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How To Think, To Get What You Want

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Joel Brown

You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. 😉

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now…

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

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Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

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Icarus Syndrome: How to Catch Yourself When Success Comes Crashing Down

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You know the story. A guy gets wings made of feathers and wax, dad tells him not to fly too close to the sun, guy ignores dad, wings melt, guy falls into the sea. Classic.

But here’s the thing about Icarus. He didn’t crash because he failed. He crashed because he was doing so well.

That’s the part we don’t talk about enough.

What Icarus Syndrome Actually Looks Like

Icarus Syndrome isn’t some official diagnosis you’ll find in a medical textbook. It’s more of a pattern. And once you spot it, you start seeing it everywhere.

Picture this: someone lands the promotion they’ve been chasing for years. Suddenly they’re saying yes to everything. More projects, more travel, more risk. The confidence that got them there starts to tip over into something else. Overreach, maybe. A bit of arrogance. That quiet voice that used to say “hang on, is this a good idea?” goes strangely silent.

And then it all comes tumbling down.

The tricky bit is that success and self-destruction can look almost identical from the outside. Both involve ambition. Both involve pushing hard. The difference is usually invisible until it’s too late.

Why Winning Can Set You Up to Lose

Ever noticed how a winning streak makes people a little reckless? There’s actually a reason for that.

When things go well, our brains get a hit of confidence that doesn’t always match reality. We start believing our own hype. The wins feel like proof that we can’t lose, which is exactly the moment we’re most likely to.

Turns out, success shrinks your awareness. You stop questioning yourself. You stop listening to feedback because, well, look at all this evidence that you’re right. The people who used to challenge your thinking? You might start tuning them out.

The other day someone told me they’d made their worst decisions not when they were struggling, but when everything was going great. That stuck with me. Because it makes a weird kind of sense.

Struggle keeps you humble. Success can make you forget.

The Warning Signs Worth Watching For

So how do you catch yourself before the wax starts dripping?

It usually starts small. You notice you’re brushing off advice you’d normally take seriously. You’re taking on more than you can realistically handle, but telling yourself you’ve got it. You feel a bit untouchable, like the normal rules don’t apply to you anymore.

Sleep goes out the window. You’re running on adrenaline and calling it drive.

And maybe the biggest one: you stop asking for help because asking for help feels like admitting you’re not as on top of things as everyone thinks.

This part’s a bit uncomfortable, but the very traits that fuel success, the ambition, the drive, the refusal to quit, are the same ones that can quietly steer you off a cliff. Same wings, different outcome.

Pulling Yourself Back From the Sun

Okay, so what do you actually do about it?

First, get honest about the story you’re telling yourself. Are you flying high because things are genuinely solid, or because you’ve stopped checking? There’s a difference, and only you can tell which one it is.

Keep people around who’ll tell you the truth. Not the yes-people who clap at everything, but the ones who’ll gently say “mate, are you sure about this?” Those people are worth their weight in gold, and they get rarer the more successful you become.

Slow down enough to notice how you’re actually feeling. Success can mask burnout for a surprisingly long time. You feel great right up until you don’t.

And look, sometimes catching yourself isn’t something you can do alone. If you’re feeling stretched thin, if the pressure of keeping it all up is starting to weigh on you, talking to someone helps more than people expect. Getting proper psychological support in Western Sydney or wherever you are isn’t a sign you’re falling apart. It’s usually a sign you’re paying attention.

Flying Smart Instead of Flying High

Here’s the thing Icarus never got told. The problem was never the flying. It was the ignoring.

His dad gave him a middle path. Not too high, not too low. He just got carried away.

You can enjoy your success without letting it make you stupid. You can keep climbing without pretending you’re invincible. The trick is staying awake to yourself, especially when everything looks like it’s going right.

Because that’s exactly when the sun feels closest.

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Quick and Meaningful Ways to Do Charity

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Finding time to give back can feel overwhelming. Many people want to help others but think it takes a lot of time and planning. The truth is, simple, effective ways to support charity fit into busy lives. Whether you have a few minutes or a couple of hours, you can make a positive impact in your community. Helping others benefits those in need and gives you a sense of fulfilment and connection.

