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3 Mistakes That Are Killing Your Goals

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Have you ever wondered what differentiates people who reach most of their goals from those who fail?

A study of Harvard MBA graduates showed that the 3 percent who had clear, written goals were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent.

Let’s face it. Life is different as an adult. Back in the days when you were younger, you only had yourself to worry about and free-time actually existed, leaving plenty of opportunities to dream up and accomplish any goal that you wanted. But after life started getting crazy, you may have realized that goal accomplishments are few and far between.

It is not that you have stopped setting goals or stopped trying to achieve great things. Unfortunately, as you start having less and less free-time to focus on goals, you likely have made a few mistakes that have been killing your goals. And perhaps you forgot a few essential components that are required for establishing those goals.

 

1. Setting vague goals

The most obvious mistake that most people make with goals is that they are too vague. The clearest example of how people make this mistake is when they set a goal to reduce debt. This is a great goal for everyone to have but many fail to accomplish it. In fact, they often end up inadvertently increasing debt because of not being specific enough when making the goal.

Reducing debt is great, but most people never specify what debt they want to reduce. They don’t design a plan on how to do it. They never set a timeline and they never give themselves a measureable way to determine success.

“Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.” – Louis Pasteur

Making these mistakes not only kills your goals, but it can kill your wallet. Instead of making these mistakes when you establish your goals, be sure to be more clear about what you plan to do. Specify a plan of attack and prioritize small individual goals rather than one single, large one.

Give yourself a time by which your goal needs to be completed. This will provide a clearly defined approach to meeting whichever goal you desire. In the example of a goal to reduce debt, establishing a specific debt that needs to be paid and being able to measure success by the completion of one outstanding balance at a time allows you to systematically progress until all balances of the final goal have been reached.

In order to be certain that you are not setting goals that are too vague, you should answer the following questions about your goals to be certain you have a plan that can be followed and successfully achieved:

  • What specific component of my overall goal am I trying to achieve next?
  • How am I going to achieve this goal, meaning, what is my plan?
  • When should my goal be achieved?
  • How will I know when my goal has been achieved?

 

2. Not having accountability

Another goal killing mistake that a lot of people make is that they are not holding themselves accountable for their goals. For a lot of people, the goals that are easiest to achieve all have one thing in common – friends and family know about them. As an example, if you plan to return to school to complete a degree, your friends and family members are likely to know about this. Returning to school as an adult can be extremely stressful and may result in frequent thoughts of giving up. But if your friends and family know that you are trying to accomplish something to better yourself, you will likely have extra support to complete that goal successfully.

Going back to the debt reduction example, if this is not something that you are willing to share with your friends and family, you must make sure that you keep yourself accountable. You can do this by maintaining a spreadsheet on your desktop that can track payment progress and serve as daily motivation and a friendly reminder.

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3. Setting unrealistic goals

Another huge goal killing mistake that people make is setting goals that are too ambitious and unrealistic. It’s great to dream big, but unrealistic goals could set you up for failure.

Goals that seem like they will be too difficult often never get started because of lack of enthusiasm or desire. These goals keep getting pushed back until they eventually are forgotten. Nevertheless, goals that are too easy are not the better alternative. These types of goals also remain incomplete because of a lack of enthusiasm to begin. If you know you can do something with ease, there will be no surprise or sense of accomplishment as a reward. Therefore, there is no incentive to begin.

Many times people will set one huge goal and get frustrated that they have not achieved it in the timeline in which they had hoped. In order to avoid getting caught in this goal-making trap, you should make smaller, precise goals rather than one large one that will encompass many components. This allows for more careful planning and more opportunities to track your progress.

As an example, imagine you set a goal to thoroughly clean your entire house and you want to have it done in one weekend. While this is an excellent goal, you should not just leave your goal planning in this stage because you may become very disappointed when you cannot achieve this timeline. Instead, you should set a number of mini goals that you know can be completed in a set amount of time. After careful planning, you may realize that you can only complete 1 or 2 rooms per day. As a result, you may need more than one weekend to accomplish your goal. However, as each weekend passes, you will be able to track your progress toward the completion of the overall goal with each mini accomplishment.

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins

If you have been having trouble accomplishing your goals, be sure to always consider the common mistakes that kill your goals and do your best to avoid making them.

  • Don’t forget to write down your goals.
  • Do not set vague goals. It is always best to be as specific as possible.
  • Do not forget about keeping yourself accountable.
  • Make sure you have friends and family members who will support you in your goals.
  • If you prefer keeping your goals quiet, set up a daily reminder and self-motivation plan.
  • Do not set unrealistic goals. Goals that are too unreasonable will certainly never be met while goals that are too easy are likely to be forgotten.
I hope you are able to find my article useful in your life. Please comment below!

George Meszaros is a serial entrepreneur and the cofounder of Success Harbor, a business hub dedicated to provide advice for small business owners and startups through interviews, original research, and unique content. George Meszaros is also cofounder of Webene, a website design and marketing company.

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  1. Fab Single Mom

    Jun 24, 2015 at 9:41 am

    Great post. It is absolutely true that when your friends and family know you are more likely to follow up on what you said you will do.
    I love your last point and that is very hard sometimes. They tell us to dream big but then we have to decide where big is crossing the border of not realistic.
    Thanks for the post.

