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6 Big Reasons Why You Should Quit Your Job And Follow Your Passion

Joel Brown (Founder of Addicted2Success.com)

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You are probably not satisfied with your job. You want to be successful and you feel that this can only happen if you draw up a resignation letterquit your job and follow your passion. Many people in this situation fear to venture out for the simple fear of how things will work out after they quit their jobs.

Quitting your job to follow your passion can have a lot of advantages especially if you put fear of the unknown aside. 

It is not easy quitting a job, but it could be well worth it.

The following are 6 good reasons why you should quit your current job and follow your passion.

 

1. You Will Get Fulfillment

When you pursue your passion, you will most definitely find fulfillment in what you do. You get the satisfaction of doing what you always desired to do. Remember, fulfillment is not only in money. There are many people who earn huge salaries but don’t find any personal fulfillment. This is simply because they are not living their passion.

In order to be successful, you must take immediate action with the sole intention of fulfilling your passion.

 

2. You Will Always Get Pleasant Surprises

By taking a firm decision of moving out into the world outside your constraining job, you never know what awaits you. But the good thing is that this action opens up immense possibilities, some of which you might not even have thought about. You go to places that you probably never imagined you would. You also meet people who are willing to welcome you and help you on as you pursue your passion. It is never as bad as it seems. But you can never realize the surprises awaiting you if you don’t venture out.

 

3. You Build Your Own Empire

life picture quoteWhen you are employed, most of your time and energy goes into building the fortunes of someone else. What you get in return is only a salary. This is not what you desire if you want to be successful. You have to build your own empire. But you cannot achieve this when you dedicate the best of your time and energy to the economic affairs of someone else.

With employment you miss so many opportunities of building your own personal success. There are very many options to be explored if only you dedicate most of your time and energy into it. Your thoughts will be more focused when you are thinking of fulfilling your passion. But your job could be the hindrance preventing you to make this great leap to freedom and success.

 

4. You Will Not Be Vulnerable

When you get a job, you hope that you will work smoothly until you retire. This is not the case these days. While having a job is good, in the current state of the economy one cannot be guaranteed of job security. Most employees are now at the mercy of the economy and their employers. They are increasingly vulnerable. But by following your passion you are in control of yourself. And with control you will have security and peace of mind.

 

5. You Will Be Empowered

In order to be successful you need to be empowered. This is may not be possible if you remain in your current job. To be empowered means that you must create your own reality using the immense potential in you. By quitting your job and pursuing your passion you are able to break the monotony of your current job and create your own reality. Taking control of your own life becomes immensely empowering.

 

6. You Will Be a Great Person One Day

Success does not happen overnight. Most personal success stories speak of people who painstakingly worked hard from humble beginnings without ever giving up or looking back. You do not have to compare yourself to others who have achieved success in your particular field of passion. They most probably did not compare themselves with those who attained success before them. You just need take small steps of faith and confidence and they will lead you to your greatness. Trust the skills you have and work on them. Eventually, you will realize that it was easier than you imagined when you were starting.

By quitting your job you will pursue your passion without distractions, you will meet new people, explore new places and change your life for good.

 

Checkout Doug Walker/Nostalgia Critic, he quit his job and now runs a very successful website by the name of: thatguywiththeglasses.com If you’re gonna quit you job, why not go out in style.

 

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Have you quit your job to follow your passion? Please share what happened in our comment section, we’d love to hear your story.

 

Article By Joel Brown | Addicted2Success.com

I am the the Founder of Addicted2Success.com and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances. I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 100 million lives in the last 6 and a half years.

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54 Comments

  1. Bhushan Chavan

    Nov 15, 2017 at 5:50 am

    Great Article !! but sometimes it’s really hard to cope up with our passion because sometimes it’s really hard to make money from your passion and as time pass by your passion will change time to time.
    Thank You.

  2. mia

    Feb 3, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    The only thing it’s hard to do this when you have a family to support. Creating a business takes time and financial support is needed. What about the ones who have to stay in a job for financial reasons but would also like to do something of their own? This point is one that is always missed.

  3. Calvin

    Feb 21, 2014 at 6:11 pm

    Actually yesterday I quit my job to pursue my own company and passion, today my partner and I suffered our first rejection. Things look kinda scary now. But Monday we meet with new potential clients and the world is a big place full of opportunities. While I feel fear, I still feel so much better finally working towards my dream and not someone else’s for a horrible salary. Good luck to others taking the plunge.

  4. Matt

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:50 pm

    One more comment – Joel has a picture quote here on his website that struck me that goes along with his article here. It is very akin to number 3 in the list. This saying is by Tony Gaskins Jr. – “If you don’t build your own dream, then some else will hire you to build theirs” – I think that says it all.

    • Clarke

      Dec 20, 2014 at 4:08 pm

      You’re correct. If I can put 100% to someone else place of employment, I can do the same for me. I resigned from my job on October 31 of this year.

      I wish everyone the best in their future endeavors.

  5. Matt

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    Everyone here – don’t misunderstand Joels article. He is just saying that you should follow your passion and it will make you happier. This is true. He is not saying you “have” to jump in with both feet. If your circumstances warrant, start out part time and work you way up. There have been may many people that have started that way. My favorite is Pro Blogger Darren Rowse took 3 years to go full time and nothing says you can do that either. Joels’ point in this is article is JUST START.

  6. jose

    Jul 22, 2013 at 5:46 am

    Hi, i do think that quitting jobs is fine as long as you know exactly what you want to do, have an action plan and the will to execute on it. Attaning financial discipline doesnt hurt either, especially in the first days of your new adventure.

    It strikes me how vacuous the word “passion” has become nowadays, as people seems to use it to describe something they probably only like. Most worrying is the fact that people keep giving advice to quit your job so you can follow your passion and become “what you ever wanted”

    One should be able to follow their passion no matter what, no matter your job, no matter your family, no matter anything, even if its only for you, as an UNPAID hobby . If its truly a passion, you should already be doing it now instead of “waiting for the right moment”

    But maybe the passion is there (or at least a higher goal) and for one reason or other, you havent started. Before quitting jobs, I would suggest one last exercise just to check if you are talkin about a passion or just a small infatuation: On any given month and during a month… can you come back home from a day-work, and work for 2 or 3hours in that thing you say you love, and feeling happy about it? by happy i mean that you want to come home just to keep doing that… after the month passes, multiply the result by the rest of your life; can you imagine yourself doing the same thing until you die? if the answer is positive, then Congratulations! there is a good chance that you found a true passion (wether it can be succesfully monetized is another question). If any of the answers are negative, even if you could endure the whole month, it might be a good idea to wait a little bit more.

  7. Heather

    Jun 12, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    I was struggling for a longtime with the decision to quit my job and follow my passion (I have been at my job for 10 years now) but after reading this my struggling is over!. With in the next couple of weeks I will be quitting my job to follow my passion and I am so EXCITED!!! about what new opportunities awaits . Thanks Joel for writing this article I asked the universe for a sign that I was making a good decision and it sent me this article. 🙂

    • Antonina

      Jul 6, 2013 at 5:54 pm

      Me too, Heather, it’s late at night and I’m reading Joel’s article again and again trying to find support of making decision to quit my job. Thank Joel for such an encouraging article. Life is to short to be unhappy. Let’s make a change. I’m going to quit by the end of this month – a job I’ve been working for 19 years. I guess you have had quitted by now. Wish you all the best.

      • Joel

        Joel

        Jul 6, 2013 at 6:09 pm

        Good on you Antonia, make sure you have a clear and precise plan of how you will generate your money and follow your passion.
        Much success to you Antonia!

        • Antonina

          Jul 7, 2013 at 3:37 pm

          Thank you Joel. All the best to you.

      • Heather

        Jul 8, 2013 at 2:38 pm

        Hi Antonina, Thanks for the reply and yes I handed in my resignation letter last Friday! 😀 I feel such a peace my Boss wasn’t to happy but it doesn’t matter my dreams and passion are more important. I had invested 10 years building someone else’s dream now I’m going to invest in my life and build and go after my passion. I am so excited for you to quit your job its takes courage and you have got it! 🙂 thanks for the support and I am with you Lets make change! Keep me posted and I am supporting you 100% to quit your job and start following your passion! Wish you all the best as well.

        Thanks again Joel for the article!

