Connect with us

Life

10 Life Lessons Learned From Suddenly Quitting My Job

Avatar

Published

on

what i learned from quitting my job
Image Credit: Unsplash

We all feel lost from time to time. Society has a way of beating us down with its arbitrary life rules and expectations. Just when we think we have it nailed, the rug can be pulled from below and we end up with a crushing realisation that actually, we don’t have it all figured out.

Questions arise, and you find yourself doubting your very existence.

Am I in the right career?

Do I have the ability to rise through the ranks and increase my income?

Is this it for me?

I felt all of this and more. Until the age of 31 I felt trapped in a menial customer service position that began to eat away at my soul. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do, but I knew with absolute certainty that something had to change.

It did. When you back an animal into the corner it has no option but to come out fighting.

I quit my job and it was the scariest moment of my life. Would I sink or swim?

Well, 2 years later I have my own guitar tuition business and while it definitely wasn’t easy – the lessons I have learned on the way will be invaluable as I continue moving forward.

Hopefully, if you’re in a position where you are seeking to change your career or to start your own business, you can take a little something from the following 10 life lessons, such as…

 

Life Lessons Learned From Suddenly Quitting My Job

1. There is no such thing as the right time

Do you have a crazy life changing idea that you are putting off because the time just doesn’t feel right? You’re not the only one. I wrestled with my mind for years before I finally plucked up the courage to quit my job, and you know what?

It was a colossal waste of time.

Preparation is overrated. No matter how much thought, planning and care you put into something, you will always come up short.

Life doesn’t give a damn about how prepared you are. It wants people with the balls to make something happen.

 

2. People will think you are crazy but that’s ok

We’re fragile beings. Our ego likes to protect our little selves from all the bad people in the world. Even though we don’t like to admit it, many of our life decisions are taken because we care about what other people think.

It’s human nature.

After quitting my job it didn’t take long for the naysayers to crawl out of the woodwork and mock me for having ideas above my station. I heard it all;

You can’t do that. How will you survive?

You should have found another job first. You’ll regret it.

You’re insane!

But you know what? You soon learn to ignore the haters and it’s impossible to please everyone, so in future it’s best to just live life by your own standards.

 

3. You learn to become responsible for your own actions

Doing something as drastic as quitting my job without really thinking it through, led me to a profound realisation;

This is all down to me.

I don’t have work colleagues to drag me down or a narcissistic manager to crush my soul on a daily basis. There is no one to blame but myself if this goes down the toilet.

That’s the beauty of taking control of your life; you’re fully in the driving seat and the motivational surge you receive as a result of grabbing life by the balls is astounding.

 

4. Every problem faced becomes an end of level boss to defeat

Is life easy once you quit your safe job for a life of uncertainty? Hell no. It feels like an endless assault on the senses. You’ve heard of treading water? Well imagine treading treacle.

Just keeping your head above the surface is a herculean task by itself. Forget trying to run a fledgling business. Putting food on the table and paying the rent suddenly become the only goals worth bothering with.

But you learn to cope.

And then you look for the next challenge that passes your way. You defeat that one too.

In fact, you quickly learn that life isn’t that hard after all. It’s just a videogame and you’ve got invincibility mode enabled.

You’re bulletproof.

 

5. Life isn’t a linear process – there is no beginning, middle and end

I’ll admit; I believed that once I picked up a few students and started making a bit of cash, everything would sort itself out.

How naïve…

Just when things seemed to be moving forwards I would suffer a setback. The few students I had on my roster suddenly quit. No feedback, no apologies, nothing.

Gone, just like that.

And then I waited.

It took me 6 months before I found a few more students to take their place. That’s a long time to wait around without any proper income. Even now, I have good months and bad months, but I have come to realise that it’s all about the process, not the destination.

Life is too big to concern yourselves with. The present moment is all that counts.

 

6. You can make up the rules as you go along

Who in their right mind would give up a safe job, their own apartment and independence for an uncertain life as a guitar teacher?

On the face of it, it’s crazy. But I’ve always teetered on the edge of conformity – peering over the edge to see what is possible.

Who quits their job at the age of 31 and moves back home? Who starts a degree at the same time because it seemed like a good idea? Who fills their days with German study sessions and rigorous guitar practice when they aren’t working?

Me. I do that, because I can.

I’ve learned that confusing people with your day to day activities just means that you’re doing something right with your life.

 

7. Nobody can order you around, but you still need discipline

I have worked under some ridiculously inept managers in my time. Borderline psychopaths, bullies, bumbling buffoons and many other things that begin with the letter ‘B’; but they all have one thing in common…

They can’t tell me what to do.

Except, this led me to a strange realisation; without the structure and discipline of a full time job I became lazy. I needed my alarm clock and the threat of dismissal for not turning up on time to fuel my day.