  2. Robb Mann

    Jun 17, 2015 at 10:40 am

    George,
    I can so relate to these goal killers! It seems that all three are found together most times doesn’t it? Simultaneously we really want this amazing result; like your house cleaning example (only we want it done right now!), we’re not sure where to begin (and really don’t give it much thought), and we have no pressure on us to get started right now (Your extremely organized friends aren’t planning to stop by anytime soon). We just know we want it, really, really bad! It’s almost as if we actually only want to want it! Maybe that is our goal in these cases, to want it. This strong desire feels so much like a goal, but really it’s just a powerful emotion.

    So I say, if you find yourself in this situation where you REALLY want something and don’t get started on it for… MONTHS, then restate it as a new goal. Here it is: Goal: To INTENSELY desire to clean the house, right now, as if my organized friends were stopping over today. Now, mark it off as DONE. Boom! Feel the win?

    Ok, now a new goal. find five things that you can put away, throw away, or give away. Today… When you get to 5 check it off! Set the same for tomorrow. And so on. Write the daily goal down, and check it off when done.

    If we make the process our goal, we can feel the win earlier and more often.

    Thank you again George, very good stuff! Keep up the great work, it’s inspiring!

    Robb Mann

  3. Alex

    Jun 16, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    I really agree with what you said about setting unrealistic goals. I see and hear of people all the time who set out to increase their salary by 100% every month. When it doesn’t happen, they give up. The key is to increase your salary by 10%, and then another 10% after that, and so on. Setting unrealistic goals just sets you up for failure and disappointment. Patience + realistic goals = success. Nice article!

    -Alex

  4. Chamaka W. Ranasinghe

    Jun 15, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Very specific about how to set a goal and a wonderful description of how to achieve it. Great article! Thank you so much.

  5. Jamelle Sanders

    Jun 15, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    Great advice! Clearly defined goals greatly improve the odds of success.

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2 Vital Keys to Having a True Breakthrough This Year

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Every person has a great deal of potential within them. However, the majority of people will never tap into that potential because something hinders them from getting it done whether that be a traumatic event that plagues their mind, or a negative mindset. This can be due to fear, insecurities, or of feelings of not deserving or not being good enough.

The list is literally endless because every person has different challenges in life. We are all different people, with different pasts, experiences, backgrounds, belief systems, but one commonality we all share: the pain of NOT DOING in our past.

If you’ve ever been to a conference for business, professional, or spiritual development, you know the feeling of getting fired up, motivated and inspired to go forward and DO! When you get home, the fire in your heart and mind is still burning. Nonetheless, this feeling tends to be short lived, as the reality of life sets in: bills, relationship problems, office issues, etc. and your fire begins to go out and you are back at square one… again.

There are some people that go to an event and then truly have a breakthrough in life. They explode in their business, family life, spiritual life, and health. The one thing that separates these people from the rest of us is their willingness to go deeper within themselves.

If you have attended an Anthony “Tony” Robbins motivational lecture, you know there are many reported success stories of people that he has inspired. Tony has stated in the past that individuals are able to “breakthrough” because they do not accept surface level BS; these successful people go deeper within themselves to determine the root cause of their issues or shortcomings. He also explained that by doing so, they would experience a true “breakthrough.”

If this year is going to truly be different for you, and you are going to see expansion and advancements in all parts of your life, you will need to go deeper.

Here are two important keys to help you have a breakthrough year:

1. Get Real With Yourself

Self-reflection is a powerful character building tool. However, when inspecting your life and who you are, you must go deep into this process. Don’t stay surface level and just think about what you need to improve on. Make the extra effort to think about the why of it all. Why are you weak in certain areas? Why do you seem to always fall short when doing certain tasks? Why do you dislike specific types of people and or places? Most importantly, why do you lack motivation in crucial aspects of your life?

When you start asking these types of profound questions and digging deeper, you are able to realize that there may be hidden reasons for your life constraints. Sometimes, pain in our past and heart-rending experiences of life are responsible for our weaknesses.

The challenge is to visit these places mentally and resolve root causes. Having these moments of reflection enables us to experience some very personal and self teachable moments. It is in these moments that true clarity will come and you will make decisions about where to go from here based on level headed logic rather than simply pure emotion.

Getting to know yourself better will help you in your personal and professional growth and help you to fast-track the breakthrough you desire.

“Self awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.” – Debbie Ford

2. Get Real with Others

Knowing yourself is vital, but knowing the people and the environment around you is also crucial. We’ve all heard the old saying, “hang around dogs with fleas and you’ll soon have fleas as well.” If you’re going to breakthrough this year, you better get to doing not only some self-reflection but also some social-reflection. Look around yourself and find out who and what is having a positive or negative impact on your life.

Are you exposed to people who are constantly complaining, talking bad about others, criticizing people, belittling others, and just outright being negative? If so, their negative viewpoints need to be either dismissed in your mind, and/or you should minimize the amount of time and attention that they take from you.

Tasks, habits, and extracurricular activities which provide no greater value for you should be reconsidered. Not that you shouldn’t have some down time and moments to recharge, but be careful about scrolling social media aimlessly and indulging in online window shopping. Such activities are not adding to your expansion or ascension up to the next level of life; rather they are wasting your time.

