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How To Think, To Get What You Want

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You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. 😉

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

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Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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191 Comments

  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

Which one of these memorizing methods sounds most interesting to you? Share with us below!

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Compassion Is the Cornerstone of Inner and Outer Success

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Tapping into this emotional state of being can make the difference between thriving or surviving in business and life. In today’s journey towards success, people are more apt to respond to a compassionate and caring individual than one too full of themselves.

Just do what I call the “holy scroll of social media” and you will have men and women seeking your attention. They have the magic pill, formula, or mixture that will lead you out of despair and into the promised land of prosperity.

Here’s one way to see if they are legit: Is there a tone of compassion in their written and verbal words? Do they really care about you as a person or simply give off the vibe of “ah, got another sucker to get my stuff?”

If you want to truly know how much a person can deeply care about people, then watch their actions. Many people run around, screaming from the tops of buildings and church steeples that “I am the one to follow.”

Stop chasing those people. They really don’t have their act together and lack compassion. People are drawn to those who are successful, prosperous, and abundant. It’s a natural drawing card. Those people have something that you want, so you follow them and take up their mannerisms like it’s some kind of gospel message.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

You have the ability to be an amazing success in business through using the power of compassion. So, why don’t more people do it? Well, it simply takes time and effort to become compassionate if your whole success model has been toward the profit margin. Anyone who owns or runs a business has to watch their finances, so it’s understandable. Yet, are you going to do so without thinking of others in a heartfelt way? That will come back to haunt you.

Compassion is the one thing that makes truly all-around successful people stand above the noise. People of great financial wealth like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates have come to understand that philanthropy is a way of supporting advancements around the world. Anthony Robbins has taken portions of his own wealth and helped feed other people who don’t have the means to get their own groceries. In turn, look at the many community centers and religious and spiritual institutions that have been established for the sole purpose of being a light of compassion and care for those in their own darkness.

What does this have to do with having an attitude bent towards success? Everything. Right now, you have a powerful wellspring of compassion inside waiting to be shared. It is a way of life that transcends what you know from data and numbers.

Truly successful individuals dial within regularly and get in tune with the times. Compassion might feel like it is a lost art, but it is not. Compassion leaves people not only feeling better but having more of a get-to-it attitude instead of just going along and saying “whatever” to obstacles in their path.

You might be someone who just doesn’t know how to be compassionate. The concept feels and sounds foreign to you because all you have been fed is a bunch of “suck it up, buttercup” mentalities. At times, we all need a good kick in the behind to take action.

If you are a lost sheep who doesn’t even know where to start on the compassionate way of life, then here are three simple suggestions:

1. Be humble

Humility and humiliation are two different things so don’t get them mixed up here. Being humble is a state of being where you remember where you came from and feel a deep sense of gratitude for where you were and where you are now. People in businesses and corporations all over the world know that humility is a game-changing path toward success.

2. Be grateful

If you have two eyes and a heartbeat and are reading this article, then you have three reasons right there to be and feel grateful. One technique that I have found helpful in recent months is to simply say “thank you” upon waking up. Giving thanks for all the things in my life is a way of expressing inner gratitude in an outward way. You can do this in your very own business by saying “thank you” for more clients, more business, more income streams, more freedom, and so on.

“Compassion is an action word with no boundaries.” – Prince

3. Be a good listener

Do you wonder how in the world you can ever hear another person’s heart when they always seem to be talking? Stop talking so much and listen more. Look, a core strength of compassionate people is they tend to listen more and bark less. Success is what you make it up to be in your business and life. Notice, though, the action takers and their ability to truly listen, take in what they need, and let go of the rest. Listening to others with a compassionate and empathetic ear will lead you to the road of success.

Compassion is not just another silly marketing trend. It’s been around as long as humans have had a pulse. The measure of compassion that you give to others will be given back to you. This is seen over and over again in business and other places.

It’s a reciprocal circle of life. Compassion can open doors for you that you’d never thought of walking through at all. Tap into your own compassionate side and make a successful difference in other people’s lives.

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All of us want to create unfair advantages in our business that separate us from our competition. Nonetheless, doing this is easier said than done as everyday your competition is innovating and getting better. With today’s technology, overachievers are reaching higher levels of success than ever before. Naturally, if you are here reading Addicted2Success, then this means you too are an overachiever who is addicted to success. (more…)

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  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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5 Productivity Shifts You Need to Make to Make 2019 Your Best Year Yet

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Everyone wants more time, that is something almost all of us share. Time is the most valuable resource and when you learn how to make your time work for you and how to get the most out of it – you experience life differently.  

Improving how you manage your time is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself – it’s a real game changer in your business and personal life. There are many ways that you can get more productive and get the right things done sooner; but not all of them are obvious or bring the same results.

Here are 5 productivity shifts you want to make if you are trying to make the most out of 2019:

1. Ditch your to do list

Productive people don’t keep to-do lists, they schedule everything they need to do in their calendar and work directly from their calendar!  To-Do lists are just ineffective and they are impeding your productivity. A never ending list of items only leaves you overwhelmed and with a false sense of ‘productivity’.  

