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Hate Your Job? 8 Steps to the Career of Your Dreams

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At one point or another, everyone has found themselves wanting to quit their crappy job.  Whether it’s the long hours, mundane work, or the manager who doesn’t treat you like a human being- we’ve all been there!

Here are 8 steps you can take to free your mind and nail your dream job:

1. Leave your job happier than you found it

In many of the “crappy job” scenarios, you’re not the only person at your job who doesn’t like it. It can be very tempting to engage co-workers in gossip and negativity, especially if you know you’re about to quit. Even if your job is beyond reconciliation for you, it’s always a good thing to leave a place happier than you found it.  People will remember how you made them feel, and this could make a difference at a later time in your career.

2. Go with the flow

Yes, your boss’s demands are ridiculous. Yes, you are underpaid and overworked, but what you resist, persists. When your work becomes more of a chore than a passion, let it! By resisting what you don’t like, you are focusing on what you don’t want and you are ultimately aligning yourself with more of that reality.

If someone on your job is crossing a boundary with you (i.e. workplace bullying, harassment etc.), that’s different, and you should definitely speak up to the appropriate authority figure and/or remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.

However, in the case of non-human rights violations, by taking the path of least resistance, you will preserve your energy for focusing on the things you are excited about when searching for your dream job!  Life is all about perception, so take tough moments as an opportunity to remind yourself of how excited you are to look for a new and more aligned opportunity.

3. Why do you really not like your job?

This step is important! If you know why your current situation is problematic for you, you can decide more clearly what you actually ARE looking for in your next position. I’ve witnessed friends and co-workers over and over who look for a new job out of desperation, thinking anything will be better than this!  Unfortunately, they hadn’t actually decided on what they were looking for so they ended up taking the first offer that came along and 6 months later…same boat.

Take your time, and choose wisely! Jobs are not band-aids, and can drastically affect your quality of life. Ask yourself: Did you outgrow the work? The position? Maybe you need more of a work-life balance? Whatever the case, vow to make your next job, and not let your next job make you!

“You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.” – Sammy Davis, Jr.

4. Make friends with the unknown.

Searching for a job can be scary in a world that will constantly tell you how hard it is. But the truth is, even though there are infinite ways the unknown can challenge you, there are also infinite ways it can bring you exactly what you desire.

Stay focused on the vision you have for yourself, as your ability to do this will determine the manifestations that come forth. Watch videos about folks who landed their dream job. Read about people that leaped headfirst into their dreams! Do everything you feel inspired to, and know that the universe is conspiring with you!

5. Get excited about life.

The workplace can become a bit of a fishbowl, and it’s easy to forget that there’s a whole wide world out there. While you are job hunting, challenge yourself to think outside of the cubicle you’ve been sitting in. You will begin to open up your perception to potentially fulfilling opportunities that you may not have noticed otherwise. This moment is just another junction on the road of life, and you now have the chance to realize much more of your potential.

6. Have FUN with your job hunt.

If you are a funny person, and you don’t get hired because you made a joke in your interview- you will likely not enjoy working there anyway. Take it as a positive and keep pushing! Remember, you are interviewing your potential employer as much as they are interviewing you. By being yourself and interviewing for a position you believe is a true fit for your skill set and personality, you have a greater chance of feeling confident when presenting yourself.

7. Rejection is a good thing.

If a potential employer doesn’t think you are “the right fit for us at this time,” there are still countless opportunities for you to get a job that’s equal or better. Next time someone turns you down, remember this: it’s impossible to take something away from you that is in alignment with you.

So really, it’s not the “no” that determines how far you get, it’s how you perceive the “no”.  If you hold on and look at rejection as a reflection of your self-worth, you are likely to carry that vibration to your next interview, or even (God forbid) decide to stay where you are.

“Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions.” – Harvey Mackay

8. Stay positive.

Before I tell you why being positive is so important, let me first tell you what being positive actually means. For many, being positive means pushing their sadness down and holding onto the appearance of happiness such as telling themselves it’ll be ok, even if they don’t really feel that way.

What being positive actually means: face the perspectives that are holding you back.  Empower yourself to become aware of the thoughts you are thinking most often. Only then can you begin to tell yourself a new story.  

Choose a new job and a new perspective that excites you. You will be of the most service to yourself and to the world when you are emitting joy and passion!

What is the career of your dreams? Let us know in the comments below so we can find ways to help!

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Chloë DeChelle is an Empowerment Coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She teaches concepts based in Eastern philosophy, Quantum physics, and law of attraction with a heavy emphasis on empowered and conscious creation.  Her philosophy is simple "By being aware, we are always adding momentum to experiences. Why not choose what experiences we add momentum to?" To find out more about Chloë, visit her website or follow her on Facebook.

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  1. Harold Mulemena

    Nov 8, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    This is life changing stuff especially when it comes to decision making and being accountable for the choices we make in life. I really need stuff which will help me become an entrepreneur and not an employee.Looking forward for your assistance with information that will drastically change my life.

  2. DB

    Nov 6, 2017 at 9:33 pm

    very inspirational and motivating post! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Manish kumar

    Nov 3, 2017 at 5:40 pm

    Great post. Just loved reading it. Solves half of my problems. Thank you for sharing this.

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But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

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Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

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Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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