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Make Your Life Impactful To Reach Success

All of us dream of having a life that is impactful and forms a story that may one day be turned into a book or movie. The story of your life is made up of many elements that are also the fundamentals of success.

Unless your life is impactful, no one is ever going to care greatly about your story. Your story is owned by you, and only you can create and determine how much impact it will have. Ask yourself the question right now, does your life have a significant impact? If it doesn’t, then it’s time to change it.

It’s time for you to create something that everyone will remember you for. It’s time to turn that dream that you have always had into a reality. This all starts with a decision and often you need some major, painful event to trigger this desire.

Think about the emotions you would feel if the majority of people respected you and were inspired by you. You would be on top of the world, and your life would have meant something. Your name will forever live on, and generations of people will live their lives in dedication to what you stood for.

That sounds like a real vision, and that sounds like a common goal that we should all strive for.

Below are the six ways to make the story of your life impactful.

 

1. Do something outstanding

Life stories that have a major impact all involve someone doing something outstanding; something that no one thought was possible or that would ever be done. Have you done something outstanding already?

If you haven’t, that’s okay, but start thinking about what major task you could achieve that would be outstanding. Start thinking about what you’re great at or what you could be great at.
This first step is the most crucial and you need to decide on it before you proceed.

There are so many people that never realise that they need to do something outstanding, so just this realisation alone can be empowering in itself. Given the size of this task, it’s not going to happen overnight.

When you come to terms with what you are going to do, it will begin to manifest itself in your life. Doing something outstanding ties together passion, giving back, purpose, fulfillment, and many more success attributes that we have all heard before.

The fact that doing something outstanding covers so many of these attributes is the reason why you should dedicate your life to this one task. Once you achieve it, then you have the very rare task of doing it all over again with a new task.

Tim Denning Quote - One Defining Moment
 

2. Teach Others

Any great story involves some form of learning. Before you can teach other people something, though, you need to teach yourself first. I like to begin with lots of reading across a broad range of topics. This will give you the foundations of what you can teach others.

For me, what I want to teach other people is all about self-development, entrepreneurship and how to reach success. This is no easy task for me but I have devoted a large amount of time to it, and I can see progress every week now.

In the beginning, I didn’t see any progress but my mentors told me that eventually I would, and they were right. At the start, I was the student, but now I am becoming the teacher. Each day I get to teach people ideas I have learned myself and translate it into my own language.

Google has meant that education and information is easy to find, but the real task now is for someone to curate and translate the information.

It’s this translation of the learning I have done that allows me to create value. The language I speak in is unique, and the ideas are curated by my own mind. When you can begin to do the same thing, then you two can teach others (if you’re not already).

I recently got the opportunity to work with a graduate. Initially, I wasn’t that excited about the task, but as things progressed, I realised that I had the chance to completely shape his career, which in turn, would shape his life. Anyone can do this and even if it starts with just one graduate, you have the chance to begin to make an impact.

 

3. Share your story

Once you establish your story and start to create an impact, it’s time to share it with others. This doesn’t just mean that you share the good moments with some happy Instagram photos – there is much more to it.

The key to sharing your story is that it’s about being vulnerable, and sharing the negative moments and failures, and then balancing these out with the positive successes. As you share your story in this way, you will begin to compound the impact your story has on the world.

There are many ways to share your story and I have found the easiest way is online first. As you become more comfortable in sharing your story, you can then start sharing it through video, and then later in person.

With my own story, I am about to start sharing it on video, and then the next step will be through public speaking. I am happy to tell you though that I am not great at public speaking so expect to see me at a local Toastmasters shortly. If you are an expert in public speaking and can help, then feel free to reach out to me.

 

4. Live your dream at all costs

The only way your story will have any impact is if it is directly hardwired to your dream. You will need to move every obstacle out of the pathway of your life and agree to live this dream no matter what.

Even when all your close friends are out having dinner, there will be times when you will be required to not take the easy route, and not attend so that you can work on your dream. The temptation in these situations will be great which is why your own individual dream needs to be something you have thought about and truly care about.

Your dream is linked to your passion, and when you are in a state of mind where you are doing something you love, you experience high levels of happiness. Happiness then becomes a fuel for your mind, and you subconsciously start to create your story and make an impact without even thinking about it.

 

5. Show some emotion

To make the story of your life impactful, it needs to contain some emotion. Emotion is what draws people in, and it’s what makes it your story. When it comes to the story of your life, the word impact really just means emotion.

You can’t fake emotion in your own story. The more real and the rawer the emotion is, the more people will be drawn to it. If your story is full of made up elements, then people can spot the fakeness a mile away.

As I have said before, your pain becomes your success, and your success is often determined by the impact you are having. There is nothing like seeing someone give it all they have got and sharing every amount of emotion they have with you.

You get tingles down your spine; you feel unstoppable, and you want to spend more time with them. These are all things that our brains think about subconsciously all the time. If a thought pops into your head about something you are going to do, and you start thinking about what people will think of that action, just do it and don’t think twice.

The chances are that if that action is something that you are worried what others will say about it, it’s probably because it has some form of emotion attached to it that requires you to be vulnerable. It’s these actions that you should commit to doing if you want to have an impact.

 

6. Learn to control your mind

The one element you have 100% control over when it comes to the impact of your life story is your mind (assuming you learn to control it). This is no easy task and so many people never master this art. It requires you to study some basic elements of psychology and really understand yourself.

You need to work out what you love, what you hate, what motivates you and what stops you. If you practice this art form every single day, your brain becomes like a muscle and starts to grow. Your ability to make tough decisions becomes easier, and you’re drawn closer to your purpose.

“Once the human mind is understood and put to proper use, your impact can become more widespread. You can begin to move closer to the things that you care about most and stay clear of the things you have no interest in” – Tim Denning

The people who have controlled their mind the best usually go on to become leaders in their field. From Warren Buffett, to Tony Robbins to the Dalai Lama; all of them live their life at the highest level.

People from the outside will observe the way you control your mind and begin to be drawn to you because it’s such a rarity to have your mind under control and working for you, instead of against you.

Everything I have just mentioned starts with a decision: a decision to be great, a decision to be the example for others rather than let your life waste away to something that no one will remember.

Will you be the person who has the funeral that the whole world stops for, or the person whose funeral has less than twenty close family members there to see you off?

