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You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. 😉

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

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Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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191 Comments

  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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10 Amazing Leadership Lessons From Design Thinking

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Leadership is a challenging proposition in a world of disruptions and changes due to the rate of change being overwhelming. How do leaders cope with constant changes, enormous expectations and an unpredictable future? Well, a lot of the top organisations including Pepsi, Nike, Apple and Google use Design Thinking for leadership matters.

Design thinking is coming up with visual patterns that lead to the desired solutions. In other words, it is about connecting the dots to come up with solutions to practical problems that you want to solve. The Design thinking approach is widely appreciated and adopted by leaders around the globe.

Below, we look at 10 intriguing leadership lessons from design thinking:

1. Solution Focused Approach

Design thinking helps leaders to develop a solution centric mindset. The emphasis is on identifying and defining the core problem and then arriving at the best solution. Corporates and teams are looking for leaders who have a solution focused approach. The best leaders understand that they create value by offering solutions to complex problems. They resolve conflicts, solve problems and relish the idea of making the difference.

2. Connect the Dots

Leaders need to look at the complete picture for connecting and correlating things. Design thinking provides visualisation of the problem, constraints, desired solution and complete picture of things. It is a great way leaders can visualise abstract concepts. Leaders can use visual mapping of the assumptions, constraints, existing state and the goal state to align their teams in the right direction.

3. Empathy & Inclusiveness

Leadership starts with empathy. To earn the respect of your team, clients and other people involved, it is important to show empathy and understand their needs. When you care for your team, customers and other stakeholders, they in turn care for you. Design thinking starts with the end users in mind; it creates a thinking framework where you build empathy and inclusiveness.

4. Constant Improvement with Regular Feedback

The design thinking methodology involves iterations and user feedback for continuous improvement of products and services. Feedback is crucial for growth and improvement. Also, what works today may not work tomorrow thus it is important for leaders to touch base with ground reality and ensure consistent improvements. A leader needs to provide constant feedback for improvement of products, services and individuals. Consistent improvement and a growth mindset is crucial for success.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

5. Open Mindedness

Design thinking encourages experiments, creativity and innovation. When working on different concepts and ideas, leaders need to be open minded which helps create an environment of learning and experimentation. They build individuals and teams that take pride in their work. Open minded leaders are continuously seeking ways to improve things, because they welcome divergent ideas that may challenge or stretch them with an open mind.

6. Empower Team and Create Synergy

Design thinking empowers everyone to contribute effectively. It encourages the teams to work collaboratively and creates a synergising effect. When everyone has a say during the development of a product or service, teams feel empowered. The team feels accountable for results and takes complete ownership of things. Leaders can use design thinking for listening to people, getting them to contribute ideas, and empowering them with opportunities to make a difference.

7. Sense of Purpose

In an era of distractions, it is hard for teams to stay focused. People are more focused and productive when they know what they are doing and why they are doing it. Leaders can use design thinking for clarity and articulating their vision. A great leader effectively communicates the purpose & mission of their work to connect everyone. Teams are more likely to achieve their goals when they are given clear and consistent messages.

8. Dealing with Uncertainties

Dealing with change is hard. It gets even harder when you don’t know what is going to change. In the technology driven world, companies need to be well prepared to face competition not just from the competitors but also from digital innovations. With design thinking leaders can evaluate options, see the complete picture of things and choose the best options. Design thinking is a strategy that relies on iterations, feedback and constant improvement to deal with the changing times.

“Uncertainty and expectation are the joys of life. Security is an insipid thing.” -. William Congreve

9. Decisiveness

A leader needs to make decisions all the time. Some of these decisions are crucial in shaping the lives of individuals and organisations. Design thinking helps leaders to improve their decision making by offering alternatives and complete visualisation of information. Leaders can overcome biases and take informed decisions when they are presented with alternatives. Design thinking is now being employed by corporates in different areas of their company to make strategic decisions.

10. Persistence

Great leaders are persistent and never give up their pursuit until they reach their goals. Design thinking is a journey that requires persistence. It is an ongoing process to reach excellence. It is a process that teaches leaders to observe incremental additions, iterate and persist till the desired solution is achieved.