We have a total of 100% energy to give per day (a cellphone example). Just like the apps we have running in the background, they tend to drain us of our energy. Everything we take part in requires some percentage of energy investment from us. You must choose to dedicate energy to things and people that are part of your solution in helping you move the needle towards your goals. One simple question to ask yourself, and that all true leaders must ask themselves is: Does THIS propel me closer TOWARDS my goal or AWAY from it?

“Surround yourself with people who are only going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey

So, get real with the situation at hand: you either want to have a breakthrough year or you don’t. If you do, you should size-up your expectations, and key on these two important areas of your life: who you are on the inside, and the people and things around you that impact who you are.

What are you going to do this year to make sure you have the best year of your life! Comment below and share your goals.

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5 Steps to Help You Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs & Live Your Most Powerful Life

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When it comes to finding success in life our limiting beliefs can be one of the biggest trip-ups we face. They wall us in and continually place a ceiling on our potential. What’s more, as success begins to evade us because of these limited thoughts, we unknowingly strengthen them. It’s as if they look back at us to say, “I told you so.” In this manner, limiting beliefs are self-reinforcing.

They grow stronger and we feel weaker and less empowered to find success. It’s understandable that if they go unchecked for too long we can begin to feel deep frustration and hopelessness which can eventually lead to anger, self-hatred, and even depression.But it is possible to put our limiting beliefs in-check and find the freedom to pursue our purpose and maximize our potential.

If you’re ready to overcome your limiting beliefs and live your most powerful life, try these five steps:

1. Identify Your Limiting Beliefs

The first step to rectifying any situation is to get a clear handle on what’s wrong. It’s no different here. To overcome your limiting beliefs you first need to shine a spotlight on them. Most of your limiting beliefs will be relatively easy to identify. They should be—these are the types of beliefs you regularly beat yourself up over, after all.

But once you have your limiting beliefs identified make sure to write them down. There is something about “seeing” our problems in a tangible way that empowers us to better respond to them. In some cases, they begin to immediately lose their effectiveness over us just because we can see them for the illusions they are.

“You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights.” ―Brian Tracy

2. Acknowledge Them

Having the ability to view our limits helps us advance to the next step, acknowledgment. In this phase, we don’t just see our limiting beliefs in simple black-and-white—we acknowledge them for what they are, the harm they have done, and admit that we have taken part in their creation.

It’s almost as if we can have a dialog with them. By doing so we open the lines of communication and, as we all know, communication is crucial for any breakthrough. This step helps us understand our limiting beliefs better allowing us a clearer path moving forward.

It is also an especially critical step because by acknowledging our responsibility, we empower ourselves to change. No one ever gains victory over problems without taking responsibility for having them or for doing the work to resolve them.

3. Confront The Beliefs

We can only conquer our limiting beliefs by confronting them. The reason they grow so troublesome for us in the first place is simply that they go unchallenged. We often “assume” them without question.

Rather than deal with the struggle of this confrontation we develop an almost co-dependent relationship with them. We guard our limiting beliefs and justify them if they are ever questioned. But our beliefs will continue to grow and strengthen unless we challenge them.

If this is a difficult process for you to do by yourself, a counselor or coach can be helpful. If not with a professional, then at least let your beliefs be open to scrutiny by a trusted friend or significant other.

With your written list, work through as many reasons to call B.S. as you can think of. Write them out and present your argument. This doesn’t have to be a quick process, take as much time as necessary to make your case. Especially with the help of another person, you will begin to see all of the ways in which your beliefs aren’t true and find all of the reasons you need to believe you can succeed.

4. Replace Them With Unlimited Beliefs

To move forward effectively, you can’t just drop your limiting beliefs and get back to life as usual. In order to reach your most powerful life, you’ve got replace the old, limiting beliefs with new, empowering ones.

If one of your limiting beliefs was, “I don’t deserve success because of xyz,” you need to replace it with, “I do deserve success because of abc,” and then list out all the reasons why.

It’s such a simple step but so many people neglect it. They’re just so happy to be rid of their old limiting beliefs, I guess. But what good is it to just be neutral? You’ve got to create an upgrade for every belief you just tore down. You’ve got to replace the limited ones with unlimited.

On that list, you created earlier, or on a new page if you’ve run out of room, write out your empowering, replacement beliefs. Keep going until each one is now optimized with a belief that removes those old limits you placed on yourself.

“Do the uncomfortable. Become comfortable with these acts. Prove to yourself that your limiting beliefs die a quick death if you will simply do what you feel uncomfortable doing.” ―Darren Rowse

5. Use Your New Beliefs To Find Success

You’ve got just one more step to go and that is to implement your new beliefs. Put your full faith in them as if they will succeed because they will. Use your fresh, new enthusiasm to push you through to success in areas where you only saw limitation before.

You will not fail because when we truly believe we are capable of success that is what we achieve. Be encouraged—every new success you have will only strengthen your beliefs. Congratulations, you are now on your way to living your most powerful life!

What are you doing today to make the most of your life? Comment below!

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3 Purchases Of $100 Or Less That Have Changed My Life.

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A popular question made famous by a certain 4-Hour Work Week author has been doing the rounds a lot lately. It’s an incredibly powerful question and I want to share with you my answer.

