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3 Modern Diseases That Ruin Your Life And How To Avoid Them

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3 Modern Diseases That Ruin Your Life And How To Avoid Them

You might be wondering what modern diseases are. When you think of the term disease, pictures of ill people in a hospital come into your mind.

But what has this to do with me? I am completely healthy!” You keep wondering.

Modern diseases don’t necessarily affect your body and can’t make you ill by raising your body temperature. However they can have an indirect impact to your health.

They have the power to ruin your life more than anything but only if you let them do so. The fact is that you can have complete control over them, but if you fall in the temptation to relinquish control you will be beaten to the ground.

“Every human being is the author of his own health or disease” – Buddha

What are these modern diseases?

They are activities that affect your way of living in a negative way and are obstacles to everyone who wants to become successful in life.

These activities are:

  • Video games
  • Television
  • Social media

 

If these three are leveraged correctly they can give you a huge boost in your life and can be a really powerful tool, but only if you don’t fall in the trap of relinquishing control.

The technology expansion has given us amazing benefits and made our life much easier and more comfortable. However it has created activities that enslave our brains and make us live like zombies. Zombies which don’t think, don’t take risks and don’t seek growth in life but only in a virtual reality.

Activities that distract us from finding our purpose in life and make us believe we are not great enough to break out of homeostasis.

If you still believe that video games, television and social media can offer you benefits, make you more productive and improve your life’s quality then try to find someone who is really successful and you will be astonished by the fact that he doesn’t spend time in these worthless activities.

I don’t know any successful person who achieved his goals and spent more than half an hour per day watching the latest popular series in TV or killing dragons in his Xbox.

 

1. Video games

After many years of spending unlimited hours in video games and staying in front of a digital reality world from morning to night (with breaks only for food and WC) I came to the conclusion that I have lost a ton of precious time.

I would give everything to have that time back. Unfortunately when your life goes away it never returns and never forgives you. It doesn’t care about how you spend it, it just goes away. When you realize that it’s gone, it might be too late.

Fortunately for me, I have realized it soon enough in my life and that’s the reason I want to share this with as many people as possible because making that realization when you are 40 or 50 will destroy you. You won’t be able to handle the repressed emotions, you won’t be able to turn back the time and do all the things you didn’t do.

Some people might say that video games offer entertainment. Some might say that video games are proven to improve mind and reflective. Even if this is true, these little benefits aren’t worth your TIME . You could do a million things that have a huge positive impact on yourself instead of killing monsters or playing football in front of a TV screen.

You spend all your time in front of a reality world and then you keep wondering why your life is so miserable, why your girlfriend dumped you for somebody else or why you don’t have money and need to live with your parents.

But why are you wondering? The only person who has control over your life is you and by relinquishing that control you let circumstances ruin your life’s quality.

 

2. Television

Okay, not all TV programs are terrible and time-wasting. You can find shows or movies which are entertaining and give information. Unfortunately the majority of TV shows are crap and don’t offer anything at all. They are a total waste of time.

There was a period in my life that I could spent 4-5 hours per day watching TV. I have spent an entire summer in front of a TV screen watching worthless shows and movies instead of going to the beach and enjoying my life.

When I rewind those moments my feelings are mixed. I feel so ashamed about myself 5 year ago but I also feel so proud for me today. I don’t watch television at all, I don’t even have a TV at home and if I want to see a movie I simply watch it online.

Television has a major disadvantage. You don’t have many choices about what you can see. You just open it, search the 4-5 best channels and check what they have to show you. On the other side internet provides countless information and choices.

At least you have the ability to choose what you will see instead of opening the TV and being fed up with the program that X or Y channel decided to show at 6pm. Does this mean that you can’t get lost in the internet? Of course not, but at least you have a little more control over your choices.

Fred Allen has said that “Television is the triumph of machines over people” and he was completely right. Do you know how awesome it feels when you stop brainwashing yourself with stupid TV shows?

