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You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. 😉

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

Gold Nugget Activator

Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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191 Comments

  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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5 Ways to Think Yourself Into Mind Blowing Results From Globally Renowned Leaders

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Many wonder why someone who’s less qualified is achieving greater success even though you’re smarter, work harder, or even have more influential connections. The only way someone succeeds is by thinking correctly. It doesn’t matter who you know, what school you attended, or what grades you got; all that matters are your thoughts. Both men and women around the world have been telling people “the secret” to success for hundreds of years. It’s time to listen.

Here are five tactics to begin today:

1. Writing Goals the Napoleon Hill Way

Thinking yourself into mind blowing results starts with the end in mind. Athletes know exactly what their goal is and how to earn the points to win. Life’s exactly the same.  In nearly every Napoleon Hill book, he lays out a goal achieving formula which has helped millions around the world. By following this, you will accomplish something you currently believe is impossible.

Start by writing a clear statement of your desire, then formulate a clear plan to attain it. You’ll also need to know what you plan on giving up in return. Set a definite time limit. Everything you wrote down, memorize it and repeat it to yourself often. It’s imperative you express gratitude towards receiving the results you’re still working for. Be grateful you achieved your desired outcomes long before you actually materialize them into your world.

“If you cannot do great things yourself, remember that you may do small things in a great way.” – Napoleon Hill

2. Creating Your Mental Image How Bob Proctor Teaches

In Bob Proctor’s’ book, You Were Born Rich, he titled Chapter 3, “The Image Maker” because we think in pictures. Our thoughts are like movie clips being projected on the screens of our minds; control the pictures, control the outcomes.  It’s vital to manage our thoughts and expel the ones that don’t serve us. Knowing this, you’re now the ‘mental architect’ of your life, of your destiny!

Once you have your desired outcome, it’s time to put that image on the screen of your mind. See yourself already in possession of what you desire. Clearly watch yourself living it, hearing the sounds and feeling the feelings you’ll experience.

A powerful question to ask to know which moment should be on the screen of your mind is, “what’s the last thing that needs to happen in order for me to know I’ve achieved the result I’m after?” This is the moment to focus on!

3. Allow Dr. David Schwartz to Give Yourself a Daily Pep-Talk

Start thinking more of yourself through self-praise. You’ll begin to discover how much bigger and stronger you feel when you upgrade your thinking habits. In Dr. David Schwartz’s book, The Magic of Thinking Big, he provides you with a daily technique. Constantly reminding yourself that you’re top-notch by using his “Sell-Yourself-to-Yourself 60 Second Commercial.”

Developing the “commercial” is as easy as writing down your assets and points of superiority. What’ll separate you from the herd is practicing your “commercial” out loud in front of a mirror once a day with enthusiasm and determination. Lastly, read it silently many times throughout the day as a constant reminder of your greatness. Just like a written goal, keep this with you at all times. It’s a great mental tool to regain enthusiasm and determination after the inevitable setback.

4. Experience Unlimited Power Like Tony Robbins

Have you heard about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)? It’s the study of success and how to emulate it; it’s the language of the mind and how to create concise results. From the many learnings gathered from both Tony Robbins and the study of NLP, controlling your state of mind is one thing that will drastically change the results you’re currently producing.

In his book, Unlimited Power, Tony Robbins gifted us with the technique, “memory management.” This is linking an emotion to a memory which instantly elicits that empowering feeling. Simply know your arsenal of positive memories to think about when you need that extra umph.

Successful people gain access to their most resourceful emotions on a consistent basis, you can too. What’s great about the mind is that they don’t even need to be real memories. Daydreaming about your fantasy life will do the trick too!

“People who succeed at the highest level are not lucky; they’re doing something differently than everyone else.” – Tony Robbins

5. Think Positive as if You Were Norman Vincent Peale

Believing in yourself is vital to succeed, but not crucial to begin. The path to attainment is by forming faith and expectancy that what you desire is going to happen. In Norman Vincent Peale’s book, The Power of Positive Thinking, he wrote a chapter for each of these important necessities; believing and expecting. By not having both of these right now, or even just one of them, that shouldn’t stop you from anything!

There’s an undeniable cure for both. To believe in yourself and have the full expectation that what you want will come to pass, the only tactic out there are autosuggestions, commonly known as affirmations.

Developing statements in the positive, present tense and repeating them thousands of times a day, you’ll reprogram your subconscious mind to a success-filled mindset. By convincing your subconscious to believe in your end game, soon enough, you’ll begin to expect it; just like you expect to go to sleep tonight.

Since our minds are the most powerful force in all of creation, it’s time to start using it to its fullest potential. Start today by writing your goal the Napoleon Hill way!