By the way, my answer is not some cheap product placement or a dodgy infomercial in case you were wondering.

3 purchases of $100 or Less that changed my life are:

 

Purchase #1 A meditation app.

The app called Calm to be more specific. It won Apple’s App Of The Year and it’s helped me chill the F out after tackling every fear I have. We all need to get out of our head more.

 

Purchase #2 A wireless computer keyboard.

Buy a wireless keyboard and use it with your laptop, tablet or phone wherever you are. Every day, aim to write one thing that inspires someone else. Post your written words on a blog (ideally someone else’s who has a large audience).

While you’re at work during the day, observe your surroundings as they are. Single out the positive things you see and share them online for all of us to see. When you type those words on your little wireless keyboard, pour every ounce of emotion you have into them.

Wake up one night, write something inspiring, and feel the tears drip from your eyes as you make yourself emotional because you know you’ve given it everything you’ve got. Know that every word you write for someone else is how you can give back to the world.

You can’t sit at home on your computer all day long and play games, watch porn and scroll your social media like a hamster going around and around on its wheel. Your keyboard is how you take the problems of our society and do something about them.

Know that the words you type will be most valuable when they are positive and instructive. There’s enough negativity in the world and your little wireless keyboard gives you the chance to do something about that injustice.

Wake up early in the morning (5 am) and make it a habit of writing something. “How To’s” work best. As you continue this habit, be vulnerable. Tell stories with your little wireless keyboard and share your biggest fears. Make your words human because that’s what you are after all.

Tell everybody how you had your heart broken, suffered mental health issues, lost someone you love, battled a health issue – these situations and what you’ve learned will help others the most.

Everything you’ve experienced to this day has brought you to these words you type to inspire others. Write about what makes you happy and fuse your passion together with your words.

Know that you’ll get emails after you type these words for at least a year, from people who have benefited from your writing. Reply to these emails and help where you can. Know that one day you’ll get an email from a reader that will cause you to break down and get emotional.

This email you eventually get will be the trigger for you to stop and evaluate what you’re typing these words for. When that moment comes, you’ll pick up your wireless keyboard again and continue writing because you’ll know you’re helping people. These words are actually making you fulfilled.

Along the way, as your readers increase, you’ll come across the evil species we call trolls and some critics too. The words that these people type on their wireless keyboards will hurt you at first and take you by surprise. You’ll eventually realize that everyone faces these same demons.

It’s not you; it’s them. Don’t let these haters stop you from writing words on your little wireless keyboard and keep pouring your heart out.

Your big viral moment thanks to your wireless keyboard will come at some stage. Don’t let this moment sidetrack you from the reason why you bought this wireless keyboard and started typing. Your newfound celebrity status will encourage your big fat ego, and that will take away all of the good your words have done.

Now that your life has been changed forever by your little wireless keyboard, keep going. You can change the world with your keyboard if you keep going and never give up your habit. Typing these words daily is the best kind of therapy there is for the troubles and challenges this life will throw at you.

One day, you’ll know what it’s like to be a leader, creator and inspiration for others thanks to your little wireless keyboard. Until then, keep typing those words. Your words matter and they can inspire others, and change the world at the same time.

 

Purchase #3 A pair of kid’s soccer boots for $79.95

This purchase works best when given to a kid that comes from a broken home and it will show them that strangers care. When the mother comes over and thanks you with tears in her eyes, you’ll understand the power of kindness. This will change your life.

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41 Fundamental Life Truths I Have Discovered This Year.

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This year has taught me so much about life and what it really means. It surprises me how little I know and how much there still is to learn. A truly fulfilled life is only possible when you commit to continuous learning.

Who knows, in a few years I’ll probably look at this article and think to myself how amateur I was at this moment in my life.

Here are 41 truths about life I have learned this year:

 

1. You must love yourself first and talk nicely to yourself. Self-talk changes everything.

2. Minimalism will help accent what you love. Too much stuff will distract you.

3. Forgiveness is power. Holding onto stuff hurts you more than anyone else.

4. Most of the answers you seek are right in front of them. You’ve been ignoring these answers because they seem cliché and obvious. Stop doing this.

5. No one has all the answers

6. The success you see in other people is only 1% of their life. Most of what you can’t see is the negativity and failures they endure. Spend more time going beyond people’s success.

7. Your mind is determining how you feel. If you feel crap, change the inputs of your mind.

8. Happiness is found in the simple stuff. If you’re not happy, you’re trying to overcomplicate it.

9. Being kind to people always feels good.

10. Anyone can be inspiring including you.

11. Business is about rallying people together. It’s not about an idea, or one person, or even coming up with something entirely new. Understand people and you’ll master business.

12. Time is the currency you should guard with your life. Measure and watch your time.

13. Sometimes, lack of planning is the best thing you can do. You can’t predict every outcome and spontaneity adds to the fun of life.

14. We need balance. Balance between work, travel, love, family and everything in-between.

15. You have advice that can help people. Share it and be a part of other people’s journeys.

16. The workforce has changed. Emotional intelligence, life experience and leadership are now at the top of desirable business traits.

