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6 Ways To Make The Story Of Your Life Impactful

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All of us dream of having a life that is impactful and forms a story that may one day be turned into a book or movie. The story of your life is made up of many elements that are also the fundamentals of success.

Unless your life is impactful, no one is ever going to care greatly about your story. Your story is owned by you, and only you can create and determine how much impact it will have. Ask yourself the question right now, does your life have a significant impact? If it doesn’t, then it’s time to change it.

It’s time for you to create something that everyone will remember you for. It’s time to turn that dream that you have always had into a reality. This all starts with a decision and often you need some major, painful event to trigger this desire.

Think about the emotions you would feel if the majority of people respected you and were inspired by you. You would be on top of the world, and your life would have meant something. Your name will forever live on, and generations of people will live their lives in dedication to what you stood for.

That sounds like a real vision, and that sounds like a common goal that we should all strive for.

Below are the six ways to make the story of your life impactful.

1. Do something outstanding

Life stories that have a major impact all involve someone doing something outstanding; something that no one thought was possible or that would ever be done. Have you done something outstanding already?

If you haven’t, that’s okay, but start thinking about what major task you could achieve that would be outstanding. Start thinking about what you’re great at or what you could be great at.
This first step is the most crucial and you need to decide on it before you proceed.

There are so many people that never realise that they need to do something outstanding, so just this realisation alone can be empowering in itself. Given the size of this task, it’s not going to happen overnight.

When you come to terms with what you are going to do, it will begin to manifest itself in your life. Doing something outstanding ties together passion, giving back, purpose, fulfillment, and many more success attributes that we have all heard before.

The fact that doing something outstanding covers so many of these attributes is the reason why you should dedicate your life to this one task. Once you achieve it, then you have the very rare task of doing it all over again with a new task.

2. Teach Others

Any great story involves some form of learning. Before you can teach other people something, though, you need to teach yourself first. I like to begin with lots of reading across a broad range of topics. This will give you the foundations of what you can teach others.

For me, what I want to teach other people is all about self-development, entrepreneurship and how to reach success. This is no easy task for me but I have devoted a large amount of time to it, and I can see progress every week now.

In the beginning, I didn’t see any progress but my mentors told me that eventually I would, and they were right. At the start, I was the student, but now I am becoming the teacher. Each day I get to teach people ideas I have learned myself and translate it into my own language.

Google has meant that education and information is easy to find, but the real task now is for someone to curate and translate the information.

It’s this translation of the learning I have done that allows me to create value. The language I speak in is unique, and the ideas are curated by my own mind. When you can begin to do the same thing, then you two can teach others (if you’re not already).

I recently got the opportunity to work with a graduate. Initially, I wasn’t that excited about the task, but as things progressed, I realised that I had the chance to completely shape his career, which in turn, would shape his life. Anyone can do this and even if it starts with just one graduate, you have the chance to begin to make an impact.

3. Share your story

Once you establish your story and start to create an impact, it’s time to share it with others. This doesn’t just mean that you share the good moments with some happy Instagram photos – there is much more to it.

The key to sharing your story is that it’s about being vulnerable, and sharing the negative moments and failures, and then balancing these out with the positive successes. As you share your story in this way, you will begin to compound the impact your story has on the world.

There are many ways to share your story and I have found the easiest way is online first. As you become more comfortable in sharing your story, you can then start sharing it through video, and then later in person.

With my own story, I am about to start sharing it on video, and then the next step will be through public speaking. I am happy to tell you though that I am not great at public speaking so expect to see me at a local Toastmasters shortly. If you are an expert in public speaking and can help, then feel free to reach out to me.

4. Live your dream at all costs

The only way your story will have any impact is if it is directly hardwired to your dream. You will need to move every obstacle out of the pathway of your life and agree to live this dream no matter what.

Even when all your close friends are out having dinner, there will be times when you will be required to not take the easy route, and not attend so that you can work on your dream. The temptation in these situations will be great which is why your own individual dream needs to be something you have thought about and truly care about.

Your dream is linked to your passion, and when you are in a state of mind where you are doing something you love, you experience high levels of happiness. Happiness then becomes a fuel for your mind, and you subconsciously start to create your story and make an impact without even thinking about it.

5. Show some emotion

To make the story of your life impactful, it needs to contain some emotion. Emotion is what draws people in, and it’s what makes it your story. When it comes to the story of your life, the word impact really just means emotion.

You can’t fake emotion in your own story. The more real and the rawer the emotion is, the more people will be drawn to it. If your story is full of made up elements, then people can spot the fakeness a mile away.