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2 Secret Roads to Success – Why Some People Have It All and How You Can Too

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Have you wondered how some people seem to have it all – the 6-figure pay check, a healthy and fit body and amazing relationships? On the other hand, others are successful in one aspect of our lives (perhaps we are happy with our careers) but there’s always something that’s missing – that strong body, that perfect someone or living a meaningful life.

I’ve personally experienced having a successful career but failed at having a healthy and strong body. When I finally succeeded at getting and staying healthy, I realized that there are two completely different approaches, both of which need to be mastered to find success in life – the goal-driven approach and the process-driven approach.

The Goal-Driven Approach

A goal-driven approach is one in which our goals themselves, are sufficient to motivate us to act until we achieve them. This works well for:

  1. Short-term goals lasting a few days or a few weeks, where we can see the end in sight and push ourselves to get there.
  2. Goals that are usually within or just outside our comfort zone.
  3. Goals that have some certainty of success at the end. For example, working overnight and acing the client presentation the next morning makes us feel proud of our achievement and gets us recognition from our boss.

This approach inherently rewards speed, agility and short bursts of intense work. We end up relying on quick wins or successes which make the task worth it and help us feel motivated to achieve our goals.

Most of us are very adept at using this approach because we’ve grown up in environments, traditional education and companies, which operate this way. Schools and universities set exams and corporate jobs require us to complete tasks upon which we get good grades or promotions.

When the Goal-Driven Approach Doesn’t Work

What a goal-driven approach doesn’t teach us though is how to approach long-term goals like staying healthy, having meaningful relationships or building our careers around our purpose in life.

  1. These goals are usually so big and so long-term that we don’t fully understand all the steps to reach them.
  2. They don’t have any immediate reward associated with them so our motivation to chase them decreases after the initial burst of inspiration. For example, it’s impossible to lose weight and keep it off by just eating healthy for a week.
  3. Because they are so long-term, any future action of ours can completely wipe out the gains made in the beginning of the process which is even more de-motivating. For example, a week of eating healthy can be wiped out by one night of bingeing.
  4. There is also no artificial sense of urgency like deadlines -so we need to find the motivation internally to engage in the task every day. If we ever try to impose timelines on these tasks, it only stresses us out and we compensate by completely sabotaging ourselves like eating an entire pack of cookies one fine night exhausted from a week of eating too little.

“If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” – Yogi Berra

The Process-Driven Approach

The process-driven approach breaks down our big goals into minute goals and creates a habit to execute these minute goals regularly.

Putting such a habit into place is simple. Just follow these four steps:

  1. Break down your big vision into multiple long-term goals all of which have to work together to make your big vision come true. For example, for your big goal of feeling healthy and fit, you may break it down into eating healthier, exercising regularly and sleeping more.
  2. Pick one of the goals to focus on, ideally the one you think will have the biggest payoff.
  3. Break this goal down into a series of simple activities that you can do without much effort. For example, let’s say you picked eating healthier as your priority goal. One of the activities that might be sabotaging you is your regular McDonald’s dinner on the way back from work. A simple activity that can replace this is to stop driving by McDonald’s if it’s triggering your craving and take a different route back home instead.  This might take a little bit of willpower on the first day but as you get used to the new route over a couple of weeks, it’ll become an automatic habit.
  4. Once the first activity feels like a normal part of your day, stack on the second activity and so on. Similarly, once you’ve achieved the first goal, stack on the second, third and remaining goals to reach your long-term vision.

How to Succeed with the Process-Driven Approach

Though this seems simple in theory, there are two emotional and mindset changes needed to succeed with this method.

The first is to be patient – instead of focusing on the big shiny dream, measure progress against the habit that you’re trying to cultivate. Accept that seeing the big vision come true takes months and sometimes years. Our biggest Achilles heel is impatience and while this works well in academia and work, it backfires in building health and relationships because we end up taking short cuts that harm us long term.

The second is to build rewards into your process – Having rewards is the best way to motivate ourselves and makes our mini-habits easier to stick to. For example, if you don’t eat at McDonald’s then your reward could be having a spa massage at the end of the week.

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson

Find The Right Balance

At the end of the day, we need to master both goal-driven and process-driven approaches to succeed. Use the goal-driven approach for short-term goals or when you need a burst of energy to push you through a task. Use the process-driven approach for long-term lifestyle change journeys such as getting healthier, having more meaningful relationships or pursuing a career that resonates with your purpose in life. In this way, you too can soon be the person who seems to magically “have it all”.

What are you doing today to reach success later on? Let us know your tips in the comments below!