If you schedule your To Do’s directly into your calendar at a time to get them done, you commit to it and you are more likely to get it done. Less is more – you don’t need a separate list to remind you what you need to do.

“Productivity is less about what you do with your time and more about how you run your mind.” – Robin Sharma

2. Give up on motivation

Productive people don’t always have to be motivated before starting something. They balance discipline with motivation and do what they need to do, regardless of motivation. When we come up with resistance to take action on what we have planned, we might tell ourselves that we are not motivated and we believe that we need to be motivated to complete any task.

If you want to increase your productivity, you need to challenge yourself more in the moment to take action and give up on motivation sometimes. Do what you need to in order to get the results you want in the future. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel now, make them based on what result you are really after.

3. Master your mornings

Wake up early and get yourself into the productive mindset with your routine and diet! Productive people start the day with some sort of routine, whether it’s meditation, exercise or visualization, etc. AND they have a healthy breakfast to fuel them for the day. Your health is everything when it comes to productivity, what you eat directly affects your productivity.

We can just no longer ignore the direct connection any more. Get in the right mindset to start your day and fuel your mind and body to get the most out of it. Starting your day off in any other way undermines your success – there is no doubt.

4. Schedule according to energy

Productive people know their energy cycles and they plan tasks around their energy levels. Why plan something at a time when you know it will be hard to rise to the challenge? Schedule tasks that require focus and concentration for those times of day that you feel the best and you will find it’s easier to follow through and you will be at your best to perform. Identify your filler tasks and complete those when your energy drops. Be more realistic when scheduling your tasks and set yourself up for wins.

“Productivity is never an accident it’s the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning & focused effort.” – Paul Meyer

5. Working backwards

Productive people always focus on those activities that will take them to the next level. They plan backwards, they look at their goals, then identify the tasks they need to do to support those goals. Those tasks get broken down into weekly actions. That’s how they plan.

Don’t only plan on tasks that come in or those which you ‘feel’ or ‘think’ you should be doing. Your day needs to consist of at least one activity that directly supports your longer term objectives, your big project. What sounds like common sense is definitely not common practice.

Create the right habits to achieve your goals, work on adopting easy tips and techniques so you can manage your time and yourself better to get things done.

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You Need to Grow Your Memory in Order to Grow Your Life

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We all have access to the most powerful computer ever created in the universe…our brain. Unfortunately, few of us have ever been taught how to use our minds efficiently, and even fewer have learned how to develop a fabulous memory. Thankfully, like any skill, memorising can be learned and using the correct strategies, your memory can be improved in only days.

One of the best coaches on memory is Dominic O’Brien the eight-time world memory champion. Self-taught after watching Creighton Carvello memorise a pack of cards on the BBC’s Record Breakers programme. Dominic, through his work on memory, has given us many tools and techniques for improving memory.

Below are 5 rules that will help you develop a better memory:

1. The Rule of Five

Probably seen as one of the most significant contributions to the body of knowledge on memory is O’Brien’s Rule of Five. This rule details how to remember things using a strategy of regular staged repetition.

These stages are as follows:

  • First Review:Immediately
  • Second Review:Twenty-four hours later
  • Third Review:One week later
  • Fourth Review:One month later
  • Fifth Review:Three months later

Utilising stage repetition at these intervals ingrains the memory for the long term.

2. The Dominic System

The Dominic System is a system for remembering numbers. The system is a Person Action system where the association between two sets of paired numbers is the person with the action of the next person.

1139 would become Andre Agassi doing a roundhouse kick which is the action of Chuck Norris. This system combined with the journey method allows for long random numbers to be easily recalled without error. The fantastic thing about this system is that you get to customise for yourself with memorable people and unique actions which when combined really make it easy for you to recall numbers. The table below associates each number to a letter.

Number     0     1    2     3     4     5     6     7     8     9
Letter     O     A     B     C     D    E     S     G     H     N

Creating a simple document with pairs of numbers in one column, the letter pairs in the next and an action column will help you learn this system quickly.

“Nothing can substitute for just plain hard work. I had to put in the time to get back. And it was a grind. It meant training and sweating every day. But I was completely committed to working out to prove to myself that I still could do it.” – Andre Agassi

3. The Link Method

This method relies on two essential elements of memory, association and exaggeration. Utilising these two elements, it is possible to link together unrelated objects to allow you to remember them.

Trying to remember a list of five separate words such as: balloon, papaya, gold, football and hat, might go something like this. You imagine seeing a giant balloon and inside the balloon you can see a small papaya, in bursting the balloon the papaya falls out and as it hits the floor a gold football bounces into a large sombrero.

4. The Journey Method

Using location has been a fundamental part of mnemonics almost since time began. Before humans, writing elders would pass knowledge to others using stories of journeys, with each piece of knowledge being associated with a location on the journey.