First, understand that charitable efforts can be quick and meaningful. You don’t need to organize a big event or donate a lot of money to make a difference. Small actions can make significant changes in others’ lives. Here are some ways to show generosity today.

Food Bank Donations

One of the simplest ways to help is by donating to a food bank. A food bank donation helps people facing food insecurity by redistributing surplus food and providing healthy meals. When you donate, you nourish someone’s day and ease their burden.

Local food banks often rely on donations from individuals and businesses. You can donate non-perishable items or fresh produce from your garden. If that’s not possible, consider making a monetary donation, which food banks can use to buy the needed food items. Every contribution counts and helps ensure families receive meals.

Volunteering your time at a local food bank is another great way to get involved. Many food donation organizations need help sorting donations, packing food boxes, or distributing meals. This hands-on work lets you see the positive impact of your efforts. You can also build friendships with staff and other volunteers as you work toward shared goals.

No-Cost Options

Charity doesn’t always have to cost money. You can donate your skills or time. If you’re good at graphic design or enjoy writing, your expertise can support local nonprofits’ outreach efforts. You might create promotional materials, manage social media, or offer training sessions.

Another no-cost option is to share charitable organizations on your social media. Inform friends and family about the causes you care about. Increased visibility can lead to more donations and volunteers. Sometimes, raising awareness matters as much as giving money.

Used Goods Donations

Decluttering your home is a great way to support charity. Look around. What items do you no longer use? Clothing, household goods, and toys can help someone in need. Local shelters, thrift stores, and nonprofits often welcome gently used items. By clearing out what you don’t need, you can provide useful items to those who can’t afford them.

You can enhance this experience by organizing a donation drive in your community. Involve friends and neighbours to gather more items together. This can become a fun community event that promotes giving.

Random Acts of Kindness

Doing random acts of kindness each day is an easy way to help others. Simple actions, like buying someone a coffee, leaving a nice note, or helping a neighbour carry groceries, can spread goodwill. These acts not only brighten someone’s day but also promote kindness in your community.

Try setting a goal to do a certain number of kind acts each week. This can become a good habit that changes how you interact with others. It doesn’t matter how big or small the act is. What matters is the intention behind it.

Skill-Based Volunteering

Using your professional skills to help a charity can foster personal growth while supporting those in need. Whether you are a teacher, marketer, lawyer, or accountant, your skills can greatly benefit nonprofits. Many nonprofits need help in areas where they can’t afford to hire professionals.

Some food donation organizations specifically seek volunteers with certain skills, so look for a nonprofit that matches your background. You can create change by using your expertise and meet others who share your interests.

Getting involved in charitable activities allows you to help create a better world. The good news is you don’t need much time or money to make a difference. Whether you volunteer at a local food bank, donate items, or do random acts of kindness, your efforts can lead to real change. These small actions can bring great fulfillment, improving not just the lives of those you help but your own, too.

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Why Recognizing Progress Can Lead to Better Habits and Performance

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Most people can remember a moment when someone pointed out that they were getting better at something. It might have been a teacher who mentioned that an essay read more clearly than the last one, or a manager who noticed that a task was finished sooner than usual. The comment may have lasted only a few seconds, but it changed how the person felt about the work in front of them. That small shift in feeling is often what separates someone who keeps going from someone who quietly gives up.

Progress is easy to overlook. Improvement usually arrives in pieces that are too small to feel impressive on their own, and the person making the effort is rarely the one who sees it first. When nobody names those pieces out loud, the effort starts to feel pointless. When somebody does name them, the effort starts to feel worth repeating. Understanding how that works, and learning to do it on purpose rather than by accident, is one of the most useful skills anyone in a teaching or leading role can develop.

How Noticing Good Behavior Changes What Happens Next

People repeat what works for them, and very little works better than being noticed by someone whose opinion matters. Many teachers and managers, though, were never taught how to use positive reinforcement in a steady, deliberate way, so their encouragement arrives at random moments and slowly loses its meaning. Practical, well-structured methods for recognizing and encouraging good behavior solve that problem by giving praise a shape and a purpose instead of leaving it to chance. Anyone looking for a clear starting point can review this article on positive reinforcement techniques by Youngstown State University. Studying this kind of material online also makes it easier for working teachers and professionals to build new skills around a full schedule, without stepping away from the classrooms and teams that they already serve.

