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4 Reasons Why You Should Go All In On Your Dreams

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Everything will come to you at the right time in your life is a mantra many people live by and they love to preach it to others.  I’m sure that people in your social circle have told you to take it easy and to ‘enjoy life’ when you tell them how excited you are about your goals.

The first time they told you this you probably welcomed it as a genuine tip, but after a while of constantly repeating the same ‘advice’ it gets annoying. This can be really bothering, especially when it’s coming from the people that you care about the most. The key is to not let their influence affect your decision to go for your goals. I believe that if you really want something then you shouldn’t stop for anything.

Below are the 4 reasons why you should take massive action on your dreams:

1. History tells you the truth

Have you ever heard a successful person talking about how achieving success went really smooth without any obstacle to overcome or sacrifices to make? You don’t, because there are none. Also, have you ever talked about success with just a random person, who didn’t achieve something huge, but just lives an ordinary life like 99% of the people do? You probably have, and they probably were emphasizing how much effort and time you have to invest to become successful.

The difference between these two types of people should tell you enough. Your dream lifestyle doesn’t exist yet, however we’re fortunate enough that we’re able to manifest that lifestyle by putting in the work and time. Many people have been in your shoes and those same people worked hard and smart to achieve their goals and dreams. So, listen to the advice of your friends, but take the advice from the successful people if you want to become one yourself.

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” – Colin Powell

2. Time is scarce

The one thing you should worry about when you’re in doubt about pursuing your dreams or staying in your comfort zone is the matter of time. The longer you stay indecisive, the more valuable time you lose that you could have otherwise spent so much better.

You shouldn’t feel rushed by time, because most likely you won’t achieve the success you desire overnight. However, at the same time you should feel some sense of urgency, because the sooner you start working towards your goals, the faster you’ll get to the place you want to be.

 

3. Over-delivering brings in more opportunities

There are two types of people on how they approach ‘work’: one just meets the requirements and the other one wants to excel at what he/she does. Be the latter one, because the first one is the attitude of mediocre people. They want to do everything in life with as little effort as possible. That’s why these people never achieved the life they really wanted for themselves.

When you go all in on what you do then not only will the results be much better, but you’ll also leave a good impression on other people. When you consistently over-deliver, people start to acknowledge your achievements and want to get in contact with you, because who wouldn’t want to work with someone who gives his 110% effort in everything?

 

4. It’s your life

You should not dismiss the advice that you get from people who you know have your best interest at heart. However, at the end of the day you should be the one that’s in control of the decisions that you make in your life.  For example, if you always dreamed about having your own multi-million dollar business that employs more than 100 people then who has the right to stop you?

Or maybe you always wanted to have your own restaurant in the town where you grew up. The choice is yours. You are the person who has to deal with the regret, in 10 years from now, if you decide not to pursue your dreams. The people who tell you that you shouldn’t go after your dreams will be fine either way.

Going all in on your vision doesn’t mean that you have to drop everything and focus on only what you want. Instead, it means that you should prioritize what makes you feel happy and fulfilled, because at the end of the day you are your longest commitment. Every person has something unique to offer to the world so don’t let your dream just be a dream.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” – Harriet Tubman 

What dream are you currently going all in on? What challenges are you facing? Please leave your thoughts below!

Krishan Kalpoe is the founder of Shrinksdom & an aspiring psychologist who has a passion for personal development and wants to share his knowledge with the world for the purpose of making people's lives better. His website consists of personal development advice about the three fundamentals in life that we all need to live a happy life: love, success and wisdom. Take a look at his website or his Instagram.

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  1. Brown

    Oct 23, 2016 at 3:53 am

    I am working on a novel, I keep procrastinating and am unable to finish it. I also have other projects that I am having trouble getting off the ground due to funding.
    Great advice though.

  2. Bertie

    Oct 22, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    Well, I’d like to add something about the “over-delivering” thing: you must also be stringent in demanding the right price for your hard work. Otherwise, there will be no scarcity of people who will want to take advantage of your abilities without paying the ticket. Once thing is 100% sure is that you’ll get plenty of “customers” if your price is 0.