O’Brien’s system utilises journeys that you would undertake on a daily basis, like your commute to work or train stations on well-known line. Items are then associated and exaggerated along the journey, so for instance if you were trying to remember a list of ten random things you would associate each piece along with a unique ten stop journey and utilise exaggeration to make the items more memorable.

“You are well equipped with an incredible potential for absorbing knowledge…Anything’s possible.” – Dominic O’Brien

5. The Story Method

To remember groups of information, create a story that links them together. Remembering the planets of the solar system and their position relative to the Sun, Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.

Imagine that Mercury was hitting the nineties as Venus tossed the tennis ball into the air, striking the ball it soared over the net striking the earth and bouncing high into the air, knocking the mars bar out of Jupiter’s hand, and so on.

Developing a good memory will assist markedly in all of your personal development goals as well as assisting greatly in your daily life. The methods above are tried and tested by one of the leading memory champions. Whether you want to become the next World Memory Champion or just improve your recall, the techniques outlined above will assist greatly.

Combining the various elements will create an exponential improvement in your memory that you will find hard to believe, and you will be kicking yourself for not applying them sooner. The best part about using these methods is that they are fun, so enjoy using them.

Which one of these memorizing methods sounds most interesting to you? Share with us below!

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Compassion Is the Cornerstone of Inner and Outer Success

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Tapping into this emotional state of being can make the difference between thriving or surviving in business and life. In today’s journey towards success, people are more apt to respond to a compassionate and caring individual than one too full of themselves.

Just do what I call the “holy scroll of social media” and you will have men and women seeking your attention. They have the magic pill, formula, or mixture that will lead you out of despair and into the promised land of prosperity.

Here’s one way to see if they are legit: Is there a tone of compassion in their written and verbal words? Do they really care about you as a person or simply give off the vibe of “ah, got another sucker to get my stuff?”

If you want to truly know how much a person can deeply care about people, then watch their actions. Many people run around, screaming from the tops of buildings and church steeples that “I am the one to follow.”

Stop chasing those people. They really don’t have their act together and lack compassion. People are drawn to those who are successful, prosperous, and abundant. It’s a natural drawing card. Those people have something that you want, so you follow them and take up their mannerisms like it’s some kind of gospel message.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

You have the ability to be an amazing success in business through using the power of compassion. So, why don’t more people do it? Well, it simply takes time and effort to become compassionate if your whole success model has been toward the profit margin. Anyone who owns or runs a business has to watch their finances, so it’s understandable. Yet, are you going to do so without thinking of others in a heartfelt way? That will come back to haunt you.

Compassion is the one thing that makes truly all-around successful people stand above the noise. People of great financial wealth like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates have come to understand that philanthropy is a way of supporting advancements around the world. Anthony Robbins has taken portions of his own wealth and helped feed other people who don’t have the means to get their own groceries. In turn, look at the many community centers and religious and spiritual institutions that have been established for the sole purpose of being a light of compassion and care for those in their own darkness.

What does this have to do with having an attitude bent towards success? Everything. Right now, you have a powerful wellspring of compassion inside waiting to be shared. It is a way of life that transcends what you know from data and numbers.

Truly successful individuals dial within regularly and get in tune with the times. Compassion might feel like it is a lost art, but it is not. Compassion leaves people not only feeling better but having more of a get-to-it attitude instead of just going along and saying “whatever” to obstacles in their path.

You might be someone who just doesn’t know how to be compassionate. The concept feels and sounds foreign to you because all you have been fed is a bunch of “suck it up, buttercup” mentalities. At times, we all need a good kick in the behind to take action.

If you are a lost sheep who doesn’t even know where to start on the compassionate way of life, then here are three simple suggestions:

1. Be humble

Humility and humiliation are two different things so don’t get them mixed up here. Being humble is a state of being where you remember where you came from and feel a deep sense of gratitude for where you were and where you are now. People in businesses and corporations all over the world know that humility is a game-changing path toward success.

2. Be grateful

If you have two eyes and a heartbeat and are reading this article, then you have three reasons right there to be and feel grateful. One technique that I have found helpful in recent months is to simply say “thank you” upon waking up. Giving thanks for all the things in my life is a way of expressing inner gratitude in an outward way. You can do this in your very own business by saying “thank you” for more clients, more business, more income streams, more freedom, and so on.

“Compassion is an action word with no boundaries.” – Prince

3. Be a good listener

Do you wonder how in the world you can ever hear another person’s heart when they always seem to be talking? Stop talking so much and listen more. Look, a core strength of compassionate people is they tend to listen more and bark less. Success is what you make it up to be in your business and life. Notice, though, the action takers and their ability to truly listen, take in what they need, and let go of the rest. Listening to others with a compassionate and empathetic ear will lead you to the road of success.

Compassion is not just another silly marketing trend. It’s been around as long as humans have had a pulse. The measure of compassion that you give to others will be given back to you. This is seen over and over again in business and other places.

It’s a reciprocal circle of life. Compassion can open doors for you that you’d never thought of walking through at all. Tap into your own compassionate side and make a successful difference in other people’s lives.

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