How are you going to make the story of your life impactful? Let me know in the comments section below or on Twitter and Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Vanessa LeMaistre

    Dec 19, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    Hello Tim,
    I absolutely love your article. I can tell from the way you write, you will be an impactful speaker. I have been in Toastmasters for a few years as well and one of the biggest tools I took with me is to use emotion in your speeches because it is the most impactful thing you can do. I am moved by your story as I had been writing a self help book about overcoming things. I overcame pretty big adversities and my goal with my book is to then become a motivational speaker. I feel like I need the message first; then I can deliver. Sometimes though, I wish there was a school for how to be a motivational speaker. Instead, you have to create your own path. I guess that’s the beauty of it. Any pointers on how I can be even more impactful than that? That is so black and white and I want to do as much possible to reach my highest potential. I’ve got all that it takes, and a powerful story to go along with it. I just need some more direction sometimes or more tips on different ways I can impact the world.

  2. Joyce L. Moore

    Apr 20, 2016 at 7:28 am

    I recently discovered that telling your story, a good story is empowerment. I always told my three sons, when you find your passion you will find success and then, over the years, encouraged each of them to use their talents and develop their passion and success would come. Knowing their back story, their history is an important part of that discovery of achieving a life of meaning and success and, working as a family, we were able to start making positive change and impact. We have just started. We want to be the example of how everyday people can make impact full change.

    Your article fills in some of the holes that I feel is necessary to take it to the next level. Thank you.

  3. Kerry-Anne Minns

    Jan 5, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Hi Tim,
    I find this article fascinating as it something i’ve been thinking about and discussing for many years. You’ll see by the holding page on my website that I haven’t quite got there. Friends and family tell me that I have an impactful story but I haven’t worked out how to translate that into something yet. I’m going to spend sometime going through these points and see if it will help me move it forward.
    Also, I would highly recommend Toastmaters i’ve been a member for about 4-5 years I’m currently President of the Bicester Speakers club in UK. I really enjoy public speaking and am always happy to volunteer to speak in public even if its on the spot. The skills i’ve learnt at toastmasters has contributed to me getting jobs and progressing in my career.
    Thanks

    • Tim Denning

      Jan 11, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      Thanks for reading Kerry-Anne and for your comments. I am very keen to see how Toastmasters goes for me and congrats on all your success so far. I look forward to seeing the holding page turn into your website 🙂

  4. Jody McPhearson

    Dec 31, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Tim,

    Thanks for this article. And thank you for having an impact on my life! As I am on this journey it is good to know that others are there to help. Your words about pain becoming success are powerful! Forgive me, your first success principle is powerful! I have recently embraced this idea of failure and it is amazing what impact it is having on my life. My writing is clearer and my goals are more defined. I can not wait for the new year to take the next steps to help others and be impactful in a major way.

    Thank you!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:47 pm

      Jodie thanks for the feedback. Tip number one is also my favourite because unless we do something outstanding, then not much else can happen in our life that will shape our overall story. I will make sure I check out your writing and thanks for reading!

  5. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    Tim, Thanks for the follow on twitter! Great post.

    The point that really sticks out to me is #4. Not giving in to temptation is very hard to do, but once you can control that temptation you can get a lot of stuff done.

    In order to be successful you have to make sacrifices and if that means not hanging out with friends or not catching up on your favorite tv shows then you do what it takes.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:27 pm

      Not a problem guys I love what you are doing and regularly read your Twitter posts. I have just sent you a tweet 🙂

  6. Peter

    Dec 29, 2015 at 8:50 am

    Thank you for your work. You write good articles and I enjoy reading them. They’re very thought-provoking. However, I don’t think that making an impact on the world to achieve fame and glory is what life is or should be all about. I’d rather have no one show up for my funeral than not be true to myself. I think it is written in Christian scripture that “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?” There can be more important things in life than making an impact on others or on the whole world.

    • Addicted 2 The Grind

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Hey Peter, Good point.

      Its all about what you feel and what your want to be known for.( not a general thing) If you want to impact people without the fame thats fine. But I also believe you can impact way more people if you have a bigger audience or platform.

      At the end of the day impacting anyone to do positive things is great.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:17 pm

      Peter thanks for leaving your view and I appreciate where you are coming from. My viewpoint was more about having a positive impact than fame. I agree though that you need to remain true to yourself.

  7. Toño

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:26 am

    Impactful story of your life, a dream for many and reality for so little. Packing my things now and moving into new place, I cannot help but think how I want and enjoy to travel and love to see different environment as often as possible. Going through isolation at my job has helped me to see and better inderstand my faults and work on them, transform them. I love that point about vulnerability, as in the past I usually wanted to avoid it at any cost and show everyone how strong I can be mentally. But again, was I living my own life or someone else’s ?

    Oh, and emotions. I am quite curious about them as well. Recently my emotional attitude lead me to big mistake. Fortunately, I took my time to relax and meditate and then ‘sleep with it’ thus in the morning I realized the solution I knew was the right one, and by taking the immediate action, that puzzle was solved. It was a good lesson your emotions may cost you big deal and that clear mind and confidence is your better ally.

    I understand the power of emotional story but I think you should find a balance. Right now I still have some emotions over my head and not sure what to with them. But I’ll get there one day.

    Once again, thank you so much Tim for you time and attitude for providing great food for our minds. I’ve rarely comment on somenthing but your articles gives me the drive to communicate and give back some feedback. Also, your response means a lot for me and gives me additional motivation to keep going. I appreciate it!

    Have a wonderful day and stay well!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:46 am

      Toño you always share great insights and take the time to be bold and share your story. I would love to connect with you on Facebook to hear more.

      Your feedback is very much appreciated!

    • Reuben

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:56 am

      Toño can I send you a message and chat sometime? The way you just portrayed yourself in this comment above is really well illustrated, quite similar to my own pursuit of success and I was hoping we could share stories sometime and maybe help each other?

  8. Rhonda

    Dec 29, 2015 at 4:25 am

    Awesome!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Thanks Rhonda 🙂

  9. Fred

    Dec 29, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Having traveled the world, worked in the outdoors, and now am able to work from my laptop from anywhere I choose , I can say that I have an impactful story. Now, I just have to tell it! 😛

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Would love to hear your story Fred. Thanks for taking the time to read the article.