  3. Ginny Bowman

    Oct 18, 2016 at 6:51 pm

    “You are the person who has to deal with the regret, in 10 years from now, if you decide not to pursue your dreams. The people who tell you that you shouldn’t go after your dreams will be fine either way.” – well said, and thank you for reminding me!

  4. Siraj

    Oct 18, 2016 at 2:40 pm

    Great article. Spot on. Keep them coming Krishan

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Relationships are challenging. They make you examine yourself from all angles, and that can be triggering. For example, have you ever had a friend or significant other say something that sparked an argument instantly—only to find out you misheard what they said in the first place? (more…)

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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it. (more…)

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3 Simple Hacks That Can Recharge Your Willpower and Help You Perform Better at Work

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How many times did you wake up feeling like you could conquer the world? You set ambitious goals for the day, you put on your best attire and walked out the door with a big smile on your face but eventually, life took over. Traffic, emails, work, family, and everything else you have around slowly but steadily started to drain your energy and made you feel exhausted.

You run out of battery, and the only solution that seemed viable was to rely on more caffeine. When that stopped working, all the temptations around you started to look much more appealing, and that sense of drive and commitment you had before slowly faded away. This is you running out of willpower.

Willpower: what is it? Why is it limited?

The American Psychology Association describes willpower as “the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.” In the book “The Willpower Instinct”, Dr. Kelly McGonigal, explains how every person’s willpower is limited, and slowly depletes throughout the day. The more “willpower challenges” you face, the quicker your reserve drains. Dr. McGonigal divided the different types of willpower challenges you might encounter in three categories:

  • I will: We face this type of challenge whenever we should do something, but we simply don’t feel like getting it done right now.
  • I won’t: We face this challenge when we try to resist temptation, or we try to keep cool in stressful situations.
  • I want: This is a particular type of challenge where we keep track of our long term goals, dreams, and desires. In this instance, we feel like we should take action right now to come one step closer to the goal. 

It’s easy to recognize it when you face a willpower challenge because you literally “feel it in your body.” Imagine being really hungry and walking in front of a bakery. The sight and the smell of pastries quickly triggers an “I won’t” type of challenge, and it takes a severe amount of effort and energy to walk away.

Every time you manage to win one of those challenges, a little bit of your willpower reserve gets used. The more challenges you face daily, the harder it will be to stay true to your goals.

Can you train or recharge your willpower?

A growing body of research suggests that willpower should be considered a muscle. To strengthen it, you should exercise it regularly, but you should not overwork it. Therefore, we shouldn’t try to “be good” at all times. Instead, we should learn how to relax and recharge our willpower.

The general advice on how to improve willpower involves sleep, proper nutrition, and regular exercise. This broad and general recommendation is often not downright applicable by most, because it consists of changing various daily habits. Luckily, three very effective hacks have been discovered, that have an immediate effect on our willpower and take just a few minutes to apply.

Here are the 3 ways to refill your willpower reserves:

1. Focused breathing

Breathing, when done correctly, can stimulate the release of calming hormones while reducing the release of stress hormones like cortisol and catecholamines. To make this effective, you should deeply and slowly inhale through the nose for at least five seconds. Fill your belly with air first, then your chest, and when there’s no more space for air, still try to do tiny inhalations through the nose.

You should feel a pulling sensation around your neck and trapezius muscles. Once your lungs are full, try to hold the breath for five seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth for at least five seconds. If you repeat this process ten to twenty times, you should feel dramatically more relaxed. Use this method several times a day, especially when you’re experiencing high levels of stress or anxiety.

2. Reward yourself when you accomplish a micro goal

According to a recent study, frequent instant rewards can boost motivation, and therefore, willpower. Creating your own reward system can help you to accomplish your to-do list, and also resist temptations. Since every individual has different tastes, you should come up with creative ideas about the small and frequent rewards you will give yourself upon winning any willpower challenge.

You can see this hack in practice in Apps like the popular Duolinguo, where after completing each lesson you get presented with a chance to open a treasure chest. This rewarding system seems to keep the users much more likely to keep learning new lessons.