This is something I still struggle with. I am slowly improving but the procrastination monster still rears its ugly head from time to time.

I’ve learnt that whatever we choose to do with our lives requires discipline to achieve greatness.

 

8. Fear is necessary for growth

I’ll let you in on a little secret.

Life scares the hell out of me.

I used to think that there was a big difference between successful people and the likes of me. That somehow they were born with superpowers that enable them to surge through life with confidence and swagger.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. Fear doesn’t discriminate. It engulfs us all. In fact, successful people experience more fear than anyone else because they are putting their balls on the line every single day

If you’re feeling scared then it’s a good sign. You are pushing yourself further; stretching your comfort zone and experiencing something new and exciting.

Accept and embrace fear because it’s the friend of exceptional people.

 

9. There will never be enough hours in the day

We always want more.

If it’s not money, then it’s time.

If it’s not time, then it’s success.

If it’s not success, then it’s respect.

If it’s not respect, then it’s money. It’s a vicious cycle – an addiction.

Life is a never ending quest to seek more of what we already have. But here is a novel idea… what would happen if we simply made better use of what we currently have? Of course, seeking to improve ourselves or our life situation is desirable but what is the point of acquiring more money if you can’t manage your current finances?

What’s the point in more time if you don’t make use of what you currently have?

What’s the point in building a reputation if you allow complacency to set in?

Everything; time, money and respect must first be earned and then utilised effectively. Do you only have $50 in your account? Stop binging on fast food and use that money wisely.

Do you only know a few people who trust and respect you as a businessperson or as a brand? Word of mouth is powerful; keep these people on side and you’ll reap the rewards later.

Do you only have 2 hours in the evening to spend with your loved ones? Make those 2 hours count.

Successful people make the best of what they have whilst continually striving to improve.

 

10. Excellence is 100% – everything else is failure

For years I coasted through life – doing the absolute bare minimum. Hoping that no one would notice how my whole existence was a master class in incompetence and laziness.

Everything from playing the guitar, my job, training in the gym and even my social interactions were all accomplished with this mentality. I felt like a fraud.

I needed to change, and fast. To do this I had to take a long, hard look at myself and accept that the only way I was going to be able to achieve anything is with complete transparency.

No more lies. No more covering up the cracks. It was time to get brutal.

I’ve discovered that success is a habit forged through a combination of time and effort. There are no shortcuts. Is it possible to put 100% into one area and then coast in another? For a while maybe, but eventually the lesser activity will start dragging the others down.

Consistency is the key. Eliminate the fat from your life and put 100% into whatever remains. Cement the habit and don’t settle for second best.

Since implementing this mentality my output has improved dramatically. My guitar playing has improved. My business has more students than ever. I’m finding that my studies and my assignments are getting easier. I am training harder than ever before and my diet is in check.

It’s not a coincidence.

By suddenly quitting my job I have finally learned how to live my life.

Try it. See what happens.

 

Gary Vaynerchuk Business Picture Quote

 

Jamie is a guitar teacher, writer and blogger from Bournemouth, England. After choosing to quit the typical 9-5 existence, he created Psycholocrazy to document his thoughts and struggles as he forges his own path in life. Jamie is a firm believer in following your own instincts so go ahead and grab his my free 33 page ebook and find out how to quit your job and live life on your own terms too. You can also find Jamie on facebook and Google+.

Advertisement
38 Comments

38 Comments

  1. Avatar

    Jhasketan Garud

    Jun 5, 2017 at 12:16 am

    Hi Jamie,
    You have been a real inspiration. Thanks a lot.

  2. Avatar

    Rogel Rosas

    Oct 3, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    Congratulation my friend, what an accurate post I totally understand and relate with it all.

  3. Avatar

    Brenda

    Mar 15, 2016 at 11:18 pm

    I quit my job today as well.It was the right decision.I know I need to put my happiness first and it was draining me.Thank you for posting this.

  4. Avatar

    Sri

    Feb 24, 2016 at 1:13 pm

    Hi,

    Thank you. With business plans in my head and many commitments forcing me to stay at a job I hate for 6 years, now after reading your words, i feel free and my mind became enlightened. Why should we need to work for someone to grow? Instead, let us do what we love and we spend time with our loved ones without hesitation of asking permission/leave.

    Love you Jamie Flexman

    Sri

  5. Avatar

    Tega Omisore

    Oct 27, 2015 at 12:03 am

    OMG…I am actually in tears just reading this…i have been in such a confused and fearful state from the time i discovered my passion for my business outweights 90/10 my corporate job. what would people think, what would my husband think, what would the world think if i quit my S**t job and face my business squarely? Now i know that at age 36 I have been denying my true self, i asked myself over and over again, why cant i be like most people who stay in a paid job for 15 years…now i know its because i am EXCEPTIONAL and a true CEO at heart…you have helped me more than you can imagine…Thanks Jaime.

