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There Ain’t No Rewind Button On Life

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Yesterday I went to the beach. I was present for the entire day. I didn’t look at my phone and I focused on enjoying nature. I saw parrots, amazing ocean views, endless mountains and met a dog that kept licking my face.

All of these things have been at my disposal each day. The problem is we ignore them. We forget that there ain’t no rewind button on life.

We either enjoy these simple pleasures now or run the risk of never getting to experience them fully. I sat there yesterday and thought to myself “What if this is all there is?”

I pondered that thought all day until I realized that as long as I don’t want to rewind my life because of regrets I have, I’m happy.

Making the most of it

“As long as I can wake up and say I made the most of it, then I’m happy”

What I want you to realize is that making the most of it is not as difficult as it sounds. Sometimes this phrase sounds like a throwaway line like a lot of clichés.

The difference here is that making the most of it means saying yes to opportunities. I would never have gone to the beach yesterday unless I decided to make the most of it. My friend has a lot of wisdom to share and I got access to that. Let’s face it, I had nothing else locked in any way.

Okay, the drive was long, but how can I complain about driving in a nice car, on a beautiful day and watching nature do its thing. On the way, there were some incredibly strong winds and the rain was bucketing down. Then at the end of the day, there was this beautiful sunset with that golden colored sky. The ocean never looked so beautiful.

Have fun

There’s this illusion that we can have fun later. We think “Hey I’m hustling now to make money so I can have fun later.” Why wait, though? Why not have fun now?

By having fun right now, we give ourselves the motivation to push through the challenges that a lot of us decide to let stand in our way. You can’t rewind your life and insert fun in all the places where you left it out.

I’m guilty of this more than anyone. I spent seven years doing nothing but working without a single day of leave from the office. Yeah, I got lots of business skills from this hard work, but I also got this big gaping hole in my heart caused by the lack of fun I was having. During this time, I traded life for work.

“I became a robot on autopilot to society’s idea of success”

I thought I could outwork my unhappiness and have fun later. Now that I think about it is having fun when you are sixty and retired as fun as when you are 25? Hell no. At 25 you can run like Usain Bolt.

You have this energy and fire within that burns the brightest it’s ever going to burn. Now you can still do cool stuff when you are sixty; it’s just that it will be a different sort of cool stuff. Only having one flavor, and one time period of cool will cause you to want to rewind your life.

Smiling

Walking through the shopping mall the other day, I realized that adults don’t smile that much. I’m always the guy that is too serious and so laser focused on the next task for the day. And for what? So I can achieve more tasks than the guy sitting next to me eating a Cherry Ripe?

Concentrate on having variety in your life. There’s no reason why you can’t work hard, have fun and smile every day. Grab each of these spices of life and mix them together in a delicious bolognaise sauce now. Then, enjoy that bolognaise sauce with all aspects of your life mixed in daily.

Banker John

So there’s this banker I worked with. Real nice guy, family man, four kids. He always did a good job and I said to myself, “When we finish the current deal we are working on, I’m going to acknowledge and appreciate him.”

Guess what? He died the following week after I had that thought. I never got to say what I thought to him. Now he’s gone to a better place having never known the impact he had. There’s no rewind button for me to go back and say “Mate you did an excellent job and I love your passion for our mutual clients.”

Nope, he’s gone, never to return. Maybe we’ll meet someday as caterpillars in another life. Otherwise, I now know, and you now know, why you have to stop delaying sh”t.

A helping hand

“When I make a million dollars then I’ll lend a hand to someone else’s business. Then I’ll go and help out at a homeless shelter.”

These are the stupid lies we tell ourselves. If we’re not willing to lend a hand now, we won’t when we get the million dollars. The reason being that we will never have enough money or success. It’s what you do at the start of your career, business, life, that determines what you’ll do when you hit the big time buster!

“The worst feeling in the world is getting to the end of your life, when you are on your deathbed, and realizing you helped no one”

You had so much value to give to the world and you did nothing. Okay, you lined your pockets and got your family all they wanted, but who did you become?

Lending a hand gives us meaning in our life. This kind act allows us to transcend our problems caused by selfishness, and cure ourselves and others, through the heartfelt act of helping out.

The regret of selfishness will come when you get older. By then, you’ll have less time to lend a helping hand. There’s somewhere you could go right now, where you could add tremendous value. That value is often masked in the stories, habits and achievements from the movie of your life.

It’s hard to believe, but people find value in what you think is irrelevant. I always thought my life story was stupid. Then I started sharing it and people found value in it. I didn’t get money from sharing my story; what I got was meaning for my life. I got the chance to lend a helping hand.

In case you forgot; there ain’t no rewind button on life.

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4 Lies You Keep Telling Yourself When You’re Afraid to Do Something

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When’s the last time you let fear get the better of you? Whether we want to admit it or not, fear keeps us from doing a lot of the things we know we really should do to achieve our goals. Fear is especially detrimental to entrepreneurs (read ‘wantrepreneurs’) that want to launch their first big project. (more…)

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Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Create Your Curiosity

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Curiosity is a great characteristic that people rarely sustain in their lifetimes. Some people struggle to sustain curiosity because of their internal and external challenges. They cannot encourage curiosity to come to the fore as they condition their mindsets with their learning, experience, and environment. However, there are very few individuals who sustain their curiosity levels throughout their lives to excel as extraordinary achievers.  (more…)

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5 Life Tips You Didn’t Know You Needed to Hear

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Life is a battleground, we need to keep fighting until our appointed time on earth comes. So, in this post, you will see the best of the best life tips you have never heard before. These tips are life-changing and can change you immediately. Let’s go!

