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3 Lessons I Learned From Being a Greeter at My Last Job

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Have you ever done anything and thought it was a waste of time? An example could be working in a retail store and having to stand in front of the store and greet people as they walk in for hours. Would this not sound like a mundane and time wasting task?

This is exactly what I would do from time to time in my last job. My boss would come to me and say, “Armando, you are going to greet for two hours.” I would turn back and already be thinking before I replied, “Man, this is going to be awful. What a waste of my day!”

Nonetheless, this began changing once I realized that the habits I was forming while greeting could benefit me in every single area of my life. This was not my mentality until I heard a different perspective from a podcast on iTunes by the name of “The MFCEO Project.” Their perspective was taking pride in everything you do. When he said this, it was mind-blowing because I realized how many people including myself do not do this.

I would already begin negatively by thinking being a greeter was not worth my time and that I was above that, however I decided to try out the perspective stated in the podcast and the results were phenomenal.

1. Take pride in whatever you do

I walked into work the day after this podcast and told myself I would be the best greeter anyone had ever seen. In fact, I was going to make sure every single potential customer that I saw was greeted with a genuine smile, and I was going to point out one thing that stood out about that specific person. This could have been amazingly polished nails to brand new Nike’s. Whatever the case, I was going to make it specific and say “I love your pristine white Nike’s. They go really well with your outfit that you pull off.” Simply by changing my mentality about something I found so dull changed the way I viewed my job duties.

Not only were potential customers turning into customers quickly, but they were saying things like, “Wow! I cannot believe you noticed my new nails. You are the first person to notice!” I even made some crazy interesting connections that lead to job opportunities simply because people notice when someone takes pride in what they do. Time went faster, I found myself enjoying retail more, and even my boss would come up to me and say, “What happened to the old Armando? This new Armando is so happy and it is very noticeable!”

“If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride – and never quit, you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.” – Paul Bryant

2. Focus solely on the task at hand

The most successful people I know focus on the here and now. This allows the consistency of doing this every single day to exponentially expand as the days become months and years. Before they know it, they accomplish what they set out to do and more!

For example, when I was a greeter, I would only focus on being amazing because with 100% of my focus on that, the results I generated allowed me to be especially proud of myself. I saw that people would notice that in me. People are attracted to someone who takes pride in what they do and whether it be working as a doctor or taking out the trash, be the best person you can be at it!

 

3. Be enthusiastic about everything you do

One cannot take pride in what they do, much less focus on what they are doing long-term if they are not enthusiastic about it. The best way I have found for this to occur is to smile. Our facial expressions can influence the way we actually feel, so even if there is no one around, force yourself to smile, and soon enough, you will be on your way to a happier day.

People naturally want to be around happier people, so smile because you never know whose day you can change by simply giving them a free of charge smile. It truly is crazy to think that the most minute things in life are what push you forward. Whether it be randomly calling your friend for five minutes to check in, sending your girlfriend her favorite flower on a random day, or bringing snacks for people to share in the library, it all matters. Walking around with a notion of doing the right thing and trying to make other people’s days will in turn make your day.

I promise you people will notice, and opportunities will start to come your way. It is a simple concept of taking pride in what you do, but not many people do it and it is obvious by their body language or speech. Be different. Be the person anyone can see and your energy will be so infectious that they will have no choice but to have a better day because of you, and for that reason you will be unforgettable.

“When you are enthusiastic about what you do, you feel this positive energy. It’s very simple.” –Paulo Cellho

What positive experience have you had just by changing your perspective about something? Leave your thoughts below!

Armando Quintana III strives to make every day a novel one by treating his life as one big experiment. He's a published writer, signed model, created an educational non-profit, and worked with multiple start-ups helping them excel in sales and marketing. He can be reached @armandoq3 on Instagram or Facebook.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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