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How To Ditch Your Dilemmas And Make Kick-Ass Decisions

Ever had that feeling of being stuck between a rock and a hard place?
There is no doubt you’ve had sleepless nights turning the problem over in your mind, wishing for a way out.
Wishing someone else could swoop in and change it for you.
Fantasizing that if only so-and-so would yield and do such-and-such… then everything would be ok.
But we’re old enough and wise enough to know that is rarely what happens.
Sometimes you just have to make a tough decision.
Sometimes it involved sacrifice.
And sometimes we lose a piece of ourselves in the process.
But What If I Told You It Didn’t Have To Be That Way?
What if you had a process to get out of any catch 22 situation and still walk away with what you want, and everyone else be happy?
There is a way, but it may mean shifting your perspective on how you think the world works.
You see, in my experience, most folks (and I’m talking intelligent, high achieving folks who can think for themselves) have come to the conclusion that the world is concrete.
I blame classical physics for this.
If x happens, then this leads to y, p times out of q.
And this is fine.
If life were that simple.
And some of us have hypnotised ourselves with pretzel logic to believe that it is.
Newsflash.
It’s not.
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Life is complex. It’s messy. It’s rough around the edges, and squidgy in the middle. It shifts, it turns, it surprises you and disappoints you and thrills you – often all simultaneously.
There are sooooo many variables in any situation you’re facing, there is no such thing as x leads to y.
And thinking that way keeps you stuck.
Thinking that way limits your options, your creativity and the quality of experience you will allow yourself to have in your world.
You essentially box yourself in to a limited, “inevitable doom”.
(Which, incidentally, you also created in your mind first!)
How To Think Of Your World
Instead of things being set in stone, think of them as yielding gently to your choices, and your thoughts.
Try thinking of the world as malleable. Dynamic. Fluid.
You are indeed the creator of your reality.
On every level.
Start acting like it.
How?
Dang the Doom
Ok, take that catch 22 you’ve been thinking about. That situation you’ve decided there is no way out of.
Now, most probably it involves other people. And you’re worried that whatever decision you make, someone is going to be hurt, or upset, or react in a way you don’t want them to.
Right?
Right.
So here’s the solution.
And hang with me before you have a reaction, because this is only step one.
Step 1
Make the decision that will make you the happiest first. (Taking out of the equation anyone else’s opinions… at this first stage).
Got it?
Ok, write it down. You need to commit this to paper so you can’t wiggle out of it and conveniently “forget” what would make you happy.
(Believe me, I’ve seen this happen in front of my very eyes on coaching calls… the subconscious can be sooo sneaky!)
Right – on to step 2.
Step 2
Practice putting all your attention on your happy outcome. Every time worries about other people, and “potential” (read: dreamt up, imagined, construed) downsides spring to mind, just drop those thoughts, and return to the happy thoughts.
Laver, rinse, repeat….
Several times per day.
Seems too simple huh?
Try doing it. Not so easy. But with a bit of practice you’ll get it, and you’ll find your groove and make magic happen.
But I Don’t Want To Upset Anyone!
So often folks will shy away from choosing their happy outcome because they want to keep everyone else happy. And whilst this is admirable, and yes, compassionate – there is a flawed premise.
This assumption that you’re leaning back on, presupposes that you can control other peoples’ happiness.
You cannot.
You can only influence your own. And by you being happy, you make those around you even happier.
You empower them.
You inspire them.
You show them that they too can get out there, be who they really are, do what makes them happy, kick some ass, and take some names…. (in a positive way, of course, lol..)
No more co-dependence.
No more zapped energy.
No more catch 22.
Quod Erat Demonstradum.
Here’s the thing:
1. If someone wants to be a victim, no matter what YOU do, they’re going to achieve it… one way or another. So shed that burden right now.
2. If you think about something bad happening, or someone having a problem with your decision, you will flat-out create that. Every time. No question.
3. If your decision directly affects another, as long as you are taking the happy decision aligned with your highest intention, and the biggest you possible, you can’t hurt anyone. It’s like when you’re vibrating at a high frequency, the folks who don’t match your frequency spin-off. They can’t get near you. And if your decision isn’t in line with their highest good, their frequency won’t match yours and they won’t be affected by you. They’ll spin off and have their adventures elsewhere, and be unaffected by all the horrible things you’ve dreamt up to create your dilemma.
So at this point, you may have questions about how to apply this to your specific circumstance.
Do feel free to ask away in the comments section.
Or even head over to my site and send me an email. I read every message, and I’m happy to help.
Oh, and you may want to print this article off, and pin it somewhere you can see it every day – as a reminder that you really are the creator of everything in your world. 😉
Here’s to your inevitable success!
Laura Leigh Clarke
a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor
Wire Yourself for Wealth
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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.
Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.
1. Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.
2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.
3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.
4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.
5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.
6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.
7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.
8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.
9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.
10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.
11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.
12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.
13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.
14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.
15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.
16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.
17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.
18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.
19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.
20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.
By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.
I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at AweBliss.com so you can master your life with more success.
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