  8. John J. Cloran

    May 1, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Sometimes stuff happens in life when we usually don’t expect it to happen.
    Some things we can control and some things we do our best at. I’m passionate and greatful for all things in life.I love my job there’s nothing like finding some one a job. I did what I had to do to change some things in my life.I’m a 55 year old gentleman. I went from making 40,000 thousand down to 21,000 in six years. Every morning I wake up and am grateful for my job!!!!

    • Mariely Pratts

      May 27, 2013 at 3:34 pm

      I felt so good when I quit my job to start building my company and so far it’s going well

  9. Boss

    Apr 27, 2013 at 7:50 am

    When I got my 1st job I gave myself 10yrs of working in corporate to learn the tricks of the trade. On my 13th year annivesary (7months ago) I realised that I was 3yrs behind on the plan, and I was appalled at myself for being so complacent, that I immediately resigned and walked out on the spot. I have now started building my dream running my own investment company with interests in various operations. Its still touch and go and painstakingly slow, but every monday morning I’m grateful I’m doing something I’m passionate about. All I can say is don’t settle for what aint yours.

  10. toy

    Apr 1, 2013 at 12:09 pm

    I’m planning on quitting my job in July so far I’ve been saving my money…I’m a music artist who writes and produces. I recently got my logo trademarked and I’m a little nervous to quit. But I’ve been there for 7 years no raise, no benefits no promotion. Im very unhappy. My rent is cheap and I could always bartend.

  11. Laura

    Mar 20, 2013 at 12:48 am

    I quit mi job almost 3 years ago. I was a travel agent, but my dream was to travel the world on my own, and write about it. It took me some time to make my final decision, but it was worthy. Now, when I hang out with my ex collegues and hear them complaining about the same situations over and over again, I feel I made the right choice. I don’t make as much money as I used to, but I feel very happy. I write for a couple of magazines and I’m about to get my 1st book published. This is my dream job…Hope I build my own empire one day!

  12. V

    Mar 2, 2013 at 3:02 am

    I have recently resigned from my job which I have had for five years. After two years of a great internal struggle about all the reasons why I need to stay with a job that was leaving me unchallenged and unfulfilled, I am finally ready to take this step. I am genuinely excited at the prospect of a new chapter unfolding and trust myself and the universe that this is a great move for me. I am ready to take a leap of faith into the unknown because the pain of staying where I am (stuck) is far greater than trusting my gut (and heart) to follow my dreams and do what I want to do in my life.

  13. Suzy

    Jan 26, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    I quit my job in June of 2012 and have had the most incredible 6 months so far! I was burnt out in my job, even though it was a great company and I miss the people and the clients, I have never been happier. My passion is helping people and through volunteer work and my coaching business I get to help people everyday! If you are stuck in a rut, I highly recommend a change.

    • kellen

      Jun 4, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Hi Suzy. What kind of tips can you provide on starting a coaching business.

    • Amyb

      Sep 29, 2014 at 9:41 am

      Hi Suzy, what your passion is exactly what I want to do, but I don’t know how to make a start up.

  14. Quornesha Silas

    Jan 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Thanks for this article very eye opening and confirming! #props

  15. Our Hero

    Jan 11, 2013 at 12:43 am

    I haven’t given my job a dear John yet,(it’s not you,it’s me…) but I have cut down to part time. It’s going slow and every day I question if I made a mistake… but we are hanging in there.

  16. Julie

    Jan 11, 2013 at 12:29 am

    Easier said than done. What if you hate your job but make a lot of money, are a single mom and have no family? My passion is fishing and art – doubt I could make what Im making now, not incl 401k match, dental & medical insurance…. 🙁

    • patty

      Jan 24, 2013 at 10:24 pm

      Julie – you can… I am doing that… you gotta be hungry like Les Brown says and find a way.

      i chose an at home business, there are very reputable ones out there if you take the time to review the company, and what it has to offer.

  17. Your1440.com

    Jan 3, 2013 at 6:09 am

    Life is simply too short to be miserable. If you are truly unhappy at your current place of employment, then it is probably time to move on. When and how you move on is up to you, but please do not waste too much precious time before finalizing this decision.

    Time is the most precious commodity that we have. Make the most of the time that you have been given, and change your world for the better! You CAN do it!

    -Your1440.com

  18. Drew

    Jan 3, 2013 at 4:32 am

    Great post. I hope everyone reading this declares 2013 as the year to take action on your passion and find the work you love to do! Passion Changes The World!

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I’ll Tell You How To Be Confident Without The Self-Help BS: You Just Do It.

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One of the most popular topics on blogs right now is content about how to have more confidence. It’s driving me bonkers! I’m unsure what the fascination is with the subject.

Having gone through the whole confidence battle myself and come out the other side on top, I think I can share a few things that will help everybody.

 

Act as if.

Rather than be caught up in the foreplay of overthinking, considering and asking too many questions, just do.

“Quite simply, what has worked for me is to just get on with the task and tell myself I’m becoming an expert while being in motion”

Getting going is the part we’re all missing when it comes to confidence. You can’t be confident unless you get some experience at whatever you want to be confident at. This advice sounds simplistic because it is.

I’ve become more confident over the last five years by running up miles in the beaten-up VW Beetle that was my mind and body. Through gaining experience, I turned that VW Beetle into a Lamborghini by trying things and executing.

There’s no pretending when it comes to confidence. You only start to believe you are confident when you begin taking action. I could probably wrap it up right there and you’d be done when it comes to confidence. No more self-help secrets and private masterminds are required.

Act as if you are already confident and your mind will believe you. Your mind only believes what you tell it. Tell your mind you are confident and you will gain more confidence in the execution. That extraordinary mind will then do as you tell it.

 

Sit up and stand up straight soldier!

I always believed this one was total hocus pocus or maybe even a Jedi Mind Trick. It’s not. Confidence is also in the way you move. People feel confidence in you through your presence. If you need to perform at 110% in say a speech as an example, you have to stand up straight and physically be confident.

Now this is harder than it looks so here’s what I did: I stood on the stage with my back straight. I then rolled my shoulders back and poked my chest out slightly. Each movement on stage was acted out as if I was Arnold Schwarzenegger posing for the Mr Olympia Final (that’s hard as I look nothing like him but stay with me peeps).

Simply having a confident physical presence allowed the audience to be confident with the words and advice I was delivering. Even if each point I presented was not completely thought through, the effect was still the same. I came across as confident.

So, next time you want to be confident, try this out for yourself. Pick your own hero who’s oozing confidence, to be the person you imagine when you go into your confident pose. No matter how ridiculous this seems, it works. Don’t question, just do.

 

Self-talk is key: three words to confidence.

Okay, let’s not overdo this confidence lesson. The self-talk in my head when I need to be confident is very dumb and easy to copy. The three words I use are:

“You got this!”

Say those three words whenever you need to be confident. Say them over and over until they drown out your negative inner voice that wants to doubt your ability.

“Doubt is the disease that sabotages your confidence”

I had no idea about blogging as an example. I just believed I’d find a way and I did. My doubting brain told me that I was hopeless at English and couldn’t master grammar to save my life. That aside, I just used these three words to silence the inner critic.

Your inner critic is only right if you let it be. Back yourself. Talk to yourself like a winner (not a loser) and you’ll have more confidence. No need to buy that book on confidence anymore. No need to read another self-help, pump up blog post that gets you all warm and sweaty.

 

Disconnect from the outcome.

Confidence is about putting the outcome aside. Everything you do is a lesson and will give you confidence. Being tied to the idea of what the outcome looks like allows your doubting mind and your inner critic to come back to the main stage of your attention.

Where your energy flows to, is where your focus goes. Focusing on anything other than being confident about your daily battles will give you the results you hate. Nine times out of ten you can’t control the outcome anyway.

So focusing on doing your best and being confident will take you so much further. Like I keep saying “You got this!”

Swag it out like whatever outcome you achieve is phenomenal because you are incredible for waking up each day and just giving it a crack!

 

Say yes and learn later.

Confidence comes from saying yes and deciding to figure out the strategy later. If an offer or idea resonates with you, then say yes. You’ll find yourself gaining more experience by doing so. My superman complex used to make me carefully think about each offer I was presented with to assess whether I had the skills and capability.

Now I choose offers and proposals that bring me joy instead, and I use my newfound confidence to say yes, and know that I’ll learn what I need to execute properly along the way. Failing that, there’s someone I know in my network that can fill any blanks in regardless so I’m very unlikely to fail.

