In 2011 my entire life story changed. I went from having nothing and having a disgusting, toxic mindset, to changing my life story and inspiring millions online.
I don’t tell you that to brag; I tell you because if I can do it, so can you.
The reason I changed my life story is because of a website called Addicted2Success. It all started with one new opportunity that I decided not to waste.
I concluded – after hours of personal development – that if Tony Robbins, Martin Luther King and Tim Ferriss can come from the darkest of places, to change history, then so can I.
Here are the 13 super simple, easy to implement tips that can change your life story:
1. Look who you are surrounded by.
The people that you spend time with transfer their beliefs and mindset to you without you even realizing it. Make a list of all the people you spend time with and then put a red line through any who are toxic and bring you down.
Do a second pass through and delete anyone else that is not serving you or always complains. By the end, you should be left with the people to keep. That list will be short and that’s the whole point. You need to make room for new connections and new friends.
This exercise is harsh and so is life. Doing the difficult stuff is how you change your life story.
2. Become a podcast junkie.
Stop being pissed off at traffic or long waits at medical appointments. This forced spare time is a gift. The challenge is most of you don’t use it. You sit there and look at your phone rather than doing something that will alter the course of your life.
Your life story will only change when you get some new inputs and a few fresh ideas. Podcasts are the quickest way to get these free sources of inspiration. During 2011 when I went through a change in my life story, I started by doing short walks around my local neighborhood and listening to audio tapes from Tony Robbins.
His opinions and thoughts were different to everything that people around me were saying. He planted new seeds in my mind that eventually turned into massive success several years later.
“School taught me how to follow the rules; podcasts taught me how to break the rules and forget everything I thought I knew”
Podcasts disrupted my thought patterns and that’s exactly what you need too.
3. Start creating something online.
Building an online presence in what I loved was the start of something new. When I began sharing my message with the world, it helped me refine my thoughts and ideas. I also got to engage with lots of other people who shared their wisdom with me for free because I had given them free content.
Before I changed my life story, I was scared to create something online because I was worried I’d be judged or not good enough.
“As soon as I dropped this superman complex and started creating something online, I became comfortable in my own skin and with who I was”
The story of your life is best told online. Pick a channel (any channel, just pick one!) and then stick to it. Post on their as much as you can. Don’t hold back, be vulnerable and tell stories. This will alter the course of your life.
4. Turn your media habits upside down.
Take your TV and put it in the closet. Replace your daily habits of watching the news with audiobooks or podcasts. Take those endless TV shows that make you stupid and read a book instead. Most of the traditional media is negative because that’s what sells.
“Media is a business to get your attention and make money from you. Disconnect from that Ponzi Scheme and consume media that educates and transforms your life story”
Watch a documentary on Warren Buffett, listen to Oprah’s online show that interviews extraordinary people crushing their field, and see what Tim Ferriss is experimenting with on Facebook.
Just stop consuming endless amounts of information that doesn’t serve you. Focus is key and media will distract it if you don’t make the right decision.
5. Sell your car and buy a juicer.
That’s what Tony Robbins said in a book I read and he’s right. My life story changed when I started to have more energy. Giving my body a metaphorical injection of nutrients every morning stopped me from getting sick, and made me feel like I had just consumed 15 espressos.
If you need to sell your car to buy the juicer, then great. The extra energy you get from juicing will double your productivity which will give you extra income. Within a year you’ll probably have enough extra income to buy two cars. Energy is king.
6. Bounce your way to a new story.
For me to help you create this new life story you’re going to need even more energy. Bouncing on a trampoline gets the blood flowing and your passions started.
You feel good after bouncing (I won’t go through the science of why as Google can tell you that) and it will give you another block of time to listen to podcasts. Bounce baby bounce!
7. Become ruthless with negative talk.
The bloke behind you want’s to chew the fat about how bad his day was? No thanks.
Lunch lady wants to tell you how she lost money in cryptocurrency? Sorry, she’s not qualified and you got enough to think about already.
These meaningless, negative conversations are screwing with your mind. Negative people love to complain yet they forget how lucky they are to have even been born.
If someone starts a conversation with you and it’s not serving you, politely excuse yourself and make something up if you have to. Just escape like you’re stuck in Alcatraz.