Leaders are learners. They learn from the past, keep an eye on the present and evolve with changing demands of the future. Design thinking is playing an increasingly vital role in creating more effective leaders. These leaders are capable of building strong teams, solve complex problems, show empathy and constantly improvise to unleash great value for everyone involved. Design thinking is a sure fire way for leaders to ensure that the sum total of the team is greater than the sum of their individual parts.

How will you use design thinking for your own business or job? Let us know in the comments below!

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What If You Never Took Another Selfie Again?

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That’s the question I want you to ponder right now.

What if taking a selfie only made the world ignore you?
What if life is not all about you?
What if no one cares who you took a photo with?

And finally, how did we ever live without selfies before the front-facing camera got invented?

Instead of taking a selfie do this:

Try focusing on other people.
Try not to document every moment.
Try to think about life before selfies.

We all take selfies because that’s what we were told to do.
And that’s exactly why we need to question this habitual flaw that we’re now indulging in.

 

I have A/B tested selfies vs. no selfies.

The result? When I took photos of cool stuff like mountains in Japan and shared a profound thought, people liked that more than a selfie with my overly large head in it. I’ve done this test multiple times over the last few years.

The result is always the same. People are over you and your selfies.

 

It’s not about “I” it’s about “We.”

Sounds cliché, and that’s because most brilliant advice is.

Selfies have deluded us into thinking that life is about us and our big audacious goals. Where life will change for you is when you focus on the “We.”

Everything I write is for the audience I want to inspire. It’s not to show off or to share dumb selfies of me in a weak attempt to appear superior.

 

Selfies cause your followers to compare themselves to you.

And that’s not fair. If each of us tried to be the same, then society would be pretty dull.

“We don’t need a selfie to teach us how to copy each other and be jealous little so-and-sos who want to win a beauty pagan of nothingness”

You’re so much better than a selfie.

I believe you care about your followers so let’s stop drowning them in selfies. Selfies are proving nothing to no one. Selfies stop you from standing out in the crowd and inspiring others.

 

The time you spend “selfieing” could be used for…..

Enjoying this current moment and the breath you have in your lungs. One day that breath is going to stop and all that time selfieing won’t matter. You’re literally using up magical moments trying to take a hundred selfies that you filter and post, hoping for perfection.

Perfection is ugly.

“Right now, is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen if you’ll only stop selfieing and notice it”

 

Life before selfies….

Life was much the same. The selfie didn’t put us on Cloud 9 with a bunch of our fantasies and an unlimited amount of cash being shot up into the sky via an air cannon.

Life before selfies was fun.
We ate our food instead of looking at it with our phones and letting it get cold.
We had phenomenal conversations with our friends instead of taking endless, mindless selfies.

Life before selfies was not about one’s self.
You took photos of other people. Often, you took two photos max instead of fifty in a row.

I’d like you to imagine a life without selfies.

What does the selfie really mean to you and can you live without it?

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Build From Within – Why Success Is All About People

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What is it that makes a company successful? Money? Technology? A driven CEO? While money certainly doesn’t hurt, technology is essential and it’s nice to have a well poised leader. These things are not what guarantees success in a corporation. It is all about the people. The employees working for an organization are the backbone of the company. Without great people, success can only go so far.

And if this is indeed true, successful business models should revolve around people – attracting top talent, and retaining them. Before ever serving external customers, companies should serve internally. This is where true success is built.

Walid Halty, founder of Dvinci energy, explains 3 reasons as to why people are the bottom line of success and how to build a team for continued growth:

1. Success Comes From Within

How do you continuously create an impeccable experience for your customers? While you may start listing out things such as innovation, efficient delivery and quality, you’d be wrong. All of those factors are quite necessary to attract and retain happy clients. At the same time, you never have to worry about any of that if you have a dedicated and talented team behind your organization or business. When your employees are happy with their work and love what they do, they automatically do great work every single day.

So, how do you get dedicated and talented individuals in your business, and how do you retain them? Dedicated and talented people all share a couple commonalities. They love to be challenged, and they love to grow. You need to challenge your people and give them opportunities to grow: “We have a culture that demands the best out of people. We offer them world class training and give opportunities for growth within our company. We invest in our people: ”Challenge and grow your people, and they will challenge and grow your business.