BUT even if I fail it’s all good because I still learned heaps, got experience and had fun in the meantime. All of which made me more confident. Confidence is unstoppable when it starts to compound through experience and taking action.

 

Remember that all of us have no idea including me.

This was something I learned through a podcast. If you look at your heroes and get to know them as friends, you’ll quickly realize, like I did with my own heroes, that they have no idea. Your heroes just act as if and see what sticks.

When approaching any goal with this in mind, you find an inner confidence to have a go and see what happens.

“When you realize we’re all flawed, it sets you free to try stuff and execute on a few wild goals that you may not succeed at”

I have no clue about most things and that’s where the beauty lies. Stop idolizing and be confident in your ability to get sh*t done.

 

We’re all extraordinary when we believe we are.

Belief in yourself is key to having confidence. The truth is that all of us can be extraordinary no matter where we come from, our nationality, the struggles we’ve gone through, what books we’ve read or who our current friends are.

The opportunity to be extraordinary exists for all of us. Let this very idea give you the confidence you need to change the world because you can.

You don’t need more self-help articles on confidence: You need to understand you’re already extraordinary.

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2 Ways To End Suffering Forever.

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This year I have learned so much. I’ve learned that we all suffer no matter what. No one can avoid it. That’s not what I want to share with you though. What I want to tell you is that you have the power to end suffering.

I have proven it in my own life. We don’t need to suffer. We can end it all and the silly thing is it’s so simple. I do not want you to avoid this advice any longer. I want you to use it even if you think it’s a load of mumbo-jumbo.

Here are the two ways I’ve found to end suffering forever:

 

1. Find a way to give to other people.

You only suffer when life is all about you and your success. Once you move from being all about you, into a state of mind that is focused on giving, your problems become insignificant.

I had a couple of situations this year that have nearly knocked me flat on my ass. One was my romantic life falling to pieces and the other was my career collapsing. When both these events occurred, I used giving to other people as the way out of the maze that my mind created.

The moment suffering begun, I went straight to finding ways to serve other people. I helped friends with their businesses, I spoke at events to inspire people, I did some volunteering and I doubled down on my blogging so I could inspire as many people as possible.

Shifting the focus away from what was wrong and using my focus to give to others ended the suffering.

“There wasn’t time to suffer because the purpose of my life during those months was far bigger than me and my stupid life challenges. Giving to others gave me a way to find happiness when I probably would have hidden away and suffered in silence”

Seeing the solutions to other people’s problems and sharing them, gave me a way to put my career and relationships into perspective.

Giving is the example you need when times get tough and things get complicated. You suffer the most when you get stuck in your head and repeat the pattern of telling yourself how wrong your circumstances are.

Suffering can make you depressed, feel lonely, become selfish, go into a downward spiral and take away everything that’s good in your life.

Finding ways to give on the other hand, can cure all of those problems. I know it sounds so cliché what I’m saying but it surprises me how many people never use this strategy. Like I always say: the answers we seek are right in front of our nose.

Next time you feel yourself suffering, get out of your head and try this strategy.

 

 

2. Practice gratitude.

Okay, I thought this strategy was so dumb when I discovered it. It’s so obvious and it sounds way too easy. I mean how can writing down a few things you’re grateful for really end your suffering?

I mean you could lie to yourself and pretend that you’re grateful for something when you’re not. Well, that’s exactly what I did at the beginning. When I was suffering this year, I started writing down three things each day that I was grateful for.

In the first week, I lied about things I was grateful for and found the exercise completely ridiculous. This advice is so common that I decided to persist with this ridiculous self-help hack anyway.

What I found as I kept doing it was that your brain makes a shift subconsciously. Instead of being pissed off and suffering, your brain has to work extra hard to find three things every day to be grateful for.

To make this habit work even better I forced my brain to describe in detail each thing I was grateful for and ideally why. Some days sucked so bad that I thought I would never find three things. Once the challenge became a must, I spent my days working my butt off trying to find things I was grateful for.

While doing various activities during the day, I’d find moments when I was grateful for something and stop. I’d stop and see how I felt at that moment and I would have a mini celebration because I knew I had something for my gratitude list.

Then I tried to aim for five things each day instead of three. This shifted my focus even more. I should have been suffering but because I was forcing myself to see good things that were happening to me, I was distracted.

As I said earlier, this new habit seemed so dumb at the beginning. Once you really do it for a while, you see how it has the power to end suffering. You can’t be pissed off and be grateful at the same time. So, choose gratitude and then your suffering will be sidelined, and in my case, forgotten about.

 

***Life doesn’t need to be full of low points***

The suffering that we all experience is a choice. It probably doesn’t seem like that but these two hacks will demonstrate this to you. Your decision-making power is incredible and all you need to do is select one of these hacks to end suffering.

Don’t let the quality of your life be jeopardized by your default human mode to suffer. You’ll find these two hacks will not only end your suffering; these two hacks will give you purpose.

Here’s what I learned: most people are pissed off and suffer because they have no purpose. Once you find a purpose for your life, you’ll become addicted.

Now that’s a huge win don’t you think? You can end suffering and find purpose, all by using these two hacks. That’s the best gift I can give you.

Don’t just read this advice. Try these two hacks yourself.

It’s time to end suffering forever.

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7 Steps to Conquering the Fears That Are Holding You Back From Success

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I remember the day in vivid detail. I was on a weekend trip visiting my girlfriend at the time in Arizona. She had decided that we should join her friends to go “cliff jumping.”  We were early on in our dating and she obviously had no idea that I was not fond of heights. So “cliffs” and jumping off of them… No thanks!

I inevitably found myself on the edge of a 40-foot cliff peering down at a vast blue canvas of water. Then I realized if I didn’t jump, I’d have to start the walk of shame back down the cliff. This was a lose-lose situation for me.

Fear had me. I didn’t want to jump, but I also didn’t want to look bad in front of my girlfriend’s friends. So I jumped and in that moment, I had defied my brain and my neurochemistry.

Our brains are wired to protect us, not to push us towards our goals. Our brains are wired to look for anything that could be potentially dangerous or threatening and keep us as far away from it as possible by using fear. The problem is not all situations warrant fear.

There is a saying in neuroscience that says, “the brain wires the way it fires”, meaning the more you do a certain activity, the more the brain lays down wiring to make that action or activity easier.

‘Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.’ – Karl Augustus Menninger

When we let fear keep us stagnant and we continue to do the same things that are comfortable, our brain gets “hardwired” to stay comfortable. We become “stagnant.” This can become debilitating for some of us and prevent us from encountering the very experiences we need to grow and succeed.

When we, in spite of our fear, do the challenging things that are outside our comfort zone, we begin to hardwire into our brain change, adaptability, creativity, growth, perspective, and happiness because we stretch the boundaries of our brain’s capabilities and force it to adapt rather than “playing it safe.”

An elite athlete didn’t make it where they are today by going into their training and never pushing past their comfort zone. They constantly pushed their limits of comfort to force their bodies and minds to grow to that of a top performer. The same principle applies to our brains. If we let fear dictate our actions in any area of our lives, it will stunt your growth in that area.

So what’s the first step? How do we go about conquering our fears whether it’s public speaking, starting a business, or launching the product or service? See below:

1. Journal Your Fears

Write down all the fears you have, big or small. Contrary to opinion “size does not matter.” Your brain still operates the same with all types of fear. The key is to first acknowledge what you are fearful about and bring it to light. Be as specific as possible.

2. Prioritize Your Fears

I then rank my fears from highest to lowest in terms of how often I think about this fear and/or how much it disrupts my life. You may find some fears combine into a broader category and that’s ok — we’ll get to that. So for now identify your biggest fear.

3. Support Your Belief in Yourself

I don’t mean just “believe in yourself.” What I mean is to build in support systems that will support your belief in yourself, so that when you start taking action, your support systems will solidify those new experiences and form deeper, more meaningful, and lasting beliefs in yourself.

It may look like building a list of affirmations that you say every morning or a meditation. Whatever it is, it needs to be uplifting and empowering you towards conquering your goals.

4. Take Action & Start Small

Look at your list and identify what your biggest fear is. That’s the beast we’re going to tackle long term, but for some that may seem like a big stretch at first. So instead, see what your 5th biggest fear is, and that’s where you’ll start.