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5 Mindset Shifts You Can Steal From the Movies to Have Blockbuster Success

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If only our clients had the passion of Potterheads. Remember the midnight premiers? Potterheads lined up for hours, dressed in full costume, wands a-blazin’. When the doors finally opened, they couldn’t throw their money at the ticket booth fast enough. How do you create that kind of enthusiasm for your own business?

I’m going to share five mindset shifts straight out of the movie business that you can use to fuel lifelong fanatics. Some of it is going to be tough love, but hey, nobody said getting your own fan club was easy.

1. Stay humble, stay hungry

Working actors audition an average of 67 times before booking a gig. 67 times! And that’s working actors—people who earn their entire livelihood from acting. Most entrepreneurs will hear this stat and say, “I get it. I need to accept failure 66 times.” But this isn’t about that. It’s about showing up 67.

Accepting failure is passive. You can accept failure from your couch. Showing up and trying, however, is active. When you show up, you commit to taking a step forward. And 66 times, you’ll get knocked down. It’s humbling. But on attempt 67, that step forward might finally stick.

Mindset shift: You have an insatiable appetite for success. You know that every failure is one failure down and that, soon, you’ll knock it out of the park.

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Treat your audience as kings

The box office doesn’t care what the director’s intentions were, how cool the writer is, or if the lead actor was featured in some fancy magazine, it cares about people in seats. And when thematic costumes clothe them (ala Potterheads), there are more of them.

In movies and entrepreneurship, your most critical metrics depend on your audience’s choices. So, the sooner you start treating your audience as kings and making everything about them, the sooner your metrics will start climbing.

How does the Harry Potter franchise treat Potterheads as kings? Movie premiers are 100% about the fans. They get to feel cool in costume, show off to friends, be among the first, hang out with other super-fans, and more. No matter what, putting your audience’s desire ahead of your own will always pay off in the long run.

Mindset shifts: Other entrepreneurs pursue immediate recognition. But you know that the more special you make your audience feel, the more success you’ll have down the road.

3. Depict compelling transformations

Humans have a fundamental desire for transformation. We love watching movies about redemption, growing up, settling down, overcoming adversity, underdogs, and more. Harry Potter is full of that stuff. Heck, the series even allowed a generation of readers to transform into adults alongside Harry.

This is why Before and After pictures are so incredibly persuasive. They help us to visualize the change we crave. And every single product or service on the market offers some form of transformation. All you have to do is call it out.  

Mindset shift: Bad entrepreneurs sell products. Good entrepreneurs sell solutions. Entrepreneurs who create rabid fans sell transformation.

4. Trust the fundamentals

When I took my first screenwriting class, the number of hyper-specific rules shocked me. Did you know that about 20 minutes into every movie, something dramatic changes in the protagonist’s life and propels them into a new world?

Don’t believe me? Time it. Unsurprisingly, one kid in my class completely ignored the rules. Even more unsurprisingly, his scripts sucked. When my professor called him out, the kid blubbered, “But Tarantino—” To which my professor replied, “Are you Tarantino?” No. No, he was not Tarantino.

The difference between you, me, that kid, and Tarantino is that Tarantino paid his dues. It’s extremely rare to find someone who became successful by completely ignoring the conventions of their craft. And the same is true for entrepreneurship.

Mindset shift: Nobody is “above” learning the fundamentals. You know that by appreciating the current structures and systems, you will be better poised to disrupt them in the future.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. Kill your darlings

Once upon a time, an animation studio was four years into creating a film about the ocean. They had sunk thousands of hours, hundreds of thousands of dollars, and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into the project. Then, the unthinkable happened… Finding Nemo. You know what the studio did with their ocean movie? They scrapped it.

As entrepreneurs, once we invest a lot of time and energy into something, we’re afraid to abandon it—even if the circumstances that made it worth pursuing in the first place don’t exist anymore. It’s the sunk cost fallacy. It’s important to remember that regardless of if you keep chugging along, the investment you made is unrecoverable. On the flip side, the gains you made are still valuable. The only choice you have is how you move forward—and sometimes, that means changing course.

Mindset shift: No effort goes to waste, even if the resulting work becomes irrelevant. Instead of letting your ego rule your decisions, you choose the best course of action and move on.

Building enthusiasm for your business is a slow but crucial process. What techniques have you pulled from other fields to help connect with your audience?

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How Stress Can Actually Improve the Quality of Your Life

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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
2.    “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?”

The researchers found that people who experienced high levels of stress were 43% more likely to die in the study’s 8-year period. Doesn’t that prove stress is in fact bad for your health? Not exactly, stress was only harmful to the people who believed stress was harmful.

Those people who experienced high amounts of stress but didn’t believe it was harmful to their health were less likely to die than all other groups in the study. They were even less likely to die than the people who experienced low levels of stress (but believed stress is harmful.)

Put simply, people who believe that stress is not harmful live longer lives than those who believe it is. This study showed that it might not be stress that damages our health, but our beliefs about stress that damages our health.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” – Elbert Hubbard

Breakthroughs In Stress Research

At first, this might be hard to believe. Kelly McGonigal elegantly explains this phenomenon in The Upside of Stress, “Stress mindsets are powerful because they affect not just how you think but also how you act. When you view stress as harmful, it is something to be avoided. Feeling stressed becomes a signal to try to escape or reduce the stress. And indeed, people who endorse a stress-is-harmful mindset are more likely to say that they cope with stress by trying to avoid it.”

People who believe stress is negative are more likely to avoid it by smoking, binge-eating, or watching too much TV. Afterwards, their physical health pays the price. Fortunately, research has shown that your beliefs about stress can be changed – and changing them has powerful benefits.

A study by Jeremy Jameson and colleagues had people endure a grueling social stress test. Participants were asked to give a 5-minute impromptu speech about their personal weaknesses to a panel of judges. To make this situation even more stressful, the judges were instructed to give negative feedback to the participant giving the speech. This study wasn’t just about sadistically putting people through social pressure, it was testing whether a mindset intervention could change how people react to stress.

Before giving the impromptu speech, participants were shown one of two videos:

  • The first video opened with the message, “Most people think that stress is negative… but research shows that stress is even more debilitating than you expect.”
  • The second video opened with, “Most people think that stress is negative… but actually research shows that it is enhancing.”

Participants who were shown the video that gave examples of how stress can be enhancing were less stressed out during the interview, felt more confident while speaking, and gave better interviews (as rated both by themselves and the judges). Even more impressively, although normally a stress response causes a person’s blood vessels to constrict, the blood vessels of participants who saw the pro-stress video remained relaxed.