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You Don’t Have To Listen To Every Bit Of Career Feedback. Some People Just Don’t Get You And That’s Fine!

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I recently got rejected from what I thought was a fantastic career opportunity. I was told that I was “Not entrepreneurial enough.”

Those that know me well know that it’s probably one of the few things I’m good at. Many of my mentors who I told this story to laughed out loud.

These three words were career feedback and I was always led to believe that to ignore this feedback would be ignorant and stupid.

I pondered that thought for a few days and then had a revelation: “I don’t have to listen to every bit of feedback I get.”

 

Pissed off is a natural first reaction.

That’s how I felt after someone told me I was crap at the very thing I love and have dedicated most of my time to. Our brain wants to be angry and fight back. Our first reaction, though, is often not what we should pay attention to.

“Empty space and time to reflect is how we process career feedback for what it really is: an opinion”

Don’t let your first reaction dominate how you think about the feedback. Maturity that can come at any age will show you to question everything – even your reaction.

 

Some people just don’t get you.

You’re not their type, they don’t like you, you speak a different language or you may have different values. Not everyone is going to get you and what you stand for and that’s okay. In my case, I didn’t connect.

Buying into the circus that is me is not for everyone. If you don’t like vulnerability or breaking comfort zones, then you probably won’t like me.

If you’re not obsessed with big goals, doing the impossible and trying to improve just a little bit every day, then you probably won’t like me.

That’s okay and I forgive you. I don’t have all the answers and I’m far from perfect – like the rest of us.

Learn to accept that some people will never get you and what you’re about.

That realization is how we overcome career feedback that we may not agree with.

 

Sometimes it’s any excuse. The real answer is something different.

Feedback can be disguised by the truth. The truth is maybe there was someone else the whole time and I never had a chance at this career opportunity. Maybe it wasn’t me at all.

Sometimes feedback is given because the real reason is much harder to deliver. It’s not easy to say “Tim, thanks but we hired someone else and you were never in the running.”

Admitting you never even had a chance is something many of us would never want to say. Being brutally honest takes courage, and courage is not everyone’s kind of kebab with garlic sauce on top, sprinkles and chili flakes.

 

We all get rejected.

I nearly forgot this fact. Everyone gets rejected. In fact, right now, someone is being rejected.

Rejection is not limited to you and me; learning to deal with it will only help us, not hinder our ability to achieve success in any field.

“We’ve all got 99 problems and thinking you’re special will only create more pointless thoughts that won’t serve you or your goals”

 

You’re responsible.

The thing about career feedback is that you have to take responsibility. Maybe in my case, I didn’t deliver the message of how obsessed and skilled I am at entrepreneurship. Maybe I could have done a better job at explaining my entrepreneurial background and passion.

It’s highly likely that I am entrepreneurial enough for this career opportunity and that it’s not a lack of skill at play here but a lack of effective communication.

“Responsibility always trumps the blame game and it helps us grow more as a person”

 

There’s always one lesson.

Mine was to develop more skills in strategy.

Let’s stop for one second: I hate the word strategy. The other career feedback I got was to do more strategy yet that’s not a skill of mine and I have no desire to do lots of that in my career.

The key here is that there’s always a lesson from all feedback and it might not be the intended lesson that the giver left you with.

There’s either a great lesson in the feedback or a reminder in the feedback of what you stand for. Don’t let any feedback compromise your values and who you are.

 

You are good enough.

You just have to believe in yourself and eventually, the right opportunity will find you.

Don’t give up your hopes and dreams because of one rejection. Interrupt the story in your head that plays on repeat and focuses on anger towards another person.

Replace that story with thoughts of how you can do better and get to the next opportunity.

Through rejection and bad career feedback, you find your way to what you’ve always wanted. That’s the hack and it works.

I’m off to suck up the rejection and take my own advice. Much respect.

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6 Important Lessons That Will Lead You to Success

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Failure is a part of life and it’s nothing to be ashamed of because the most highly successful people are the ones who have experienced failures the most in their life. The general public usually learns about people and their work when they become successful but only a handful of people know about the immense struggles that those people have gone through. Unfortunately, we do not have the stories of their failures to which we can relate our own setbacks and this is why we perceive failure to be a bad thing.

People are afraid of failure because, from a very young age, they are taught that making mistakes and being wrong is a bad thing so when a person suffers from a failure, it’s possible for that person to experience some form of depression. It is important for you to understand failure is a way for you to learn and move on from the experience. It is literally impossible to live life forever without failing at something, unless you live your life so carefully that you forget to live at all.

