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How To Ditch Your Dilemmas And Make Kick-Ass Decisions

Ever had that feeling of being stuck between a rock and a hard place?
There is no doubt you’ve had sleepless nights turning the problem over in your mind, wishing for a way out.
Wishing someone else could swoop in and change it for you.
Fantasizing that if only so-and-so would yield and do such-and-such… then everything would be ok.
But we’re old enough and wise enough to know that is rarely what happens.
Sometimes you just have to make a tough decision.
Sometimes it involved sacrifice.
And sometimes we lose a piece of ourselves in the process.
But What If I Told You It Didn’t Have To Be That Way?
What if you had a process to get out of any catch 22 situation and still walk away with what you want, and everyone else be happy?
There is a way, but it may mean shifting your perspective on how you think the world works.
You see, in my experience, most folks (and I’m talking intelligent, high achieving folks who can think for themselves) have come to the conclusion that the world is concrete.
I blame classical physics for this.
If x happens, then this leads to y, p times out of q.
And this is fine.
If life were that simple.
And some of us have hypnotised ourselves with pretzel logic to believe that it is.
Newsflash.
It’s not.
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Life is complex. It’s messy. It’s rough around the edges, and squidgy in the middle. It shifts, it turns, it surprises you and disappoints you and thrills you – often all simultaneously.
There are sooooo many variables in any situation you’re facing, there is no such thing as x leads to y.
And thinking that way keeps you stuck.
Thinking that way limits your options, your creativity and the quality of experience you will allow yourself to have in your world.
You essentially box yourself in to a limited, “inevitable doom”.
(Which, incidentally, you also created in your mind first!)
How To Think Of Your World
Instead of things being set in stone, think of them as yielding gently to your choices, and your thoughts.
Try thinking of the world as malleable. Dynamic. Fluid.
You are indeed the creator of your reality.
On every level.
Start acting like it.
How?
Dang the Doom
Ok, take that catch 22 you’ve been thinking about. That situation you’ve decided there is no way out of.
Now, most probably it involves other people. And you’re worried that whatever decision you make, someone is going to be hurt, or upset, or react in a way you don’t want them to.
Right?
Right.
So here’s the solution.
And hang with me before you have a reaction, because this is only step one.
Step 1
Make the decision that will make you the happiest first. (Taking out of the equation anyone else’s opinions… at this first stage).
Got it?
Ok, write it down. You need to commit this to paper so you can’t wiggle out of it and conveniently “forget” what would make you happy.
(Believe me, I’ve seen this happen in front of my very eyes on coaching calls… the subconscious can be sooo sneaky!)
Right – on to step 2.
Step 2
Practice putting all your attention on your happy outcome. Every time worries about other people, and “potential” (read: dreamt up, imagined, construed) downsides spring to mind, just drop those thoughts, and return to the happy thoughts.
Laver, rinse, repeat….
Several times per day.
Seems too simple huh?
Try doing it. Not so easy. But with a bit of practice you’ll get it, and you’ll find your groove and make magic happen.
But I Don’t Want To Upset Anyone!
So often folks will shy away from choosing their happy outcome because they want to keep everyone else happy. And whilst this is admirable, and yes, compassionate – there is a flawed premise.
This assumption that you’re leaning back on, presupposes that you can control other peoples’ happiness.
You cannot.
You can only influence your own. And by you being happy, you make those around you even happier.
You empower them.
You inspire them.
You show them that they too can get out there, be who they really are, do what makes them happy, kick some ass, and take some names…. (in a positive way, of course, lol..)
No more co-dependence.
No more zapped energy.
No more catch 22.
Quod Erat Demonstradum.
Here’s the thing:
1. If someone wants to be a victim, no matter what YOU do, they’re going to achieve it… one way or another. So shed that burden right now.
2. If you think about something bad happening, or someone having a problem with your decision, you will flat-out create that. Every time. No question.
3. If your decision directly affects another, as long as you are taking the happy decision aligned with your highest intention, and the biggest you possible, you can’t hurt anyone. It’s like when you’re vibrating at a high frequency, the folks who don’t match your frequency spin-off. They can’t get near you. And if your decision isn’t in line with their highest good, their frequency won’t match yours and they won’t be affected by you. They’ll spin off and have their adventures elsewhere, and be unaffected by all the horrible things you’ve dreamt up to create your dilemma.
So at this point, you may have questions about how to apply this to your specific circumstance.
Do feel free to ask away in the comments section.
Or even head over to my site and send me an email. I read every message, and I’m happy to help.
Oh, and you may want to print this article off, and pin it somewhere you can see it every day – as a reminder that you really are the creator of everything in your world. 😉
Here’s to your inevitable success!
Laura Leigh Clarke
a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor
Wire Yourself for Wealth
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There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity

In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.
I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.
I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.
As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.
I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness.
Everything legal must come through the matrix
I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.
Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.
The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.
Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.
The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be.
Every matrix has an incubation process
While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.
In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.
What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.
However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.
Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time.
“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier
You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time
When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.
The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?
First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.
In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.
For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.
For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.
Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.
You must manifest your greatness
As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.
I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.
There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.
Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.
When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.
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