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How to Open New Doors of Opportunity and Wake Up Fulfilled

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Everyone is screaming to live a meaningful life and do something that matters. You look on all the bookshelves and at social media influencers, it’s a common message to find your passion. It begs the question though, are those same people living the life they desire? I am sure many are living a life fulfilled but there are so many that aren’t.

If that was the case, we would not be fighting against an identity crisis. The majority of the world would not be living in stress, anxiety and wake up every morning fighting to get out of society’s imposed rat race. We know at a basic level that life is meant to be filled with excitement and that we desire to have an impact. 

The problem is that most individuals do not understand this, otherwise people would not continue to open up the same doors to life. Those doors include going to school, getting a degree, finding a job, getting married, having kids and then crossing your fingers that you work hard enough for 40-50 years in order to actually start enjoying your life!

The New Door of Opportunity

Yes, we do have an identity crisis and are struggling to win the battle against stress but the underlying issue is a lack of clarity. Clarity about who we are as individuals. Clarity about the type of life we want to live.

Clarity is not comparison! Comparison is confusion. Clarity is the first new door of opportunity you can give yourself today. The reality is that if you want more out of your life then you must change. You must change the image you hold of yourself. Do not be scared of change because with no clarity, no change and with no change comes no growth.

Here are the 3 Steps For Greater Clarity

Step 1: Vision

First, you must define and create a vivid vision of your future. Most people are sucked into the rat race of life because they have no mental image of what it is they desire. People are conforming to others beliefs, lifestyles and even the way they dress because they have not taken the time to decide what they want out of life.

When you form a clear picture of your future, it’s a boost in your own self-confidence. The confidence to walk away from people, places or opportunities that do not align with your future. On the flip side, it also gives you the confidence to reach out to people or opportunities that move you closer to who you want to become.

Many people never take the time to actually sit down and think about their future. They are stuck inside their fixed mindset and think that this is just as good as life is going to get. You are the creator of your future.

Take time today to define what you want your life to look like so that you can begin becoming that person. You do not become a millionaire after you make a million dollars. You become a millionaire in the years, months and days leading up to that moment.

“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” – Tony Robbins

Step 2: Thoughts and Feelings

Once you have created the picture of your future self, what feelings will that bring to your life? Does your future self bring you more peace? Maybe joy and happiness? Even a greater sense of purpose and meaning?

Now you can begin writing down the feelings you want to experience everyday. Like so many people today, they crave more peace and less stress. You can not wake up everyday and stay addicted to your stressful thoughts and expect to gain peace of mind. What thoughts can you start thinking of today that will bring a greater feeling of relaxation.

Begin living as your future self. How would that person walk and talk? What would they eat? How would they experience life? As you start practicing those feelings everyday, it becomes a new excitement and energy booster. Just like you can become addicted to the feelings of stress. You can also become addicted to joy and excitement.

Step 3: Living Meaningful

The all important piece of life, we crave to live a meaningful life. This is determined by the actions and behaviors you take each day. What areas of your life are most meaningful? For some people, that might be giving back to charity or the local community. This could mean a multitude of things.

It can be in the form of a donation to a charity that impacted you or someone you love. It can also be volunteering to coach a little league baseball team because that ballpark had such an influence on you growing up. Here again, you must decide what is meaningful to you. Because as human beings, we all crave connection. In a world where we are virtually connected during all hours of the day, what we really crave is meaningful relationships.

Who could you reach out to today to strengthen a relationship with in your life? Not just a phone call or text but to go sit down and enjoy the human experience again. This might mean leaving your phone in the car during a night out and focusing on the people around you. That is a huge part of living meaningfully.

The greatest part about our lives is that we have the power of choice. We get to choose the lives we want to live. We have the power to become very clear about what we want to experience. You do not have to wait for anyone or anything. Do not wait until tomorrow to begin. Decide today what your life will look like a month from now, one year or five years. Your list and picture will change over time because you will grow as a person and greater clarity means greater growth. With new growth comes outstanding life experiences.

Ryan Romano is the Founder of Extreme Producers, a High Performance and Wellness company. He is a TEDx speaker and consultant with a focus on Mindset, Confidence and The Pursuit of Excellence. He has been featured in Thrive Global, The Good Men Project and consulted with universities including University of Alabama and Rutgers. You can find him on instagram @ryromano or website www.extremeproducers.com.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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