Why Setbacks Are Easier to See Than Improvement

Problems announce themselves. A missed deadline, a failed test, a disrupted lesson, or an argument in a meeting all demand attention immediately, because something has to be done about them. Improvement makes no noise at all. A student who reads a little more fluently this week than last week does not interrupt anyone, and a colleague who has stopped arriving late does not create a situation that anybody needs to handle.

The result is that attention flows toward what is going wrong. Over time, people learn that the quickest way to be noticed is to struggle, and that doing well simply means being left alone. That is a discouraging lesson, and it is taught without anyone meaning to teach it. Deliberately looking for improvement corrects the balance.

The Link Between Small Wins and Lasting Habits

A habit is built from repetition, and repetition depends on how the last attempt felt. When an attempt ends with a sense of having moved forward, the next one starts more easily. When it ends with nothing at all, the next one takes more willpower, and willpower runs out. This is why recognizing progress is not simply a kindness. It is one of the practical mechanics of habit formation.

Small wins also make a long goal feel possible. Someone who wants to improve their writing, their fitness, or their grades is looking at a destination that is months away. If the only measure of success is arrival, then every day before that is a day of failure. If the measure is movement, then almost every day can end in something worth acknowledging.

What Makes Encouragement Actually Land

Not all encouragement has the same effect. A vague comment like “good work” is pleasant to hear and forgotten within minutes, because it does not tell the person anything they can use again. Naming the specific thing that improved gives the comment weight. Saying that someone explained their reasoning clearly, or handled a difficult question patiently, tells them exactly which behavior to repeat.

Timing matters as well. Recognition that arrives while the effort is still fresh connects clearly to the action that earned it. Recognition that arrives weeks later feels like a formality. Honesty matters most of all.

Recognizing Progress in a Learning Environment

Classrooms show all of this very clearly, because students are constantly forming opinions about what they are capable of. A student who believes they are bad at a subject will read every difficulty as proof, and a student who has been shown evidence of their own improvement has something to weigh against that belief. Pointing to a specific piece of earlier work and comparing it with a recent one is often more persuasive than any amount of general encouragement.

This also affects how a class behaves as a group. When students see that steady effort and cooperation are noticed, those become the normal ways to act. When the only things that draw comment are disruptions and mistakes, the classroom slowly organizes itself around those instead.

Recognizing Progress at Work and at Home

The same pattern holds well beyond school. In workplaces, people frequently leave roles they are good at because nobody ever indicated that the work was valued. A manager who regularly names the specific things a team member has done well builds trust that survives harder conversations later, because criticism from someone who also notices success is easier to accept.

At home, the effect is much the same. Children, partners, and family members respond to being seen accurately. Mentioning that someone has been more patient recently, or that a difficult task was handled calmly, does more for the relationship than a general compliment ever could.

Building the Habit of Looking for Improvement

Like any habit, this one needs a structure until it becomes automatic. Setting aside a few minutes at the end of a day or a week to think about who has improved, and in what specific way, is usually enough to begin. Writing it down helps, because memory tends to favor the problems. The next step is simply to say it to the person involved, in plain words, as soon as there is a reasonable moment.

None of this requires a new system or a great deal of time. It requires paying attention to the right things and then being willing to mention what was seen. People who feel that their progress is visible tend to keep making progress, and that is true in classrooms, in workplaces, and in ordinary life.

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Why Successful People Plan Their Days on Paper (Not Just Apps)

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Your cell phone is usually something that you check almost immediately when you wake up. One notification turns into three. An e-mail is followed by another message, and soon enough, the day has started without any proper planning. Digital applications are very helpful and make work easier, yet it also makes it difficult for people to stop and think about what deserves attention.

That’s when the importance of paper scheduling can play an important role. With the September 2026 calendar, you get all your deadlines, appointments, and key dates scheduled without having another notification nagging at you. By listing out what’s a priority for you, you create a simple place to reflect on things before getting into the hustle and bustle of the day.

