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The Quickest Way to Improve the Quality of Your Life

Meaning and fulfillment are not things that just happen in life. They come to fruition because of a conscious effort to do so



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The monotony of life can catch up to you quickly. Once you’ve checked all the boxes from graduating high school and college and getting a good job – it becomes a conscious effort to make life meaningful and fulfilling for yourself.

Meaning and fulfillment are not things that just happen in life. They come to fruition because of a conscious effort to do so. As I reflect on my life, there have been many opportunities where life forced me to rise to another version of myself.

I didn’t like it at first. It felt uncomfortable. It was new, but I knew I needed to change internally before my life could change externally.

As I continued to grow, it became very apparent to me that my daily habits ultimately determined the quality of my life. I had to start identifying the habits that were no longer serving me vs. those that aligned with who I wanted to become.

Well, a question remained stuck in my head: who did I want to become? I wasn’t sure then, but I knew I yearned for a better version of who I was. It wasn’t until I started taking an objective view of my life that I realized the happiest, fulfilled, and most content versions of myself all stemmed from integrating a few positive habits that naturally overflowed into other areas of my life, including – my relationships and work.

When good habits, such as a morning routine, were established – I felt a gentle flow into my day that allowed me to get into bed in the evening and say to myself, “I had a good day.”

When my day felt unfulfilling, sporadic, and all over the place – it was usually tied to how I woke up that morning. There was no flow or control, and I felt pulled by every distraction and demand. And minor stressors would influence me internally more greatly.

As the saying goes, who we are now is because of past behaviors. But who we become will come from our current behaviors.

The quickest way to improve the quality of your life

So, what’s the quickest way to improve your quality of life while cultivating the person you intend to become in the future? I’ve found from personal experience that it derives from a few essential habits:

Implementing a morning routine and continuously cultivating a worthwhile future vision for yourself.

We are creatures of habit. Our body craves them throughout the day; most of the time, we are unaware of them. Implementing a morning routine to kickstart your day takes advantage of your body’s craving for routine and habits.

Most importantly, it sets the tone for the rest of the day. Good days start with great mornings. And when you wake up with a morning routine, it has a domino effect into every other routine throughout your day—everything from making positive eating decisions to your productivity while at work.

This is what’s known as a keystone habit. As Charles Duhigg writes in The Power of Habit, a keystone habit can reprogram other routines in your life. Thus, improving the quality of your life.

For example, starting your day off with a meditation session or exercising can give you a feeling of accomplishment, sufficient energy, and calmness heading into your busy day.

Throughout the day, you may notice how these simple morning habits can radically transform how you show up on the job, in your relationships, and even more patience for yourself and others.

Implementing positive daily habits in the morning is critical to improving the quality of your life, but if you don’t have a future vision for who you want to become, it makes it difficult for your mind to formulate a picture of how you desire to show up in the world.

In short, your mind works better if it knows where it’s going. So when you get good at picturing your future self, you’ll know how to make better decisions that align with your goals. Essentially, you will get to your goals faster if you can picture in your mind’s eye the ideal version of yourself.

Now ask yourself this question

So, ask yourself the question. What habits, mindsets, or behaviors do you need to adopt to show up as your full authentic self? How do you truly want to live?

Does it mean feeling comfortable in your own skin? Does it mean having more patience and confidence in yourself? Do you desire to travel the world more? Do you want to live financially free? Do you want to focus more of your free time on your hobbies and creative projects? Do you want to spend more time with people who share similar interests? Get specific.

These are essential questions to ask yourself to begin developing a future vision of how you truly want to show up as your full authentic self. This can turn your life into a worthwhile adventure by setting the intention of working towards something. After all, how do you put two feet on the floor in life and not have some idea of what you are working towards?

Developing a future vision for yourself is not easy work, and it’s a lifelong process. So be patient with yourself and continue asking yourself these questions.

As you develop the future vision of your life, you’ll start to identify habits and behaviors that align with who you want to become so you can meaningfully enjoy life.

Chazz Scott is a keynote speaker and mindset expert. He trains entrepreneurs, leaders, and professionals to achieve their potential personally and professionally. Chazz is also the Executive Director & Chief Creative Optimist of Positively Caviar, Inc., a grassroots 501(c)(3) nonprofit, focused on using optimism and positive thinking to build mental resilience and disrupt mental health stigmas in underserved communities. For more info, check out his weekly blog at: or download his latest workbook designed to help you build good habits and break bad ones to achieve your goals faster: download here.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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