In life, we are bound to experience the challenges that can sometimes put us down, it sometimes makes us forget to look at the brighter side of things. But with the help of our friends and family, we can stand up again and be able to aim for happiness. We just need to be positive and thankful for whatever we currently have.
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama
Happiness is the most wanted dream for everyone. Almost everyone when asked about what they want in life, the answer will mostly be happiness. Happiness is always the primary goal–others are only secondary.
A mother when asked about what she wants for her child will surely answer to happiness.
Happiness is already challenging to find. But finding happiness when you hate the world is not just challenging but really daunting.
When I was on top of my career some years ago, happiness was mostly based on achievement. That was before tragedy struck. I was then supposed to be sent to the head office of my company in Vancouver. But fate was against my career path. I was diagnosed with a kidney disease. The same disease that killed some members of my family.
Sadly, I shared the same fate. I hated the world for giving me this just when I was at my prime. I was full of anger. It was the hardest time of my life. I had to stop working. I had to stay in the hospital to undergo different procedures. It was a tiring and long process; it tested what everything in me: including my faith and strength.
I was ready to give up when a friend told me that I shouldn’t. He said I’m still breathing and that is proof enough for hope. He said I just lost a job not my life, that, I can still be happy. I have my family and friends–he made me realize.
I should not be hindered by this awful disease. Instead, it should push me to fight.
It made me realize that happiness arrives through different routes.
Here’s my journey to finding happiness while hating everything that’s happening around me:
In my experience knowing and accepting things make everything easier. I’m not saying it will cure the pain you are experiencing but it can help you grieve. Being able to grieve is one of the most important steps in the process of healing.
Acknowledging the pain can make moving on easier. In due time, the pain will subside and the sadness will diminish.
2. Surround yourself with people who love you
Encouragement from people not just helps strengthen you but it also helps you regenerate. A support system makes you feel safer and they can make you stay away from revisiting and rehashing old wounds.
If you only see the sticky mud after the rain, you will overlook the beautiful rainbow above. Positivity is the key. With friends, family and even pets, you will find the road to happiness passable.
3. Distract yourself
Keeping yourself busy makes you focus on other things. So, why not go and join activities that can energize your body? Activities like dancing, exercising or singing can be a better way to waste time. Staying at home all the time and not mingling with other people will just remind you of the pain.
So go out there and release all the tension in your system. You will notice that after a while, you can think clearly again and focus more on how you can achieve the happiness that you are aiming for.
Give yourself reasons to smile at people. Sometimes even the act of smiling itself can make you happier. When we are in pain, this is the first thing that we forget.
We tend to wallow too much of our losses that we forget our ability to smile. Smile and start focusing on what can make you happy.
5. Be positive
There is a saying that when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. When life becomes hard and difficult we need to be resilient. We should not let it put us down.
It’s not the trouble that can bring us down. Looking at the positive side of things can bring wonderful resolutions to whatever problems we encounter. Make the sour sweet.
6. Calm yourself by writing
Whenever I feel down and I feel like the world is just against me, I try to calm myself by writing. Keeping a journal of how I feel makes me see things in a different light. Often it allows me to work through these emotions, making me feel better and making life seem extra beautiful.
7. Be thankful
Aside from being positive, being thankful for what we have is one of the keys to finding happiness, whatever situation you may be in. Most of the time because we are in pain, we don’t see the bigger picture.
We only see what we don’t like, what we hate. But the fact that we are alive and the simple things that we have like the food on our table are reasons enough to be happy.
In life, we often encounter hardships and difficulties but this should never hinder us in continuing our pursuit of happiness. Because as what Audrey Hepburn said
“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.”
How do you deal with serious misfortunes? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.
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