One of the biggest reasons why people don’t go after what they want in life is because they care too much about what others think. Getting over the fear of embarrassment or failure is the key to start living the life that you want.
So here is a break down for the formula that I have used to help boost my confidence and to laugh in the face of my own personal embarrassment.
This is how you stop caring:
This Is A Muscle
You can’t magically fix this problem over night. Becoming confident in yourself and not caring about other’s opinions is like exercising a muscle.
No bodybuilder or weightlifter has ever stepped into the gym and been able to lift an impressive amount of poundage. Strengthening your muscles takes time and so does your tolerance towards adversity.
It’s A Habit
Who you are today is a product of your habits. You must start changing what you do on a day-to-day basis in order to build the ideal self that you would like to be in the near future.
Stop looking for the next magical fix that will give you the confidence and life that you deserve. This is yours for the taking, but just know it may take a little time.
These are a couple of tasks that I have personally used over the past three years in order to push me out of the comfort zone.
A couple of these things might be scary but I swear that doing them will give you the best feeling in the world. Because nothing compares to the feeling of overcoming a fear.
Do each task at least twice a week.
Look at 10 people straight in the eye and hold eye contact. Don’t look away until they do.
Smile and say hello to 10 strangers as you pass them on the street.
Ask 10 strangers a ridiculous question.
Something I’ve done plenty of times is to pretend like I’m asking a serious question about directions and then say something like, “If I keep going that way, but my head is looking that way, but I’m thinking about a girl, will I get there?”
I like to see how long I can keep this going before the person starts thinking I’m crazy and walks away.
Go to five clothing stores for the opposite sex and ask for opinions on how an outfit will look on you. And then ask if you can try it on.
Strike up a conversation with a stranger and find out their a) greatest fear b) their greatest passion
Have a 2-minute conversation with an imaginary friend in public.
Get 10 strangers to hug you.
Lie down in a busy store. Stay there until someone asks you if you’re ok.
Get on an elevator and shout each floor number from top to bottom.
Sing and dance a whole song in a public place.
Like I said… This is a Muscle
I never started doing the things in Week 10. I never even started in Week 5.
I started in Week 1 and slowly built my tolerance towards embarrassment over time. You don’t stop caring about what others think overnight.
This honestly took me a while to figure out. I was sometimes stuck with one activity for several weeks so don’t stress about it. You will get there if you stay with it enough.