17. Nothing stays the same so don’t expect it to (especially as you get older).

18. Learning to say no will give you the time to pursue your dream.

19. Be honest no matter what. Tell people what you think respectfully and they’ll love you for it.

20. Ideas mean nothing. Execution trumps all.

21. The ability to make decisions quickly will help you progress in life much quicker.

 

22. Reality is different for everyone so quit expecting people to see exactly what you see.

23. No one has time to dwell on your problems. They have enough of their own. So, make as many mistakes as you want and don’t be afraid what people think.

24. Fear can be controlled and once you get started, you’ll forget about it anyway. Let fear excite you and tell you that you’re breaking your comfort zone which is phenomenal.

25. Money is boring. Wisdom is far more exciting.

26. There’s no time like the present to do that thing you’ve always dreamed about. Stop delaying as you may not get the chance to do that one thing ever again.

27. Your career is defined by who you are as a person and nothing else. Experience and skills can be learned.

28. Courage takes guts and it’s the first step to being a leader.

29. Criticism and negative opinions about your life’s work are a sign that you’re making progress.

30. Doing things that inspire you is the best feeling in the world. Chase that.

31. The game of racking up possessions never ends. You can never own everything and everything you collect will get boring quickly. The best collection you can have is enjoyable memories.

32. Your dream, passion, goal is not going to find you. You must find it and that takes work.

33. The stuff you’re the most scared of is the very thing that will help you grow. Growing is a must.

34. Lying never helps you win in the long-term. The damage it causes is often hidden, but its effect will ruin your life if you don’t stop it.

35. The notifications on your devices are screwing with your head. Turn all of them off and see the difference it makes.

36. Your life is a piece of art so use it to do something creative.

37. Sabotage TV for books and podcasts. That’s how you learn and get new ideas.

38. Remember that rules are just a guideline and they are open to interpretation. Nothing is absolute.

39. What will improve your life is giving up those things you know deep inside of you are bad for you. You know what they are. Kill them off one by one.

40. Quotes are profound and they can give you your own unique mantra to live your life by. Find a few that have meaning to you and put them where you can see them.

41. There’s no limit on greed. There’s no such thing as quick money. If you win once, you’ll get complacent and lose next time around or the time after that.

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5 Things You Must Have in Order to Succeed as a Freelancer

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Up until about 3 years ago, I honestly had no idea what a freelancer even was. It sounded like a cool job title and I secretly envied people who could call themselves one. Didn’t they get to travel the world with a laptop and go sailing and sip margaritas beside some of the most beautiful beaches on the planet? Yup, I wanted to be a freelancer. (more…)

Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned freelancer from Northern Ontario Canada living a life of freedom, peace and joy in sunny Guatemala. Her two main goals in life are to inspire people around the world with her blogs and to feed hungry little bellies in the poor town she now calls home. Follow her on her fast growing FB page Amazing Me Movement or head on over to her website and sign up for weekly in your face inspiration!

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  1. Fab Single Mom

    Jun 24, 2015 at 9:41 am

    Great post. It is absolutely true that when your friends and family know you are more likely to follow up on what you said you will do.
    I love your last point and that is very hard sometimes. They tell us to dream big but then we have to decide where big is crossing the border of not realistic.
    Thanks for the post.

  2. Robb Mann

    Jun 17, 2015 at 10:40 am

    George,
    I can so relate to these goal killers! It seems that all three are found together most times doesn’t it? Simultaneously we really want this amazing result; like your house cleaning example (only we want it done right now!), we’re not sure where to begin (and really don’t give it much thought), and we have no pressure on us to get started right now (Your extremely organized friends aren’t planning to stop by anytime soon). We just know we want it, really, really bad! It’s almost as if we actually only want to want it! Maybe that is our goal in these cases, to want it. This strong desire feels so much like a goal, but really it’s just a powerful emotion.

    So I say, if you find yourself in this situation where you REALLY want something and don’t get started on it for… MONTHS, then restate it as a new goal. Here it is: Goal: To INTENSELY desire to clean the house, right now, as if my organized friends were stopping over today. Now, mark it off as DONE. Boom! Feel the win?

    Ok, now a new goal. find five things that you can put away, throw away, or give away. Today… When you get to 5 check it off! Set the same for tomorrow. And so on. Write the daily goal down, and check it off when done.

    If we make the process our goal, we can feel the win earlier and more often.

    Thank you again George, very good stuff! Keep up the great work, it’s inspiring!

    Robb Mann

  3. Alex

    Jun 16, 2015 at 1:33 pm

    I really agree with what you said about setting unrealistic goals. I see and hear of people all the time who set out to increase their salary by 100% every month. When it doesn’t happen, they give up. The key is to increase your salary by 10%, and then another 10% after that, and so on. Setting unrealistic goals just sets you up for failure and disappointment. Patience + realistic goals = success. Nice article!

    -Alex

  4. Chamaka W. Ranasinghe

    Jun 15, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    Very specific about how to set a goal and a wonderful description of how to achieve it. Great article! Thank you so much.

  5. Jamelle Sanders

    Jun 15, 2015 at 5:22 pm

    Great advice! Clearly defined goals greatly improve the odds of success.

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2 Vital Keys to Having a True Breakthrough This Year

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Every person has a great deal of potential within them. However, the majority of people will never tap into that potential because something hinders them from getting it done whether that be a traumatic event that plagues their mind, or a negative mindset. This can be due to fear, insecurities, or of feelings of not deserving or not being good enough.