“Walking away from negative conversations will teach you discipline and demonstrate to yourself that you’re in control”
8. You’ll never know the answer.
Racking your brain over any obstacle that’s put in your way will chew up time that you could be using to create something phenomenal. No matter how much you plan, you’ll never predict correctly the outcome of every challenge.
So if I don’t know, and if the universe can’t tell you, and your mentors can’t tell you, then don’t worry. Worrying is not going to get you anywhere. Stop getting lost in the desert with no water and take a drink from the fountain of faith. Faith that says:
“I am good enough.”
“I will find the answer.”
“I can be amazing.”
These are the answers you should seek. Believe in yourself.
9. See the world.
With your own two eyes. Not on social media or through your mates Instagram account. This whole “Work Till You Die Hoax” is stopping you from changing your story.
“Warren Buffett spends time every single day doing deep thinking and that’s one of the reasons he’s a billionaire”
Deep thinking happens naturally when you’re traveling. You begin to compare your surroundings at home, with the paradise you’re visiting (Notice I said paradise? That’s because the world is beautiful when you get off the couch and see it).
My 2011 change in circumstances all started when I got out of Melbourne and saw places I had always dreamed of. The subtle art of getting on planes and carrying suitcases through customs became a quarterly experience.
The first trip to Sydney showed me that I could fly 60 minutes and not get trapped in a storm and die in a horrible plane crash. The fear of flying subsided and the love of travel began a new page in my life story. Seeing new countries gives you inspiration and that’s exactly what you need if you’re stuck in a rut and going nowhere fast.
10. Quit your current job.
This one’s not straight out of one of those self-help blog posts that says we can all be rich if we quit our 9-5. That’s BS advice. There’s a good chance though that you hate your current income-producing activity known as a job.
I was at this same point in 2011 and it bugged the crap out of me. So if you really are serious about changing your life story then let’s get serious for a minute and make a decision to quit your job. The cool thing about quitting your job is that you’ll be forced to find another one (unless you don’t like eating). Urgency will motivate you to do something else.
You’ve got to where you are now based on your previous decisions and so we can’t create any change without making some new decisions. The biggest benefits will come from the hardest decisions. The more tough decisions you make in a short space of time, the greater the change in your life story.
We all get bored in our career and quitting your job is how you escape this nightmare.
11. Use the Internet to reach out.
The cliché of “We’re all connected” has been beaten into our head like a boxer that’s taken one too many punches to the temple. We know we can talk to anyone yet we still mingle with the same people. It’s similar to when you go to a seminar with a friend and the speaker asks you to find a partner and you pick the same person you came with.
My life changed when I backed myself and began using tools like LinkedIn to reach out to interesting people that I could create mutual value with. Out of the ten requests you send, probably half of them will be declined or ignored. The rest will probably lead to conversations.
These new conversations will demonstrate to you that anyone can be reached. Therefore, you can access the blueprint for almost any successful person’s life. Then you can copy part of those blueprints and paste bits of them on the pages of your life story.
I’ll say it again: You need new inputs and to mix with different people who won’t accept your lame excuses.
The cold reach out that transformed my life story was thanks to a man named Joel Brown. He’s why I am here today typing these words to you.
12. Experiment with giving.
In the early stages, I gave back through writing blog posts like this one. As my formula for life became more evolved, I started volunteering at homeless shelters. This year I’m taking it a step further and trying to impact the lives of 300 disadvantaged / victims of domestic violence.
Even if you impact only one person, that one person could become the next Mother Teresa. I’ve been like a scientist in a lab for the last five years testing the act of giving. I’ve bought cars and tech that made me happy for a short while, and then I’ve experimented with giving my money and knowledge to people who have nothing.
The second experiment has given me the most growth and fulfillment. The material things literally did nothing to change my life story. Try the act of giving. Watch it transform the story of your life!
13. Give up the perfection game.
Wanting people to follow the rules of how you play the game of life is sabotaging your success. No one is ever going to act the way you want them to so quit expecting this false idea to come true. Accept the fact that humans make mistakes and piss each other off.
Get used to quickly moving on from disappointments that are created by your circle of colleagues and family, and get back to reality. What’s that reality? Creating something that will be remembered long after you’re gone.
Create a blog, business, a family, a charitable cause, speech, a funny stand-up routine.
