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3 Things That Will Make Your Day Perfect – Even If Things Go Wrong

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Ever wonder if you will ever have a near perfect day? Something or someone always spoils it right?

Well You can. By following these 3 ‘things,’ you will have that perfect day.

Yes, even if things go wrong.

 

1. Wake up in quiet time

Meditation – Anyone can meditate and you don’t have to be a Zen master to begin either, sitting up in a comfortable position, close your eyes relax your body, be as still as you can, take 3 deep breaths and proceed with the following:

Give gratitude by thinking of 5 to 10 things you are grateful for.

Ask for guidance by thinking about you day ahead and ask the Universe for guidance, Protection and strength.

Send love to people that have upset you – forgive 2 people that have done you wrong in the past week and ask them to forgive you too.

The start to your day determines the rest of it so make a conscious decision to start off the day in a positive way, so the rest of the day will be perfect.

 

2. Be present as much as you can throughout your day

This will eliminate stress and worry because you will be focusing on the present moment not things that have happened in the past or future problems you think may occur. When you are present there is only ‘now’ and in that moment you may experience calmness, a sense of clarity and positive vibes.

Studies have revealed that being present and in the moment leads to well-being, whereas if you are constantly moving thoughts from the past and to the future, this can lead to states of unhappiness.

How to be present:

Breathe

Focus on all that is around you – use your senses, listening to nature, the weather, birds singing and feeling your skin against you clothing are you working? Pay attention to the immediate task in front of you.

Breathe….

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.” ~ Buddha

 

3. Do Your Best Today

This Idea to “do your best” has always stood out for me after reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, as one of the agreements. The idea of doing your best, will avoid self sabotaging ideas such as self-judgement and regret. Doing your best is taking the right action in any given day that is right for you and only you. You don’t need to compare yourself to other, you will only be sabotaging the moment.

There is no need to get a certain amount of things done by rushing, but go through your day doing everything to your best ability.

Finally

If things do go wrong it’s a choice how you deal with it you will either react or respond. Reacting is acting without thinking and responding on the other hand is thinking things through and choosing how you will deal with the situation. So even if your day doesn’t go as planned it doesn’t matter it’s your choice how you view things, circumstances and situations that may hinder the great day you were already having. If people upset you it’s their problem not your keep focused on what’s important.

 

How do you create your perfect day?

Leave your comments below.

Diana is a beach lover, philosopher & Entrepreneur.  She Is all about helping you find purpose, authenticity & happiness (sanity), which Is why she created The Personal Freedom Project. Subscribe to her Happy Triggers Guide, designed to help you find purpose, create a plan + manifest your dreams even if you don’t know where to start!

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21 Comments

  1. Harry Burnett

    May 3, 2015 at 10:31 pm

    hi Diana
    Really enjoyed this article.
    I was better at being “in the moment” when I was younger. But I think I just need to get back into practicing this and focussing more on it.
    This has come at the right time.
    Thanks
    Harry

  2. Belinda

    May 26, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    Smile and understand that everything always happens for a reason.
    Be yourself, do not change for anybody.

  3. sam ram

    Feb 16, 2014 at 6:15 am

    Do your best slogan is good, but for me to act as we are in front of a problem is the best way to eliminate stress and to be happy

  4. Syed

    Jan 26, 2014 at 12:51 pm

    Do Your Best Today is the key for me. Give yourself 100% to what you do and you get what you always deserve. Give, give and give to get, get and get. Help as much you can and spread a smile.

  5. P~

    Jan 25, 2014 at 1:42 am

    I think we are just reading and saying what someone experienced and written in the past ,if we followed the same for numerous days won’t we get bored.so better to find ur own way for owns happiness.

  6. Nikola Gjakovski

    Jan 23, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    I totally agree with all of them. It’s like people don’t want to be happy, instead they want to be miserable and unhappy. Meditation and present time are the most important things that people neglect, but the awareness is spreading these years more and more. Hope the world will be better place in the near future. Great article keep this tempo up!

    • Diana

      Jan 30, 2014 at 10:11 am

      Great points Nikola! I have hope that the world WILL be a better place. Thank you.

  7. Gabriel

    Jan 22, 2014 at 2:49 pm

    Meditation is definitely key first thing in the early hours.

  8. jim rivett

    Jan 22, 2014 at 9:22 am

    Drink Coconut Water Every Day! (:

  9. Nick

    Jan 22, 2014 at 2:58 am

    I think these ideas will really help me to be more positive and therefore more productive in my stressfull job. I can’t wait to try them out tomorrow, thank you.

  10. ndinsmore1

    Jan 21, 2014 at 11:44 am

    Hi Diana,

    Being present is great advice. Like Emmanuel I too often let my mind wander into the future. When a problem effects our lives it’s easy to look to the past or future. Practice makes perfect I guess.

    Also personal responsibility. Most people blame others for their bad mood, bad day or bad life. When only we can control have we feel and act. if someone upsets you, don’t allow them to continue to effect your whole day, week or month!

    I say take control back. It’s your life.

    Great post, just what I needed today.

    Naomi

  11. Salma

    Jan 20, 2014 at 8:14 pm

    Really loved your article. Short and to the point but very inspiring!

  12. Emmanuel

    Jan 20, 2014 at 5:10 pm

    Great article often times I let my mind wander a lot about the future I guess concentrating on the present is what I really need but it will take some mastering and time thanks Diana

    • Diana

      Jan 20, 2014 at 5:33 pm

      Emmanuel, keep practicing on staying present by just being aware of whats happening in the moment yes it takes time & you will get there!

  13. Travis McCormick

    Jan 20, 2014 at 3:33 pm

    Great article. Thank you.

    • Diana

      Jan 20, 2014 at 5:31 pm

      Thank you Travis

  14. Abdul Rauf

    Jan 20, 2014 at 7:48 am

    Undoubtedly best article for being happy even i am not good at all.
    Being present is the point I like the most. Because being present makes you active and superb in curating the things around you. Thanks again for super power.

    • Diana

      Jan 20, 2014 at 3:34 pm

      Hi Abdul, happy you enjoyed it! Your right about being present! This is key 🙂

  15. Sebastian

    Jan 19, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    Perfect timing. This is exactly what I need this morning.

    • Diana

      Jan 19, 2014 at 4:28 pm

      Great Sebastian! Glad it reached you on time 🙂

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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