As I have said before, your pain becomes your success, and your success is often determined by the impact you are having. There is nothing like seeing someone give it all they have got and sharing every amount of emotion they have with you.

You get tingles down your spine; you feel unstoppable, and you want to spend more time with them. These are all things that our brains think about subconsciously all the time. If a thought pops into your head about something you are going to do, and you start thinking about what people will think of that action, just do it and don’t think twice.

The chances are that if that action is something that you are worried what others will say about it, it’s probably because it has some form of emotion attached to it that requires you to be vulnerable. It’s these actions that you should commit to doing if you want to have an impact.

6. Learn to control your mind

The one element you have 100% control over when it comes to the impact of your life story is your mind (assuming you learn to control it). This is no easy task and so many people never master this art. It requires you to study some basic elements of psychology and really understand yourself.

You need to work out what you love, what you hate, what motivates you and what stops you. If you practice this art form every single day, your brain becomes like a muscle and starts to grow. Your ability to make tough decisions becomes easier, and you’re drawn closer to your purpose.

“Once the human mind is understood and put to proper use, your impact can become more widespread. You can begin to move closer to the things that you care about most and stay clear of the things you have no interest in” – Tim Denning

The people who have controlled their mind the best usually go on to become leaders in their field. From Warren Buffett, to Tony Robbins to the Dalai Lama; all of them live their life at the highest level.

People from the outside will observe the way you control your mind and begin to be drawn to you because it’s such a rarity to have your mind under control and working for you, instead of against you.

Everything I have just mentioned starts with a decision: a decision to be great, a decision to be the example for others rather than let your life waste away to something that no one will remember.

Will you be the person who has the funeral that the whole world stops for, or the person whose funeral has less than twenty close family members there to see you off?

How are you going to make the story of your life impactful? Let me know in the comments section below or on Twitter and Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Vanessa LeMaistre

    Dec 19, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    Hello Tim,
    I absolutely love your article. I can tell from the way you write, you will be an impactful speaker. I have been in Toastmasters for a few years as well and one of the biggest tools I took with me is to use emotion in your speeches because it is the most impactful thing you can do. I am moved by your story as I had been writing a self help book about overcoming things. I overcame pretty big adversities and my goal with my book is to then become a motivational speaker. I feel like I need the message first; then I can deliver. Sometimes though, I wish there was a school for how to be a motivational speaker. Instead, you have to create your own path. I guess that’s the beauty of it. Any pointers on how I can be even more impactful than that? That is so black and white and I want to do as much possible to reach my highest potential. I’ve got all that it takes, and a powerful story to go along with it. I just need some more direction sometimes or more tips on different ways I can impact the world.

  2. Joyce L. Moore

    Apr 20, 2016 at 7:28 am

    I recently discovered that telling your story, a good story is empowerment. I always told my three sons, when you find your passion you will find success and then, over the years, encouraged each of them to use their talents and develop their passion and success would come. Knowing their back story, their history is an important part of that discovery of achieving a life of meaning and success and, working as a family, we were able to start making positive change and impact. We have just started. We want to be the example of how everyday people can make impact full change.

    Your article fills in some of the holes that I feel is necessary to take it to the next level. Thank you.

  3. Kerry-Anne Minns

    Jan 5, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Hi Tim,
    I find this article fascinating as it something i’ve been thinking about and discussing for many years. You’ll see by the holding page on my website that I haven’t quite got there. Friends and family tell me that I have an impactful story but I haven’t worked out how to translate that into something yet. I’m going to spend sometime going through these points and see if it will help me move it forward.
    Also, I would highly recommend Toastmaters i’ve been a member for about 4-5 years I’m currently President of the Bicester Speakers club in UK. I really enjoy public speaking and am always happy to volunteer to speak in public even if its on the spot. The skills i’ve learnt at toastmasters has contributed to me getting jobs and progressing in my career.
    Thanks

    • Tim Denning

      Jan 11, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      Thanks for reading Kerry-Anne and for your comments. I am very keen to see how Toastmasters goes for me and congrats on all your success so far. I look forward to seeing the holding page turn into your website 🙂

  4. Jody McPhearson

    Dec 31, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Tim,

    Thanks for this article. And thank you for having an impact on my life! As I am on this journey it is good to know that others are there to help. Your words about pain becoming success are powerful! Forgive me, your first success principle is powerful! I have recently embraced this idea of failure and it is amazing what impact it is having on my life. My writing is clearer and my goals are more defined. I can not wait for the new year to take the next steps to help others and be impactful in a major way.

