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37 Life Lessons That Will Get Your Mind Right

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9 years ago

Feb 9, 2014

Blake Cavignac

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Every moment in our life is an experience. We can either choose to learn something from them or let them pass us by.

Over the past year I have made a conscious effort to:

Stay curious
See the good

The reason?

Experiences help us develop a better perspective on life and I believe it is our perspective that determines our future success.

When seeing the good and staying curious, it will challenge us to learn from each experience. We will grow in ways we never thought possible. Adopting this mentality while working on building two companies has enhanced my perspective.

Below are the life lessons I have learned thus far:

37 Lessons Learned In Life

1. Life is NOT a marathon; it is a series of sprints.

2. You rarely have regrets when you have the courage to fail.

3. Focus on being productive, not busy.

4. Once you find your dream, risk everything to make it come true.

5. Your state of mind is the most important factor in the outcome of your life.

6. Those whose names are worth remembering never lived a life of ease.

7. You can take what life gives you or you can take what you want from life. Your choice.

8. It’s easy to get motivated but hard to stay disciplined.

9. Worrying never changes the outcome.

10. Most people quit because they look how far they have to go, not how far they have come.

11. If you don’t help yourself, you can’t help anyone else.

12. Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are.

13. Beliefs give direction to your life. Stand for something.

14. Find the good in others and you will find the good in yourself.

15. In order to have faith in your path, you do not need to prove that someone else’s path is wrong.

16. All change, even change for the better, will be accompanied by discomfort and hesitancy. Yet when you have an unrelenting belief in your mission, you charge ahead knowing everything will work out for the best.

17. If you’re going to do something, do something that matters.

18. You only have so much energy so stop wasting it by worrying about what others do or say. Keep doing what energizes you the most.

19. Your best friends should bring out the best in you.

20. Stop wishing to be something you are not. Instead recognize that you are unique and there is no one else in the world like you.

21. Everyone faces obstacles. How you deal with those obstacles defines who you are and determines how successful you are in life.

22. Don’t sit around and wait for someone else to make the change you want to see.

23. If you want something bad enough, you will make the time for it regardless of how busy you may be.

24. Jealousy comes from counting others blessings instead of your own.

25. You are either going to go through the pain of disappointment or discipline in your life. The latter makes the pain worth it.

26. If you don’t start building your dream you will be hired by someone else to build theirs.

27. No one is fearless. The difference between achievers and everyone else is that they take action despite their fears.

28. Be that friend and leader that everyone aspires to be like.

29. There will never be a perfect time so start today.

30. If what you do doesn’t make others better at what they do then you are not living up to your potential.

31. Everyone has what it takes. However most are not willing to give everything it takes to live out their dreams.

32. When you help someone accomplish something they never thought possible, it creates a ripple effect that positively influences the lives of many more.

33. If you treat others well and give each day your best, things start to work in your favor.

34. Trust actions not words.

35. The only moment that matters is the one that is happening right now.

36. Those who say it’s not about being the best know they will never be the best.

37. Want to know your past? Look into your present conditions. Want to know your future? Look into your present actions.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

1. Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.

Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.

Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.

Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.

These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.

This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.

It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.

These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.

If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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