Here are 6 lessons that you should embrace that will change in your life:

1. Keep Your Expectations Low

When it comes to life, people often expect things like family, business, and marriage to be constant and consistent throughout the years. However, this is not the case because life is not that simple and there are always ups and downs which you need to confront.

Having low expectations is totally understandable and justifiable but having high expectations from relationships and businesses could prove to be harmful if those things don’t last forever. In addition to this, keeping your expectations low helps you accept whatever comes from the situation. High expectations tend to result in disappointment, pain, and loss, so it’s better for you to have low expectations, yet continue to work hard with what you are doing.

2. Acknowledge the Change

Most of the time, people think they may not experience change at all in their life because they are expecting things to last forever, but little do they know that change is always waiting to take place and can happen at any point in time. Acknowledging change means you’re fully aware of the situation and this will help when change occurs and you move from the stage of shock to acceptance.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

3. Accept the Change

The acceptance of change can be difficult and you might resist it at first, but you need to understand the fact that accepting the change will help you make the necessary adjustments that you need in your life. Preventing and stopping the change from happening can prove to be disastrous for you because you are rejecting the fact that the situation has changed and are still living in the past.

Things turn out to be different from the way you expected them to be and this is completely  fine because you will be able to deal with the change more effectively by embracing the new situation.

4. Learn from Your Past

Once you accept the change and are ready to embrace it, it will start making sense and you will find lessons from which you can learn a lot. It is important to learn from your previous mistakes because learning and moving on eliminates the probability of you making those mistakes again in future.

5. Grow Stronger than Before

Accepting, embracing and learning from the change makes you stronger and better than you were in the past. The ability to learn from your past makes you a better person who is able to deal with the changes more easily and is able to move on without having any regrets in life. Moreover, this change will take away the fear of making new adjustments in life.

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” – Bob Goff

6. Acknowledge the Wisdom and Embrace it

The more you permit change to happen in your life, the better you grow as an individual. Embracing the wisdom will bring new found energy and strength into your life with inner peace and calmness. Embracing the change proactively and accepting it as a part of your life will result in you being calmer and stronger than ever. Change is not your enemy but the greatest teacher from whom you will learn most of your life lessons.

It is worth mentioning that during the process of accepting change, you need to be brutally honest with yourself because most people are in denial and fail to realize the real reason behind the change. It is insane to repeat the same mistakes again and again with the expectations of a different result. So, if you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to fail again.

Failure can find you again, but if the situation is different from the previous one, then it’s just another experience. You need to stand up after you fall since you cannot stop problems from occurring in your life. What you can do is handle them in a more strategic way.

Problems are a part of your journey, however, the important thing is to keep your eyes on the final destination. Once you reach your final destination, you will realize that all those problems you faced were totally worth the success.

Failure is the one who falls and never stands back up. When you stand back up and keep on trying to achieve what you want, you’re not a failure but a winner in life. So, never lose hope and always look for the positive side, even in the toughest of situations because this is what successful people do.

How do you embrace change and keep pushing forward in life? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Ways to Think Yourself Into Mind Blowing Results From Globally Renowned Leaders

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Many wonder why someone who’s less qualified is achieving greater success even though you’re smarter, work harder, or even have more influential connections. The only way someone succeeds is by thinking correctly. It doesn’t matter who you know, what school you attended, or what grades you got; all that matters are your thoughts. Both men and women around the world have been telling people “the secret” to success for hundreds of years. It’s time to listen. (more…)

Lucas Robak used to fly planes, now he leads various wisdom-sharing communities. Being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS), Lucas began researching how to successfully live with it. Soon after, he was leading a health & wellness community and helping entrepreneurs use a published book for marketing. As a visionary, creative thinker, and strategist, Lucas discovered many mind hacks, health tips, and business tricks along the way which he loves sharing. To experience your own results from a #1 bestselling author, find him on LinkedIn or www.LucasRobak.com.

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  1. rhonda townsend

    Oct 18, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I loved your article looking forward for more god bless you and thank you much.

  2. Shmuel Cerqueira

    Feb 10, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    This article is exactly what i have been trying achieve. Good reminder to keep my thoughts where i want them to manifest in real life.

    I have had many friends in the past,but i do not waste my time sharing my plans because they would hold me back. The most recent best friend is from Georgia. He is probably the person who was holding me back the most because we did not share the same values. At this moment I am looking for new friend who will actually help me grow in life because i have a lot to learn ahead of me. I am 29 years old and i know i have missed opportunities of making true friends but because of my lack of confidence I missed the opportunity. Although today i understand, and hope in faith that the right day will come where my life will move forward.