You instantly have 3 to 5 free hours to spend on yourself by exercising, reading a book, starting a new hobby or just sleeping. You have more time to socialize, meet new people and do something meaningful with your life. You aren’t a slave to TV anymore.

“I find television very educating. Every time somebody turns on the set, I go into the other room and read a book.” – Groucho Marx

3. Social media

The growth of social media in the last decade was astonishing. The internet was flooded with millions of people full of narcissism and insecurities trying to validate themselves through a social profile where they showcase their experience, beauty and life.

Social media can be a really great tool to communicate, connect and meet new people or even help your business grow. They have a great power, but you have to use them in the right way. If you let them control your life then you have lost the game. How do you know that you have let them control your life?

When you go for a drink with your friends and the only thing you can remember from that night is that Becky liked your profile picture at 2.20 am or the “check in” you did on Facebook at 3.00 am with title “having amazing fun with my buddies“.

Sure, you had amazing fun. That’s why you spent almost all the night scrolling down your social profile timeline. You know that you have let them control your life when you are continuously checking your smart phone and the only thing you care about is how many people liked or shared your photo.

When you eat dinner with your family and instead of talking with them you check your snapchat updates. Or when you don’t have something productive to do and you decide to kill your time on Instagram. That’s how it is when you let social media control your life.

 

How to take control of your life:

Many people suffer from addictions to these three “modern diseases” and can’t find a way to take back control over their lives. It’s easy to give advice like “come on, just shut down the TV” or “the only thing you have to do is to close the video game” but it’s not so simple.

When you are deeply addicted, both emotionally and pshycoligically it’s so difficult to disconnect and just close the video game or simply shut down the TV. That disease doesn’t let you grow and keeps you static and mediocre.

Take control of your life

Personal growth occurs because of two reasons:

Think about it. When is it easier to run faster? When you know that if you run fast enough you will win $10,000 or if your life is threatened and you know that if you run fast enough you will save your life.

In both cases you will run, but the second case is a tragedy and is more likely to force you to succeed and run fast enough to win. The only way to cut these worthless activities and regain control over your life is by creating a tragedy.

How are you doing that? Easier said than done but you have to:
  • Delete all your data in the video game.
  • Sell your TV or video game.
  • Throw your video game/TV out of the window or break it down(though it’s more profitable to sell it)
  • Delete your social media accounts.

These might sound a bit extreme but the only way to stop doing something is by not having the ability to do it. When are you more likely to binge eat and gain weight? When you have a kitchen full of biscuits, sweets and chocolates or when you have a kitchen full of fruits and vegetables? If you don’t have the ability to do something then you will end up not doing it.

When I moved to my new house I noticed that I didn’t spend time watching TV because I haven’t bought a new TV yet. This saved me 2-3 hours per day and I ended up never buying a new TV because I realized the time-saving benefit. 

If you find yourself in a situation where your life sucks and your dreams fly away, then modern diseases are probably ruining your life. Sell your TV, video game, burn it or break it down. Delete all your data from your social profiles. Just get rid of them completely. That’s the only way to take back control of your life.

 

What’s your experience with modern diseases? Do you believe they have a negative or positive impact on your life? Let me know what you think in the comments below.
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  1. Sammy Blackmore

    Oct 17, 2016 at 1:15 am

    This is really a great read. As for me, I have completely eliminated watching TV news and shows cos of the extremely biased media and stupid shows.

  2. Rondol

    Oct 13, 2016 at 7:39 pm

    This is a great article Damian, I do believe that these 3 “modern diseases ” play a major role in preventing people from being successful in life. I don’t play video games, I hardly watch TV and I’m breaking into the habit of using Facebook two time per week. I mainly use Facebook to listen to inspirational videos.

  3. Lynn

    Oct 13, 2016 at 12:32 pm

    Social media has made us anti-social. I enjoy these type of sites, and the physical fitness ones. So easy to overdo it. Moderation is how YOU manage the beast.