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.” – David Allen

The Power Of Your Stress Mindset

So, a 3-minute video was able to change the way people responded to a stressful situation, not just psychologically, but physiologically. When we think stress is something we must avoid, stress becomes a negative feedback loop. We experience stress, we think it’s a bad thing, and then our stress makes us even more stressed (and on and on).

But, when we think stress is just a natural part of life, or even a good thing, we are able to embrace it instead of being controlled by it. This not only allows us to perform better in stressful situations, it also enables us to make healthier decisions (because we won’t attempt to avoid stress with unhealthy coping behaviors).

How do you handle stress? Comment below!

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One Piece Of Simple Advice That Changed My Life.

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“Stay positive no matter what happens.”

That’s one simple piece of advice that changed my life.

I learned the importance of this advice the hard way when my life was traveling along just nicely. I had a high paying job, a booming blogging career, a partner who loved me, and enough money to live and enjoy a few simple pleasures.

I got to travel overseas to exotic locations and work even allowed me to have some pretty unique experiences like sleeping on a yacht and going surfing with a crazy bunch of entrepreneurs.

I thought I had it all.

People looked at my life and thought it was spectacular.


Deep inside of me, I knew something was not quite right.

I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Something about this so-called perfect life felt wrong.

Before I knew it, I broke up with my girlfriend, lost all of my work colleagues to competitors and found myself staring into a glass half full of instant coffee.

When I hit challenges, I found myself getting pissed off. I’d say to myself “Why me?” and “Get out of my way idiot, you’re blocking the path in front of me.”

How could an internet proclaimed self-help blogger have these crazy, messed up thoughts?

What was wrong was I’d forgotten how to stay positive. I thought that I was past the point of having to deal with challenges and I’d reached a level that I could never go back from.

“Personal development and inspirational content can make you feel invincible — especially when you’re the one creating it”

Sometimes the very thing you preach can be the one thing that is your own downfall.

As I analyzed the situation, I saw that I’d forgotten how to practice positivity.


How does one practice positivity?

By deciding to. Positivity is a choice.

Positivity is like going on an adventure and forcing yourself to see at least one good thing about the journey.

One little hack I used was writing down three things each day I was grateful for. I forced myself to do it at work and locked it into my diary for 9 am every morning.

During the career challenges I mentioned earlier, the lady that sits a few desks away from me described my situation as like being on the Titanic. She called my business unit the “Sinking Ship.”

Outside forces are going to have an effect on you if you let them. I chose to see positivity in what she was saying. I wrote down notes of how this could be positive.

It took a while, but eventually, I got the answer: The Titanic she described was a forced career change into something I liked even more. I’d become comfortable and that was the issue.

At that moment, I realized that I had the power within me to always see positivity if I wanted to.


It’s not about getting rid of negative thoughts necessarily.

It takes a lot of energy to remove or block negative thoughts. Choosing positivity is a much easier process to go through and it takes less energy.

Committing to yourself that there is at least one good outcome from every situation, forces your mind into positivity. It can be done.

You’re supposed to have negative thoughts. They keep you alive. Having zero negative thoughts is impossible. What helped me was balancing my thoughts to be more of the positive variety.


Gossiping and complaining breeds the opposite outcome.

Trying to stay positive no matter what is extremely difficult when you’re in conversations with people who are egging you on to complain, or gossip about someone or something.

The temptation is huge because whether we like it or not, it feels good.

The trouble with complaining or gossiping is that it only breeds more negativity.

You’re asking your brain to dish up negative possibilities and recall negative situations. The other person’s reaction to your negativity only rewards your brain for its hard work.

You can’t focus on being positive if you deliberately hijack your brain every time with gossip talk and picking faults with your co-workers.

People stuff up; they have different beliefs to you; they have other priorities.

Gossiping and complaining doesn’t make anyone else wrong. It does make you practice negativity though and that’s not going to change your life.


Take a long hard look at yourself.

Are you being positive most of the time? When I asked myself this question, I could see clearly that I was not.

I’d fallen into bad habits and allowed outside forces to manipulate my thoughts and turn them toxic.

My life started to change when I acknowledged what was going on and took ownership for it.

“It’s damn hard to admit as a self-help blogger that you’re being extremely negative and ruining your own success. It’s somewhat counter-intuitive. Either way, this reality was my truth and I owned it!”

Ignoring the problem is not going to make it magically disappear.

So, what did I do?

  • Stayed clear of the people who were fuelling my negativity
  • Focused on the positivity that already existed in my life like blogging, love and family
  • Chose a new career path that was closer to what I loved
  • Spent more time with other bloggers to learn how they dealt with negativity
  • Took accountability and stopped focusing on outside interference
  • Doubled down on my blogging so I could spread more positivity
  • Spent lots of time watching videos on a Facebook page called Human Kindness

Above all else, one thing that helped was being more kind.

When you’re kind to everyone you encounter, positivity comes at you a hundred miles an hour.

People will make you feel positive when you are kind towards them. You don’t have to hand out millions of dollars in donations or build an orphanage either.

Simple acts of kindness like holding the door open, complimenting someone, or letting a driver into your lane is all it takes.


Tragedy will strike everyone.

That’s not something to be sad about it’s just a fact of life. When you can go through any event and always find a way to be positive, you’re able to recover much quicker. This allows you to support others during these tough times.


Positivity can make you see another way.

By seeing positivity, you’ll discover other options that those around you can’t see.

“Positivity is closely linked to creativity”

Seeing hidden opportunities doesn’t happen when you’re pissed off and want to kill your neighbor because of their dog that always barks when you’re sleeping.

Positivity sparks possibility and that’s where your next opportunity will come from.


Final thought.

Positivity really is the simple advice that will change your life. We can all use more of it and it’s missing in so many souls around the world. Find another way to move forward and don’t be afraid to take a step back once in a while.

Choose positivity in every situation and your life will change. You’ll see a brighter future, and better yet, you’ll create that future for yourself.

You deserve to be fulfilled and do what you love. Let positivity get you there faster.

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4 Simple Things You Can Do Today to Change Your Life for the Better

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Change lies in our ability to create better decisions for ourselves, and we can only do this by establishing a healthy mindset. Learn how to create a better life for yourself by improving your state of mind. I am going to help you get a little closer to the satisfying life you deserve by giving you some simple tips that hav completely changed the way I think of life.