    Thank you!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:47 pm

      Jodie thanks for the feedback. Tip number one is also my favourite because unless we do something outstanding, then not much else can happen in our life that will shape our overall story. I will make sure I check out your writing and thanks for reading!

  5. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    Tim, Thanks for the follow on twitter! Great post.

    The point that really sticks out to me is #4. Not giving in to temptation is very hard to do, but once you can control that temptation you can get a lot of stuff done.

    In order to be successful you have to make sacrifices and if that means not hanging out with friends or not catching up on your favorite tv shows then you do what it takes.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:27 pm

      Not a problem guys I love what you are doing and regularly read your Twitter posts. I have just sent you a tweet 🙂

  6. Peter

    Dec 29, 2015 at 8:50 am

    Thank you for your work. You write good articles and I enjoy reading them. They’re very thought-provoking. However, I don’t think that making an impact on the world to achieve fame and glory is what life is or should be all about. I’d rather have no one show up for my funeral than not be true to myself. I think it is written in Christian scripture that “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?” There can be more important things in life than making an impact on others or on the whole world.

    • Addicted 2 The Grind

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Hey Peter, Good point.

      Its all about what you feel and what your want to be known for.( not a general thing) If you want to impact people without the fame thats fine. But I also believe you can impact way more people if you have a bigger audience or platform.

      At the end of the day impacting anyone to do positive things is great.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:17 pm

      Peter thanks for leaving your view and I appreciate where you are coming from. My viewpoint was more about having a positive impact than fame. I agree though that you need to remain true to yourself.

  7. Toño

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:26 am

    Impactful story of your life, a dream for many and reality for so little. Packing my things now and moving into new place, I cannot help but think how I want and enjoy to travel and love to see different environment as often as possible. Going through isolation at my job has helped me to see and better inderstand my faults and work on them, transform them. I love that point about vulnerability, as in the past I usually wanted to avoid it at any cost and show everyone how strong I can be mentally. But again, was I living my own life or someone else’s ?

    Oh, and emotions. I am quite curious about them as well. Recently my emotional attitude lead me to big mistake. Fortunately, I took my time to relax and meditate and then ‘sleep with it’ thus in the morning I realized the solution I knew was the right one, and by taking the immediate action, that puzzle was solved. It was a good lesson your emotions may cost you big deal and that clear mind and confidence is your better ally.

    I understand the power of emotional story but I think you should find a balance. Right now I still have some emotions over my head and not sure what to with them. But I’ll get there one day.

    Once again, thank you so much Tim for you time and attitude for providing great food for our minds. I’ve rarely comment on somenthing but your articles gives me the drive to communicate and give back some feedback. Also, your response means a lot for me and gives me additional motivation to keep going. I appreciate it!

    Have a wonderful day and stay well!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:46 am

      Toño you always share great insights and take the time to be bold and share your story. I would love to connect with you on Facebook to hear more.

      Your feedback is very much appreciated!

    • Reuben

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:56 am

      Toño can I send you a message and chat sometime? The way you just portrayed yourself in this comment above is really well illustrated, quite similar to my own pursuit of success and I was hoping we could share stories sometime and maybe help each other?

  8. Rhonda

    Dec 29, 2015 at 4:25 am

    Awesome!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Thanks Rhonda 🙂

  9. Fred

    Dec 29, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Having traveled the world, worked in the outdoors, and now am able to work from my laptop from anywhere I choose , I can say that I have an impactful story. Now, I just have to tell it! 😛

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Would love to hear your story Fred. Thanks for taking the time to read the article.

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Many people are ashamed of failure. If they so much as smell a whiff of failure, they quit instantly because the public notices it quickly. But you shouldn’t be ashamed of failure. A lot of people have failed. I’ve failed over and over again in my career, business, relationships and more. Yet, I keep trying because failure isn’t the final verdict. (more…)

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How to Move Forward When All Seems Lost

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A few weeks ago, the relationship of my venture with a long-term client turned rocky. Losing them would mean a huge loss for my business, but it appeared like that’s where we were headed. My mind raced with unpleasant thoughts. Maybe the client had figured out that I couldn’t lead my team well. Maybe I was not good enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe I was not good enough to do anything.

Why was the world so unfair?! Within moments, my anxiety had shot through the roof and my heart was racing faster than an F1 car engine. But I know I’m not the only one who feels like this.

Why Problems Overwhelm Us

As human beings, we’re good at solving problems, so they shouldn’t stress us out. Yet, they do just that. Why?