  4. Steve

    Apr 8, 2016 at 8:05 pm

    I couldn’t disagree more. I watch all the TV I want, play video games when I want and if it wasn’t for social media I wouldn’t have read this (I guess that is an argument for getting rid of social media haha) and I am highly successful and very happy. I stumbled on your site via Twitter and have enjoyed most of what I have read but this is just way off base. I say do what makes you happy.

  5. Heather

    Jun 22, 2015 at 4:32 pm

    Love it! I hate video games, and very rarely watch TV. I do use social media in my business promotions though, so that was the main one I struggled with, as I often found personal social media creeping into professional social media time. So, I took the apps off my phone (so I have to be sat in front of my Mac working to access them) and I block off specific time during the day to check my social media. And like a charm, my life has become instantly less complicated and more productive.

    Great post – thanks!

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 23, 2015 at 9:07 am

      Hey Heather, I have to thank you for adding to the discussion with your experience. Do you use any app to block social media sites for certain period of time during the day?

  6. Kwing

    Jun 18, 2015 at 2:30 am

    Hey this is a really nice article! I do collect and play video games but I only play around 2 hours on a saturday weekend. I just play to release the tension from the week’s hard work and to refresh myself. 🙂

    You were right, there were people who don’t go out anymore and they only spend their time playing games. There are plenty of great stuff that we can do with our time!

    If only they can transfer their time I’d be super glad to receive it! 🙂

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 18, 2015 at 2:04 pm

      Hey kwing, thanks for adding to the discussion.

      It’s great that you have self-control and play only in the weekends. Well done!

  7. Robb Mann

    Jun 15, 2015 at 11:11 am

    Like Andrew Carnegie said,

    “If you want to be happy, set a goal that
    commands your thoughts, liberates your
    energy, and inspires your hopes.”
    – Andrew Carnegie

    (replace “happy” with free from the bondage of time wasting pursuits)

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 15, 2015 at 1:06 pm

      Andrew Carnegie was a very wise man.This quote is pure gold and timeless even if it’s decades old.

  8. Robb Mann

    Jun 15, 2015 at 10:56 am

    Hey Damian,

    I went over to D&C, good stuff! I signed up, keep up the great work!

    Thank you for your thoughts and suggestions. I agree, with you sometimes the extreme is necessary, like in the case of the alcoholic that may not have a social drink in light of the binge that would surely follow.

    We have a book called “Taming the Techno-Beast” that I have had our children read. It also deals with the life sucking nature of consuming your time with technology, written for children.

    After reading your post I am left thinking that these “modern diseases” are best brought under control by creating an even more compelling future than these pursuits offer. It’s always going to be more effective to replace your habits than STOP them. Throwing the stuff out is good and does “create tragedy” but – how many times do we resolve to stop a thing and find ourselves back at it before we know it? I’m sure it works for some people, however, my mind tells me, “you manufactured this tragedy, now give me back my stuff!”

    What works for me is to find greater pleasure in my future or I will find it instantly right NOW with games, stories, and social validation. If we track our progress toward our goals we find daily motivation and leverage game mechanics, thus replacing the need for games. To replace TV, we face challenges toward our goals which give us our own stories to tell or just entertain ourselves with instead of needing to live vicariously through others on TV. To need social validation less we find validation through achievement. This also is a function of game mechanics where we would count “likes” we see the measured progress, and viola validation!

    Thank you for the opportunity to respond, I hope this adds value to your discussion!
    Robb

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 15, 2015 at 1:03 pm

      Hey Robb, thanks for your kind words.

      You are totally right about everything you said , throwing something out of our lives might not work sometimes if we don’t replace it with something else which should be obviously better. Throwing out a negative habit is just the first step.

      I have to say that this was an amazingly insightfull comment!

      • Robb

        Jun 15, 2015 at 4:48 pm

        Thank you Damian,
        Again, I appreciate the post as well.
        Robb

  9. Damian Pros

    Jun 15, 2015 at 7:30 am

    Hey Usman,

    Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.