Why Do Successful People Still Plan on Paper?

The benefits that come with digital planning are immense. These include setting alerts, scheduling meetings, coordinating calendars, and providing access to all information anywhere. However, just because everything is available on a screen doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be able to concentrate on the most important things.

Paper provides a very different way of doing things. You don’t have any pop-ups to distract you. You can simply look at your page, determine what is important, and take notes without switching applications.

Imagine a professional preparing for an important presentation. Their digital task manager may contain dozens of tasks. On paper, they might simply write “finish presentation,” “review figures,” and “send final version.” The smaller, more focused list can make the next step feel much clearer.

Paper Makes Priorities Visible

The handwritten plan also remains physically in your presence. It can be kept next to your laptop as you work, reminding you of what you planned to achieve.

It is also gratifying to tick off an accomplished task. It creates a visible record of progress instead of leaving completed work buried inside a digital list.

Can Paper Planning Help With Digital Distractions?

The contemporary workplace is full of interruptions. There will be emails. There will be messages. There will be meetings going long past their allotted times. Even if you make up your mind to find some time, it’s not always easy to do so undisturbed.

According to Microsoft’s Work Trend Index 2023 report, 68% of individuals reported that they lacked adequate undistracted focus time while working. This research was conducted among 31,000 individuals from 31 different countries, and trillions of Microsoft 365 productivity signals were analyzed.

Paper planning cannot remove these interruptions. It can, however, give you something simple to return to when they happen. If the day’s three most important priorities are written beside your computer, it becomes easier to remember what you were working towards after an unexpected meeting or a string of messages.

The aim is not to avoid technology. It is to avoid letting technology decide where your attention goes.

How Does Writing Your Day Down Change the Way You Work?

When writing an outline, one is forced to make decisions. Rather than looking at an endless list of things that have to happen someday, one can identify things that matter today.

This is particularly useful when one already has a busy schedule for a day. Imagine having a report due Friday, three meetings, several emails to answer, and a routine administrative task waiting. Everything may look important when viewed together. Writing down the report as the main priority can make it easier to protect time for it.

Planning on an app

Planning on paper

Easy to add and rearrange tasks

Makes selected priorities physically visible

Useful for reminders and notifications

Creates a quieter planning space

Can store a large number of tasks

Encourages you to be selective

Works well for shared schedules

Works well for personal daily focus

This does not mean paper is automatically better. It simply gives planning a different purpose. An app can hold everything, while a sheet of paper can help you decide what deserves your attention now.

Can Paper and Digital Planning Work Together?

Absolutely. The best way of doing this could be assigning a particular role to both mediums.

Assign your meetings, appointments, joint ventures and reminders on a digital calendar, but let your personal commitments, brief notes, thoughts and priorities remain on paper.

This works perfectly well even while planning for months ahead. A look at a September 2026 calendar can show you the busiest times, important deadlines and other personal engagements prior to organising individual days.

Why Are Weekly Calendar Layouts Beneficial for a Busy Schedule?

A week that is packed with activities will appear totally different when all seven days are visible. Using printable weekly calendars can assist you in taking an overall view of your appointments, deadlines, and other important obligations at once.

Such an overview can reveal some potential issues before it is too late. For example, when you realize that all your time during one day is already taken by numerous meetings, then you know that you should change your schedule now.

Printable weekly calendars can also be beneficial for those who like tangible things and wish to have everything written down somewhere without switching applications.

Make Planning More Intentional

A productive day may not necessarily start with downloading yet another app or adding new things to the to-do list. Sometimes, all it takes to start a productive day is some quiet minutes and an empty sheet of paper. Listing your priorities will give you a break before responding to the numerous stimuli.

Paper planning will only provide an additional choice. To discover practical planning resources in the form of free printable planners and calendars, try out a platform that will facilitate everyday planning. With proper use, paper planning can become an instrument that will turn your hectic schedule into a thoughtful one. The most effective planning tool is the one that will enable you to begin your day knowing your priorities and end it knowing where your time went.

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