The story of your life won’t be perfect either so leave your expectations at the door and get to work showing us all what you got. You’re capable of achieving so much more than you have done to date. I want to see you double your results by getting focused and cutting out all the noise.
Life can be full of disappointment or packed with joy and happiness. The story is yours to write so get the pen out and make a decision which one will be true for you.
Go all out. Be you. Change the world.
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19 Success Mantras From Zig Ziglar to Help You Unleash Your True Potential
There’s a good reason why Zig Ziglar is considered by many as the Godfather of motivation. Ziglar did not beat around the bush; he had a clear set of ideas, with easy to implement strategies coupled with powerful tonality and delivery that made him one of the best in the business.
The following is a collection of 19 success mantras from Ziglar that will inspire and motivate you to take the right action and unleash your greatest potential.
1. Create a very specific and detailed goal
“You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar
The first success mantra from Ziglar is to set specific goals, because goals help you focus.
Ziglar wants you to set following types of goals:
- Big goals: Big goals are the type of goals that cause excitement and motivate you. If setbacks happen, focusing on these big goals will help push you forward.
- Long range goals: These can include monthly and yearly goals.
- Daily goals: Daily goals help you work consistently toward your long range goals.
Once your goals are in place, you can develop a plan on how to achieve them. Find out what obstacles you face, the skills you need to learn, and the people you need to meet in order to achieve your goals.
You don’t need to have everything figured out in the beginning. You can alter your goals and plans as you progress and as things become clear.
2. Visualize reaching your goals
“If you want to reach your goal, you must see it, be able to smell, touch and taste it, know how it looks and what it feels like in your own mind.” – Zig Ziglar
Imagination (or seeing things using your mind’s eye) is the most powerful tool at your disposal. You can achieve miracles if you use this tool properly.
So take a few moments daily to relax, clear your mind and actually visualize yourself living the type of life you intend to live. See yourself with the nice things you want in your life such as owning a house or taking a vacation. While you are doing this, bring some emotion into your body to mimic the emotions you would feel when you actually achieve your dreams.
Visualizing this way helps change your attitude, removes limiting beliefs and reprograms your subconscious mind with positive, empowering beliefs, so you can move toward your goals faster.
3. Plan your day first thing in the morning
“Every morning, run through your mind the things you are going to be doing. As you plan the day, as you think of all the things you have got to be excited about, it really does renew your energy.” – Zig Ziglar
A powerful tactic to ensure that you achieve your daily goals is to plan your day first thing in the morning. You can sit in silence and simply visualize all the things you are going to do today and how you are going to do it. As you visualize your day this way, you are filled with positive energy that will motivate you to utilize your time perfectly and take the right action.
4. Develop habits for success
“Motivation gets you going and habit gets you there.” – Zig Ziglar
Ziglar is right in pointing out that, motivation doesn’t last forever, but habits once formed, last forever. As human beings, we are creatures of habit. Habit forming is difficult in the beginning, but it’s formed, you start doing it effortlessly.
In order to reach success, you need to substitute your bad habits with good ones. For instance, a good habit would be getting up early in the morning, planning your day, and working for 1 to 2 hours without giving into distractions. Remember that habits are formed once you repeatedly do something for 21 consecutive days.
5. Believe that you can
“Before you can reach that goals, it is true that whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are generally right.” – Zig Ziglar
If deep inside, you do not believe that you have what it takes to reach your goals, then you will never reach them. Therefore, it is crucial that you believe in your abilities and back yourself up to reach your goals. Whenever thoughts of self doubt arise, do not pay them any heed and instead shift your focus to empowering and uplifting thoughts of self belief.
6. Optimize your mind
“Remember, you are what you are and where you are because of what’s going on in your mind. And you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” – Zig Ziglar
As we grow up, we unconsciously imbibe a lot of negative and limiting beliefs from our surroundings. These beliefs unless discarded will hamper your growth, so become conscious of your limiting thoughts. Study these thoughts and figure out from where they arise.
In other words, what beliefs in your subconscious are responsible for them. Once you are aware of these beliefs, stop giving them power by consciously shifting your attention from the negative thoughts to positive and empowering thoughts. Using affirmations and positive self talk is also a great way to reprogram your subconscious mind.
