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How To Create Positivity In Your Life When All Hope Seems Lost

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Dealing with dark times can be hard. Sometimes there is no simple way out, and it can at times seem like all hope is lost. There is always a solution to every problem, and it’s entirely possible to get out of a hopeless situation.

I am going through a tough time at the moment after a breakup and a few other challenges have arisen all at the same time. I feel lucky that I have spent a substantial amount of time on personal growth over the last few years, so my tool belt to deal with these issues is fully packed.

With that said, it doesn’t always make it any easier. Whether you experience pain or not is entirely up to you. Pain is a decision, and I personally choose not to go down that road. It’s not easy to avoid though because it can often be our minds default position if we don’t practice self-control.

Life is an amazing gift and when we sit back and remember that, the dark cloud start to clear even if it’s only for a moment.

Below are 7 ways to create positivity in your life when it feels like all hope seems lost and I am successfully using all of these strategies as I write this blog post:

1. Send out gratitude SMS’s

When times are tough, and your chips are down, a creative way to bring positivity in your life is to send out gratitude SMS’s to everyone that you are close with. Personalise each message and tell your friends why you appreciate them in your life. Don’t make it war and peace but truly express what they mean to you.

If done correctly, you should get a flood of SMS’s back with words of encouragement. I did this recently, and it really helped me see the positivity in my life. It showed me that people do care just as much as I care about them.

Some of the SMS’s can even spark up conversations with people you haven’t spoken to in a while. You’ll quickly realise that you are more successful and more cared for than you think.

2. Foster the belief

Belief is one of the cornerstones of our life. What we believe shapes who we are. To create positivity during a dark period of your life, you have to believe that the season will pass and that you are destined for greater things.

For the last few weeks, I have focused on the belief that my current circumstances will change because I am cultivating the proper beliefs that I can be something special no matter what anyone else may think about me.

All of this advice, all of the entrepreneur friends I have, all of the healthy eating I’ve committed to, is meant to help me be something bigger. It will become apparent as long as I’m patient and believe that a higher purpose is the only way forward.

Concentrate on the present and the daily habits that will help get you back on track. Creating positive thoughts and living in a positive way can only equal one thing: positive results.

“Believe in yourself no matter what and don’t stay in the past”

3. Meditate like crazy

When all hope seems lost your mind becomes even busier than usual. Your head fills with destructive thoughts that have the energy and power to destroy everything you have worked for. Again, exercising self-control, through meditating like crazy is a great way to reign in those stray thoughts.

Start with five minutes which is a goal you can definitely achieve. Then, try doing this multiple times through the day. As the momentum starts to build, crank up the sessions to 15-20 minutes at a time. Don’t let anything stop you and enjoy the calm feeling that you will get from your sessions.

Meditation is the number one way to calm your mind so that it can be a breeding ground for new, positive thoughts.

4. Write an Ebook

Using a mindset of abundance you can take a difficult situation and use it to create value for other people. Nothing but positive things can happen to you when you give for no reason at all. An Ebook of advice is the antidote to your pain.

I have just completed a new Ebook called “How To Become A Game Changing Influencer Online And Inspire Millions.” This is not a shameless plug but a free Ebook I am giving to all of the readers of Addicted2Success to say thank you for all the support.

Again, nothing but positivity can come from giving value to others and trying to do good in the world through a positive message. Focus on what you can do for others and what value you bring to the table. Your mind will have no choice other than to cultivate positive thoughts.

5. Visit a homeless shelter

Similar to the previous point, an excellent way to get through a tough time is to remove yourself from the equation and go and visit a homeless shelter. In a homeless shelter, your dreams and goals can be actualised without you even realising it.

Going beyond yourself and helping those who are in a much tougher situation than you creates positivity. It will show you that even when you think your story is bad and that no one could be as unlucky as you, you’re wrong.

Little old you has the power to change someone’s entire day through the act of handing out a meal to someone that can’t afford their own. Your presence even has the power to change that homeless person’s day to where they make the decision to change their circumstances forever.

Now isn’t that a great way to forget about your troubles and cultivate positivity in the world?

6. Read “The Pursuit Of Happyness”

This book is the first one you should read if you are going through a culmination of negative events in your life. The story of Chris Gardner growing up in a violent home and then raising a child while being homeless will change your perspective.