Here are 4 simple things you can do to change your life right now:

1. What is making you unhappy?

Go to a quiet place to sit and think about your life. Take as much time as you need to think about why your life is the way it is. What in your life is going wrong? Why are you feeling this way? If something could fix the way you are feeling, what would it be? Write down all the things that are hindering your quest to life satisfaction and be specific. Then, write down solutions to each problem. This part is critical because it shows that your pain can be solved and therefore is temporary. It also shows that it is up to you to start your journey to a better you.

“Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Rohn

2. Improve Your Self-Awareness

Intellectual dishonesty is the worst thing we can do to our psyche. It is important to move beyond that barrier to improve self-awareness, which will then improve our lives. Your self-awareness is the ability to evaluate your own actions, feeling, desires and the negative and positive impact they have had on you and your environment. Be honest with yourself and create a list of things you should improve on and work towards those goals. Your list can include things such as, less aggressiveness; more patience or being more open to other people.

3. Put Away Your Phone

It is so easy to check out because of our phones. That little device can do pretty much anything, and we are under its spell. When was the last time you were with your loved ones without your phone being present? Even when you put it away, you keep it on the table and the urge to check it continues to grow.

That is called an addiction. Addiction is not limited to drugs, they can extend to objects or people as well. This unhealthy behavior prevents you from experiencing the present. Learn how to step away from your phone and cultivate your life.

Learn a new language, read a book or indulge in some arts and crafts. Brainstorm some awesome ideas that could lead to great cash flow. You have a ton of other things that you could be doing that will help you in the long run. When you go out with friends and family, turn off your phone and put it away. If someone calls, and it is important, they can leave a voicemail. Texts are not urgent…. because it’s a text. That person could easily call and if they care, they’ll leave a voicemail too.

The bottom line is to not let your phone be you crutch. Let your mind wonder and embrace boredom. You’ll be surprised at how creative your mind can get. You can create whole worlds and destroy them all in your mind! That is fascinating on its own without the help of a device.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Give

Give something to someone at least once a day. This shifts the mindset from, “what I don’t have” to “what do I have to give?” Offer to buy your co-worker’s lunch; help someone with their computer; hold the door open for someone. Trust me, you will feel better about yourself and help others feel lighter on their feet. You could also volunteer or donate some of your belongings that are in good condition. Trust me, someone out there needs them, and they don’t care if it is out of fashion.

To live a better life, we must create a healthier way of thinking. Once our mind is healed, only then we will be able to live our best life. The goal is to create a healthy mindset, so we can make high-quality decisions that will lead to a more satisfying life.   

How are you improving your life today? Comment below!

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5 Viktor Frankl Quotes to Reshape Your Perspective Today

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Highly regarded as one of Viktor Frankl’s greatest works, “A Man’s Search For Meaning” highlights Dr. Frankl’s perseverance and survival through the Auschwitz concentration camp. His insights, both harrowing and enchanting, can be readily applied as a sort of spiritual compass for the modern-day man or woman. (more…)

Dan Whalen is a franchise operator with College Hunks Hauling Junk & Moving, personal development writer, and NLP master practitioner. He has a background in business management and team leadership spanning nearly a decade, and has a deeply-rooted passion for helping people experience fulfilling lives. You can find him on Twitter at @DanielJWhalen.

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  1. Vanessa LeMaistre

    Dec 19, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    Hello Tim,
    I absolutely love your article. I can tell from the way you write, you will be an impactful speaker. I have been in Toastmasters for a few years as well and one of the biggest tools I took with me is to use emotion in your speeches because it is the most impactful thing you can do. I am moved by your story as I had been writing a self help book about overcoming things. I overcame pretty big adversities and my goal with my book is to then become a motivational speaker. I feel like I need the message first; then I can deliver. Sometimes though, I wish there was a school for how to be a motivational speaker. Instead, you have to create your own path. I guess that’s the beauty of it. Any pointers on how I can be even more impactful than that? That is so black and white and I want to do as much possible to reach my highest potential. I’ve got all that it takes, and a powerful story to go along with it. I just need some more direction sometimes or more tips on different ways I can impact the world.

  2. Joyce L. Moore

    Apr 20, 2016 at 7:28 am

    I recently discovered that telling your story, a good story is empowerment. I always told my three sons, when you find your passion you will find success and then, over the years, encouraged each of them to use their talents and develop their passion and success would come. Knowing their back story, their history is an important part of that discovery of achieving a life of meaning and success and, working as a family, we were able to start making positive change and impact. We have just started. We want to be the example of how everyday people can make impact full change.

    Your article fills in some of the holes that I feel is necessary to take it to the next level. Thank you.

  3. Kerry-Anne Minns

    Jan 5, 2016 at 1:26 pm

    Hi Tim,
    I find this article fascinating as it something i’ve been thinking about and discussing for many years. You’ll see by the holding page on my website that I haven’t quite got there. Friends and family tell me that I have an impactful story but I haven’t worked out how to translate that into something yet. I’m going to spend sometime going through these points and see if it will help me move it forward.
    Also, I would highly recommend Toastmaters i’ve been a member for about 4-5 years I’m currently President of the Bicester Speakers club in UK. I really enjoy public speaking and am always happy to volunteer to speak in public even if its on the spot. The skills i’ve learnt at toastmasters has contributed to me getting jobs and progressing in my career.
    Thanks

    • Tim Denning

      Jan 11, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      Thanks for reading Kerry-Anne and for your comments. I am very keen to see how Toastmasters goes for me and congrats on all your success so far. I look forward to seeing the holding page turn into your website 🙂

  4. Jody McPhearson

    Dec 31, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Tim,

    Thanks for this article. And thank you for having an impact on my life! As I am on this journey it is good to know that others are there to help. Your words about pain becoming success are powerful! Forgive me, your first success principle is powerful! I have recently embraced this idea of failure and it is amazing what impact it is having on my life. My writing is clearer and my goals are more defined. I can not wait for the new year to take the next steps to help others and be impactful in a major way.

    Thank you!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 31, 2015 at 10:47 pm

      Jodie thanks for the feedback. Tip number one is also my favourite because unless we do something outstanding, then not much else can happen in our life that will shape our overall story. I will make sure I check out your writing and thanks for reading!