What we will then do is build our way up and take a ride on the “Momentum Train.” Starting small with taking actions toward your lower priority fears and then building up helps your brain build momentum, which provides your brain with plenty of courage and motivation to tackle the #1 fear on your list.

‘Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.’ – Helen Keller

5. No Time Limit, Just Consistency

Most goals should be limited to a time domain. For the goal of tackling a fear, time can be a challenging factor to set. Some of these fears may have been unknowingly building up for decades without your knowledge. So I don’t recommend setting a time on when you are “going to conquer your fear.”

Instead set appointments to regularly meet and address your fear. If you’re fear is public speaking, then go to a local Toastmasters once a week. The more consistent you can be, the better.

6. Reframe and Reinforce

As you begin to address these fears, make sure you are reinforcing the experiences you have in a positive perspective. For instance, if you want to be less fearful of public speaking and decide to try out a local toastmasters group, your first time speaking to the group might feel like a train wreck, but when you look back on the situation you can acknowledge that that actually pushed past your fear and accomplished your goal.

7. Rinse and Repeat

This isn’t a quick fix. It may take some time. There’s always a new fear or challenge awaiting us. The key is to have systems like this in place to address those challenges properly rather than allowing ourselves to succumb to fear and derail our lives from their fullest potential.

How do you handle your fears? Comment below!

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30 Straightforward Reminders to Help You Supercharge Your Life in 2018

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This time of year it’s easy to be overwhelmed by well-meaning advice. Everyone seems to have a solution to your procrastination or a remedy for your lack of motivation. Unfortunately, most advice is either too general or irrelevant because it doesn’t address your main concerns.

I’ve spent the last year trying to hone in on some of the best tips and tricks I’ve learned to stay ahead and maintain a positive mindset.

Here are 30 straightforward reminders and tips to help you supercharge your life in 2018:

1. Get the basics right. Take care of your body, your mind and your soul. Make a list of what you know is good for you and what you know is bad for you in each category. Consider ways to reduce the bad and increase the good.

2. Reduce distractions that sap your energy. When you’re planning big changes, it’s easy to get pulled into many different directions. You get excited about a certain idea which pulls you down the rabbit hole into numerous other directions. Focus on one thing at a time.

3. Make a new friend. Start a conversation with a stranger in the elevator. Compliment someone. Provide some positive reinforcement. Do something without expecting anything in return.

4. Smile more. Smiling takes less effort than frowning. It’s also scientifically proven to make you feel better even if you don’t necessarily feel like smiling.

5. Walk 30 minutes a day. Just 30 minutes of exercise a day can help you stimulate your immune system, increase your metabolism and improve your mood.

6. Do one push-up for every year old you are. Or do twice as many sit-ups for every year old you are. Making sure you work the muscles in different parts of your body stimulates hormone production and helps increase fat burning.

7. Find your intrinsic drivers. Intrinsic drivers are what inspire you based on internal motivation, rather than external motivation. Find something you think of as beautiful, peaceful, relaxing. Embrace it. Appreciate it. Try to understand why you like it

8. Speak to an old friend. Reach out in an email, a text, a phone call. Check in and just let them know you’re thinking about them.

“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.” – Woodrow T. Wilson

9. Invest in your health. Join a gym. Buy some type of sports equipment or clothing that is comfortable and that you enjoy being in. Consider joining a pick up sports team.

10. Study something that interests you. Buy a book about someone you admire. Pick a time period that you’re fascinated with. Make a point of becoming an expert on something that matters to you.

11. Teach someone something. Take a topic, any topic, and try to break it down into its component parts so that you can teach someone how to do it. The concentration and the effort it takes to teach someone something is often exactly the kind of effort that is required to truly understand it for yourself.

12. Delegate to someone. Find a task that needs to be done that you could do. Don’t do that task. Instead, look for someone you can ask to help you. Pay them or ask them for a favor. The key is to learn to delegate actions to others.

13. Meditate. Mindfulness and meditation are trending right now, but that’s not the reason you should consider adopting a meditation practice. The real reason is that meditation will help you focus on your key goals while cutting out the noise in the world around you.  

14. Learn to manage your personal finances. One of the biggest causes of stress that we as humans experience is the pressure to make money and control our finances. There are tons of free resources available online to help you learn about finances and help get your money in order.

15. Read more. No, I’m not talking about reading your Facebook News Feed. Read more books. Try to read a book a month, either fiction or nonfiction. At the beginning of the month choose a book and break down the number of pages. See how many you have to read a day to finish… then get started.

16. Cook at home at least 5 days a week. Cooking at home is cheap, easy and fun. You can hone skills in creativity and planning all at once, and it’s a great way to save money.

“My New Year’s resolution is to stick to a good workout plan that will keep me healthy and happy.” – James Lafferty

17. Sell someone. No, not into human bondage. Sell someone on an idea or a product. Learn to market yourself and your skills. Everyone sells as they move through life, but most of us are average salespeople.

18. Hone your principles. What principles define your life? What are your strongly held beliefs? Be honest with yourself and what principles you feel you must uphold.

19. Embrace the power of positive thought. Listen to positive audio tapes, surround yourself with positive people. Look at the positive side of life. Easier said than done, but truth be told one of the best ways to improve your mood is to look for sources of positive mood and inspiration.

20. Practice willpower. Habits are formed over time. Willpower is one of the most important habits you will ever build, so it is integral you continue to practice it through all aspects of your life. Look to the stoic philosophers for a primer on how to tackle this.

21. Write better hooks. A hook is the bit of a song that catches a listener’s attention and repeats your core message in an intriguing way. Similarly, in writing a hook is the quirky or fascinating intro that makes readers want to continue to read. Think about your own hooks and how you can get people interested in what you have to say.

22. Don’t sweat the small stuff. We often become obsessed with daily minutiae and avoid thinking about the big picture. Don’t let yourself worry too much about the small day-to-day struggles. Instead, put your head down and get to work.

23. Don’t overthink the big stuff. Too often we avoid taking leaps of faith because we’re worried about making a mistake on something big. We don’t buy the new house. We avoid marrying the person we love. We put off going to the doctor for that regular scan. Try not to overthink the big decisions (or seemingly small decisions) that may have larger ramifications. If it’s not overly dangerous or illegal, take the plunge and go for it.

24. Learn a new word a day. Increasing your vocabulary helps you see the world in different ways and makes you rethink your core beliefs.

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.” – Richard Branson

25. Become a moderate. Extremists are divisive and often at odds with a large portion of the population. Look for ways to bring people together through collaboration and consensus rather than through division.

26. Think big(ger). Many self-help books talk about setting big goals or envisioning massive success in your lifetime. If you want to become a true leader and attain greater fulfillment. Look for ways to think beyond creating success in your lifetime. Think about the legacy you’ll leave for future generations.

27. Learn universal processes. Assess how you work best and find ways to carry standardized processes over into other aspects of your life.

28. Develop support structures. What do you do if things aren’t going according to plan? Do you reach out to friends for support, meditate on the problem alone, or use some mixture of different coping mechanisms? Be aware of what works for you, and what doesn’t.

29. Don’t compare yourself to others. We fall into this trap far too often. We use others as a benchmark for our own progress, but we must remember that it is unhealthy to put too much weight on comparisons, as everyone has their own background and their own perspective.

30. Know when to let go. At the end of the day, you must try your best and let the cards fall as they may. All you can do is put your heart and soul into your effort and learn from the results.

Which one of these things are you going to implement into your life immediately? Comment below!

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I’ll Tell You How To Be Confident Without The Self-Help BS: You Just Do It.

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One of the most popular topics on blogs right now is content about how to have more confidence. It’s driving me bonkers! I’m unsure what the fascination is with the subject.

Having gone through the whole confidence battle myself and come out the other side on top, I think I can share a few things that will help everybody.

 

Act as if.

Rather than be caught up in the foreplay of overthinking, considering and asking too many questions, just do.

“Quite simply, what has worked for me is to just get on with the task and tell myself I’m becoming an expert while being in motion”

Getting going is the part we’re all missing when it comes to confidence. You can’t be confident unless you get some experience at whatever you want to be confident at. This advice sounds simplistic because it is.

I’ve become more confident over the last five years by running up miles in the beaten-up VW Beetle that was my mind and body. Through gaining experience, I turned that VW Beetle into a Lamborghini by trying things and executing.