7. Develop a positive self image
“If you don’t see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.” – Zig Ziglar
How you perceive yourself in your mind’s eye is one of the most important factors that determines whether or not you will succeed.
If you think of yourself as someone who has what it takes to achieve success, you will achieve success, but if you think you are not good enough, you will see your reality reflecting that thought back to you. In-fact, your currently reality is reflective of the self image that you hold within.
Therefore, become conscious of the type of image you hold of yourself in your mind. Ask yourself these questions: How do I view myself? Do I think I am capable of reaching success? Do I believe that I deserve success? Do I see myself as a winner that everyone looks up to?
Simply becoming conscious of your self image can help you alter it from negative to positive.
8. Don’t worry about what others think of you
“Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember ~ the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar
People will always have something to say and you cannot please everyone. Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about other people’s actions and opinions. Keep your attention focused on your priorities because that’s what matters.
9. Learn from your mistakes
“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” – Zig Ziglar
It’s only human to make mistakes. The important thing therefore is to not dwell over your mistakes and instead, ask yourself, what your mistakes are trying to teach you. In doing so, learn from your mistakes, because they are the greatest factors for your personal growth.
10. Always be open to learning
“Life is a classroom – only those who are willing to be lifelong learners will move to the head of the class.” – Zig Ziglar
The moment you think you know everything is the moment you stop growing. In order to succeed, you need to keep growing. Always keep an open mind, and always be open to learning. Do not become a slave to your beliefs, doctrines, and ideologies.
11. Practice delayed gratification
“The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now.” – Zig Ziglar
Studies prove that delayed gratification is a key factor toward achieving success. Make it a habit to not let distractions or short term pleasures take your focus away from achieving your long term pleasures and future rewards. The more you practice doing this, the stronger your self control becomes helping you achieve your long term goals faster.
12. Connect with yourself
“Outside of your relationship with God, the most important relationship you can have is with yourself. We must be healthy internally, emotionally and spiritually – in order to create healthy relationships with others.” – Zig Ziglar
Spend time with yourself. Get to know and understand yourself by practicing self reflection. The more you know yourself, the more you get in touch with your true nature, desires, and goals. Similarly, only by knowing yourself can you begin to know others. Only by loving yourself can you start attracting the right people into your life. All of these characteristics are crucial for success.
13. Spend time in solitude
“If you want to build a winning attitude, you need to take time to be quiet. And you need to do it at-least three to four times a week.” – Zig Ziglar
Ziglar is a major advocate of spending time in solitude. Spending time in solitude helps you reconnect with yourself. It also helps you clear your mind and attract life changing ideas. So make it a habit to spend time alone doing nothing. Spending even a few minutes with your own reflective thoughts can make a huge difference.
14. Surround yourself with uplifting people
“Surround yourself with people who want the best for you and the people you love!” – Zig Ziglar
For the most part, people can be divided into two categories – the lilies and the leeches. The lilies are those who uplift you and leeches are those who drain you.
If you are surrounded by leeches all day long, they will suck your energy dry and you will find yourself feeling a lot less motivated and productive. Instead, when you surround yourself with good people, you will find yourself full of positive energy to take action.
So make a conscious effort to cut out toxic people from your life and surround yourself with people who inspire you to be yourself and who accept you for who you are.
15. Express gratitude
“Of all the “attitudes” we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life changing.” – Zig Ziglar
Expressing gratitude changes your mindset from one of lack to one of abundance. When you feel abundance, you attract abundance into your life. Therefore, every day make it a point to feel gratitude for everything that you have in your life.
16. Value your time and use it effectively
“If you don’t plan your time, someone else will help you waste it.” – Zig Ziglar
Use time as your most valuable resource. This is where planning your day can help you immensely. When you have a set plan in place, you will automatically learn to say no to things that are not productive.
17. Start slow and develop as you go
“Peak performance is dependent on passion, grit, determination, and a willingness to do something poorly until you can do it well.” – Zig Ziglar
You don’t need to have everything figured out from the very beginning. It is also not important that you are an expert in your field of work from the very beginning. You can begin small with whatever you have and develop as you go along. Remember that it is the slow and steady that wins the race.
18. Do not compare yourself to others
“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others.” – Zig Ziglar
In order to reach your goals, it is important that you know your strengths and abilities. Focus on them instead of focusing on your weaknesses. When you compare yourself to others, you automatically start to see things that you lack and lose perspective. Get rid of the habit of comparing yourself to others, and keep your focus on yourself.