  5. Addicted 2 The Grind

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:03 pm

    Tim, Thanks for the follow on twitter! Great post.

    The point that really sticks out to me is #4. Not giving in to temptation is very hard to do, but once you can control that temptation you can get a lot of stuff done.

    In order to be successful you have to make sacrifices and if that means not hanging out with friends or not catching up on your favorite tv shows then you do what it takes.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:27 pm

      Not a problem guys I love what you are doing and regularly read your Twitter posts. I have just sent you a tweet 🙂

  6. Peter

    Dec 29, 2015 at 8:50 am

    Thank you for your work. You write good articles and I enjoy reading them. They’re very thought-provoking. However, I don’t think that making an impact on the world to achieve fame and glory is what life is or should be all about. I’d rather have no one show up for my funeral than not be true to myself. I think it is written in Christian scripture that “What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul?” There can be more important things in life than making an impact on others or on the whole world.

    • Addicted 2 The Grind

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Hey Peter, Good point.

      Its all about what you feel and what your want to be known for.( not a general thing) If you want to impact people without the fame thats fine. But I also believe you can impact way more people if you have a bigger audience or platform.

      At the end of the day impacting anyone to do positive things is great.

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 11:17 pm

      Peter thanks for leaving your view and I appreciate where you are coming from. My viewpoint was more about having a positive impact than fame. I agree though that you need to remain true to yourself.

  7. Toño

    Dec 29, 2015 at 6:26 am

    Impactful story of your life, a dream for many and reality for so little. Packing my things now and moving into new place, I cannot help but think how I want and enjoy to travel and love to see different environment as often as possible. Going through isolation at my job has helped me to see and better inderstand my faults and work on them, transform them. I love that point about vulnerability, as in the past I usually wanted to avoid it at any cost and show everyone how strong I can be mentally. But again, was I living my own life or someone else’s ?

    Oh, and emotions. I am quite curious about them as well. Recently my emotional attitude lead me to big mistake. Fortunately, I took my time to relax and meditate and then ‘sleep with it’ thus in the morning I realized the solution I knew was the right one, and by taking the immediate action, that puzzle was solved. It was a good lesson your emotions may cost you big deal and that clear mind and confidence is your better ally.

    I understand the power of emotional story but I think you should find a balance. Right now I still have some emotions over my head and not sure what to with them. But I’ll get there one day.

    Once again, thank you so much Tim for you time and attitude for providing great food for our minds. I’ve rarely comment on somenthing but your articles gives me the drive to communicate and give back some feedback. Also, your response means a lot for me and gives me additional motivation to keep going. I appreciate it!

    Have a wonderful day and stay well!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:46 am

      Toño you always share great insights and take the time to be bold and share your story. I would love to connect with you on Facebook to hear more.

      Your feedback is very much appreciated!

    • Reuben

      Jan 4, 2016 at 2:56 am

      Toño can I send you a message and chat sometime? The way you just portrayed yourself in this comment above is really well illustrated, quite similar to my own pursuit of success and I was hoping we could share stories sometime and maybe help each other?

  8. Rhonda

    Dec 29, 2015 at 4:25 am

    Awesome!

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Thanks Rhonda 🙂

  9. Fred

    Dec 29, 2015 at 1:50 am

    Having traveled the world, worked in the outdoors, and now am able to work from my laptop from anywhere I choose , I can say that I have an impactful story. Now, I just have to tell it! 😛

    • Tim Denning

      Dec 29, 2015 at 6:43 am

      Would love to hear your story Fred. Thanks for taking the time to read the article.

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5 Mindset Shifts You Can Steal From the Movies to Have Blockbuster Success

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If only our clients had the passion of Potterheads. Remember the midnight premiers? Potterheads lined up for hours, dressed in full costume, wands a-blazin’. When the doors finally opened, they couldn’t throw their money at the ticket booth fast enough. How do you create that kind of enthusiasm for your own business?

I’m going to share five mindset shifts straight out of the movie business that you can use to fuel lifelong fanatics. Some of it is going to be tough love, but hey, nobody said getting your own fan club was easy.

1. Stay humble, stay hungry

Working actors audition an average of 67 times before booking a gig. 67 times! And that’s working actors—people who earn their entire livelihood from acting. Most entrepreneurs will hear this stat and say, “I get it. I need to accept failure 66 times.” But this isn’t about that. It’s about showing up 67.

Accepting failure is passive. You can accept failure from your couch. Showing up and trying, however, is active. When you show up, you commit to taking a step forward. And 66 times, you’ll get knocked down. It’s humbling. But on attempt 67, that step forward might finally stick.

Mindset shift: You have an insatiable appetite for success. You know that every failure is one failure down and that, soon, you’ll knock it out of the park.

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Treat your audience as kings

The box office doesn’t care what the director’s intentions were, how cool the writer is, or if the lead actor was featured in some fancy magazine, it cares about people in seats. And when thematic costumes clothe them (ala Potterheads), there are more of them.

In movies and entrepreneurship, your most critical metrics depend on your audience’s choices. So, the sooner you start treating your audience as kings and making everything about them, the sooner your metrics will start climbing.

How does the Harry Potter franchise treat Potterheads as kings? Movie premiers are 100% about the fans. They get to feel cool in costume, show off to friends, be among the first, hang out with other super-fans, and more. No matter what, putting your audience’s desire ahead of your own will always pay off in the long run.

Mindset shifts: Other entrepreneurs pursue immediate recognition. But you know that the more special you make your audience feel, the more success you’ll have down the road.

3. Depict compelling transformations

Humans have a fundamental desire for transformation. We love watching movies about redemption, growing up, settling down, overcoming adversity, underdogs, and more. Harry Potter is full of that stuff. Heck, the series even allowed a generation of readers to transform into adults alongside Harry.

This is why Before and After pictures are so incredibly persuasive. They help us to visualize the change we crave. And every single product or service on the market offers some form of transformation. All you have to do is call it out.  

Mindset shift: Bad entrepreneurs sell products. Good entrepreneurs sell solutions. Entrepreneurs who create rabid fans sell transformation.

4. Trust the fundamentals

When I took my first screenwriting class, the number of hyper-specific rules shocked me. Did you know that about 20 minutes into every movie, something dramatic changes in the protagonist’s life and propels them into a new world?