There’s no pretending when it comes to confidence. You only start to believe you are confident when you begin taking action. I could probably wrap it up right there and you’d be done when it comes to confidence. No more self-help secrets and private masterminds are required.

Act as if you are already confident and your mind will believe you. Your mind only believes what you tell it. Tell your mind you are confident and you will gain more confidence in the execution. That extraordinary mind will then do as you tell it.

 

Sit up and stand up straight soldier!

I always believed this one was total hocus pocus or maybe even a Jedi Mind Trick. It’s not. Confidence is also in the way you move. People feel confidence in you through your presence. If you need to perform at 110% in say a speech as an example, you have to stand up straight and physically be confident.

Now this is harder than it looks so here’s what I did: I stood on the stage with my back straight. I then rolled my shoulders back and poked my chest out slightly. Each movement on stage was acted out as if I was Arnold Schwarzenegger posing for the Mr Olympia Final (that’s hard as I look nothing like him but stay with me peeps).

Simply having a confident physical presence allowed the audience to be confident with the words and advice I was delivering. Even if each point I presented was not completely thought through, the effect was still the same. I came across as confident.

So, next time you want to be confident, try this out for yourself. Pick your own hero who’s oozing confidence, to be the person you imagine when you go into your confident pose. No matter how ridiculous this seems, it works. Don’t question, just do.

 

Self-talk is key: three words to confidence.

Okay, let’s not overdo this confidence lesson. The self-talk in my head when I need to be confident is very dumb and easy to copy. The three words I use are:

“You got this!”

Say those three words whenever you need to be confident. Say them over and over until they drown out your negative inner voice that wants to doubt your ability.

“Doubt is the disease that sabotages your confidence”

I had no idea about blogging as an example. I just believed I’d find a way and I did. My doubting brain told me that I was hopeless at English and couldn’t master grammar to save my life. That aside, I just used these three words to silence the inner critic.

Your inner critic is only right if you let it be. Back yourself. Talk to yourself like a winner (not a loser) and you’ll have more confidence. No need to buy that book on confidence anymore. No need to read another self-help, pump up blog post that gets you all warm and sweaty.

 

Disconnect from the outcome.

Confidence is about putting the outcome aside. Everything you do is a lesson and will give you confidence. Being tied to the idea of what the outcome looks like allows your doubting mind and your inner critic to come back to the main stage of your attention.

Where your energy flows to, is where your focus goes. Focusing on anything other than being confident about your daily battles will give you the results you hate. Nine times out of ten you can’t control the outcome anyway.

So focusing on doing your best and being confident will take you so much further. Like I keep saying “You got this!”

Swag it out like whatever outcome you achieve is phenomenal because you are incredible for waking up each day and just giving it a crack!

 

Say yes and learn later.

Confidence comes from saying yes and deciding to figure out the strategy later. If an offer or idea resonates with you, then say yes. You’ll find yourself gaining more experience by doing so. My superman complex used to make me carefully think about each offer I was presented with to assess whether I had the skills and capability.

Now I choose offers and proposals that bring me joy instead, and I use my newfound confidence to say yes, and know that I’ll learn what I need to execute properly along the way. Failing that, there’s someone I know in my network that can fill any blanks in regardless so I’m very unlikely to fail.

BUT even if I fail it’s all good because I still learned heaps, got experience and had fun in the meantime. All of which made me more confident. Confidence is unstoppable when it starts to compound through experience and taking action.

 

Remember that all of us have no idea including me.

This was something I learned through a podcast. If you look at your heroes and get to know them as friends, you’ll quickly realize, like I did with my own heroes, that they have no idea. Your heroes just act as if and see what sticks.

When approaching any goal with this in mind, you find an inner confidence to have a go and see what happens.

“When you realize we’re all flawed, it sets you free to try stuff and execute on a few wild goals that you may not succeed at”

I have no clue about most things and that’s where the beauty lies. Stop idolizing and be confident in your ability to get sh*t done.

 

We’re all extraordinary when we believe we are.

Belief in yourself is key to having confidence. The truth is that all of us can be extraordinary no matter where we come from, our nationality, the struggles we’ve gone through, what books we’ve read or who our current friends are.

The opportunity to be extraordinary exists for all of us. Let this very idea give you the confidence you need to change the world because you can.

You don’t need more self-help articles on confidence: You need to understand you’re already extraordinary.

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  1. Bhushan Chavan

    Nov 15, 2017 at 5:50 am

    Great Article !! but sometimes it’s really hard to cope up with our passion because sometimes it’s really hard to make money from your passion and as time pass by your passion will change time to time.
    Thank You.

  2. mia

    Feb 3, 2015 at 2:34 pm

    The only thing it’s hard to do this when you have a family to support. Creating a business takes time and financial support is needed. What about the ones who have to stay in a job for financial reasons but would also like to do something of their own? This point is one that is always missed.

  3. Calvin

    Feb 21, 2014 at 6:11 pm

    Actually yesterday I quit my job to pursue my own company and passion, today my partner and I suffered our first rejection. Things look kinda scary now. But Monday we meet with new potential clients and the world is a big place full of opportunities. While I feel fear, I still feel so much better finally working towards my dream and not someone else’s for a horrible salary. Good luck to others taking the plunge.

  4. Matt

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:50 pm

    One more comment – Joel has a picture quote here on his website that struck me that goes along with his article here. It is very akin to number 3 in the list. This saying is by Tony Gaskins Jr. – “If you don’t build your own dream, then some else will hire you to build theirs” – I think that says it all.

    • Clarke

      Dec 20, 2014 at 4:08 pm

      You’re correct. If I can put 100% to someone else place of employment, I can do the same for me. I resigned from my job on October 31 of this year.

      I wish everyone the best in their future endeavors.

  5. Matt

    Oct 14, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    Everyone here – don’t misunderstand Joels article. He is just saying that you should follow your passion and it will make you happier. This is true. He is not saying you “have” to jump in with both feet. If your circumstances warrant, start out part time and work you way up. There have been may many people that have started that way. My favorite is Pro Blogger Darren Rowse took 3 years to go full time and nothing says you can do that either. Joels’ point in this is article is JUST START.

  6. jose

    Jul 22, 2013 at 5:46 am

    Hi, i do think that quitting jobs is fine as long as you know exactly what you want to do, have an action plan and the will to execute on it. Attaning financial discipline doesnt hurt either, especially in the first days of your new adventure.

    It strikes me how vacuous the word “passion” has become nowadays, as people seems to use it to describe something they probably only like. Most worrying is the fact that people keep giving advice to quit your job so you can follow your passion and become “what you ever wanted”

    One should be able to follow their passion no matter what, no matter your job, no matter your family, no matter anything, even if its only for you, as an UNPAID hobby . If its truly a passion, you should already be doing it now instead of “waiting for the right moment”

    But maybe the passion is there (or at least a higher goal) and for one reason or other, you havent started. Before quitting jobs, I would suggest one last exercise just to check if you are talkin about a passion or just a small infatuation: On any given month and during a month… can you come back home from a day-work, and work for 2 or 3hours in that thing you say you love, and feeling happy about it? by happy i mean that you want to come home just to keep doing that… after the month passes, multiply the result by the rest of your life; can you imagine yourself doing the same thing until you die? if the answer is positive, then Congratulations! there is a good chance that you found a true passion (wether it can be succesfully monetized is another question). If any of the answers are negative, even if you could endure the whole month, it might be a good idea to wait a little bit more.

  7. Heather

    Jun 12, 2013 at 8:41 pm

    I was struggling for a longtime with the decision to quit my job and follow my passion (I have been at my job for 10 years now) but after reading this my struggling is over!. With in the next couple of weeks I will be quitting my job to follow my passion and I am so EXCITED!!! about what new opportunities awaits . Thanks Joel for writing this article I asked the universe for a sign that I was making a good decision and it sent me this article. 🙂

    • Antonina

      Jul 6, 2013 at 5:54 pm

      Me too, Heather, it’s late at night and I’m reading Joel’s article again and again trying to find support of making decision to quit my job. Thank Joel for such an encouraging article. Life is to short to be unhappy. Let’s make a change. I’m going to quit by the end of this month – a job I’ve been working for 19 years. I guess you have had quitted by now. Wish you all the best.

      • Joel

        Joel

        Jul 6, 2013 at 6:09 pm

        Good on you Antonia, make sure you have a clear and precise plan of how you will generate your money and follow your passion.
        Much success to you Antonia!