19. Be persistent
“If you have the character to hang in there when its tough, you will develop or acquire every other characteristic necessary to WIN in the game of life.” – Zig Ziglar
And finally, the most important of all is to be persistent in your efforts even when the going gets tough.
Ziglar’s book, ‘See You At The Top’, was rejected 39 times before it was published in the year 1975. The book is still in print today and is considered an American classic. Goes to show what persistence can help you achieve. It does not matter how slow you are as long as you are persistent.
Which one of Zig Zaglar’s 19 success mantras resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!
4 Ways You Can Master Magnetic Confidence – Ashley Hann
What does confidence mean to you? For me, it is a deep, unshakable internal knowing of your value, your worth, what you bring to the world and who you really are. I believe that in order to experience our own greatness, we must first know it exists within ourselves. We must believe it in order to see it.
Once you have arrived at this deep knowing, you will be able to experience and exude your own personal magnetism. I define magnetic confidence as the ability to attract anything and everything that is in alignment with who you are and what you want, and repel everything that isn’t.
You become polarizing.
In this Addicted2Success podcast episode, Joel Brown asked me to break down four ways that you can master your own magnetic confidence so that you can create the results you want and live a life in alignment with who you are.
This is a postscript and addition to everything that was discussed in the episode. We hope you enjoy!
1. FACE THE UGLY: Shine Light On The Darkness
Everyone and their mom is talking about positivity and being positive. Now look, I’m all for positivity. I love it. However, what I am seeing is more and more people trying to be positive prematurely. They are painting over their pain with positivity. While this may work in the moment, the underlying issue is not being dealt with so it will keep resurfacing every time it is triggered. What we resist, persists. Plus, when we paint over, repress or sweep things under the rug, we are adding to the darkness within us because secrecy breeds shame.
The only way to overcome our darkness is to shine light on it. Don’t shove it down, hide it, repress it or judge it. See it, accept it and embrace it so that you can move through it.
Look, everyone has a dark side and a light side. This is what makes us human. We must learn to see the beauty in the contrast and channel our dark energy into light. The more we resist this darkness, the more it will build inside of us. We must embrace these parts of us so that we can transform our pain into our power.
2. F*^K WHAT PEOPLE THINK: You Do You, Boo
#FACT: People will judge you.
The quicker you can make peace with the fact that judgement is inevitable, the less it’s going to affect you. The greatest leaders on this planet have judgers, nay-sayers and haters. And guess what? The reason they are great leaders is because they don’t let those judgements or the fear of judgement stop them.
I’m also going to challenge you on something. You ready for this?
It’s not the judgment you’re afraid of. You’re scared of what the judgements might mean about you. You’re making it mean things like “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, etc. Well, do you want to know the good news? You are in charge of the meaning! So why not make judgement mean something that actually forwards you? For me, I let the number of haters be a gauge of my success and how big of a game I’m playing. The more haters I have, the more I know I’m showing up unapologetically in my power and in my truth. This meaning I’ve created forwards me. What meaning can you create?
If you want to be confident, you must reinterpret and shift your relationship with judgement and haters in a way that empowers you. You must let the rude, mean comments drip off of your back like water. You’ve got to let it all push you forward instead of hold you back. Remember: magnetic confidence will make you polarizing. This means there will be people who don’t agree with you, dislike you, and may even hate you… and that’s more than O.K., that’s GREAT.
3. SHIFT THE STORY: Rewrite Your Stories, Rewire Your Mind
You are the sole, uncontested author of your life. You are not a victim. You haven’t been dealt a crappy deck of cards. You have actually been given a very precious gift called life where you have the ability to write your own story and create your own reality.
We are meaning-making machines. We create meanings and stories for just about everything that occurs in our lives. The question is, are the stories you are telling yourself empowering you or disempowering you?
When I find myself thinking something that’s draining my energy and doesn’t feel good, I’ll ask myself: “Can I 100% know that that’s true?” And if the answer is no, then I choose a different story that is also not 100% true, but that actually makes me feel good.
If you’re going to create a story, you might as well create one that feels good and empowers you!
