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5 Strategies to Help Build Up Your Persistence Muscles

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Everyone who knows me, knows about how persistent I am. Sometimes a few people even get irritated and complain about it. I simply smile politely and carry on undeterred.  

I wouldn’t have had a #1 bestselling series, or become a top motivational speaker, or been able to impact the lives of people in over 100 countries if I wasn’t persistent.

Here are 5 strategies to build up your persistence muscles so that you too are unstoppable:

1. Don’t Be Shy  

So many people are so often not able to move ahead because they are too shy. They are too shy and hesitant to ask for what they want and what they deserve and that holds them back.

When I realized this and stopped being shy, my life changed. I started asking for what I wanted and believed I deserved – openly and confidently. I asked people to invite me for motivational seminars.

I asked publishers to publish my books. I asked top newspapers and magazines to interview me and feature my articles. I asked to be paid for what I deserve considering the incredible value I bring to the table. To move ahead and succeed, you need to be bold.

“By perseverance the snail reached the ark.” – Charles Spurgeon

2. Know What You Want

You can only be persistent if you clearly know what you want. Until you don’t know for sure what exactly it is that you want, you can’t have the conviction and the persistence to chase it.

It is like a lion on the hunt – the lion knows clearly and precisely that it has to chase other animals for food and there are no two ways about it. It doesn’t get confused and start chasing every rabbit or bird in sight and is completely focused and persistent about what it wants.

If you chase the goals and the vision that you have, you will get it.

3. Don’t Get Hurt

When I used to make sales calls, some people would very rudely hang the phone on me. I could either feel hurt and stop, or strengthen my resolve, buck up and continue making calls. I kept making calls and got incredible results.

Business is not personal and you need to have nerves of steel. You must have full emotional control – don’t get attached and don’t feel hurt. There will always be people who will criticize you and be rude. Ignore them and continue striving for what you want.

4. Fight Like A Champion

Have you seen Rocky Balboa? It is a movie series I love. Rocky doesn’t give up and keeps fighting; no matter how hard the battle or how fierce the opponent. And the more he fights, the stronger he becomes. Even if he loses a fight, he keeps coming back. Over and over again.

Even if you fail, even if you fall down, even if you lose, don’t worry – simply stand up and fight again. Champions are not people who don’t lose; they are people who refuse to give up!

“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.” – Newt Gingrich

5. Don’t Be Too Serious

Persistence, is like is a game. You need to have fun while playing it. I remember when I was 23, and my first book came out, I contacted the CEOs of all major airlines to get them to sell my book to millions of passengers who fly.  It would go on to become the highest selling book in the world – sold at 35,000 feet!

One of the CEOs asked me what is the benefit he will get? I told him besides the money his company could make selling my books, the passengers will finally not be bored and could read the most entertaining book ever!

He laughed and couldn’t resist my persistence and we struck a deal!

Go ahead now and start taking massive action. I would love to hear from you on how persistence is changing your life. Comment below!

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Yogesh Chabria is a world-renowned leader in the field of human potential. He is a #1 bestselling author, speaker, entrepreneur and founder of The Happionaire Way. His seminars, books, articles and video programs have influenced people from over 100 countries. It is his vision to have a world filled with happionaires. To be a part of this vision, visit: www.happionaire.com.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

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However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
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5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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