        • Antonina

          Jul 7, 2013 at 3:37 pm

          Thank you Joel. All the best to you.

      • Heather

        Jul 8, 2013 at 2:38 pm

        Hi Antonina, Thanks for the reply and yes I handed in my resignation letter last Friday! 😀 I feel such a peace my Boss wasn’t to happy but it doesn’t matter my dreams and passion are more important. I had invested 10 years building someone else’s dream now I’m going to invest in my life and build and go after my passion. I am so excited for you to quit your job its takes courage and you have got it! 🙂 thanks for the support and I am with you Lets make change! Keep me posted and I am supporting you 100% to quit your job and start following your passion! Wish you all the best as well.

        Thanks again Joel for the article!

  8. John J. Cloran

    May 1, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Sometimes stuff happens in life when we usually don’t expect it to happen.
    Some things we can control and some things we do our best at. I’m passionate and greatful for all things in life.I love my job there’s nothing like finding some one a job. I did what I had to do to change some things in my life.I’m a 55 year old gentleman. I went from making 40,000 thousand down to 21,000 in six years. Every morning I wake up and am grateful for my job!!!!

    • Mariely Pratts

      May 27, 2013 at 3:34 pm

      I felt so good when I quit my job to start building my company and so far it’s going well

  9. Boss

    Apr 27, 2013 at 7:50 am

    When I got my 1st job I gave myself 10yrs of working in corporate to learn the tricks of the trade. On my 13th year annivesary (7months ago) I realised that I was 3yrs behind on the plan, and I was appalled at myself for being so complacent, that I immediately resigned and walked out on the spot. I have now started building my dream running my own investment company with interests in various operations. Its still touch and go and painstakingly slow, but every monday morning I’m grateful I’m doing something I’m passionate about. All I can say is don’t settle for what aint yours.

  10. toy

    Apr 1, 2013 at 12:09 pm

    I’m planning on quitting my job in July so far I’ve been saving my money…I’m a music artist who writes and produces. I recently got my logo trademarked and I’m a little nervous to quit. But I’ve been there for 7 years no raise, no benefits no promotion. Im very unhappy. My rent is cheap and I could always bartend.

  11. Laura

    Mar 20, 2013 at 12:48 am

    I quit mi job almost 3 years ago. I was a travel agent, but my dream was to travel the world on my own, and write about it. It took me some time to make my final decision, but it was worthy. Now, when I hang out with my ex collegues and hear them complaining about the same situations over and over again, I feel I made the right choice. I don’t make as much money as I used to, but I feel very happy. I write for a couple of magazines and I’m about to get my 1st book published. This is my dream job…Hope I build my own empire one day!

  12. V

    Mar 2, 2013 at 3:02 am

    I have recently resigned from my job which I have had for five years. After two years of a great internal struggle about all the reasons why I need to stay with a job that was leaving me unchallenged and unfulfilled, I am finally ready to take this step. I am genuinely excited at the prospect of a new chapter unfolding and trust myself and the universe that this is a great move for me. I am ready to take a leap of faith into the unknown because the pain of staying where I am (stuck) is far greater than trusting my gut (and heart) to follow my dreams and do what I want to do in my life.

  13. Suzy

    Jan 26, 2013 at 2:20 pm

    I quit my job in June of 2012 and have had the most incredible 6 months so far! I was burnt out in my job, even though it was a great company and I miss the people and the clients, I have never been happier. My passion is helping people and through volunteer work and my coaching business I get to help people everyday! If you are stuck in a rut, I highly recommend a change.

    • kellen

      Jun 4, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Hi Suzy. What kind of tips can you provide on starting a coaching business.

    • Amyb

      Sep 29, 2014 at 9:41 am

      Hi Suzy, what your passion is exactly what I want to do, but I don’t know how to make a start up.

  14. Quornesha Silas

    Jan 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm

    Thanks for this article very eye opening and confirming! #props

  15. Our Hero

    Jan 11, 2013 at 12:43 am

    I haven’t given my job a dear John yet,(it’s not you,it’s me…) but I have cut down to part time. It’s going slow and every day I question if I made a mistake… but we are hanging in there.

  16. Julie

    Jan 11, 2013 at 12:29 am

    Easier said than done. What if you hate your job but make a lot of money, are a single mom and have no family? My passion is fishing and art – doubt I could make what Im making now, not incl 401k match, dental & medical insurance…. 🙁

    • patty

      Jan 24, 2013 at 10:24 pm

      Julie – you can… I am doing that… you gotta be hungry like Les Brown says and find a way.

      i chose an at home business, there are very reputable ones out there if you take the time to review the company, and what it has to offer.

  17. Your1440.com

    Jan 3, 2013 at 6:09 am

    Life is simply too short to be miserable. If you are truly unhappy at your current place of employment, then it is probably time to move on. When and how you move on is up to you, but please do not waste too much precious time before finalizing this decision.

    Time is the most precious commodity that we have. Make the most of the time that you have been given, and change your world for the better! You CAN do it!

    -Your1440.com

  18. Drew

    Jan 3, 2013 at 4:32 am

    Great post. I hope everyone reading this declares 2013 as the year to take action on your passion and find the work you love to do! Passion Changes The World!

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I’ll Tell You How To Be Confident Without The Self-Help BS: You Just Do It.

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One of the most popular topics on blogs right now is content about how to have more confidence. It’s driving me bonkers! I’m unsure what the fascination is with the subject.

Having gone through the whole confidence battle myself and come out the other side on top, I think I can share a few things that will help everybody.

 

Act as if.

Rather than be caught up in the foreplay of overthinking, considering and asking too many questions, just do.

“Quite simply, what has worked for me is to just get on with the task and tell myself I’m becoming an expert while being in motion”

Getting going is the part we’re all missing when it comes to confidence. You can’t be confident unless you get some experience at whatever you want to be confident at. This advice sounds simplistic because it is.

I’ve become more confident over the last five years by running up miles in the beaten-up VW Beetle that was my mind and body. Through gaining experience, I turned that VW Beetle into a Lamborghini by trying things and executing.

There’s no pretending when it comes to confidence. You only start to believe you are confident when you begin taking action. I could probably wrap it up right there and you’d be done when it comes to confidence. No more self-help secrets and private masterminds are required.

Act as if you are already confident and your mind will believe you. Your mind only believes what you tell it. Tell your mind you are confident and you will gain more confidence in the execution. That extraordinary mind will then do as you tell it.

 

Sit up and stand up straight soldier!

I always believed this one was total hocus pocus or maybe even a Jedi Mind Trick. It’s not. Confidence is also in the way you move. People feel confidence in you through your presence. If you need to perform at 110% in say a speech as an example, you have to stand up straight and physically be confident.

Now this is harder than it looks so here’s what I did: I stood on the stage with my back straight. I then rolled my shoulders back and poked my chest out slightly. Each movement on stage was acted out as if I was Arnold Schwarzenegger posing for the Mr Olympia Final (that’s hard as I look nothing like him but stay with me peeps).

Simply having a confident physical presence allowed the audience to be confident with the words and advice I was delivering. Even if each point I presented was not completely thought through, the effect was still the same. I came across as confident.

So, next time you want to be confident, try this out for yourself. Pick your own hero who’s oozing confidence, to be the person you imagine when you go into your confident pose. No matter how ridiculous this seems, it works. Don’t question, just do.

 

Self-talk is key: three words to confidence.

Okay, let’s not overdo this confidence lesson. The self-talk in my head when I need to be confident is very dumb and easy to copy. The three words I use are:

“You got this!”

Say those three words whenever you need to be confident. Say them over and over until they drown out your negative inner voice that wants to doubt your ability.

“Doubt is the disease that sabotages your confidence”

I had no idea about blogging as an example. I just believed I’d find a way and I did. My doubting brain told me that I was hopeless at English and couldn’t master grammar to save my life. That aside, I just used these three words to silence the inner critic.

Your inner critic is only right if you let it be. Back yourself. Talk to yourself like a winner (not a loser) and you’ll have more confidence. No need to buy that book on confidence anymore. No need to read another self-help, pump up blog post that gets you all warm and sweaty.

 

Disconnect from the outcome.

Confidence is about putting the outcome aside. Everything you do is a lesson and will give you confidence. Being tied to the idea of what the outcome looks like allows your doubting mind and your inner critic to come back to the main stage of your attention.

