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10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Quitting Your Job

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Admit it? You’ve wondered if you should take the plunge.

You detest working for an unappreciative company every day, you’re un-challenged, and you have no chance of getting promoted, no matter how much you bust your butt.

Maybe it’s time to face the music?

And accept the fact that you’re seriously unhappy in your job, and nothing will change that.

So you can’t help wondering?

Why not do what many others have done before you? Pursue your dream, follow your passion, become an entrepreneur, and be happy?

If the above describes you, then, yes, you should seriously consider that option.

The following 10 questions will help you to get started

 

1. Do I really want to work for myself?

Is this business or entrepreneurship in general really something you dream about?

Or are you just trying to escape something you don’t like, such as your current boss, your daily commute, or your industry?

If you’re serious about entrepreneurship and following your passion, that’s great. But if you’re just upset with your boss, that is not a good enough reason to quit your job and seek entrepreneurship.

 

2. Am I willing to lose my significant other and alienate my friends and family?

If your partner, friends, and family are not fully behind your pursuit of entrepreneurship, it will strain these relationships, maybe even end them all together.

If you aren’t willing to go through these changes in your relationships, quitting your job to pursue your dreams might not be for you. If you are, you may find that the new relationships you develop are what you had been yearning for all along.

 

3. Will I be able to support myself for a year as a Start Up?

The least risky way into entrepreneurship is what Derek Sivers (Founder of CD Baby) calls The Tarzan Technique.

Stay gainfully employed, start your own business as a side hustle, and quit your current job when you can monetize your business.

Like Tarzan swings through the jungle, don’t let go of the old support until you have a firm grip on the new one, and then keep swinging.

 

4. Am I willing to work 80 hours a week?

Like Lori Greiner said,

“Entrepreneurs are willing to work 80 hours a week to avoid working 40 hours a week.”

Starting your own business means you have to do whatever it takes, and that is not always fun.

You will face long working hours and sleepless nights, but all that you sacrifice now is only to have more of it in the future.

If this is too much of a detriment for you, getting into entrepreneurship might not be for you, so keep your job.

 

5. Can I live with failure?

Failure is part of the journey to success; just ask any wildly successful person. They have all failed more than once? Nothing to be afraid of.

You might fail, but it’s a chance to learn and just another stepping-stone to your success.

The only real failure is doing nothing simply because you’re too afraid to make a mistake.

After all, what is the worst that can happen? That you may end up exactly where you are right now.
If you cannot live with failure, entrepreneurship is not for you. If you think you can, great.

 

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6. Can job security totally ruin my life?

Many people see staying gainfully employed as a safer choice.

But it’s probably fair to say that if you spend most of your waking hours living in misery in exchange for job security, doing so would ruin your life.

If questionable job security means more to you than pursuing your dream, starting your own business is most likely not a good idea.

 

7. How disciplined am I?

If you want to be your own boss, you must be able to motivate yourself.

This can be difficult, especially at the beginning when customer demands aren’t yet forcing you to be productive.

If you know you lack discipline, quitting your job to pursue your dreams might not be right for you.

 

8. Does my passion fulfill a market need?

Breaking free, chasing your dreams, and following your passion can be a fantastic thing to do, but if your passion has to pay your bills, you need to look at it as a business too? Or you will be broke.

Remember, clients spend money on services that fulfill their own desires. You can only be happy and financially successful by following your passion, one that fulfills a need the market has.

If there is no market for what you’re passionate about, you should not quit your job as it will lead to financial disaster.

 

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9. What do I suck at?

There must be some stuff you?re not so good at. So what is it?
Before you jump into entrepreneurship, you must have the skills to make your business a success.

Close your skill gap, and brush up on social media marketing and the latest trends.

Staying current is critical to your success. If you are completely unaware of what you suck at, you are not ready to start a business.

In a twisted way, knowing what is holding you back is your best recipe for success, in almost everything.

 

10. Are you willing to put your ego aside for your business?

As a young entrepreneur, you must be able to understand and listen to your customers, process feedback, and improve what’s needed, even if it’s very personal.

And despite all the tippy-toe dances, you still have to be the boss.

Make sure your EGO doesn’t get in the way.

It will probably tell you that you know it all (remember #9), kill your objectivity, and give you tunnel vision.

If you can’t control your EGO, you’re not ready for entrepreneurship yet.

 

What’s the Point?

Do you think you’re ready to quit your job to pursue your dreams, follow your passion, and become a successful entrepreneur?

I’d love to tell you that taking the plunge into entrepreneurship is a breeze.

I’d love to tell you that it’s going to be easy.

I’d love to tell you that you can do it between lunch and dinner.

But you already know that I won’t do that, right?

You have heard dishonest, “How To” advice many times before, but we won’t lie to each other, will we?

Getting out there and creating a future is a big thing, and it’s hard work. But if you answered “yes” to the questions above, it’ll all be worth it in the end.

If you’re ready to take the plunge, don’t procrastinate any longer.

Start now; a life you love awaits you. So hurry up; what are you waiting for?

Wilfried Lehmkuhler is passionate about helping people achieve their dreams; create financial Freedom and a Life they love by applying proven success strategies. Wilfried is a blogger, speaker, consultant, and accomplished author who has worked with professional athletes and businesses in Europe and North America. You can find him at FinancialFreedomAndALifeYouLove.com or @WLehmkuhler

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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