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3 Ways To Not Let The Pressure Get The Best Of You



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It’s very normal to think about giving up on the goals we’re working on and start thinking of something else to do, especially when we had a plan to complete the process in 2 months. Yet, it’s 3 months and nothing seems to be happening. Then we start harboring thoughts like “is this thing I’m doing right for me, or maybe I don’t have a lucky star in this area” and maybe it would be best to start looking for something that will bring reward and instant results.

Today, I want to remind you that the best things in life takes time to build. A Rolls-Royce takes a period of 6 months to build, and that’s why it’s a symbol of authority. Greatness takes time. So that’s why your goals are taking time.

Here are a few easy things you can do that will keep your goals and vision alive:

1. Know The More You Repeat Something The More You Believe It

Yes, I’m sure this isn’t the first time you’re hearing or even trying out affirmations. Maybe you’ve even been making affirmations since you started working on these goals, yet, these affirmations don’t seem to bring the dream to manifest. But here’s this, are you making the right affirmations and sticking to it and the process?

In making a concrete affirmation, know exactly what you want ($2000, a coach) and say it like you’re already in possession of it (I earn $2000 as a successful coach) until you become or get that thing you’re hoping for. Stick to the script because a change of script usually means a change in action.

Another thing you need to know about affirmations is sticking with the process. If you have to recite it three times a day, recite it three times a day. Don’t let “because I’m busy” make you ignore it. If you had to ignore it because of something, then it means that “something” is more important than that goal you’re trying to reach. And anything more important usually takes precedence in our life.

“I don’t sweat the small stuff.” – Gabby Bernstein

2. Don’t Forget “Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind”

Affirmations help you remind yourself of the thing(s) you want, but bigger than affirmation is a vision board. You cannot always carry your goal in your mind because you’ve recited it three times a day. But you will always think of something when you see it. 

So it’s best you have one affirmation and then let your vision board carry all the goals you’ll achieve when you reach that goal. The vision board should carry all the physical things you’ve always wanted which you’ll get when you fulfill your goals. On the other hand, your affirmations should talk about the person who you’ll be (the best life coach).

Your vision and affirmations should work hand in hand. When you recite your affirmations, it should automatically make you think about your vision board. I understand it might feel difficult to hang your vision board out there when you’re not living alone or you’re going to have friends visit you. Here’s this, if you won’t stand up for that which you want, it also won’t stand up for you.

If you don’t see the things which you want on your vision board, when you hit a problem, it will be easier for you to give up because it’s not working. But when the idea of giving up hits you and you turn to see your goals and the life you desire, you’ll have to convince yourself that you don’t want that beautiful life before you give up.

So photoshop yourself in front of that car, photoshop your face into that dream body, photoshop yourself in front of that house, into that stage, into that publication you want to write for. Then put them all up in your vision board.

3. Understand You Didn’t Start Because The Government Made Working On Goals Mandatory

The days where we’re forced to do something are almost way past or gone. This means that anything we’re working on is something we really want to work on. Bigger than you wanting to work on something is “why” you decided to work or start that particular thing. Yes, it’s easy to say it’s because you want a better life, but what exactly made you make the decision to want a better life?

Did someone tell you that you won’t make it? Did you lose all you have? Do you hate the fact that no one wants to help you? Are you tired of asking for the things you want? Write down the exact reason why you’ve decided to start working for a better life and don’t let go of it. The pain will push you. Nothing makes us do more than our emotions (how we feel).

“People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it. And what you do simply proves what you believe” – Simon Sinek


Often times when it isn’t working, it doesn’t mean it won’t work. It means you currently don’t know enough, and therefore you have to learn more because generally, your current stage is always a result of your current level of knowledge and you can’t do more than that.

So strive to know more about your field than anyone else does, because you’re striving to become the best.

These are a few things that you should do and acknowledge whenever the going gets blurry.

What do you do when you’re feeling a lot of pressure from work, school, or life in general? Share your tips and thoughts with us below!

Mauris Othuke is a business consultant and copywriter for relationship and personal development coaches. He is an author at several publications who focuses on creating content that helps readers experience a turnaround in their personal lives or relationships. His aim is to give the readers so much value that they won’t have to think twice about coming back to always read his content or employ your coaching services. He spends his spare time giving men tips on how to understand women on Instagram. Learn more here

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.



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It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see?  (more…)

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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