Where your energy flows to, is where your focus goes. Focusing on anything other than being confident about your daily battles will give you the results you hate. Nine times out of ten you can’t control the outcome anyway.

So focusing on doing your best and being confident will take you so much further. Like I keep saying “You got this!”

Swag it out like whatever outcome you achieve is phenomenal because you are incredible for waking up each day and just giving it a crack!

 

Say yes and learn later.

Confidence comes from saying yes and deciding to figure out the strategy later. If an offer or idea resonates with you, then say yes. You’ll find yourself gaining more experience by doing so. My superman complex used to make me carefully think about each offer I was presented with to assess whether I had the skills and capability.

Now I choose offers and proposals that bring me joy instead, and I use my newfound confidence to say yes, and know that I’ll learn what I need to execute properly along the way. Failing that, there’s someone I know in my network that can fill any blanks in regardless so I’m very unlikely to fail.

BUT even if I fail it’s all good because I still learned heaps, got experience and had fun in the meantime. All of which made me more confident. Confidence is unstoppable when it starts to compound through experience and taking action.

 

Remember that all of us have no idea including me.

This was something I learned through a podcast. If you look at your heroes and get to know them as friends, you’ll quickly realize, like I did with my own heroes, that they have no idea. Your heroes just act as if and see what sticks.

When approaching any goal with this in mind, you find an inner confidence to have a go and see what happens.

“When you realize we’re all flawed, it sets you free to try stuff and execute on a few wild goals that you may not succeed at”

I have no clue about most things and that’s where the beauty lies. Stop idolizing and be confident in your ability to get sh*t done.

 

We’re all extraordinary when we believe we are.

Belief in yourself is key to having confidence. The truth is that all of us can be extraordinary no matter where we come from, our nationality, the struggles we’ve gone through, what books we’ve read or who our current friends are.

The opportunity to be extraordinary exists for all of us. Let this very idea give you the confidence you need to change the world because you can.

You don’t need more self-help articles on confidence: You need to understand you’re already extraordinary.

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2 Ways To End Suffering Forever.

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This year I have learned so much. I’ve learned that we all suffer no matter what. No one can avoid it. That’s not what I want to share with you though. What I want to tell you is that you have the power to end suffering.

I have proven it in my own life. We don’t need to suffer. We can end it all and the silly thing is it’s so simple. I do not want you to avoid this advice any longer. I want you to use it even if you think it’s a load of mumbo-jumbo.

Here are the two ways I’ve found to end suffering forever:

 

1. Find a way to give to other people.

You only suffer when life is all about you and your success. Once you move from being all about you, into a state of mind that is focused on giving, your problems become insignificant.

I had a couple of situations this year that have nearly knocked me flat on my ass. One was my romantic life falling to pieces and the other was my career collapsing. When both these events occurred, I used giving to other people as the way out of the maze that my mind created.

The moment suffering begun, I went straight to finding ways to serve other people. I helped friends with their businesses, I spoke at events to inspire people, I did some volunteering and I doubled down on my blogging so I could inspire as many people as possible.

Shifting the focus away from what was wrong and using my focus to give to others ended the suffering.

“There wasn’t time to suffer because the purpose of my life during those months was far bigger than me and my stupid life challenges. Giving to others gave me a way to find happiness when I probably would have hidden away and suffered in silence”

Seeing the solutions to other people’s problems and sharing them, gave me a way to put my career and relationships into perspective.

Giving is the example you need when times get tough and things get complicated. You suffer the most when you get stuck in your head and repeat the pattern of telling yourself how wrong your circumstances are.

Suffering can make you depressed, feel lonely, become selfish, go into a downward spiral and take away everything that’s good in your life.

Finding ways to give on the other hand, can cure all of those problems. I know it sounds so cliché what I’m saying but it surprises me how many people never use this strategy. Like I always say: the answers we seek are right in front of our nose.

Next time you feel yourself suffering, get out of your head and try this strategy.

 

 

2. Practice gratitude.

Okay, I thought this strategy was so dumb when I discovered it. It’s so obvious and it sounds way too easy. I mean how can writing down a few things you’re grateful for really end your suffering?

I mean you could lie to yourself and pretend that you’re grateful for something when you’re not. Well, that’s exactly what I did at the beginning. When I was suffering this year, I started writing down three things each day that I was grateful for.

In the first week, I lied about things I was grateful for and found the exercise completely ridiculous. This advice is so common that I decided to persist with this ridiculous self-help hack anyway.

What I found as I kept doing it was that your brain makes a shift subconsciously. Instead of being pissed off and suffering, your brain has to work extra hard to find three things every day to be grateful for.

To make this habit work even better I forced my brain to describe in detail each thing I was grateful for and ideally why. Some days sucked so bad that I thought I would never find three things. Once the challenge became a must, I spent my days working my butt off trying to find things I was grateful for.

While doing various activities during the day, I’d find moments when I was grateful for something and stop. I’d stop and see how I felt at that moment and I would have a mini celebration because I knew I had something for my gratitude list.

Then I tried to aim for five things each day instead of three. This shifted my focus even more. I should have been suffering but because I was forcing myself to see good things that were happening to me, I was distracted.

As I said earlier, this new habit seemed so dumb at the beginning. Once you really do it for a while, you see how it has the power to end suffering. You can’t be pissed off and be grateful at the same time. So, choose gratitude and then your suffering will be sidelined, and in my case, forgotten about.

 

***Life doesn’t need to be full of low points***

The suffering that we all experience is a choice. It probably doesn’t seem like that but these two hacks will demonstrate this to you. Your decision-making power is incredible and all you need to do is select one of these hacks to end suffering.

Don’t let the quality of your life be jeopardized by your default human mode to suffer. You’ll find these two hacks will not only end your suffering; these two hacks will give you purpose.

Here’s what I learned: most people are pissed off and suffer because they have no purpose. Once you find a purpose for your life, you’ll become addicted.

Now that’s a huge win don’t you think? You can end suffering and find purpose, all by using these two hacks. That’s the best gift I can give you.

Don’t just read this advice. Try these two hacks yourself.

It’s time to end suffering forever.

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7 Steps to Conquering the Fears That Are Holding You Back From Success

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I remember the day in vivid detail. I was on a weekend trip visiting my girlfriend at the time in Arizona. She had decided that we should join her friends to go “cliff jumping.”  We were early on in our dating and she obviously had no idea that I was not fond of heights. So “cliffs” and jumping off of them… No thanks!

I inevitably found myself on the edge of a 40-foot cliff peering down at a vast blue canvas of water. Then I realized if I didn’t jump, I’d have to start the walk of shame back down the cliff. This was a lose-lose situation for me.

Fear had me. I didn’t want to jump, but I also didn’t want to look bad in front of my girlfriend’s friends. So I jumped and in that moment, I had defied my brain and my neurochemistry.

Our brains are wired to protect us, not to push us towards our goals. Our brains are wired to look for anything that could be potentially dangerous or threatening and keep us as far away from it as possible by using fear. The problem is not all situations warrant fear.

There is a saying in neuroscience that says, “the brain wires the way it fires”, meaning the more you do a certain activity, the more the brain lays down wiring to make that action or activity easier.

‘Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.’ – Karl Augustus Menninger

When we let fear keep us stagnant and we continue to do the same things that are comfortable, our brain gets “hardwired” to stay comfortable. We become “stagnant.” This can become debilitating for some of us and prevent us from encountering the very experiences we need to grow and succeed.

When we, in spite of our fear, do the challenging things that are outside our comfort zone, we begin to hardwire into our brain change, adaptability, creativity, growth, perspective, and happiness because we stretch the boundaries of our brain’s capabilities and force it to adapt rather than “playing it safe.”

An elite athlete didn’t make it where they are today by going into their training and never pushing past their comfort zone. They constantly pushed their limits of comfort to force their bodies and minds to grow to that of a top performer. The same principle applies to our brains. If we let fear dictate our actions in any area of our lives, it will stunt your growth in that area.

So what’s the first step? How do we go about conquering our fears whether it’s public speaking, starting a business, or launching the product or service? See below:

1. Journal Your Fears

Write down all the fears you have, big or small. Contrary to opinion “size does not matter.” Your brain still operates the same with all types of fear. The key is to first acknowledge what you are fearful about and bring it to light. Be as specific as possible.