1. Be independent 

Hundreds of millions of people make this mistake. We depend on people like us. “he will get it done for me, she will get it done for me”. You rely heavily on people and guess what, you are making a big mistake. 

There are a lot of people that have helped others and perhaps time changes for them, they become poor and rely on the people they have helped, guess what comes out at the end of this reliance? Disappointment, promises backed by failures, etc. 

Who are you depending on? Who is that person you can’t do without when getting things in your life done? If there is anyone, you are making a big mistake. And starting today, all you have to do is add a prefix – what if!

What if my friend stops helping me, what if I get disappointed by people I trust with my life, what if they neglect me and turn me down”.

A man or woman that depends on people like him is equal to a feeble pillar holding the four corners of a house. What happens when the feeble pillar falls? The man’s house falls down super-flat. Your trust should only be in Jesus. Man can fail us at any time but God is always faithful till his Kingdom comes. 

2. Love your neighbor as yourself 

The gravity of this word is enough to shatter the whole earth into pieces. 

Only if the whole world just kept this simple commandment Christ Jesus gave then, there will be no murders, poverty, greediness, anger, envy, betrayal, disappointment, etc. 

Why are there such things in the world? Because we hate ourselves. As long as you are fine all is well. You care about yourself only, selfish, you have and yet you cannot give. 

Those are the characteristics of over 90% of the 7.6 billion humans on earth. Why can’t you do to others what you would have them do to you? Why can’t you help that suffering neighbor who needs food? Then, a lot of people will say 

“Go away from here beggar, what did you do with your youth, I can’t give you a dime, beggar”. Why are we so cruel? This is the best tip you must dear to your heart. 

No matter what you have, no matter how little or in whatever way you can help. Help people, show them love, love them as you love yourself. Don’t forget this, today’s beggar, uneducated, debtor, poor person, etc can later become the greatest person in the world tomorrow. 

“Don’t settle for what life gives you; make life better and build something.” — Ashton Kutcher

3. Have a growth mindset

A growth mindset is what makes one successful and go far in life. However, a fixed and stagnated mindset throws one into jeopardy of life.

A lot of people have a fixed mindset, what they believe is what they believe, nothing you say on earth can change their mindset, they are the most educated in the world so they don’t need to learn any further. Did you have a fixed or growth mindset?

A growth mindset leads to success, achievements, happiness, learning more, and becoming better. On the other hand, a fixed mindset leads to complacency, pride, lack of achievement, ignorance, the stagnancy of the mind, etc. 

Let’s see an example of someone with a fixed mindset:

Cait tells Alice: Alice stop being so proud it’s annoying. 

And Alice responds:

“How dare you say I am proud, I am not. I am the most humble woman on earth”. In the example, Alice with a fixed mindset has a fixed mindset. However, what she does not know is that she is in the darkness of her ignorance. She is ignorant of the fact that she is a proud person thus, she can’t see it. 

People with a fixed mindset are ignorant. You must never have a fixed mindset. Always be willing to learn and to grow with humility. Pride can take you nowhere. 

4. Forgive everyone and give as many second chances as you can  

A lot of people have done all they could to be happy and have peace. But, they find out that happiness is not just there and that peace of mind is absent. 

Why is that? It is because you have a lot of grudge against people that have offended you. Yes, we know, it pained you to your heart, and what next? Keep malice? But, do you know what that unforgiveness does to you?

I call it the seed of unforgiveness because it plants a seed in your heart and this seed further grows to become hatred, depression, lack of freedom, zero peace, etc. 

If in only one person’s heart are all these things, then a person like that can never know peace and happiness. For example, if you were to go to a party with your friends and you hear that perhaps the other friend that you keep malice with is coming to the same party. 

Naturally, the only thing you would think of is not going to the party anymore because you want to avoid the person at all costs. And what does that add to you? It doesn’t add instead, it subtracts from your life because you could have gone to the party, had fun, and even have new friends or even new opportunities.

If not for anything will you forgive people, forgive them for the sake of God, for the sake of Christ Jesus. Because if you cannot forget the trespass of people, don’t expect God to forgive you. Forgive everyone, give them as many second chances as possible. 

Mind you, they can still mess up and make terrible mistakes all you have to do is keep forgiving them. This may not be so easy to the flesh. However, it is only The Spirit of God that can make you forgive the trespass of people. Without The Holy Spirit, it is impossible to do so. 

5. Love God

Do you love God? Are you a child of God? Do you believe in Christ Jesus? Even if the rest of the tips on these lists do not resonate with you, I want you to hold this very important to your heart which is to Love God with all your heart, soul, and strength.

And you can do that only by being a child of God. This life is too short. It is like a vapor, it is nothing. Life is more like an empty barrel that makes noise. You will grow old, your strength will leave you and you will die but, what happens after that? Where are you going to spend the rest of your eternity? 

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Explore Stoicism to Lead Your Life With Purpose and Meaning

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With the advent of technology and the Fourth Industrial Revolution (FIR), there is increased volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity globally. People find it challenging to predict where the technology will take them to the next level. They are excited with the innumerable advantages arising from automation and artificial intelligence but they are equally concerned about the threats arising out of them. Precisely, humans are caught between peace and prosperity. (more…)

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