Stories of struggle and then ultimately triumph will build your confidence and show you that all it takes is a little positivity to get up off the ground, dust yourself off, and have another go at your dream. No one is going to judge you because they have their own challenges to worry about.

7. Call those who have the dream life

We all have people around us that have the life we dream of. When all hope seems lost, these people are the one’s you should call. Don’t scare them off with negative vibes, rather, have a conversation with them about what they did to be successful.

Find out the strategies and most importantly, find out what they thought when they had to overcome challenges. Through these people, you can learn so much about how to deal with your own situation.

I did this very exercise and one of the calls I had revealed something that I never knew. The person who I thought had an awesome life actually came from a very dark place. They admitted to sleeping with prostitutes, double dropping ecstasy pills, and smoking crack cocaine.

This person went from what seemed like the habits of a suicidal person, to being an inspirational entrepreneur and living a dream lifestyle. You have to get good at looking beyond the colorful Instagram photos of all the people that will sell you the false idea that they’re life is perfect and go behind the scenes.

Being good at asking questions will give you the only tool you need to start digging and understanding more about the people you admire. Through other people’s dreams, you get to see a glimpse of your own. Your dream is only possible when you foster positivity in your life.

Go beyond your story and use it to bring happiness to everyone around you. Get on this thing we call the Internet and start sharing. Inspire the world through what you do and never spend a moment bringing people down. As you build up other people, you will build up yourself.

“Positive results come from positive actions. Get off the couch, turn off Game Of Thrones, and go do something that will create positivity. Like attracts like. Positive thoughts attract positive results” – Tim Denning

How have you created positivity in your own life? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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13 Comments

  1. Shaleza Aise

    Aug 28, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    Hey, Tim.
    Thanks for writing such a great article. I’ve had dark periods in the past and I’ve learnt to keep happy and positive, due to my long term interest in personal development.
    However, we are all human and even small or temporary setback can leave you feeling jaded. I was having a ‘sad day’ and I started to feel better, when I came across your article and it catapulted me right back to my usual grateful self.
    I use many of the strategies you talked about, but I think I need to write more on my blog. I used to in the past, but now I find it harder to sit and write, for fear the flood gates will open. Maybe that would not be a bad thing.
    I find meditation to be an amazing help. It quietens the mind and gives me much peace.
    Thank you so much for sharing and I hope you pass through your difficult time/ circumstances speedily. We are all connected in this great universe of ours and I send you my best wishes.

    Shaleza

  2. The Broke Dad

    Aug 13, 2016 at 12:39 pm

    Well said. I have been in those dark places before and though I have never done all of the steps you have listed I have used several of them. Writing is a big thing for me. When I was down, in that dark place, and feeling like things would never improve I started to write. It was difficult, I had to force myself to do it, but once I started I could not stop my thoughts from flooding out of me and onto the screen in front of me. It was an amazing type of therapy and it cost me nothing. Now reading your post I wish I would have known what an e-book was so I could have saved all of those thoughts and put it into a book to help others.
    Thanks again for a great post. Enjoyed it

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:09 pm

      Broke Dad I love your blog and thanks for sharing your insight! Writing can help all of us get our thoughts out of our head and onto paper. When we see our thoughts in the physical form we start to see them differently and all of a sudden the BS we are telling ourselves becomes clear.

  3. Adebayo

    Aug 11, 2016 at 7:47 pm

    I am always inspired around here 2b sincere Tim keep it up.
    Raising capital is my issue but with time it will b past.
    Keep it up.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 12, 2016 at 10:26 am

      Adebayo thanks for spreading the love. Raising capital is a tough one. What’s most important is that you have a team behind you that investors will want to back. Have confidence and know that you may have to try over one hundred options for finance before you find the right one.

  4. Charlene Rhinehart

    Aug 11, 2016 at 9:17 am

    Another great article! Thanks for sharing, Tim! I needed an extra dose of motivation in order to recover from a few no responses that I received today so I started to peruse this site for inspiration. This was the first article I saw and it immediately drew me in. Just what I needed to give me an energy boost! Thanks Tim!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 11, 2016 at 7:53 pm

      Thanks Charlene. We all need a bit og motivation to get us going again. I’ve also received a few no responses recently from certain people I’ve reached out to. My advice is to just keep trying to reach them. I tried for one year to get to a celebrity entrepreneur recently and finally got a hold of him. It takes real patience.