  10. Fredrick Mutooni

    Jun 14, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    The three things you listed are exactly oposite of what your talking about. The first two listed as Video games and TV i have no commeents because i have no interest in either. However to say instagram is controlling you is wrong. Yrs back i could not talk to people outside my village. Now i do through social networks. If thats wrong then i let it be wrong but i love it

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 15, 2015 at 7:29 am

      Hey Fredrick,

      I totally agree with you. I agreed inside the article “Social media can be a really great tool to communicate, connect and meet new people or even help your business grow. They have a great power, but you have to use them in the right way”.

      BUT, it depends on HOW you use social media. You are probably using instagram the rigth way. But do you know how many people I see going out for a coffee or a drink with their friends and are scrolling down their instagram timeline instead of socializing with the real people they have in front of them?

      I also see young men in the university wasting time in instagram or facebook when they are in the classroom and they have lesson. Why are you going to the classrom in the first place then?

      I guesst you can see my point..Thanks for sharing your opinion!

      • Abel

        Jun 15, 2015 at 11:13 am

        Great article I believe millions of people in the western world fall victim of this disease unknowingly, in response to Fredrick I understand your point and it`s valid, but I think the author is speaking from a western perspective and his point is very valid and no one from this part of the world can disagree that these things will do you more bad than good. But I think it`s awesome you are able to connect with different people from your village.

        • Damian Pros

          Jun 15, 2015 at 1:07 pm

          Hey abel, as you correctly understood I was referring mostly to the western world. Nice observation.

  11. Damian Pros

    Jun 14, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    Hey lawrence,

    You are spot on about what you said. You don’t have to eliminate them completely but sometimes it’s difficult to find a balance between these activities and your goals. That’s why I suggested to eliminate them completely. Even if you are the most disciplined person in the world you can fall into the temptation and watch 2 hours TV instead of commiting to your goal.

  12. Lawrence Berry

    Jun 14, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    These are truly some things that have made people waste valuable time. They can be really addicting because they are fun to do, but you have to ask yourself, when you play video games or are watching television, are you really contributing to accomplishing your dreams. I don’t think you have to give up these things entirely because we all can use time to ourselves and our hobbies, but definitely limit the time spent doing these activities.

  13. Usman Mahmood

    Jun 14, 2015 at 12:21 pm

    Enjoyed reading this article especially where you highlighted that personal growth occurs because of two main reasons, which is so true. Definitely a good read for the younger generation because they often lose focus and motivation to pursue their goals because of these modern diseases.

    • Damian Pros

      Jun 15, 2015 at 7:30 am

      Hey Usman,

      Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it.

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A few weeks ago, the relationship of my venture with a long-term client turned rocky. Losing them would mean a huge loss for my business, but it appeared like that’s where we were headed. My mind raced with unpleasant thoughts. Maybe the client had figured out that I couldn’t lead my team well. Maybe I was not good enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe I was not good enough to do anything.

Why was the world so unfair?! Within moments, my anxiety had shot through the roof and my heart was racing faster than an F1 car engine. But I know I’m not the only one who feels like this.

Why Problems Overwhelm Us

As human beings, we’re good at solving problems, so they shouldn’t stress us out. Yet, they do just that. Why?

Consider some of these situations in life. When a relationship is headed for troubled waters, we wonder whether our partner loves us anymore. Our mind unearths memories of when we got dumped or rejected. We blame ourselves for falling for the wrong people and tell ourselves that we’re not worth receiving love.

How do you think the relationship will steer after that? If we cannot stick to a diet, we think of other times when we gave up. We remember what people said about things that we couldn’t do and ask ourselves, “were they right?” We tell ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to succeed at anything.

Do you think we’ll find the grit to stick to the diet after this? So here we are… thinking we’re not good enough to be entrepreneurs, to be loved, to get promoted, or to achieve our personal goals. Notice a pattern yet? We move in the wrong direction. The destination is to achieve the goal. And unless we stop giving into emotions and start addressing situations, we’ll keep failing to get there.

