calmly, does more for the relationship than a general compliment ever could.

Building the Habit of Looking for Improvement

Like any habit, this one needs a structure until it becomes automatic. Setting aside a few minutes at the end of a day or a week to think about who has improved, and in what specific way, is usually enough to begin. Writing it down helps, because memory tends to favor the problems. The next step is simply to say it to the person involved, in plain words, as soon as there is a reasonable moment.

None of this requires a new system or a great deal of time. It requires paying attention to the right things and then being willing to mention what was seen. People who feel that their progress is visible tend to keep making progress, and that is true in classrooms, in workplaces, and in ordinary life.

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Why Successful People Plan Their Days on Paper (Not Just Apps)

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Your cell phone is usually something that you check almost immediately when you wake up. One notification turns into three. An e-mail is followed by another message, and soon enough, the day has started without any proper planning. Digital applications are very helpful and make work easier, yet it also makes it difficult for people to stop and think about what deserves attention.

That’s when the importance of paper scheduling can play an important role. With the September 2026 calendar, you get all your deadlines, appointments, and key dates scheduled without having another notification nagging at you. By listing out what’s a priority for you, you create a simple place to reflect on things before getting into the hustle and bustle of the day.

Why Do Successful People Still Plan on Paper?

The benefits that come with digital planning are immense. These include setting alerts, scheduling meetings, coordinating calendars, and providing access to all information anywhere. However, just because everything is available on a screen doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be able to concentrate on the most important things.

Paper provides a very different way of doing things. You don’t have any pop-ups to distract you. You can simply look at your page, determine what is important, and take notes without switching applications.

Imagine a professional preparing for an important presentation. Their digital task manager may contain dozens of tasks. On paper, they might simply write “finish presentation,” “review figures,” and “send final version.” The smaller, more focused list can make the next step feel much clearer.

Paper Makes Priorities Visible

The handwritten plan also remains physically in your presence. It can be kept next to your laptop as you work, reminding you of what you planned to achieve.

It is also gratifying to tick off an accomplished task. It creates a visible record of progress instead of leaving completed work buried inside a digital list.

Can Paper Planning Help With Digital Distractions?

The contemporary workplace is full of interruptions. There will be emails. There will be messages. There will be meetings going long past their allotted times. Even if you make up your mind to find some time, it’s not always easy to do so undisturbed.

According to Microsoft’s Work Trend Index 2023 report, 68% of individuals reported that they lacked adequate undistracted focus time while working. This research was conducted among 31,000 individuals from 31 different countries, and trillions of Microsoft 365 productivity signals were analyzed.

Paper planning cannot remove these interruptions. It can, however, give you something simple to return to when they happen. If the day’s three most important priorities are written beside your computer, it becomes easier to remember what you were working towards after an unexpected meeting or a string of messages.

The aim is not to avoid technology. It is to avoid letting technology decide where your attention goes.

How Does Writing Your Day Down Change the Way You Work?

When writing an outline, one is forced to make decisions. Rather than looking at an endless list of things that have to happen someday, one can identify things that matter today.

This is particularly useful when one already has a busy schedule for a day. Imagine having a report due Friday, three meetings, several emails to answer, and a routine administrative task waiting. Everything may look important when viewed together. Writing down the report as the main priority can make it easier to protect time for it.

Planning on an app

Planning on paper

Easy to add and rearrange tasks

Makes selected priorities physically visible

Useful for reminders and notifications

Creates a quieter planning space

Can store a large number of tasks

Encourages you to be selective

Works well for shared schedules

Works well for personal daily focus

This does not mean paper is automatically better. It simply gives planning a different purpose. An app can hold everything, while a sheet of paper can help you decide what deserves your attention now.

Can Paper and Digital Planning Work Together?

Absolutely. The best way of doing this could be assigning a particular role to both mediums.

Assign your meetings, appointments, joint ventures and reminders on a digital calendar, but let your personal commitments, brief notes, thoughts and priorities remain on paper.

This works perfectly well even while planning for months ahead. A look at a September 2026 calendar can show you the busiest times, important deadlines and other personal engagements prior to organising individual days.

Why Are Weekly Calendar Layouts Beneficial for a Busy Schedule?

A week that is packed with activities will appear totally different when all seven days are visible. Using printable weekly calendars can assist you in taking an overall view of your appointments, deadlines, and other important obligations at once.

Such an overview can reveal some potential issues before it is too late. For example, when you realize that all your time during one day is already taken by numerous meetings, then you know that you should change your schedule now.

Printable weekly calendars can also be beneficial for those who like tangible things and wish to have everything written down somewhere without switching applications.

Make Planning More Intentional

A productive day may not necessarily start with downloading yet another app or adding new things to the to-do list. Sometimes, all it takes to start a productive day is some quiet minutes and an empty sheet of paper. Listing your priorities will give you a break before responding to the numerous stimuli.

Paper planning will only provide an additional choice. To discover practical planning resources in the form of free printable planners and calendars, try out a platform that will facilitate everyday planning. With proper use, paper planning can become an instrument that will turn your hectic schedule into a thoughtful one. The most effective planning tool is the one that will enable you to begin your day knowing your priorities and end it knowing where your time went.

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CalendarKart offers free printable calendars, planners, and practical resources to help students, professionals, families, and others plan, organize, and manage their time more effectively. Its resources cover weekly planning, productivity tips, printable templates, and simple strategies for staying organized without overcomplicating everyday life.

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