Consider some of these situations in life. When a relationship is headed for troubled waters, we wonder whether our partner loves us anymore. Our mind unearths memories of when we got dumped or rejected. We blame ourselves for falling for the wrong people and tell ourselves that we’re not worth receiving love.

How do you think the relationship will steer after that? If we cannot stick to a diet, we think of other times when we gave up. We remember what people said about things that we couldn’t do and ask ourselves, “were they right?” We tell ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to succeed at anything.

Do you think we’ll find the grit to stick to the diet after this? So here we are… thinking we’re not good enough to be entrepreneurs, to be loved, to get promoted, or to achieve our personal goals. Notice a pattern yet? We move in the wrong direction. The destination is to achieve the goal. And unless we stop giving into emotions and start addressing situations, we’ll keep failing to get there.

Negative emotions (and even extremely positive ones) blur our vision. The more we focus on them, the deeper we go into how we feel. We either get angry because things aren’t the way we want them to be, or get paralyzed by the fear of the worst possible outcome. This means we pull away from the one thing we must do to set things right — take action.

“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.” – Dale Carnegie

How to Take Action in the Face of Problems

Most human beings are good at solving problems. Where we get blindsided is at diagnosing the right problem. To diagnose the right problem, we must address the situation instead of emotions. We must see things for what they are, collect facts on what we’re worrying about, and then ask ourselves, “What should I do next?”

In his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”, Dale Carnegie wrote: “Neither you nor I nor Einstein nor the Supreme Court of the United States is brilliant enough to reach an intelligent decision on any problem without first getting the facts.”

To address the tricky situation with my client, I took the following three steps:

1. First, I acknowledged the feeling

Solving a problem doesn’t mean ignoring emotions. It’s important to acknowledge how you feel because it reveals the path, but domesticating your emotions is more important. I acknowledged how I felt by saying, “I feel anxious because the client might not want to work with us anymore and this will be a financial loss for us.”

Note how I said “I feel anxious” and not “I’m a loser.” If I had given into negative chatter, I wouldn’t have uncovered the direction to move in (the part after “because”). This is why domesticating emotions is crucial.

2. Next, I prepared for the worst

We often run from our worst fears rather than facing them despite knowing that the worst outcome rarely comes true. The result is that we stay stuck in fear instead of pushing beyond it. And we never discover what we’re really capable of, which sucks.

In my case, the worst meant losing the client. It would hurt but it was the truth. However, we could get more clients. Plus we already had other clients who helped us pay the bills. In other words, I wouldn’t have to live on the street.

The moment I accepted this, a huge weight got lifted off my chest. This prepared me for the third and final step.

“Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Lastly, I examined the situation

Examining a situation means setting aside your emotional baggage and focusing on facts. When you trust that you’ll be okay, you become better at diagnosing the real problem. Once I felt lighter, I could see things clearly.

I used the 5 Whys Technique (asking “why” five times) to figure out the real reason for the client’s dissatisfaction. Then I collected data on the issue and on what we had previously delivered.

Finally, I reached out to the CEO of the client and held a detailed and constructive discussion based on my findings. Within four days, the CEO and I were back to the way things were before.

The best way to prepare for tomorrow is to give today your best. I’m not sure whether the issue with the client got resolved for good or whether the client won’t pack up and leave one day. However, I am sure that I’m prepared to handle such cases better today than I was yesterday.

Control your emotions instead of letting them run amok. Accept things for what they are instead of what you want them to be. Be realistic instead of delusional. Address the situation instead of succumbing to emotions.

Don’t preempt what lies ten miles ahead and get paralyzed by fear. Address what lies clearly in front of you and keep moving. One day you’ll be surprised about how close to your destination you are.

How do you move forward when all hope seems to be lost? Share your advice below!

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You know what they say, “Health Is Wealth”. But, more often than not, we only mean it in the context of physical health. There’s no question that being fit is the world’s greatest treasure. Unfortunately, not a lot of us take time out to look after our emotional health and wellbeing.

Let’s not forget – it’s ‘Mind Over Matter’. So, if you are able to take control of your emotions, thoughts, how you feel through the day and how you respond to myriad situations; there’s nothing quite like it. When you become the master of your emotions; health, prosperity, and basically all good things are bound to follow you.

With that said, here are 8 surefire ways that will improve your emotional wellbeing:

1. Practice Mindfulness

Half the time, we don’t even know what we’re thinking or how we’re feeling. That’s because we let our minds operate on autopilot. It’s time to take control of your mind. Be aware of what and how you feel throughout the day. The upside to this practice is that you can detect negative emotions right on the onset and quickly change them and their corresponding feeling.