The list is literally endless because every person has different challenges in life. We are all different people, with different pasts, experiences, backgrounds, belief systems, but one commonality we all share: the pain of NOT DOING in our past.

If you’ve ever been to a conference for business, professional, or spiritual development, you know the feeling of getting fired up, motivated and inspired to go forward and DO! When you get home, the fire in your heart and mind is still burning. Nonetheless, this feeling tends to be short lived, as the reality of life sets in: bills, relationship problems, office issues, etc. and your fire begins to go out and you are back at square one… again.

There are some people that go to an event and then truly have a breakthrough in life. They explode in their business, family life, spiritual life, and health. The one thing that separates these people from the rest of us is their willingness to go deeper within themselves.

If you have attended an Anthony “Tony” Robbins motivational lecture, you know there are many reported success stories of people that he has inspired. Tony has stated in the past that individuals are able to “breakthrough” because they do not accept surface level BS; these successful people go deeper within themselves to determine the root cause of their issues or shortcomings. He also explained that by doing so, they would experience a true “breakthrough.”

If this year is going to truly be different for you, and you are going to see expansion and advancements in all parts of your life, you will need to go deeper.

Here are two important keys to help you have a breakthrough year:

1. Get Real With Yourself

Self-reflection is a powerful character building tool. However, when inspecting your life and who you are, you must go deep into this process. Don’t stay surface level and just think about what you need to improve on. Make the extra effort to think about the why of it all. Why are you weak in certain areas? Why do you seem to always fall short when doing certain tasks? Why do you dislike specific types of people and or places? Most importantly, why do you lack motivation in crucial aspects of your life?

When you start asking these types of profound questions and digging deeper, you are able to realize that there may be hidden reasons for your life constraints. Sometimes, pain in our past and heart-rending experiences of life are responsible for our weaknesses.

The challenge is to visit these places mentally and resolve root causes. Having these moments of reflection enables us to experience some very personal and self teachable moments. It is in these moments that true clarity will come and you will make decisions about where to go from here based on level headed logic rather than simply pure emotion.

Getting to know yourself better will help you in your personal and professional growth and help you to fast-track the breakthrough you desire.

“Self awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.” – Debbie Ford

2. Get Real with Others

Knowing yourself is vital, but knowing the people and the environment around you is also crucial. We’ve all heard the old saying, “hang around dogs with fleas and you’ll soon have fleas as well.” If you’re going to breakthrough this year, you better get to doing not only some self-reflection but also some social-reflection. Look around yourself and find out who and what is having a positive or negative impact on your life.

Are you exposed to people who are constantly complaining, talking bad about others, criticizing people, belittling others, and just outright being negative? If so, their negative viewpoints need to be either dismissed in your mind, and/or you should minimize the amount of time and attention that they take from you.

Tasks, habits, and extracurricular activities which provide no greater value for you should be reconsidered. Not that you shouldn’t have some down time and moments to recharge, but be careful about scrolling social media aimlessly and indulging in online window shopping. Such activities are not adding to your expansion or ascension up to the next level of life; rather they are wasting your time.

We have a total of 100% energy to give per day (a cellphone example). Just like the apps we have running in the background, they tend to drain us of our energy. Everything we take part in requires some percentage of energy investment from us. You must choose to dedicate energy to things and people that are part of your solution in helping you move the needle towards your goals. One simple question to ask yourself, and that all true leaders must ask themselves is: Does THIS propel me closer TOWARDS my goal or AWAY from it?

“Surround yourself with people who are only going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey

So, get real with the situation at hand: you either want to have a breakthrough year or you don’t. If you do, you should size-up your expectations, and key on these two important areas of your life: who you are on the inside, and the people and things around you that impact who you are.

What are you going to do this year to make sure you have the best year of your life! Comment below and share your goals.

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5 Steps to Help You Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs & Live Your Most Powerful Life

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When it comes to finding success in life our limiting beliefs can be one of the biggest trip-ups we face. They wall us in and continually place a ceiling on our potential. What’s more, as success begins to evade us because of these limited thoughts, we unknowingly strengthen them. It’s as if they look back at us to say, “I told you so.” In this manner, limiting beliefs are self-reinforcing.

They grow stronger and we feel weaker and less empowered to find success. It’s understandable that if they go unchecked for too long we can begin to feel deep frustration and hopelessness which can eventually lead to anger, self-hatred, and even depression.But it is possible to put our limiting beliefs in-check and find the freedom to pursue our purpose and maximize our potential.

If you’re ready to overcome your limiting beliefs and live your most powerful life, try these five steps:

1. Identify Your Limiting Beliefs

The first step to rectifying any situation is to get a clear handle on what’s wrong. It’s no different here. To overcome your limiting beliefs you first need to shine a spotlight on them. Most of your limiting beliefs will be relatively easy to identify. They should be—these are the types of beliefs you regularly beat yourself up over, after all.

But once you have your limiting beliefs identified make sure to write them down. There is something about “seeing” our problems in a tangible way that empowers us to better respond to them. In some cases, they begin to immediately lose their effectiveness over us just because we can see them for the illusions they are.