Negative emotions (and even extremely positive ones) blur our vision. The more we focus on them, the deeper we go into how we feel. We either get angry because things aren’t the way we want them to be, or get paralyzed by the fear of the worst possible outcome. This means we pull away from the one thing we must do to set things right — take action.

“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.” – Dale Carnegie

How to Take Action in the Face of Problems

Most human beings are good at solving problems. Where we get blindsided is at diagnosing the right problem. To diagnose the right problem, we must address the situation instead of emotions. We must see things for what they are, collect facts on what we’re worrying about, and then ask ourselves, “What should I do next?”

In his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”, Dale Carnegie wrote: “Neither you nor I nor Einstein nor the Supreme Court of the United States is brilliant enough to reach an intelligent decision on any problem without first getting the facts.”

To address the tricky situation with my client, I took the following three steps:

1. First, I acknowledged the feeling

Solving a problem doesn’t mean ignoring emotions. It’s important to acknowledge how you feel because it reveals the path, but domesticating your emotions is more important. I acknowledged how I felt by saying, “I feel anxious because the client might not want to work with us anymore and this will be a financial loss for us.”

Note how I said “I feel anxious” and not “I’m a loser.” If I had given into negative chatter, I wouldn’t have uncovered the direction to move in (the part after “because”). This is why domesticating emotions is crucial.

2. Next, I prepared for the worst

We often run from our worst fears rather than facing them despite knowing that the worst outcome rarely comes true. The result is that we stay stuck in fear instead of pushing beyond it. And we never discover what we’re really capable of, which sucks.

In my case, the worst meant losing the client. It would hurt but it was the truth. However, we could get more clients. Plus we already had other clients who helped us pay the bills. In other words, I wouldn’t have to live on the street.

The moment I accepted this, a huge weight got lifted off my chest. This prepared me for the third and final step.

“Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Lastly, I examined the situation

Examining a situation means setting aside your emotional baggage and focusing on facts. When you trust that you’ll be okay, you become better at diagnosing the real problem. Once I felt lighter, I could see things clearly.

I used the 5 Whys Technique (asking “why” five times) to figure out the real reason for the client’s dissatisfaction. Then I collected data on the issue and on what we had previously delivered.

Finally, I reached out to the CEO of the client and held a detailed and constructive discussion based on my findings. Within four days, the CEO and I were back to the way things were before.

The best way to prepare for tomorrow is to give today your best. I’m not sure whether the issue with the client got resolved for good or whether the client won’t pack up and leave one day. However, I am sure that I’m prepared to handle such cases better today than I was yesterday.

Control your emotions instead of letting them run amok. Accept things for what they are instead of what you want them to be. Be realistic instead of delusional. Address the situation instead of succumbing to emotions.

Don’t preempt what lies ten miles ahead and get paralyzed by fear. Address what lies clearly in front of you and keep moving. One day you’ll be surprised about how close to your destination you are.

How do you move forward when all hope seems to be lost? Share your advice below!

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You know what they say, “Health Is Wealth”. But, more often than not, we only mean it in the context of physical health. There’s no question that being fit is the world’s greatest treasure. Unfortunately, not a lot of us take time out to look after our emotional health and wellbeing.

Let’s not forget – it’s ‘Mind Over Matter’. So, if you are able to take control of your emotions, thoughts, how you feel through the day and how you respond to myriad situations; there’s nothing quite like it. When you become the master of your emotions; health, prosperity, and basically all good things are bound to follow you.

With that said, here are 8 surefire ways that will improve your emotional wellbeing:

1. Practice Mindfulness

Half the time, we don’t even know what we’re thinking or how we’re feeling. That’s because we let our minds operate on autopilot. It’s time to take control of your mind. Be aware of what and how you feel throughout the day. The upside to this practice is that you can detect negative emotions right on the onset and quickly change them and their corresponding feeling.