Feelings of anger, jealousy, hatred; they are not good for the mind, soul, or the body. Paying close attention to the spectrum of emotions you experience throughout the day, will help you detect the negative ones and kick them away before they fester deep enough to take away your happiness and emotional health.

2. Stay Physically Active

As you engage in physical activities, your brain produces a whole bunch of feel-good hormones such as endorphins and dopamine. These hormones are what causes the ‘elated’ or ‘euphoric’ feeling. Being physically active uplifts your mood and your outlook towards life. It readies you to take the challenges more head-on instead of becoming overwhelmed by the littlest of inconvenience.

You are better able to analyze tough situations and take a more proactive rather than a reactive approach. It’s no question physical health is in direct proportion with emotional health. A healthy mind resides in a healthy body and vice versa.

“Caring for the mind is as important and crucial as caring for the body. In fact, one cannot be healthy without the other.” – Sid Garza-Hillman

3. Get Sufficient Sleep

Ever noticed how you feel depressed and cranky, and just out of focus the day you fail to get a good night’s sleep? Well, if you fail to get sufficient sleep for a couple of days, you are bound to feel more depressed, cranky and eventually more prone to a host of negative emotions. Research shows that sleep deprivation sends amygdala – our brain’s emotional response center into overdrive.

Amygdala controls our immediate emotional responses. When it becomes overactive, we become more reactive rather than active. We become more irritable, angry and anxious. A good night’s sleep is vital to improving your emotional wellbeing.

4. Develop a New Hobby

Learn to swim. Try arts and crafts. How about painting? Swimming is a ‘happy’ activity. You get to make new friends and stay fit. Arts and crafts, as we all know, tends to have a relaxing effect on the mind and the nerves.

Just the process of creating something from scratch makes you confident and gets those creative juices flowing. Similarly, painting helps you express yourself. All these factors together create a ‘happy you’. The one who likes to engage in new things instead of resisting change or difficult situations.

5. Eat Healthy

Ever heard of the phrase, “You are what you eat”? Well, it’s true to the last syllable. When you eat foods rich in salt, sodium, fat – you are bound to feel lethargic. It takes longer for the body to digest such foods. That means the body is forced to deprive organs of blood and use it for the digestion purpose.

Result? You become lazy, moody, not ready to take any responsibility which leads to feeling cranky and irritable. On the other hand, eating fibrous vegetables, fruits, salads, and complex sugars keeps you upbeat and healthy.

6. Laugh Your Heart Out

Laughter is the best medicine. That is why they have a dedicated ‘laughter session’ in yoga studios. You don’t even have to mean it. The simple act of spreading your cheeks and pretending to laugh sends a signal to your body that you are happy.

And what happens when you are happy? Your brain releases happy hormones like dopamine, serotonin and what not. In fact, many studies have gone so far as to stipulate that laughter alone is capable of treating all kinds of physical ailments. Why should emotional ailments be any different?

7. Try Relaxation Techniques

‘’Visualization technique’’ where you imagine yourself in a happy place is a surefire way to calm your nerves if you find yourself distressed. You may also try praying to elate yourself. Praying is good for the mind and the soul.

Controlled breathing or ‘biofeedback technique’ are some other relaxation techniques that can tame how you feel and even your bodily functions. Try surrounding yourself with aromatherapy or scented candles because the smell is a big factor in governing how we feel.

“Positive emotional energy is the key to health, happiness and wellbeing. The more positive you are, the better your life will be in every area.” – Brian Tracy

8. Count Your Blessings

We all have so much to be thankful for. It could be a friend who stands by you or a happy family. Good health. Financial freedom. Make a list of all the things that you feel grateful for in your life. If it’s a person, be sure to communicate your feelings and express your gratitude.

You will feel so much happier. Happiness is the diet of a healthy mind and an intelligent emotional response mechanism. You could also try writing a poem or simply expressing your gratitude through the power of prayers.

There are so many ways to become emotionally intelligent and not one of them requires any investment or special skills. Practically anyone and everyone can do it. All you need is the will and the desire.

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The word gratitude has been tossed around, but do you know exactly what it means or how to implement it into your life? Someone has probably told you in your life, “Express more gratitude.” Well, that sounds like a great idea, but if you don’t know what gratitude is, how can you fully express it in your life? It’s a concept that once you grasp, it will change your life. (more…)

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