  5. Chris Targett

    Aug 11, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Everyone can use more positivity in their lives, it’s infectious. I think it’s great that you spoke to someone successful and found out that they’ve had struggles in their life, we look at successful people and think they have always been successful, but with digging deeper we find that they are human after all.

    That is going to be my task, find someone who has been successful, sit down with them and see what they have done in their life to get where they are now.

    Thanks for the article Tim

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 11, 2016 at 6:01 am

      Chris thanks for your comments and for sharing your opinion. Successful people are often not who people think they are. I’ve learned this many times over the years.

  6. Ram Vijay

    Aug 11, 2016 at 5:45 am

    Tim, You are doing wonderful work by creating and sharing most needed articles . I am reading all of your articles and trying to follow it. Keep up the good work man!!!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 11, 2016 at 5:58 am

      Wow thanks Ram for the very kind words and I’m glad you are reading all the articles!

  7. Toño

    Aug 11, 2016 at 2:20 am

    I wanted to get back to this article when I’ll return home from work, but could not help and read it now. During my morning meditation, I contemplated on the reply, barely concentrating on the practice haha.

    You always seem to find such a great pictures for your writing, Tim. They are eye-catching and fit so well to what you say.

    I really enjoyed the article, basically you don’t need any coffe to make your morning as this is what will feel you awake and aware! Meditate like crazy? Hah, I loved it! Will certainly do, my friend.

    I also would like to add daily motivation to this list as it becomes highly important ingredient in my life right now. After so many hours of practicing it I feel like something changing inside of me and to keep this change you should motivate yourself every single day. I realized quite a long time ago that process of going to sleep and them waking up is like a mini-born process and that you start your life every time you wake up. It may sound a bit crazy, but in my early ages, I was afraid to go to bed because I was feeling so good and did not want to lose my good mood and attitude. It is extremely vital to go to bed motivated to make sure your mind is in the right state, and when you wake up, start immediately to motivate yourself again. Work on yourself and never stop. You may require doing so few times a day, because we all know, motivation won’t last much long. At first, it will feel unnatural, heavy routine and the longer you stayed hopeless or depressed the harder to get started, but you will thank yourself later.

    Again, practice it daily and do not let it slip. The longer you procrastinate the worse you may feel. Eventually, you WILL feel better as nothing lasts forever, but as you are in control of your life and do not want circumstances control your mind, you should get back to motivation few times per day, or at the very least on your mornings and evenings. I usually do few different activities so my brain does not get bored. You can start your day with meditation, reading a good article on a2s, watching motivational video on youtube, write a letter of appreciation to Tim Denning :D, workout, jogging, listen to uplifting music or simple walk your beloved dog who is your best friend.

    I started today with meditation, this article, short video of one man doing his journey in the beautiful Hawaii, and about to listen to Preston Smiles’ audiobook and then some good vibe music. I know my day is gonna be awesome because I made my intention work and brought them to life. I decided to be aware and be happy.

    Loss of hope, depression or happiness, those are all state of your conditioned mind as everything on this Earth is neutral and you color your experience whatever you want. So choose wisely what you can shape your mind in.

    I meditated recently on why even though we work so hard to be happy, many of us tend to get back to the state of depression or simply feel not good so very often, and I realized it because of training. We train ourselves so very hard, with the passion and desire to feel bad that when we finally decide to feel good we struggle. Even when we succeed eventually, our brain will try to lure you into the grim state because it is so natural for it to indulge in our heavy thoughts. You trained it for years and of course, it will come back to familiar grounds. So now you can train to feel good, and when eventual downtime will hit you, it’s just the habit you can overcome.

    Thank you so much again Tim for getting me ready for the day, for the journey and amazing feelings, appreciate it highly! Much love to you, keep yourself healthy and have a wonderful day!

    Peace!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 11, 2016 at 5:54 am

      Toño thanks for introducing me to the idea of a mini born again after sleeping. It’s a very interesting idea that I have thought of many times before and wondered to myself “what if this really was the case.”

      So glad the meditation is working out for you and the daily motivation suggestion is a good one. I also loved your quote that says we color our own world. I loved that!

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

Those Who Failed Their Way To Success

Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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