Feelings of anger, jealousy, hatred; they are not good for the mind, soul, or the body. Paying close attention to the spectrum of emotions you experience throughout the day, will help you detect the negative ones and kick them away before they fester deep enough to take away your happiness and emotional health.

2. Stay Physically Active

As you engage in physical activities, your brain produces a whole bunch of feel-good hormones such as endorphins and dopamine. These hormones are what causes the ‘elated’ or ‘euphoric’ feeling. Being physically active uplifts your mood and your outlook towards life. It readies you to take the challenges more head-on instead of becoming overwhelmed by the littlest of inconvenience.

You are better able to analyze tough situations and take a more proactive rather than a reactive approach. It’s no question physical health is in direct proportion with emotional health. A healthy mind resides in a healthy body and vice versa.

“Caring for the mind is as important and crucial as caring for the body. In fact, one cannot be healthy without the other.” – Sid Garza-Hillman

3. Get Sufficient Sleep

Ever noticed how you feel depressed and cranky, and just out of focus the day you fail to get a good night’s sleep? Well, if you fail to get sufficient sleep for a couple of days, you are bound to feel more depressed, cranky and eventually more prone to a host of negative emotions. Research shows that sleep deprivation sends amygdala – our brain’s emotional response center into overdrive.

Amygdala controls our immediate emotional responses. When it becomes overactive, we become more reactive rather than active. We become more irritable, angry and anxious. A good night’s sleep is vital to improving your emotional wellbeing.

4. Develop a New Hobby

Learn to swim. Try arts and crafts. How about painting? Swimming is a ‘happy’ activity. You get to make new friends and stay fit. Arts and crafts, as we all know, tends to have a relaxing effect on the mind and the nerves.

Just the process of creating something from scratch makes you confident and gets those creative juices flowing. Similarly, painting helps you express yourself. All these factors together create a ‘happy you’. The one who likes to engage in new things instead of resisting change or difficult situations.

5. Eat Healthy

Ever heard of the phrase, “You are what you eat”? Well, it’s true to the last syllable. When you eat foods rich in salt, sodium, fat – you are bound to feel lethargic. It takes longer for the body to digest such foods. That means the body is forced to deprive organs of blood and use it for the digestion purpose.

Result? You become lazy, moody, not ready to take any responsibility which leads to feeling cranky and irritable. On the other hand, eating fibrous vegetables, fruits, salads, and complex sugars keeps you upbeat and healthy.

6. Laugh Your Heart Out

Laughter is the best medicine. That is why they have a dedicated ‘laughter session’ in yoga studios. You don’t even have to mean it. The simple act of spreading your cheeks and pretending to laugh sends a signal to your body that you are happy.

And what happens when you are happy? Your brain releases happy hormones like dopamine, serotonin and what not. In fact, many studies have gone so far as to stipulate that laughter alone is capable of treating all kinds of physical ailments. Why should emotional ailments be any different?

7. Try Relaxation Techniques

‘’Visualization technique’’ where you imagine yourself in a happy place is a surefire way to calm your nerves if you find yourself distressed. You may also try praying to elate yourself. Praying is good for the mind and the soul.

Controlled breathing or ‘biofeedback technique’ are some other relaxation techniques that can tame how you feel and even your bodily functions. Try surrounding yourself with aromatherapy or scented candles because the smell is a big factor in governing how we feel.

“Positive emotional energy is the key to health, happiness and wellbeing. The more positive you are, the better your life will be in every area.” – Brian Tracy

8. Count Your Blessings

We all have so much to be thankful for. It could be a friend who stands by you or a happy family. Good health. Financial freedom. Make a list of all the things that you feel grateful for in your life. If it’s a person, be sure to communicate your feelings and express your gratitude.

You will feel so much happier. Happiness is the diet of a healthy mind and an intelligent emotional response mechanism. You could also try writing a poem or simply expressing your gratitude through the power of prayers.

There are so many ways to become emotionally intelligent and not one of them requires any investment or special skills. Practically anyone and everyone can do it. All you need is the will and the desire.

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