2. A Balancing Act

Gone are the 12 hour work days and good riddance! There is a new reality in the interconnected and digital world that we live in today. That reality is that there is an abundance of opportunity for anyone who strives for it. People don’t want to miss soccer games, dance recitals and family dinner time. They want balance. They want to do fulfilling, good work at a place where they feel valued, engaged and share a common vision. If this is not the case, then they will be willing to explore other opportunities if they don’t get exactly what they’re looking for.

“Your people don’t need your company’s way of making money, they need a community that creates purpose and order in their lives and an environment that empowers them rather than tries to hold them down out of fear.”

Find out what your people want and then do your best to give it to them. Flexible programs like remote work and adjustable schedules go a long way in making your employees happy and bringing balance: “At Dvinci, we consistently ask our people, what can we be doing better? How can we better serve you? How do WE make doing your job easier?”

You have to care about your people and what they experience on a daily basis when they come to work for you. Deliver a positive people experience, and you will retain your top talent, and they will share your vision and your success.

3. Happiness is a Choice

Emotions are at the root of all the decisions we make. We make hundreds of choices a day, and we make those decisions based off what we think will make us happy. They are why our customers buy from us, and it is why our employees stay with us. We all want to operate in a world (and a place of work) where we have the ability to control our happiness and improve our lives. This simple truth is one of the foundations companies should build their business models around.

Give your people a choice. Allow them to make decisions on how successful they want to be, how much money they want to earn, and what kind of impact they want to have based on what they believe will make them happy. Put the ball in their court. Allow your people to decide to be happy. By doing this, your top talent will excel and your employees will be happy.

“When people are financially invested, they want a return. When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” – Simon Sinek

In case you’ve ever been curious about how to make your business more profitable, more innovative or have a bigger impact, the answer lies within. Serve your people first. Build a community of inspired, engaged and talented employees.

Build your business model around people. The rest will fall into place naturally. When you focus on people, they will care about your business, they will care about your mission and they will care about your customers.

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You Need To Be Real And Authentic, I’m Sorry – Here’s How.

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With me, there are no games.
There’s no fakery.
What you see is what you get.

It’s taken a long time to get to this level of authenticity. I don’t tell you I’m real to brag; I tell you because you can be too. The reality is you need to be if you want the good life.

 

Your individuality is what’s real.

If you’re into comic magazines, tell us. If you’re into punk rock, then that’s great too. Your individuality is what brings out your authenticity. It’s what makes you different and it’s how we can learn a different set of lessons from the ones our own life teaches us.

Sometimes I watch those reality TV shows that show off musical talent. As a grown man, that might sound weird…. who cares. It’s what makes up who I am.

“Hiding who you are only damages your true purpose and the value you can deliver to the world”

We need to see who you are so we can find ourselves. Loud and proud is the best way to live. That’s why I voted for gay marriage because I don’t ever want anyone to hide who they truly are.

 

I’m not out there to become famous.

That’s what makes each of us real. The moment we chase fame, we become lost in a game that we can never win. We’ll never be the most famous.

Fame is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s designed to make you someone you’re not. You’re supposed to be perfect because all of a sudden, you’re now a role model. The thing is that role models mess up too.

Authenticity comes from not giving a F and trading in fame for being real instead.

I don’t spend half my day on social media trying to make you feel bad through my content. My goal is to use the lessons from my life to inspire yours.

 

I’m only competing against yesterday’s version of me.

“Beating you is not my goal; helping you win is”

The only person I want to beat is yesterday’s version of myself. I want to beat yesterday’s version so I can deliver more of my authentic self today. Increasing the value of my advice and life experience is all that I’m about. With this tool, I can give more. Who are you competing with?

 

I’m not afraid.

I’m not afraid to tell you I don’t have a blue Lambo – only a model car one.
I’m not afraid to tell you I get scared when I do public speaking.
I’m not afraid to tell you that I wish I could always be young.
I’m not afraid to tell you I got my first grey hair the other day.

If you ask me how to be authentic, it starts with being vulnerable and sharing things. The same fears you have are in common with many of us.

