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6 Behaviors to Boost Self-confidence and Improve Your Relationships With Other People

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Do you want to become more popular and improve your relationship with people in your social or business circle? You can build your self-confidence by making other people feel more important and valuable.

As Dr. John Dewey said,  “the deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important.” Remember that phrase: “the desire to be important.” This desire makes you want to wear the latest fashion, drive the latest cars, use the iPhones, and talk about your children.

Everybody wants to feel important. You have to be interested in people if you want to be a charming person and improve your relationships. But how do you do it?

Here are 6 behaviors you can practice with every person to make him or her feel more important:

1. Attention

When you give your full attention to another person when they’re talking, they feel what they’re is saying is important which makes them feel important. When you agree with a person who is talking, he or she feels more valuable and respected.

Listen to them like you are genuinely interested in what they have to say. Ask questions that other people will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

If you want to be interesting, be interested. Listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone. if you want to be a good conversationalist and more charming, be an attentive listener.

2. Acceptance

When two people meet it’s important to establish a certain level of acceptance. When you express genuine and unconditional acceptance to another person, you raise that person’s self-esteem, you improve that person’s self-image and you make him or her feel more relaxed and safe in your company.

3. Smile 

It only takes 13 muscles to smile. A genuine, open, and honest smile says a lot. When you smile at another person, he or she feels valuable, important and worthwhile. A smile says, “I like you, you make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

Your smile is a messenger of your good will. You will raise your own self-esteem by making an effort to raise the self-esteem of others and you can do it by smiling. It costs nothing but creates so much more.

“Use your smile to change the world; don’t let the world change your smile.”

4. Appreciation

Whenever you express gratitude or appreciation to another person for anything the other person has done, you make him or her feel more valuable, more confident, and more worthwhile.

The word, thank you has tremendous power. Each time you say this word to another person his or her self-esteem goes up. Develop the habit to saying thank you to everybody for anything or everything they do. Develop an attitude of gratitude.

5. Approval

Express approval on every possible occasion. When people are genuinely praised by someone they respect, their enthusiasm and alertness increases and they feel much better about themselves.

Whenever anyone does something good, tell them how good they are. When you praise your family, coworkers, friend, and customers, you make them feel important.

Praise your son or daughter when he or she brings home a good report card or when they first succeed in building a birdhouse. They will feel encouraged. Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval.

6. Compliments

Abraham Lincoln said, “Everybody likes a compliment.” Don’t criticize people, give honest and sincere compliments. You don’t need to be an expert, just be honest. Showing a genuine interest in others wins friends for you and if you are in business it may develop customer loyalty for your company.

When you say to someone, “Wow, you look beautiful today” or you say, “Hey, you did a really good job”. It makes people feel more positive.

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain

It’s impossible to improve relationships in one day. It’s a long process. Begin the process by smiling at everyone you meet and remembering to say thank you.

How are you improving your relationships with people? Please leave your thoughts below!

Pawan Kumar is a Content Marketer at SpringRole. He has been featured on Jeff Bullas, MarketingProfs, Entrepreneur, Write to Done, SEMrush, Shout Me Loud, and Addicted 2 Success! He’s an avid reader and movie buff who loves writing. Don't hesitate to connect with him on Twitter.

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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