“You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights.” ―Brian Tracy

2. Acknowledge Them

Having the ability to view our limits helps us advance to the next step, acknowledgment. In this phase, we don’t just see our limiting beliefs in simple black-and-white—we acknowledge them for what they are, the harm they have done, and admit that we have taken part in their creation.

It’s almost as if we can have a dialog with them. By doing so we open the lines of communication and, as we all know, communication is crucial for any breakthrough. This step helps us understand our limiting beliefs better allowing us a clearer path moving forward.

It is also an especially critical step because by acknowledging our responsibility, we empower ourselves to change. No one ever gains victory over problems without taking responsibility for having them or for doing the work to resolve them.

3. Confront The Beliefs

We can only conquer our limiting beliefs by confronting them. The reason they grow so troublesome for us in the first place is simply that they go unchallenged. We often “assume” them without question.

Rather than deal with the struggle of this confrontation we develop an almost co-dependent relationship with them. We guard our limiting beliefs and justify them if they are ever questioned. But our beliefs will continue to grow and strengthen unless we challenge them.

If this is a difficult process for you to do by yourself, a counselor or coach can be helpful. If not with a professional, then at least let your beliefs be open to scrutiny by a trusted friend or significant other.

With your written list, work through as many reasons to call B.S. as you can think of. Write them out and present your argument. This doesn’t have to be a quick process, take as much time as necessary to make your case. Especially with the help of another person, you will begin to see all of the ways in which your beliefs aren’t true and find all of the reasons you need to believe you can succeed.

4. Replace Them With Unlimited Beliefs

To move forward effectively, you can’t just drop your limiting beliefs and get back to life as usual. In order to reach your most powerful life, you’ve got replace the old, limiting beliefs with new, empowering ones.

If one of your limiting beliefs was, “I don’t deserve success because of xyz,” you need to replace it with, “I do deserve success because of abc,” and then list out all the reasons why.

It’s such a simple step but so many people neglect it. They’re just so happy to be rid of their old limiting beliefs, I guess. But what good is it to just be neutral? You’ve got to create an upgrade for every belief you just tore down. You’ve got to replace the limited ones with unlimited.

On that list, you created earlier, or on a new page if you’ve run out of room, write out your empowering, replacement beliefs. Keep going until each one is now optimized with a belief that removes those old limits you placed on yourself.

“Do the uncomfortable. Become comfortable with these acts. Prove to yourself that your limiting beliefs die a quick death if you will simply do what you feel uncomfortable doing.” ―Darren Rowse

5. Use Your New Beliefs To Find Success

You’ve got just one more step to go and that is to implement your new beliefs. Put your full faith in them as if they will succeed because they will. Use your fresh, new enthusiasm to push you through to success in areas where you only saw limitation before.

You will not fail because when we truly believe we are capable of success that is what we achieve. Be encouraged—every new success you have will only strengthen your beliefs. Congratulations, you are now on your way to living your most powerful life!

What are you doing today to make the most of your life? Comment below!

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3 Purchases Of $100 Or Less That Have Changed My Life.

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A popular question made famous by a certain 4-Hour Work Week author has been doing the rounds a lot lately. It’s an incredibly powerful question and I want to share with you my answer.

By the way, my answer is not some cheap product placement or a dodgy infomercial in case you were wondering.

3 purchases of $100 or Less that changed my life are:

 

Purchase #1 A meditation app.

The app called Calm to be more specific. It won Apple’s App Of The Year and it’s helped me chill the F out after tackling every fear I have. We all need to get out of our head more.

 

Purchase #2 A wireless computer keyboard.

Buy a wireless keyboard and use it with your laptop, tablet or phone wherever you are. Every day, aim to write one thing that inspires someone else. Post your written words on a blog (ideally someone else’s who has a large audience).

While you’re at work during the day, observe your surroundings as they are. Single out the positive things you see and share them online for all of us to see. When you type those words on your little wireless keyboard, pour every ounce of emotion you have into them.

Wake up one night, write something inspiring, and feel the tears drip from your eyes as you make yourself emotional because you know you’ve given it everything you’ve got. Know that every word you write for someone else is how you can give back to the world.

You can’t sit at home on your computer all day long and play games, watch porn and scroll your social media like a hamster going around and around on its wheel. Your keyboard is how you take the problems of our society and do something about them.

Know that the words you type will be most valuable when they are positive and instructive. There’s enough negativity in the world and your little wireless keyboard gives you the chance to do something about that injustice.

Wake up early in the morning (5 am) and make it a habit of writing something. “How To’s” work best. As you continue this habit, be vulnerable. Tell stories with your little wireless keyboard and share your biggest fears. Make your words human because that’s what you are after all.

Tell everybody how you had your heart broken, suffered mental health issues, lost someone you love, battled a health issue – these situations and what you’ve learned will help others the most.

Everything you’ve experienced to this day has brought you to these words you type to inspire others. Write about what makes you happy and fuse your passion together with your words.

Know that you’ll get emails after you type these words for at least a year, from people who have benefited from your writing. Reply to these emails and help where you can. Know that one day you’ll get an email from a reader that will cause you to break down and get emotional.