Don’t believe me? Time it. Unsurprisingly, one kid in my class completely ignored the rules. Even more unsurprisingly, his scripts sucked. When my professor called him out, the kid blubbered, “But Tarantino—” To which my professor replied, “Are you Tarantino?” No. No, he was not Tarantino.

The difference between you, me, that kid, and Tarantino is that Tarantino paid his dues. It’s extremely rare to find someone who became successful by completely ignoring the conventions of their craft. And the same is true for entrepreneurship.

Mindset shift: Nobody is “above” learning the fundamentals. You know that by appreciating the current structures and systems, you will be better poised to disrupt them in the future.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. Kill your darlings

Once upon a time, an animation studio was four years into creating a film about the ocean. They had sunk thousands of hours, hundreds of thousands of dollars, and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into the project. Then, the unthinkable happened… Finding Nemo. You know what the studio did with their ocean movie? They scrapped it.

As entrepreneurs, once we invest a lot of time and energy into something, we’re afraid to abandon it—even if the circumstances that made it worth pursuing in the first place don’t exist anymore. It’s the sunk cost fallacy. It’s important to remember that regardless of if you keep chugging along, the investment you made is unrecoverable. On the flip side, the gains you made are still valuable. The only choice you have is how you move forward—and sometimes, that means changing course.

Mindset shift: No effort goes to waste, even if the resulting work becomes irrelevant. Instead of letting your ego rule your decisions, you choose the best course of action and move on.

Building enthusiasm for your business is a slow but crucial process. What techniques have you pulled from other fields to help connect with your audience?

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How Stress Can Actually Improve the Quality of Your Life

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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
2.    “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?”

The researchers found that people who experienced high levels of stress were 43% more likely to die in the study’s 8-year period. Doesn’t that prove stress is in fact bad for your health? Not exactly, stress was only harmful to the people who believed stress was harmful.

Those people who experienced high amounts of stress but didn’t believe it was harmful to their health were less likely to die than all other groups in the study. They were even less likely to die than the people who experienced low levels of stress (but believed stress is harmful.)

Put simply, people who believe that stress is not harmful live longer lives than those who believe it is. This study showed that it might not be stress that damages our health, but our beliefs about stress that damages our health.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” – Elbert Hubbard

Breakthroughs In Stress Research

At first, this might be hard to believe. Kelly McGonigal elegantly explains this phenomenon in The Upside of Stress, “Stress mindsets are powerful because they affect not just how you think but also how you act. When you view stress as harmful, it is something to be avoided. Feeling stressed becomes a signal to try to escape or reduce the stress. And indeed, people who endorse a stress-is-harmful mindset are more likely to say that they cope with stress by trying to avoid it.”

People who believe stress is negative are more likely to avoid it by smoking, binge-eating, or watching too much TV. Afterwards, their physical health pays the price. Fortunately, research has shown that your beliefs about stress can be changed – and changing them has powerful benefits.

A study by Jeremy Jameson and colleagues had people endure a grueling social stress test. Participants were asked to give a 5-minute impromptu speech about their personal weaknesses to a panel of judges. To make this situation even more stressful, the judges were instructed to give negative feedback to the participant giving the speech. This study wasn’t just about sadistically putting people through social pressure, it was testing whether a mindset intervention could change how people react to stress.

Before giving the impromptu speech, participants were shown one of two videos:

  • The first video opened with the message, “Most people think that stress is negative… but research shows that stress is even more debilitating than you expect.”
  • The second video opened with, “Most people think that stress is negative… but actually research shows that it is enhancing.”

Participants who were shown the video that gave examples of how stress can be enhancing were less stressed out during the interview, felt more confident while speaking, and gave better interviews (as rated both by themselves and the judges). Even more impressively, although normally a stress response causes a person’s blood vessels to constrict, the blood vessels of participants who saw the pro-stress video remained relaxed.

“Much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they’ve started.” – David Allen

The Power Of Your Stress Mindset

So, a 3-minute video was able to change the way people responded to a stressful situation, not just psychologically, but physiologically. When we think stress is something we must avoid, stress becomes a negative feedback loop. We experience stress, we think it’s a bad thing, and then our stress makes us even more stressed (and on and on).

But, when we think stress is just a natural part of life, or even a good thing, we are able to embrace it instead of being controlled by it. This not only allows us to perform better in stressful situations, it also enables us to make healthier decisions (because we won’t attempt to avoid stress with unhealthy coping behaviors).

How do you handle stress? Comment below!

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One Piece Of Simple Advice That Changed My Life.

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“Stay positive no matter what happens.”

That’s one simple piece of advice that changed my life.

I learned the importance of this advice the hard way when my life was traveling along just nicely. I had a high paying job, a booming blogging career, a partner who loved me, and enough money to live and enjoy a few simple pleasures.

I got to travel overseas to exotic locations and work even allowed me to have some pretty unique experiences like sleeping on a yacht and going surfing with a crazy bunch of entrepreneurs.

I thought I had it all.

People looked at my life and thought it was spectacular.


Deep inside of me, I knew something was not quite right.

I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Something about this so-called perfect life felt wrong.

Before I knew it, I broke up with my girlfriend, lost all of my work colleagues to competitors and found myself staring into a glass half full of instant coffee.

When I hit challenges, I found myself getting pissed off. I’d say to myself “Why me?” and “Get out of my way idiot, you’re blocking the path in front of me.”

How could an internet proclaimed self-help blogger have these crazy, messed up thoughts?

What was wrong was I’d forgotten how to stay positive. I thought that I was past the point of having to deal with challenges and I’d reached a level that I could never go back from.

“Personal development and inspirational content can make you feel invincible — especially when you’re the one creating it”

Sometimes the very thing you preach can be the one thing that is your own downfall.

As I analyzed the situation, I saw that I’d forgotten how to practice positivity.


How does one practice positivity?

By deciding to. Positivity is a choice.

Positivity is like going on an adventure and forcing yourself to see at least one good thing about the journey.

One little hack I used was writing down three things each day I was grateful for. I forced myself to do it at work and locked it into my diary for 9 am every morning.

During the career challenges I mentioned earlier, the lady that sits a few desks away from me described my situation as like being on the Titanic. She called my business unit the “Sinking Ship.”

Outside forces are going to have an effect on you if you let them. I chose to see positivity in what she was saying. I wrote down notes of how this could be positive.