3. Taking cold showers

Your body has an autonomic response to cold water. Getting into a cold shower is a difficult (but minor) willpower challenge on its own. As I previously mentioned, winning a willpower challenge strengthens your willpower muscle. Having a morning cold shower, on top of having multiple health benefits, will set you up for a positive winning streak of further challenges.

High performance is the sum of many small habits. Successful people don’t have an unlimited reserve of willpower, but they do have a set of daily rituals that made them succeed. These three hacks are some of the most effective techniques to develop willpower, but some of them may not fit every individual. You should try to find the perfect mix of daily practices that best fits your lifestyle and likes, so that you can strengthen your willpower muscle and perform better at work.

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3 Inspiring Lessons We Can Learn From Jim Carrey About the Law of Attraction

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You’ve more than likely heard of Jim Carrey before. Over the years, he has starred in many popular films including The Truman Show, The Mask, and Bruce Almighty (just to name a few.)

But his personality goes a lot deeper than just his comedic persona and movie star charisma. In fact, Jim Carrey is probably one of the most philosophical individuals on the planet

Although he isn’t in the spotlight as much anymore, throughout the years, he has credited his success and fortunes by applying the Law of attraction into his life. What’s even more inspiring is that Jim Carrey, like you and I, came from humble beginnings. No silver spoon or easy ticket. In fact, his family was very poor throughout his childhood. So what made him so successful in attracting such an extravagant and self-fulfilling life?

Here are 3 lessons you can learn from Jim Carrey when it comes to manifesting your dreams into a reality:

1. You Have To Take Action

You can’t just visualize then go eat a sandwich”, Jim Carrey says. It goes without saying that the law of attraction does require action. You cannot simply rely on visualizing and expect to see results, especially when it comes to manifesting desires that other people would like to achieve also. E.g. Careers, scholarships, competitions, anything that involves another individual.

Visualization and positive thinking are crucial when it comes to using the law of attraction, but you have to meet the universe halfway with the steps you take as well. We are physical beings that require physical steps to get physical results. The real key is to make daily plans/goals in order to get you closer towards achieving your desires. So after that sandwich, make sure start taking action toward your dreams!

This could be working on your hobbies or passion, applying for that dream job or studying to get better grades. As long as you are moving toward your goals then there’s no reason why it can’t happen. So get out there and kick some butt.

2. Double Down On What You Love

My father could have been a great comedian but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father. Not the least of which was that: You can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

If this story of Jim Carrey’s father doesn’t pull on your heartstrings and inspire you at the same time, nothing else will! This is such an undeniable life lesson that everyone needs to learn. A lesson to take risks, push comfort zones and go all-in on what you love doing. So if your dreams, hobbies or goals seem far fetched to the majority, then you are already beating the other 99%.

Be that 1% that’s willing to dream big and rise above the norm. Unfortunately, in today’s society, our ancestral instincts still rule our everyday life. Fear is one of them and controls the majority of our population. It’s scary to push comfort zones and try something new, the thought of failure is often paralyzing to many. But my question to you is, will you look back one day and regret the chances you didn’t take?

3. Keep Your Eye On The Prize

As far as I can tell, it’s just about letting the universe know what you want and working toward it, while letting go of how it comes to pass.” Holding onto every little detail when it comes to manifesting, can conjure up more harm than good. The reason is that the universe will deliver in ways you might not expect.

If you are too busy wondering when your desires will manifest, comparing yourself to others, or ignoring every sign that doesn’t look like your detailed plan you’ve written down, then you may be missing out on opportunities that are right in front of you! Your visualizations don’t have to be perfect, in fact, it’s better to just let go altogether and focus on the result itself rather than dwelling on every little detail. This doesn’t mean to simply forget about what you want but instead having the confidence it will happen in time. 

An example of this is when Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for 30 million dollars. The only detail he knew was that he would earn it through his acting career, and he did indeed achieve this goal! So make sure to tell the universe what you want, but try not to hold onto every little detail!

Jim Carrey is just another person like you and me, with his own personal ups and downs in his road to success. He is someone to look up to when applying the law of attraction in your life too. It doesn’t matter if your goals or desires are different because the core foundation will always stay the same. You can and will do this if you think, feel and act as if it will happen!

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