This email you eventually get will be the trigger for you to stop and evaluate what you’re typing these words for. When that moment comes, you’ll pick up your wireless keyboard again and continue writing because you’ll know you’re helping people. These words are actually making you fulfilled.

Along the way, as your readers increase, you’ll come across the evil species we call trolls and some critics too. The words that these people type on their wireless keyboards will hurt you at first and take you by surprise. You’ll eventually realize that everyone faces these same demons.

It’s not you; it’s them. Don’t let these haters stop you from writing words on your little wireless keyboard and keep pouring your heart out.

Your big viral moment thanks to your wireless keyboard will come at some stage. Don’t let this moment sidetrack you from the reason why you bought this wireless keyboard and started typing. Your newfound celebrity status will encourage your big fat ego, and that will take away all of the good your words have done.

Now that your life has been changed forever by your little wireless keyboard, keep going. You can change the world with your keyboard if you keep going and never give up your habit. Typing these words daily is the best kind of therapy there is for the troubles and challenges this life will throw at you.

One day, you’ll know what it’s like to be a leader, creator and inspiration for others thanks to your little wireless keyboard. Until then, keep typing those words. Your words matter and they can inspire others, and change the world at the same time.

 

Purchase #3 A pair of kid’s soccer boots for $79.95

This purchase works best when given to a kid that comes from a broken home and it will show them that strangers care. When the mother comes over and thanks you with tears in her eyes, you’ll understand the power of kindness. This will change your life.

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41 Fundamental Life Truths I Have Discovered This Year.

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This year has taught me so much about life and what it really means. It surprises me how little I know and how much there still is to learn. A truly fulfilled life is only possible when you commit to continuous learning.

Who knows, in a few years I’ll probably look at this article and think to myself how amateur I was at this moment in my life.

Here are 41 truths about life I have learned this year:

 

1. You must love yourself first and talk nicely to yourself. Self-talk changes everything.

2. Minimalism will help accent what you love. Too much stuff will distract you.

3. Forgiveness is power. Holding onto stuff hurts you more than anyone else.

4. Most of the answers you seek are right in front of them. You’ve been ignoring these answers because they seem cliché and obvious. Stop doing this.

5. No one has all the answers

6. The success you see in other people is only 1% of their life. Most of what you can’t see is the negativity and failures they endure. Spend more time going beyond people’s success.

7. Your mind is determining how you feel. If you feel crap, change the inputs of your mind.

8. Happiness is found in the simple stuff. If you’re not happy, you’re trying to overcomplicate it.

9. Being kind to people always feels good.

10. Anyone can be inspiring including you.

11. Business is about rallying people together. It’s not about an idea, or one person, or even coming up with something entirely new. Understand people and you’ll master business.

12. Time is the currency you should guard with your life. Measure and watch your time.

13. Sometimes, lack of planning is the best thing you can do. You can’t predict every outcome and spontaneity adds to the fun of life.

14. We need balance. Balance between work, travel, love, family and everything in-between.

15. You have advice that can help people. Share it and be a part of other people’s journeys.

16. The workforce has changed. Emotional intelligence, life experience and leadership are now at the top of desirable business traits.

17. Nothing stays the same so don’t expect it to (especially as you get older).

18. Learning to say no will give you the time to pursue your dream.

19. Be honest no matter what. Tell people what you think respectfully and they’ll love you for it.

20. Ideas mean nothing. Execution trumps all.

21. The ability to make decisions quickly will help you progress in life much quicker.

 

22. Reality is different for everyone so quit expecting people to see exactly what you see.

23. No one has time to dwell on your problems. They have enough of their own. So, make as many mistakes as you want and don’t be afraid what people think.

24. Fear can be controlled and once you get started, you’ll forget about it anyway. Let fear excite you and tell you that you’re breaking your comfort zone which is phenomenal.

25. Money is boring. Wisdom is far more exciting.

26. There’s no time like the present to do that thing you’ve always dreamed about. Stop delaying as you may not get the chance to do that one thing ever again.

27. Your career is defined by who you are as a person and nothing else. Experience and skills can be learned.

28. Courage takes guts and it’s the first step to being a leader.

29. Criticism and negative opinions about your life’s work are a sign that you’re making progress.

30. Doing things that inspire you is the best feeling in the world. Chase that.

31. The game of racking up possessions never ends. You can never own everything and everything you collect will get boring quickly. The best collection you can have is enjoyable memories.

32. Your dream, passion, goal is not going to find you. You must find it and that takes work.

33. The stuff you’re the most scared of is the very thing that will help you grow. Growing is a must.

34. Lying never helps you win in the long-term. The damage it causes is often hidden, but its effect will ruin your life if you don’t stop it.

35. The notifications on your devices are screwing with your head. Turn all of them off and see the difference it makes.

36. Your life is a piece of art so use it to do something creative.

37. Sabotage TV for books and podcasts. That’s how you learn and get new ideas.

38. Remember that rules are just a guideline and they are open to interpretation. Nothing is absolute.

39. What will improve your life is giving up those things you know deep inside of you are bad for you. You know what they are. Kill them off one by one.

40. Quotes are profound and they can give you your own unique mantra to live your life by. Find a few that have meaning to you and put them where you can see them.

41. There’s no limit on greed. There’s no such thing as quick money. If you win once, you’ll get complacent and lose next time around or the time after that.

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