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3 Ways You Can Look at Any Struggle and Turn It Into a Positive Result

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We are all experiencing life on a daily basis. That means that we all have a sense of what we want, and we all create our own expectations about how some things should go and how some should not.

If things go our way, whether it is getting that job we are applying for, getting a date with that dream partner or any other scenario that we desire, we feel happy, satisfied and capable. But when they don’t, it is easy to get caught up in the negativity of failing to fulfill our plans and our ability to see the good in every situation gets blocked by our emotions and our fading illusions.

In that same way, when unexpected difficulties cross our paths, the majority of people focus on how well things would be going if it weren’t for that setback, or how misfortunate they are to be dealing that struggle. Logic and intuition tell us that a struggle is something negative. I say it is completely the opposite.

Here are 3 ways that you can look at your struggle so you can experience the positive effects that any struggle can offer you:

1. See your struggles as lessons

When you don’t get the results you hoped for from a certain situation, rather than feeling sad and pessimistic about it, you should try and seize the opportunity to learn something. Ask yourself, “what could I have done differently to increase the chances of getting the results I wanted?”

Identify where you failed and make the proper adjustment so that the same thing won’t happen to you again in the future. By doing this, your struggle just became a life lesson, and life lessons are an asset that we can take an incredible advantage of in many situations.

I once had an interview for a job I really wanted, but I did not prepare optimally and when my interviewer asked me, “What motivates you?”, I didn’t know exactly what to answer. Screwing this interview up made me search for what motivates me, and find it. It also made me realize that next time I have an interview or some important event in my forecast, I must take time to prepare and rehearse.

“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” – Napoleon Hill

2. See your struggles as growth

Life is not all about rainbows and butterflies. It gets tough sometimes, and we are just one unexpected event away from visiting very dark places. When you hit rock bottom, tell yourself that you have been chosen to go on a mission to find a treasure, and the only way you will survive is by preparing for the future, and by being different.

It is in those moments that we, little by little, begin to find relief in the simplest things: In nature, family, music, art, reading, and living. Your spirit will begin to find new meanings of life you could have never thought about in normal circumstances, and the meanings that you find will begin to light a fire inside of you that will propel you for the rest of your life.

Rather than harming yourself over your misfortune, believe in a higher purpose and recognize and feel the growth you are experiencing through the pain. Be more than patient and be aware that those difficult moments are giving you the strength to influence millions of people in the future. It will all be more than worth it when it´s all over and your lasting struggle will transform you into a much more spiritual, determined and happy person.

3. See your struggles as destiny

Have you ever thought that you struggling with something could be the trigger for you to get to beautiful destinations? It completely changed my perspective when I heard a friend’s story about how she met the love of her life. It was a several years ago when my friend got assaulted by two men while she was driving her car down the road in the middle of the night.

They took the car and let her go after minutes of verbal and physical abuse. She was left so traumatized that she was really struggling to leave her house months after the incident. Her parents were so worried about her that they decided to force her to take an exchange semester in Chile so she can clear her mind up. Guess who she met there?

This is a clear example of how a misfortune can transform into a blessing. Combine any struggle that you are facing or could face in the future with a little hope, and expect the unbelievable to happen.

“Timing, perseverance, and ten years of trying will eventually make you look like an overnight success.” – Biz Stone

Every struggle carries with it the opportunity to learn, to grow, and to believe. Make sure to use these three different perspectives every time you are struggling with something, and it would not take much before you start seeing the good out of any situation.

What is a struggle you have run into and how did you turn it into a positive result? Leave your thoughts below!
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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator

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Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.
 

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at AweBliss.com so you can master your life with more success.

 
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