“Your deepest fear is my deepest fear. So, let’s share those fears and help each other crush them”

Life doesn’t need to be a solo journey. Show up being real, authentic and wearing your fears on the outside.

 

I’m not about the high life.

The Benz or the Bimmer is not who I am. I write these words in my office with a lava lamp turned on. I’m kind of old school in that way.

Instead of the fake high life, I put my soul into these words I write. Authenticity can buy you the high life, but once you’ve lived a life that is real, you won’t be that interested in gold chains and diamond rings.

On the surface, loads of cash seems appealing. The reality, having lived it, is that I’m my most authentic without all of the distractions and materials possessions. These things take away my focus and stop me from seeing my vision.

I don’t ever want you to lose sight of your vision which is why I remind you of the perils of money so much. Once you get over six figures, it’s all the same mostly. Money doesn’t make you real.

 

Authenticity breeds a killer network.

Cutting out the fake life and being authentic has bought the same kind of people to my life. People that are real, I’ve found, tend to be successful in the true sense. They’re fun to be around and they’re loyal like a puppy dog.

Your network around you will inspire you towards your goal or distract you from that which you seek. People are naturally attracted to people that are real and you can be that way with discipline. Avoid bragging (although celebrate your wins) and say what’s on your mind.

 

Authenticity requires no validation.

You just do it by being honest. Being real is about being honest with the world, and most of all, yourself. Ditch the habit of lying and you’ll get rich on the life you’ve always wanted. No one has to give you permission to be real.

Try saying what you think with respect.

I did so via my blogging and it turns out people can learn from you when you’re real.

 

Final Thought

I’ve given you a ton of reasons to be authentic. No more excuses.

Be who you were always meant to be.
Who you know you can be.
Who you know you should be.

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10 Amazing Leadership Lessons From Design Thinking

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Leadership is a challenging proposition in a world of disruptions and changes due to the rate of change being overwhelming. How do leaders cope with constant changes, enormous expectations and an unpredictable future? Well, a lot of the top organisations including Pepsi, Nike, Apple and Google use Design Thinking for leadership matters. (more…)

Apoorve Dubey is the founder and C.E.O of Kreyon Systems Pvt. Ltd, a fast growing Software company that serves clients in more than 10 countries. He is an alumnus of IIT Madras. He is the author of the best-selling book, “The Flight of Ambition” published by Macmillan and a co-author of “Successful organisations in action”. The driving passion in his life remains to be able to contribute to the success of others. To know more about Apoorve and his work, you can visit www.kreyonsystems.com, his twitter handle is @ApoorveDubey

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  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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10 Amazing Leadership Lessons From Design Thinking

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Leadership is a challenging proposition in a world of disruptions and changes due to the rate of change being overwhelming. How do leaders cope with constant changes, enormous expectations and an unpredictable future? Well, a lot of the top organisations including Pepsi, Nike, Apple and Google use Design Thinking for leadership matters.

Design thinking is coming up with visual patterns that lead to the desired solutions. In other words, it is about connecting the dots to come up with solutions to practical problems that you want to solve. The Design thinking approach is widely appreciated and adopted by leaders around the globe.

Below, we look at 10 intriguing leadership lessons from design thinking:

1. Solution Focused Approach

Design thinking helps leaders to develop a solution centric mindset. The emphasis is on identifying and defining the core problem and then arriving at the best solution. Corporates and teams are looking for leaders who have a solution focused approach. The best leaders understand that they create value by offering solutions to complex problems. They resolve conflicts, solve problems and relish the idea of making the difference.

2. Connect the Dots

Leaders need to look at the complete picture for connecting and correlating things. Design thinking provides visualisation of the problem, constraints, desired solution and complete picture of things. It is a great way leaders can visualise abstract concepts. Leaders can use visual mapping of the assumptions, constraints, existing state and the goal state to align their teams in the right direction.

3. Empathy & Inclusiveness

Leadership starts with empathy. To earn the respect of your team, clients and other people involved, it is important to show empathy and understand their needs. When you care for your team, customers and other stakeholders, they in turn care for you. Design thinking starts with the end users in mind; it creates a thinking framework where you build empathy and inclusiveness.