In the episode, I go into a bit more detail on how to do this. I highly recommend you listen because this is a crucial part of becoming your most magnetically confident self.
4. WATCH YOUR WORDS: Eliminate These From Your Vocabulary Now
It’s one thing to think something disempowering, it is another to actually say it out loud. When you think a thought out loud, you are giving energy to the thought. We must be deliberate and intentional about what we choose to give energy to. Your words become worlds!
Here are some words to eliminate from your vocabulary immediately:
- “Have to”
Listen to the full episode at the top of this article to understand why these words are detrimental to your confidence and success. You’ll also learn what you can replace them with that will actually fuel you and boost your self confidence.
If you enjoyed this episode and blog post or if you have anything to add, please leave a comment below.
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How to Be a Selfless Leader in Your Business
Leaders are required to make decisions daily that impact the success of the business and its bottom line. Understanding leadership training key terms can offer insight into core values and principles associated with leading people. Leadership training prepares leaders to recognize a variety of leadership styles prevalent in many organizations, the significance of communication, team building, and establishing a vision.
The following 6 key terms are important to building foundational skills in leadership:
1. Leadership style
Leadership style is the process of exploring the methods leaders use to approach guiding human capital in the workplace or on organized projects. It can encompass persuasive presentation skills that inspires trust, integrity, character, positive role modeling and other behaviors useful when working towards a goal.
2. Vision planning
According to leadership experts, a vision is an idealized picture or snapshot of the future, and vision planning is the ability to communicate core values and articulate a sense of direction by implementing a plan as it pertains to this vision. Organizational vision encompasses a strategic plan that generates motivational impact and leads employees to a specific outcome or shared desired goal.
“A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.” – John Maxwell
3. Team building
Team building is the method a leader chooses to empower a group of people using motivational strategies and guidance to accomplish a specific task. Effective team building must encompass an understanding of organizational culture and the dynamics of teamwork in order to exceed shared goals and objectives.
Communication is the ability to impart and exchange information through the process of listening, writing and speaking. Successful leaders understand that enhancing communication skills not only makes them more effective as leaders, but boosts the company’s success as well.
5. Performance evaluation
An important aspect of leadership training is determining whether the steps taken towards a goal are working. One of the many roles of a successful leader is to appraise or assess the effectiveness of both individual and collective workplace skills and strategies to achieve stated goals.
“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better.” – Jim Rohn
6. Decision making
The term decision making is the process of choosing from several ideas or choices. It’s the practice of targeted determinations that can offer creative problem solving solutions. This is a vital skill in developing potential leaders because it strengthens the use of critical thinking and resourcefulness to make choices on behalf of the company.
How to be a selfless leader in your business organization
Many leaders try to play it safe when leading their business. In other words, they don’t really lead. They are afraid of taking risks and possibly making some people unhappy. It’s important to note that when you own a business, you may make decisions that won’t make everyone happy. Ideally, your culture will be set up so that what you do is transparent and enables people to speak up and share their concerns.
At the same time, people in an organization want their leaders to lead and part of that involves the leader making a passionate commitment to the direction the business needs to go in. When there isn’t clear leadership in a business, then the business is like a ship that is moving in a circle. It’s going nowhere.
A leader must always make it clear that what they are doing is actually serving the best interests of the business as opposed to their own best interests. If people in the organization think that a leader is abusing their position, it can create a toxic situation in the business bringing it down as people leave or sabotage the business.
A leader must be selfless, focused on what will truly benefit the business and the people in it. They must be willing to share the spotlight, instead of taking all the credit and must recognize the value of trusting the talents of the people they work with.
Recently, I was talking with a client of mine. He was having some personnel issues, and I suggested he carefully evaluate the talents of each person involved. After doing that, he made some changes in roles, and the people involved were much happier because they were doing the work that capitalized on their talents.
Throughout this process he was transparent and he made it clear that the changes he was making were for the benefit of the company. Each person involved saw that because the leader was honest and focused on the success of the business. He wasn’t making changes to make it easier for him, but rather making changes that would really help the business succeed. That’s the kind of leadership that is needed when a business undergoes changes or needs to focus on a specific direction.
What does being a selfless leader mean to you? How do you focus on the welfare of your business and show that to the people involved in the business? Share with us below!
