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There Ain’t No Rewind Button On Life

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Yesterday I went to the beach. I was present for the entire day. I didn’t look at my phone and I focused on enjoying nature. I saw parrots, amazing ocean views, endless mountains and met a dog that kept licking my face.

All of these things have been at my disposal each day. The problem is we ignore them. We forget that there ain’t no rewind button on life.

We either enjoy these simple pleasures now or run the risk of never getting to experience them fully. I sat there yesterday and thought to myself “What if this is all there is?”

I pondered that thought all day until I realized that as long as I don’t want to rewind my life because of regrets I have, I’m happy.

Making the most of it

“As long as I can wake up and say I made the most of it, then I’m happy”

What I want you to realize is that making the most of it is not as difficult as it sounds. Sometimes this phrase sounds like a throwaway line like a lot of clichés.

The difference here is that making the most of it means saying yes to opportunities. I would never have gone to the beach yesterday unless I decided to make the most of it. My friend has a lot of wisdom to share and I got access to that. Let’s face it, I had nothing else locked in any way.

Okay, the drive was long, but how can I complain about driving in a nice car, on a beautiful day and watching nature do its thing. On the way, there were some incredibly strong winds and the rain was bucketing down. Then at the end of the day, there was this beautiful sunset with that golden colored sky. The ocean never looked so beautiful.

Have fun

There’s this illusion that we can have fun later. We think “Hey I’m hustling now to make money so I can have fun later.” Why wait, though? Why not have fun now?

By having fun right now, we give ourselves the motivation to push through the challenges that a lot of us decide to let stand in our way. You can’t rewind your life and insert fun in all the places where you left it out.

I’m guilty of this more than anyone. I spent seven years doing nothing but working without a single day of leave from the office. Yeah, I got lots of business skills from this hard work, but I also got this big gaping hole in my heart caused by the lack of fun I was having. During this time, I traded life for work.

“I became a robot on autopilot to society’s idea of success”

I thought I could outwork my unhappiness and have fun later. Now that I think about it is having fun when you are sixty and retired as fun as when you are 25? Hell no. At 25 you can run like Usain Bolt.

You have this energy and fire within that burns the brightest it’s ever going to burn. Now you can still do cool stuff when you are sixty; it’s just that it will be a different sort of cool stuff. Only having one flavor, and one time period of cool will cause you to want to rewind your life.

Smiling

Walking through the shopping mall the other day, I realized that adults don’t smile that much. I’m always the guy that is too serious and so laser focused on the next task for the day. And for what? So I can achieve more tasks than the guy sitting next to me eating a Cherry Ripe?

Concentrate on having variety in your life. There’s no reason why you can’t work hard, have fun and smile every day. Grab each of these spices of life and mix them together in a delicious bolognaise sauce now. Then, enjoy that bolognaise sauce with all aspects of your life mixed in daily.

Banker John

So there’s this banker I worked with. Real nice guy, family man, four kids. He always did a good job and I said to myself, “When we finish the current deal we are working on, I’m going to acknowledge and appreciate him.”

Guess what? He died the following week after I had that thought. I never got to say what I thought to him. Now he’s gone to a better place having never known the impact he had. There’s no rewind button for me to go back and say “Mate you did an excellent job and I love your passion for our mutual clients.”

Nope, he’s gone, never to return. Maybe we’ll meet someday as caterpillars in another life. Otherwise, I now know, and you now know, why you have to stop delaying sh”t.

A helping hand

“When I make a million dollars then I’ll lend a hand to someone else’s business. Then I’ll go and help out at a homeless shelter.”

These are the stupid lies we tell ourselves. If we’re not willing to lend a hand now, we won’t when we get the million dollars. The reason being that we will never have enough money or success. It’s what you do at the start of your career, business, life, that determines what you’ll do when you hit the big time buster!

“The worst feeling in the world is getting to the end of your life, when you are on your deathbed, and realizing you helped no one”

You had so much value to give to the world and you did nothing. Okay, you lined your pockets and got your family all they wanted, but who did you become?

Lending a hand gives us meaning in our life. This kind act allows us to transcend our problems caused by selfishness, and cure ourselves and others, through the heartfelt act of helping out.

The regret of selfishness will come when you get older. By then, you’ll have less time to lend a helping hand. There’s somewhere you could go right now, where you could add tremendous value. That value is often masked in the stories, habits and achievements from the movie of your life.

It’s hard to believe, but people find value in what you think is irrelevant. I always thought my life story was stupid. Then I started sharing it and people found value in it. I didn’t get money from sharing my story; what I got was meaning for my life. I got the chance to lend a helping hand.

In case you forgot; there ain’t no rewind button on life.

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How to Write a Personal Destiny Statement in 3 Steps

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We all have a God-given destiny to fulfill that we were each born with. I personally believe it is buried deep down within us. The number one secret to success is to let it emerge out of you and release it to the world. What is my destiny you may ask? It is the thing you would regret not doing before leaving Planet Earth. (more…)

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

Those Who Failed Their Way To Success

Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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Why You Never Have Enough Time and What You Need to Do About It

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Has this ever happened to you? You had an assignment, and the deadline was far away. You didn’t work on it much, but in the back of your mind, that insistent little voice was always whispering, “I gotta get this assignment done.” (more…)

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6 Unusual Exercises to Effectively Increase Your Creativity Faster Than Ever

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Although a vast majority of people think that creativity is something you are born with, the truth is a bit different. While we cannot deny that you need natural talent to a certain extent, stimulating creative thinking is indeed a matter of practice. If you give this thought a bit of thinking, you can realize pretty quickly that even the most fascinating and creative minds have faced the lack of creativity at some point in their lives. (more…)

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