4. Constant Improvement with Regular Feedback

The design thinking methodology involves iterations and user feedback for continuous improvement of products and services. Feedback is crucial for growth and improvement. Also, what works today may not work tomorrow thus it is important for leaders to touch base with ground reality and ensure consistent improvements. A leader needs to provide constant feedback for improvement of products, services and individuals. Consistent improvement and a growth mindset is crucial for success.

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou

5. Open Mindedness

Design thinking encourages experiments, creativity and innovation. When working on different concepts and ideas, leaders need to be open minded which helps create an environment of learning and experimentation. They build individuals and teams that take pride in their work. Open minded leaders are continuously seeking ways to improve things, because they welcome divergent ideas that may challenge or stretch them with an open mind.

6. Empower Team and Create Synergy

Design thinking empowers everyone to contribute effectively. It encourages the teams to work collaboratively and creates a synergising effect. When everyone has a say during the development of a product or service, teams feel empowered. The team feels accountable for results and takes complete ownership of things. Leaders can use design thinking for listening to people, getting them to contribute ideas, and empowering them with opportunities to make a difference.

7. Sense of Purpose

In an era of distractions, it is hard for teams to stay focused. People are more focused and productive when they know what they are doing and why they are doing it. Leaders can use design thinking for clarity and articulating their vision. A great leader effectively communicates the purpose & mission of their work to connect everyone. Teams are more likely to achieve their goals when they are given clear and consistent messages.

8. Dealing with Uncertainties

Dealing with change is hard. It gets even harder when you don’t know what is going to change. In the technology driven world, companies need to be well prepared to face competition not just from the competitors but also from digital innovations. With design thinking leaders can evaluate options, see the complete picture of things and choose the best options. Design thinking is a strategy that relies on iterations, feedback and constant improvement to deal with the changing times.

“Uncertainty and expectation are the joys of life. Security is an insipid thing.” -. William Congreve

9. Decisiveness

A leader needs to make decisions all the time. Some of these decisions are crucial in shaping the lives of individuals and organisations. Design thinking helps leaders to improve their decision making by offering alternatives and complete visualisation of information. Leaders can overcome biases and take informed decisions when they are presented with alternatives. Design thinking is now being employed by corporates in different areas of their company to make strategic decisions.

10. Persistence

Great leaders are persistent and never give up their pursuit until they reach their goals. Design thinking is a journey that requires persistence. It is an ongoing process to reach excellence. It is a process that teaches leaders to observe incremental additions, iterate and persist till the desired solution is achieved.

Leaders are learners. They learn from the past, keep an eye on the present and evolve with changing demands of the future. Design thinking is playing an increasingly vital role in creating more effective leaders. These leaders are capable of building strong teams, solve complex problems, show empathy and constantly improvise to unleash great value for everyone involved. Design thinking is a sure fire way for leaders to ensure that the sum total of the team is greater than the sum of their individual parts.

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What If You Never Took Another Selfie Again?

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That’s the question I want you to ponder right now.

What if taking a selfie only made the world ignore you?
What if life is not all about you?
What if no one cares who you took a photo with?

And finally, how did we ever live without selfies before the front-facing camera got invented?

Instead of taking a selfie do this:

Try focusing on other people.
Try not to document every moment.
Try to think about life before selfies.

We all take selfies because that’s what we were told to do.
And that’s exactly why we need to question this habitual flaw that we’re now indulging in.

 

I have A/B tested selfies vs. no selfies.

The result? When I took photos of cool stuff like mountains in Japan and shared a profound thought, people liked that more than a selfie with my overly large head in it. I’ve done this test multiple times over the last few years.

The result is always the same. People are over you and your selfies.

 

It’s not about “I” it’s about “We.”

Sounds cliché, and that’s because most brilliant advice is.

Selfies have deluded us into thinking that life is about us and our big audacious goals. Where life will change for you is when you focus on the “We.”

Everything I write is for the audience I want to inspire. It’s not to show off or to share dumb selfies of me in a weak attempt to appear superior.

 

Selfies cause your followers to compare themselves to you.

And that’s not fair. If each of us tried to be the same, then society would be pretty dull.