It took a while, but eventually, I got the answer: The Titanic she described was a forced career change into something I liked even more. I’d become comfortable and that was the issue.

At that moment, I realized that I had the power within me to always see positivity if I wanted to.


It’s not about getting rid of negative thoughts necessarily.

It takes a lot of energy to remove or block negative thoughts. Choosing positivity is a much easier process to go through and it takes less energy.

Committing to yourself that there is at least one good outcome from every situation, forces your mind into positivity. It can be done.

You’re supposed to have negative thoughts. They keep you alive. Having zero negative thoughts is impossible. What helped me was balancing my thoughts to be more of the positive variety.


Gossiping and complaining breeds the opposite outcome.

Trying to stay positive no matter what is extremely difficult when you’re in conversations with people who are egging you on to complain, or gossip about someone or something.

The temptation is huge because whether we like it or not, it feels good.

The trouble with complaining or gossiping is that it only breeds more negativity.

You’re asking your brain to dish up negative possibilities and recall negative situations. The other person’s reaction to your negativity only rewards your brain for its hard work.

You can’t focus on being positive if you deliberately hijack your brain every time with gossip talk and picking faults with your co-workers.

People stuff up; they have different beliefs to you; they have other priorities.

Gossiping and complaining doesn’t make anyone else wrong. It does make you practice negativity though and that’s not going to change your life.


Take a long hard look at yourself.

Are you being positive most of the time? When I asked myself this question, I could see clearly that I was not.

I’d fallen into bad habits and allowed outside forces to manipulate my thoughts and turn them toxic.

My life started to change when I acknowledged what was going on and took ownership for it.

“It’s damn hard to admit as a self-help blogger that you’re being extremely negative and ruining your own success. It’s somewhat counter-intuitive. Either way, this reality was my truth and I owned it!”

Ignoring the problem is not going to make it magically disappear.

So, what did I do?

  • Stayed clear of the people who were fuelling my negativity
  • Focused on the positivity that already existed in my life like blogging, love and family
  • Chose a new career path that was closer to what I loved
  • Spent more time with other bloggers to learn how they dealt with negativity
  • Took accountability and stopped focusing on outside interference
  • Doubled down on my blogging so I could spread more positivity
  • Spent lots of time watching videos on a Facebook page called Human Kindness

Above all else, one thing that helped was being more kind.

When you’re kind to everyone you encounter, positivity comes at you a hundred miles an hour.

People will make you feel positive when you are kind towards them. You don’t have to hand out millions of dollars in donations or build an orphanage either.

Simple acts of kindness like holding the door open, complimenting someone, or letting a driver into your lane is all it takes.


Tragedy will strike everyone.

That’s not something to be sad about it’s just a fact of life. When you can go through any event and always find a way to be positive, you’re able to recover much quicker. This allows you to support others during these tough times.


Positivity can make you see another way.

By seeing positivity, you’ll discover other options that those around you can’t see.

“Positivity is closely linked to creativity”

Seeing hidden opportunities doesn’t happen when you’re pissed off and want to kill your neighbor because of their dog that always barks when you’re sleeping.

Positivity sparks possibility and that’s where your next opportunity will come from.


Final thought.

Positivity really is the simple advice that will change your life. We can all use more of it and it’s missing in so many souls around the world. Find another way to move forward and don’t be afraid to take a step back once in a while.

Choose positivity in every situation and your life will change. You’ll see a brighter future, and better yet, you’ll create that future for yourself.

You deserve to be fulfilled and do what you love. Let positivity get you there faster.

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4 Simple Things You Can Do Today to Change Your Life for the Better

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Change lies in our ability to create better decisions for ourselves, and we can only do this by establishing a healthy mindset. Learn how to create a better life for yourself by improving your state of mind. I am going to help you get a little closer to the satisfying life you deserve by giving you some simple tips that hav completely changed the way I think of life.

Here are 4 simple things you can do to change your life right now:

1. What is making you unhappy?

Go to a quiet place to sit and think about your life. Take as much time as you need to think about why your life is the way it is. What in your life is going wrong? Why are you feeling this way? If something could fix the way you are feeling, what would it be? Write down all the things that are hindering your quest to life satisfaction and be specific. Then, write down solutions to each problem. This part is critical because it shows that your pain can be solved and therefore is temporary. It also shows that it is up to you to start your journey to a better you.

“Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Rohn

2. Improve Your Self-Awareness

Intellectual dishonesty is the worst thing we can do to our psyche. It is important to move beyond that barrier to improve self-awareness, which will then improve our lives. Your self-awareness is the ability to evaluate your own actions, feeling, desires and the negative and positive impact they have had on you and your environment. Be honest with yourself and create a list of things you should improve on and work towards those goals. Your list can include things such as, less aggressiveness; more patience or being more open to other people.

3. Put Away Your Phone

It is so easy to check out because of our phones. That little device can do pretty much anything, and we are under its spell. When was the last time you were with your loved ones without your phone being present? Even when you put it away, you keep it on the table and the urge to check it continues to grow.

That is called an addiction. Addiction is not limited to drugs, they can extend to objects or people as well. This unhealthy behavior prevents you from experiencing the present. Learn how to step away from your phone and cultivate your life.

Learn a new language, read a book or indulge in some arts and crafts. Brainstorm some awesome ideas that could lead to great cash flow. You have a ton of other things that you could be doing that will help you in the long run. When you go out with friends and family, turn off your phone and put it away. If someone calls, and it is important, they can leave a voicemail. Texts are not urgent…. because it’s a text. That person could easily call and if they care, they’ll leave a voicemail too.

The bottom line is to not let your phone be you crutch. Let your mind wonder and embrace boredom. You’ll be surprised at how creative your mind can get. You can create whole worlds and destroy them all in your mind! That is fascinating on its own without the help of a device.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Give

Give something to someone at least once a day. This shifts the mindset from, “what I don’t have” to “what do I have to give?” Offer to buy your co-worker’s lunch; help someone with their computer; hold the door open for someone. Trust me, you will feel better about yourself and help others feel lighter on their feet. You could also volunteer or donate some of your belongings that are in good condition. Trust me, someone out there needs them, and they don’t care if it is out of fashion.

To live a better life, we must create a healthier way of thinking. Once our mind is healed, only then we will be able to live our best life. The goal is to create a healthy mindset, so we can make high-quality decisions that will lead to a more satisfying life.   

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