    • Avatar

      Harry

      Apr 25, 2018 at 10:38 pm

      Hi Tega….is there a way to get in touch with you…I am 36 too and want to quit my job and have many questions

  6. Avatar

    Mark

    Jun 19, 2015 at 9:37 am

    My favorite is no.10 – we should certainly strive for excellency in everything we do in life. Customer’s now demand it for all services, and are willing to pay a premium for it.

    Go for it and don’t look back – be fearless – very motivational article

  7. Avatar

    Ruth

    Jan 11, 2015 at 10:58 pm

    This has really changed my way of thinking towards the life I want to leave,I am encouraged and motivated by your teachings,I am taking action to start my new business without fear now,thanks Joel

  8. Avatar

    aziera

    Oct 3, 2014 at 3:16 pm

    i’ve just quit my job as a teacher for 14 years in government sector.Everybody keeps telling me that it is totally a wrong decision.I feel so lost and hopeless thinking of my future. However, after reading your article i feel better and motivated.

  9. Avatar

    Lee Conte

    Oct 3, 2014 at 1:48 am

    really great piece… thank you 🙂

  10. Avatar

    Nyanzi Joseph Gavin

    May 1, 2014 at 7:31 am

    Thank you so much Joel Brown!!! Your site as changed my life around completely. In 5years time I shall be gracing the covers of big magazines like FORBES. Because of the wisdom I have gleaned from this site, my Home-country Uganda is getting better and better. Africa shall never be the same again.

    • Joel Brown

      Joel Brown

      May 1, 2014 at 10:30 am

      Great to hear Nyanzi, thank you for dropping a comment 🙂

  11. Avatar

    rachael.

    Apr 22, 2014 at 1:20 pm

    Sounds familiar everybody thought i had gone psycho wen i first quit my job and some people are still on it n bitter with the same boss same cinditions same salary same everything i thought i couldnt stomach when i got “psycho”
    And am soon quiting this one for satisfaction at a new level

  12. Avatar

    businessstarter

    Apr 9, 2014 at 4:41 am

    Love this, it is a true view of someone that is starting a business that hasn’t got the go getter genes but just follows their heart. This gives me hope and inspiration – thank you

  13. Avatar

    taniya

    Mar 30, 2014 at 5:47 pm

    i want to follow all of them……

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Life

The Surprising Secret About Growth and Change

Avatar

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

Innovation and change drive business growth, but there’s one piece about growth and change that business owners and entrepreneurs often overlook. It’s not the most fun or glamorous piece, but if you recognize and accept it, the payoff is huge. This is particularly crucial for self-employed business owners when there’s little to no separation between yourself and your business. When your level of success equates to how much you have personally developed. I call it Growth Jet Lag, and when you know how to navigate it, you set yourself up for lasting success. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

Practicing Self-Devotion: 3 Ways Towards a More Mindful and Compassionate You

Avatar

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

I can still hear the voices of my older relatives and my elementary school teachers telling me “be disciplined”, “keep at it”, to give time and energy towards what we want. As a young, impressionable child, I believed all those things because well, they made sense. They worked. And honestly, I felt like it’s the only way to flourish. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

Identifying Your Emotions is the Key to Exponential Happiness

Avatar

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

In the weeks and months following the heinous terror attacks of September 11, millions of Americans decreased their domestic air travel. As domestic flying decreased, car travel increased where a study found that people opted to drive longer distances rather than fly. Not taking into account 9/11, there were 331 airplane crash fatalities in the U.S from 1751 crash events. What’s interesting is there were 42,000 driving-related deaths in that same year. The number of deaths in air travel and road travel remained relatively consistent in subsequent years. (more…)

Continue Reading

Life

4 Life Changing Lessons I Learned by Starting a Podcast

Avatar

Published

on

Image Credit: Unsplash

I had, and still have, a message I want to share with those that will listen. Heck, I am even willing to share it to those that are less than willing to listen. Therefore, I decided to start a podcast. A podcast focused on those that feel like the odds are stacked against them when it comes to venturing into those entrepreneurial waters. Those that have an inner belief that they can do it, but perhaps the people around them are less than enthusiastic about this new journey. 

Nonetheless, these Dark Horses, as I call them, buck the odds and run their own race to reach their own dreams and achieve their own goals. Little did I know that as I launched The Dark Horse Entrepreneur podcast, on a mission to teach others the lessons I have learned in business and in life, that I would be in turn learning even more lessons because of stepping out into the podcast arena. (more…)

Continue Reading

Trending