“We don’t need a selfie to teach us how to copy each other and be jealous little so-and-sos who want to win a beauty pagan of nothingness”

You’re so much better than a selfie.

I believe you care about your followers so let’s stop drowning them in selfies. Selfies are proving nothing to no one. Selfies stop you from standing out in the crowd and inspiring others.

 

The time you spend “selfieing” could be used for…..

Enjoying this current moment and the breath you have in your lungs. One day that breath is going to stop and all that time selfieing won’t matter. You’re literally using up magical moments trying to take a hundred selfies that you filter and post, hoping for perfection.

Perfection is ugly.

“Right now, is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen if you’ll only stop selfieing and notice it”

 

Life before selfies….

Life was much the same. The selfie didn’t put us on Cloud 9 with a bunch of our fantasies and an unlimited amount of cash being shot up into the sky via an air cannon.

Life before selfies was fun.
We ate our food instead of looking at it with our phones and letting it get cold.
We had phenomenal conversations with our friends instead of taking endless, mindless selfies.

Life before selfies was not about one’s self.
You took photos of other people. Often, you took two photos max instead of fifty in a row.

I’d like you to imagine a life without selfies.

What does the selfie really mean to you and can you live without it?

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Build From Within – Why Success Is All About People

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What is it that makes a company successful? Money? Technology? A driven CEO? While money certainly doesn’t hurt, technology is essential and it’s nice to have a well poised leader. These things are not what guarantees success in a corporation. It is all about the people. The employees working for an organization are the backbone of the company. Without great people, success can only go so far.

And if this is indeed true, successful business models should revolve around people – attracting top talent, and retaining them. Before ever serving external customers, companies should serve internally. This is where true success is built.

Walid Halty, founder of Dvinci energy, explains 3 reasons as to why people are the bottom line of success and how to build a team for continued growth:

1. Success Comes From Within

How do you continuously create an impeccable experience for your customers? While you may start listing out things such as innovation, efficient delivery and quality, you’d be wrong. All of those factors are quite necessary to attract and retain happy clients. At the same time, you never have to worry about any of that if you have a dedicated and talented team behind your organization or business. When your employees are happy with their work and love what they do, they automatically do great work every single day.

So, how do you get dedicated and talented individuals in your business, and how do you retain them? Dedicated and talented people all share a couple commonalities. They love to be challenged, and they love to grow. You need to challenge your people and give them opportunities to grow: “We have a culture that demands the best out of people. We offer them world class training and give opportunities for growth within our company. We invest in our people: ”Challenge and grow your people, and they will challenge and grow your business.

2. A Balancing Act

Gone are the 12 hour work days and good riddance! There is a new reality in the interconnected and digital world that we live in today. That reality is that there is an abundance of opportunity for anyone who strives for it. People don’t want to miss soccer games, dance recitals and family dinner time. They want balance. They want to do fulfilling, good work at a place where they feel valued, engaged and share a common vision. If this is not the case, then they will be willing to explore other opportunities if they don’t get exactly what they’re looking for.

“Your people don’t need your company’s way of making money, they need a community that creates purpose and order in their lives and an environment that empowers them rather than tries to hold them down out of fear.”

Find out what your people want and then do your best to give it to them. Flexible programs like remote work and adjustable schedules go a long way in making your employees happy and bringing balance: “At Dvinci, we consistently ask our people, what can we be doing better? How can we better serve you? How do WE make doing your job easier?”

You have to care about your people and what they experience on a daily basis when they come to work for you. Deliver a positive people experience, and you will retain your top talent, and they will share your vision and your success.

3. Happiness is a Choice

Emotions are at the root of all the decisions we make. We make hundreds of choices a day, and we make those decisions based off what we think will make us happy. They are why our customers buy from us, and it is why our employees stay with us. We all want to operate in a world (and a place of work) where we have the ability to control our happiness and improve our lives. This simple truth is one of the foundations companies should build their business models around.

Give your people a choice. Allow them to make decisions on how successful they want to be, how much money they want to earn, and what kind of impact they want to have based on what they believe will make them happy. Put the ball in their court. Allow your people to decide to be happy. By doing this, your top talent will excel and your employees will be happy.