2. Prioritize Your Fears

I then rank my fears from highest to lowest in terms of how often I think about this fear and/or how much it disrupts my life. You may find some fears combine into a broader category and that’s ok — we’ll get to that. So for now identify your biggest fear.

3. Support Your Belief in Yourself

I don’t mean just “believe in yourself.” What I mean is to build in support systems that will support your belief in yourself, so that when you start taking action, your support systems will solidify those new experiences and form deeper, more meaningful, and lasting beliefs in yourself.

It may look like building a list of affirmations that you say every morning or a meditation. Whatever it is, it needs to be uplifting and empowering you towards conquering your goals.

4. Take Action & Start Small

Look at your list and identify what your biggest fear is. That’s the beast we’re going to tackle long term, but for some that may seem like a big stretch at first. So instead, see what your 5th biggest fear is, and that’s where you’ll start.

What we will then do is build our way up and take a ride on the “Momentum Train.” Starting small with taking actions toward your lower priority fears and then building up helps your brain build momentum, which provides your brain with plenty of courage and motivation to tackle the #1 fear on your list.

‘Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.’ – Helen Keller

5. No Time Limit, Just Consistency

Most goals should be limited to a time domain. For the goal of tackling a fear, time can be a challenging factor to set. Some of these fears may have been unknowingly building up for decades without your knowledge. So I don’t recommend setting a time on when you are “going to conquer your fear.”

Instead set appointments to regularly meet and address your fear. If you’re fear is public speaking, then go to a local Toastmasters once a week. The more consistent you can be, the better.

6. Reframe and Reinforce

As you begin to address these fears, make sure you are reinforcing the experiences you have in a positive perspective. For instance, if you want to be less fearful of public speaking and decide to try out a local toastmasters group, your first time speaking to the group might feel like a train wreck, but when you look back on the situation you can acknowledge that that actually pushed past your fear and accomplished your goal.

7. Rinse and Repeat

This isn’t a quick fix. It may take some time. There’s always a new fear or challenge awaiting us. The key is to have systems like this in place to address those challenges properly rather than allowing ourselves to succumb to fear and derail our lives from their fullest potential.

How do you handle your fears? Comment below!

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30 Straightforward Reminders to Help You Supercharge Your Life in 2018

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This time of year it’s easy to be overwhelmed by well-meaning advice. Everyone seems to have a solution to your procrastination or a remedy for your lack of motivation. Unfortunately, most advice is either too general or irrelevant because it doesn’t address your main concerns.

I’ve spent the last year trying to hone in on some of the best tips and tricks I’ve learned to stay ahead and maintain a positive mindset.

Here are 30 straightforward reminders and tips to help you supercharge your life in 2018:

1. Get the basics right. Take care of your body, your mind and your soul. Make a list of what you know is good for you and what you know is bad for you in each category. Consider ways to reduce the bad and increase the good.

2. Reduce distractions that sap your energy. When you’re planning big changes, it’s easy to get pulled into many different directions. You get excited about a certain idea which pulls you down the rabbit hole into numerous other directions. Focus on one thing at a time.

3. Make a new friend. Start a conversation with a stranger in the elevator. Compliment someone. Provide some positive reinforcement. Do something without expecting anything in return.

4. Smile more. Smiling takes less effort than frowning. It’s also scientifically proven to make you feel better even if you don’t necessarily feel like smiling.

5. Walk 30 minutes a day. Just 30 minutes of exercise a day can help you stimulate your immune system, increase your metabolism and improve your mood.

6. Do one push-up for every year old you are. Or do twice as many sit-ups for every year old you are. Making sure you work the muscles in different parts of your body stimulates hormone production and helps increase fat burning.

7. Find your intrinsic drivers. Intrinsic drivers are what inspire you based on internal motivation, rather than external motivation. Find something you think of as beautiful, peaceful, relaxing. Embrace it. Appreciate it. Try to understand why you like it

8. Speak to an old friend. Reach out in an email, a text, a phone call. Check in and just let them know you’re thinking about them.

“Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.” – Woodrow T. Wilson

9. Invest in your health. Join a gym. Buy some type of sports equipment or clothing that is comfortable and that you enjoy being in. Consider joining a pick up sports team.

10. Study something that interests you. Buy a book about someone you admire. Pick a time period that you’re fascinated with. Make a point of becoming an expert on something that matters to you.

11. Teach someone something. Take a topic, any topic, and try to break it down into its component parts so that you can teach someone how to do it. The concentration and the effort it takes to teach someone something is often exactly the kind of effort that is required to truly understand it for yourself.

12. Delegate to someone. Find a task that needs to be done that you could do. Don’t do that task. Instead, look for someone you can ask to help you. Pay them or ask them for a favor. The key is to learn to delegate actions to others.

13. Meditate. Mindfulness and meditation are trending right now, but that’s not the reason you should consider adopting a meditation practice. The real reason is that meditation will help you focus on your key goals while cutting out the noise in the world around you.  

14. Learn to manage your personal finances. One of the biggest causes of stress that we as humans experience is the pressure to make money and control our finances. There are tons of free resources available online to help you learn about finances and help get your money in order.

15. Read more. No, I’m not talking about reading your Facebook News Feed. Read more books. Try to read a book a month, either fiction or nonfiction. At the beginning of the month choose a book and break down the number of pages. See how many you have to read a day to finish… then get started.

16. Cook at home at least 5 days a week. Cooking at home is cheap, easy and fun. You can hone skills in creativity and planning all at once, and it’s a great way to save money.

“My New Year’s resolution is to stick to a good workout plan that will keep me healthy and happy.” – James Lafferty

17. Sell someone. No, not into human bondage. Sell someone on an idea or a product. Learn to market yourself and your skills. Everyone sells as they move through life, but most of us are average salespeople.

18. Hone your principles. What principles define your life? What are your strongly held beliefs? Be honest with yourself and what principles you feel you must uphold.

19. Embrace the power of positive thought. Listen to positive audio tapes, surround yourself with positive people. Look at the positive side of life. Easier said than done, but truth be told one of the best ways to improve your mood is to look for sources of positive mood and inspiration.

20. Practice willpower. Habits are formed over time. Willpower is one of the most important habits you will ever build, so it is integral you continue to practice it through all aspects of your life. Look to the stoic philosophers for a primer on how to tackle this.

21. Write better hooks. A hook is the bit of a song that catches a listener’s attention and repeats your core message in an intriguing way. Similarly, in writing a hook is the quirky or fascinating intro that makes readers want to continue to read. Think about your own hooks and how you can get people interested in what you have to say.

22. Don’t sweat the small stuff. We often become obsessed with daily minutiae and avoid thinking about the big picture. Don’t let yourself worry too much about the small day-to-day struggles. Instead, put your head down and get to work.

23. Don’t overthink the big stuff. Too often we avoid taking leaps of faith because we’re worried about making a mistake on something big. We don’t buy the new house. We avoid marrying the person we love. We put off going to the doctor for that regular scan. Try not to overthink the big decisions (or seemingly small decisions) that may have larger ramifications. If it’s not overly dangerous or illegal, take the plunge and go for it.

24. Learn a new word a day. Increasing your vocabulary helps you see the world in different ways and makes you rethink your core beliefs.

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.” – Richard Branson

25. Become a moderate. Extremists are divisive and often at odds with a large portion of the population. Look for ways to bring people together through collaboration and consensus rather than through division.

26. Think big(ger). Many self-help books talk about setting big goals or envisioning massive success in your lifetime. If you want to become a true leader and attain greater fulfillment. Look for ways to think beyond creating success in your lifetime. Think about the legacy you’ll leave for future generations.

27. Learn universal processes. Assess how you work best and find ways to carry standardized processes over into other aspects of your life.

28. Develop support structures. What do you do if things aren’t going according to plan? Do you reach out to friends for support, meditate on the problem alone, or use some mixture of different coping mechanisms? Be aware of what works for you, and what doesn’t.

29. Don’t compare yourself to others. We fall into this trap far too often. We use others as a benchmark for our own progress, but we must remember that it is unhealthy to put too much weight on comparisons, as everyone has their own background and their own perspective.

30. Know when to let go. At the end of the day, you must try your best and let the cards fall as they may. All you can do is put your heart and soul into your effort and learn from the results.

Which one of these things are you going to implement into your life immediately? Comment below!

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