Things You Need to Know to Succeed as a Life Coach
Becoming a life coach is one of the biggest choices you will ever make. Your choice in this field will change how you treat your spouse, how you empathize with others, and how you manage your business.
When I decided to make life coaching my goal, I had many steps to take before I reached the finish line and I wasn’t quite sure how to motivate myself to get there. I know that I am not the only one who struggles with staying motivated. That’s why I’m sharing with you the secrets that helped me make my dreams a reality.
Dan Sullivan is the founder of The Strategic Coach, a company that helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. Dan is often considered to be the number one entrepreneurship coach on the planet. If there is anyone who can motivate you to make your dreams a reality and go for gold – it’s him.
Here are the 2 life-changing ideas I learned about becoming a life coach:
1. Keep Selling Yourself
Don’t sell yourself short – but keep selling yourself on your future. Dan Sullivan suggests that the reason why we, as entrepreneurs, can’t focus on achieving our goals is that we haven’t actually sold ourselves on our project or endeavor. I believe this wholeheartedly. We may have listed our pros and cons, we have an ideal outcome, and we may even have a backup plan – but we haven’t truly committed to our goal.
In order to properly take advantage of an opportunity, we must be focused. There is no doubt that we live in a new age of multi-tasking. We watch videos while we respond to e-mails, we’re glued to our phones when we’re out on dates with our spouses – we even have the option to have two multi-tasking windows open on our smart devices so that we can do different things at the same time.
But studies show multitasking accomplishes less in the long-run. Multitasking reduces both our performance and efficiency. Dan suggests instead of trying to do everything at once, sell yourself on three tasks a day. The next day, sell yourself on three more. This will help you to have more focus and drive on what you are doing. You will accomplish more and feel better about fulfilling your goals.
2. The 3 Wins are Everything
Dan suggests that positive focus is everything when it comes to succeeding in business. That’s why he developed “The 3 Wins” mindset. After the day is done and you’re getting ready for bed, focus on three wins you had. By focusing on the three things you did right, you practice gratitude in your personal life. You set goals, reach them, and then celebrate them – no matter how small! This can help you have a more positive mindset going forward.
Dan Sullivan explains, “I would look at tomorrow… and I’d say, ‘Well these are gonna be my three biggest wins for tomorrow’. So, I would go to bed feeling good about the day, excited about the next day, and I would get up the next morning excited. So, then I would go out that day and try to have to three wins, but often times what happened is that I had wins that were bigger than the three I imagined the night before.”
The feeling of accomplishment is addictive. Not only does it feel great to get work done and accomplish our goals, but it encourages us to keep working hard in life. We work hard to grow our business, to maintain a healthy marriage, and to give our clients our best. By focusing on The 3 Wins, we view each day as a new opportunity to stay motivated and achieve something great.
Along with these life-changing ideas, here are some other great tips for anyone who is thinking of becoming a life coach.
1. Rapport is Essential
When you are becoming a life coach, you learn that your ability to have a rapport with your clients is just as important as the chemistry you felt with your spouse when you first started dating. Are you good at striking up a conversation? Do you have a knack for getting people to trust you or open up about their problems? If so, then you will be a natural at building your entrepreneurial business because your ability to connect with your clients is important.
2. Ask the Important Questions
As a life coach, it’s your job to ask the hard questions. This means that you must be intuitive about your client and really get to know and understand their thoughts and intentions. Only then can you help them reach their life goals.
3. Get Comfortable with Silence
Silence between two people can be the most uncomfortable, awkward, cringe-worthy experience, but as a life coach, it’s your job to let it happen anyway. When there is silence, your client will be eager to fill the void, which often leads them to show vulnerability and really work through their issues.
4. Don’t Take Things Personally
Your clients are not always going to gel with you. This may cause them to leave your services. Don’t take it personally. Alternatively, you may have a great rapport with your client, but that doesn’t always mean that they will take your advice. This can be frustrating for you, but don’t let it overwhelm you. Instead, look at it as an opportunity to continue building trust between you and your client.
You can make becoming a life coach a reality. Stay motivated by selling yourself on new ideas and strategies every day. It’s also beneficial to remind yourself of your three wins and always strive to keep growing and getting better. By becoming a life coach, you show people that you care, have an excellent rapport, and aren’t afraid of the hard questions – or the silence!
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