“When people are financially invested, they want a return. When people are emotionally invested, they want to contribute.” – Simon Sinek

In case you’ve ever been curious about how to make your business more profitable, more innovative or have a bigger impact, the answer lies within. Serve your people first. Build a community of inspired, engaged and talented employees.

Build your business model around people. The rest will fall into place naturally. When you focus on people, they will care about your business, they will care about your mission and they will care about your customers.

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You Need To Be Real And Authentic, I’m Sorry – Here’s How.

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With me, there are no games.
There’s no fakery.
What you see is what you get.

It’s taken a long time to get to this level of authenticity. I don’t tell you I’m real to brag; I tell you because you can be too. The reality is you need to be if you want the good life.

 

Your individuality is what’s real.

If you’re into comic magazines, tell us. If you’re into punk rock, then that’s great too. Your individuality is what brings out your authenticity. It’s what makes you different and it’s how we can learn a different set of lessons from the ones our own life teaches us.

Sometimes I watch those reality TV shows that show off musical talent. As a grown man, that might sound weird…. who cares. It’s what makes up who I am.

“Hiding who you are only damages your true purpose and the value you can deliver to the world”

We need to see who you are so we can find ourselves. Loud and proud is the best way to live. That’s why I voted for gay marriage because I don’t ever want anyone to hide who they truly are.

 

I’m not out there to become famous.

That’s what makes each of us real. The moment we chase fame, we become lost in a game that we can never win. We’ll never be the most famous.

Fame is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s designed to make you someone you’re not. You’re supposed to be perfect because all of a sudden, you’re now a role model. The thing is that role models mess up too.

Authenticity comes from not giving a F and trading in fame for being real instead.

I don’t spend half my day on social media trying to make you feel bad through my content. My goal is to use the lessons from my life to inspire yours.

 

I’m only competing against yesterday’s version of me.

“Beating you is not my goal; helping you win is”

The only person I want to beat is yesterday’s version of myself. I want to beat yesterday’s version so I can deliver more of my authentic self today. Increasing the value of my advice and life experience is all that I’m about. With this tool, I can give more. Who are you competing with?

 

I’m not afraid.

I’m not afraid to tell you I don’t have a blue Lambo – only a model car one.
I’m not afraid to tell you I get scared when I do public speaking.
I’m not afraid to tell you that I wish I could always be young.
I’m not afraid to tell you I got my first grey hair the other day.

If you ask me how to be authentic, it starts with being vulnerable and sharing things. The same fears you have are in common with many of us.

“Your deepest fear is my deepest fear. So, let’s share those fears and help each other crush them”

Life doesn’t need to be a solo journey. Show up being real, authentic and wearing your fears on the outside.

 

I’m not about the high life.

The Benz or the Bimmer is not who I am. I write these words in my office with a lava lamp turned on. I’m kind of old school in that way.

Instead of the fake high life, I put my soul into these words I write. Authenticity can buy you the high life, but once you’ve lived a life that is real, you won’t be that interested in gold chains and diamond rings.

On the surface, loads of cash seems appealing. The reality, having lived it, is that I’m my most authentic without all of the distractions and materials possessions. These things take away my focus and stop me from seeing my vision.

I don’t ever want you to lose sight of your vision which is why I remind you of the perils of money so much. Once you get over six figures, it’s all the same mostly. Money doesn’t make you real.

 

Authenticity breeds a killer network.

Cutting out the fake life and being authentic has bought the same kind of people to my life. People that are real, I’ve found, tend to be successful in the true sense. They’re fun to be around and they’re loyal like a puppy dog.

Your network around you will inspire you towards your goal or distract you from that which you seek. People are naturally attracted to people that are real and you can be that way with discipline. Avoid bragging (although celebrate your wins) and say what’s on your mind.

 

Authenticity requires no validation.

You just do it by being honest. Being real is about being honest with the world, and most of all, yourself. Ditch the habit of lying and you’ll get rich on the life you’ve always wanted. No one has to give you permission to be real.

Try saying what you think with respect.

I did so via my blogging and it turns out people can learn from you when you’re real.

 

Final Thought

I’ve given you a ton of reasons to be authentic. No more excuses.

Be who you were always meant to be.
Who you know you can be.
Who you know you should be.

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