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How to Open New Doors of Opportunity and Wake Up Fulfilled



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Everyone is screaming to live a meaningful life and do something that matters. You look on all the bookshelves and at social media influencers, it’s a common message to find your passion. It begs the question though, are those same people living the life they desire? I am sure many are living a life fulfilled but there are so many that aren’t.

If that was the case, we would not be fighting against an identity crisis. The majority of the world would not be living in stress, anxiety and wake up every morning fighting to get out of society’s imposed rat race. We know at a basic level that life is meant to be filled with excitement and that we desire to have an impact. 

The problem is that most individuals do not understand this, otherwise people would not continue to open up the same doors to life. Those doors include going to school, getting a degree, finding a job, getting married, having kids and then crossing your fingers that you work hard enough for 40-50 years in order to actually start enjoying your life!

The New Door of Opportunity

Yes, we do have an identity crisis and are struggling to win the battle against stress but the underlying issue is a lack of clarity. Clarity about who we are as individuals. Clarity about the type of life we want to live.

Clarity is not comparison! Comparison is confusion. Clarity is the first new door of opportunity you can give yourself today. The reality is that if you want more out of your life then you must change. You must change the image you hold of yourself. Do not be scared of change because with no clarity, no change and with no change comes no growth.

Here are the 3 Steps For Greater Clarity

Step 1: Vision

First, you must define and create a vivid vision of your future. Most people are sucked into the rat race of life because they have no mental image of what it is they desire. People are conforming to others beliefs, lifestyles and even the way they dress because they have not taken the time to decide what they want out of life.

When you form a clear picture of your future, it’s a boost in your own self-confidence. The confidence to walk away from people, places or opportunities that do not align with your future. On the flip side, it also gives you the confidence to reach out to people or opportunities that move you closer to who you want to become.

Many people never take the time to actually sit down and think about their future. They are stuck inside their fixed mindset and think that this is just as good as life is going to get. You are the creator of your future.

Take time today to define what you want your life to look like so that you can begin becoming that person. You do not become a millionaire after you make a million dollars. You become a millionaire in the years, months and days leading up to that moment.

“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” – Tony Robbins

Step 2: Thoughts and Feelings

Once you have created the picture of your future self, what feelings will that bring to your life? Does your future self bring you more peace? Maybe joy and happiness? Even a greater sense of purpose and meaning?

Now you can begin writing down the feelings you want to experience everyday. Like so many people today, they crave more peace and less stress. You can not wake up everyday and stay addicted to your stressful thoughts and expect to gain peace of mind. What thoughts can you start thinking of today that will bring a greater feeling of relaxation.

Begin living as your future self. How would that person walk and talk? What would they eat? How would they experience life? As you start practicing those feelings everyday, it becomes a new excitement and energy booster. Just like you can become addicted to the feelings of stress. You can also become addicted to joy and excitement.

Step 3: Living Meaningful

The all important piece of life, we crave to live a meaningful life. This is determined by the actions and behaviors you take each day. What areas of your life are most meaningful? For some people, that might be giving back to charity or the local community. This could mean a multitude of things.

It can be in the form of a donation to a charity that impacted you or someone you love. It can also be volunteering to coach a little league baseball team because that ballpark had such an influence on you growing up. Here again, you must decide what is meaningful to you. Because as human beings, we all crave connection. In a world where we are virtually connected during all hours of the day, what we really crave is meaningful relationships.

Who could you reach out to today to strengthen a relationship with in your life? Not just a phone call or text but to go sit down and enjoy the human experience again. This might mean leaving your phone in the car during a night out and focusing on the people around you. That is a huge part of living meaningfully.

The greatest part about our lives is that we have the power of choice. We get to choose the lives we want to live. We have the power to become very clear about what we want to experience. You do not have to wait for anyone or anything. Do not wait until tomorrow to begin. Decide today what your life will look like a month from now, one year or five years. Your list and picture will change over time because you will grow as a person and greater clarity means greater growth. With new growth comes outstanding life experiences.

Ryan Romano is the Founder of Extreme Producers, a High Performance and Wellness company. He is a TEDx speaker and consultant with a focus on Mindset, Confidence and The Pursuit of Excellence. He has been featured in Thrive Global, The Good Men Project and consulted with universities including University of Alabama and Rutgers. You can find him on instagram @ryromano or website

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How Your Beliefs Can Supercharge or Sabotage Your Success

Your life is dictated by beliefs and biases that drive your thinking, behaviors, and decisions



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How to Break the Cycles of Mediocrity and Manifest Your Greatness

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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Here’s a Young Man’s Antidote for the Uncertainty of the Modern World

Why do a lot of young guys lack confidence in today’s world? 



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Toxic Leadership: 5 Ways to Identify a Bad Leader

if you have a leader who displays any of the toxic traits, it’s time to move on to greener pastures.



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Let’s be honest, we’ve all crossed paths with a toxic leader in our careers at some point. Unfortunately, while some toxic leaders don’t even bother to hide their behaviour, some know very well how to conceal their true selves behind a strong-built facade. The latter is the most dangerous of the two. (more…)

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