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 10:50 am

      Dear Shmuel,

      I could actually feel how u must be thinking at this age and the friends who pulled you down, I, myself is 29 years old and had taken quite many rebellious decisions in my life. but till today, I hv’nt regretted about my single decision as yet. Yes, many times energy gets low but i still gets myself on track. you can connect me if you are looking for a new friend in your life….
      have fun and keep enjoying life… 🙂
      thanks

  3. Sheenkhay

    Feb 6, 2015 at 10:21 am

    id like to have less emotional clutter in my life and a free space from negative people cause thats all holding me back .. thanx

  4. Olukemi

    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Am starting out fresh in importation business. It seem difficult or will I say complex with a lot of things to learn and become successful but at the same time some discouragement along the way. But with this article I will focus on what I stand to gain and be successful. Thanks for the write up

  5. marjan

    Jan 30, 2015 at 9:49 am

    thank you so much,i hope to be a good and successful person in my life and help people

  6. Shahzeeb

    Jan 27, 2015 at 8:10 am

    thankyou for this i really think i got the hold of whats causing all the wrongs in my life.. thanx again:)

  7. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

    Great idea although not new. Excellently explained. Impressed and trying to impliment. Liegh keep it up it. All your articled are great.

  8. Nilesh Parakh

    Dec 16, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I want to earn $ 10,00,000’s till the end of this month.

  9. Jasmine

    Dec 12, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    I choose to believe that everything that hasn’t happened for me, up to this moment, has been because of my own doubt and fear. I will choose to believe, moving forward, that I can take control of my thoughts and choose to listen to and create thoughts that will help me create positive action. There will be moments where I will feel as if I’m not moving forward but I will choose to create an alternative thought that says yes I am moving forward; I just need to continue to push forward in order to break through the emotional and mental negativity.

  10. Anthony

    Nov 28, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Laura your writing is very good. I plan to create peace of mind for myself and those around me. I plan to create favorable deals for my manufacturing agreements. Both in my favor and their favor, A win win. I plan to create a self sustaining business, with me there or not. I plan to have financial freedom created from my very first deal by creating as much value as I can. What I need is a boost of confidence, the knowing that I’m worth every penny I ask for. What insight do you have for my directional purpose?

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Dear Anthony,

      your vision is clear and thats very good. You just need to invest more time in building relationships with like minded, clear objective people like you. People who gets motivated, and share same visions as yours can only make a self sustaining business for you. Spend more time with people more successful than you and you will understand more effective ways used by them for greater success.
      Do contact me if I could be of any help.
      thanks

  11. Ram

    Nov 14, 2014 at 9:41 am

    Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article 🙂

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

    • Gaurav Jalan

      Mar 12, 2015 at 11:19 am

      hey Ram,

      Good to read your views.
      Its really very difficult to set any particular time to control your mind and thoughts coming in it, neither you can practice hard to control it. Set some peaceful time with yourself in morning and night and concentrate on your inhaling and exhaling of your breaths, this technique will help you visualize the kind of thoughts emerging in your mind. and than you can start thinking the kind of life you want for yourself, make images of your thinking and regular practice will help you in forming a positive mindset and clear images for better life.

      Also, if you really want to start a business, than start part time along with your job, it will actually help you in building the foundations strong for yourself without getting into big risk.
      Connect me if you want more discussion over it.
      Thanks

  12. mattocastter

    Nov 14, 2014 at 2:37 am

    Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  13. varsha

    Jul 16, 2014 at 5:55 am

    Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jul 17, 2014 at 9:31 am

      Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L 🙂

  14. danielnoergaard

    Jun 13, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things 🙂 Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000’s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is 🙂

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 15, 2014 at 9:27 am

      Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura 🙂

      • palak sachdeva

        Jun 28, 2014 at 12:44 pm

        Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • mjpskwally

          Jun 30, 2014 at 3:27 pm

          Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Kintu Jr

      Nov 13, 2014 at 1:26 pm

      Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

    • Ruwani

      Nov 13, 2014 at 2:27 pm

      great goal Daniel

  15. Rua Matiu

    Jun 13, 2014 at 8:24 am

    To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  16. The Acorsteam

    Jun 12, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:25 pm

      Wow – great to hear about the change you’ve been going through! Awesome to hear you’re on track and motivated again. Great job! 🙂

  17. Ronda Luft

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  18. bjm1522

    Jun 12, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. 🙂

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:22 pm

      Hey you’re welcome bim! Love that quote: “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” Thanks for sharing 🙂

  19. Amy

    Jun 12, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    First location at work to hit the 1500 milestone

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      Jun 13, 2014 at 6:21 pm

      Go for it Amy!

      • Dan

        Oct 6, 2014 at 6:27 am

        I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

        • Laura Leigh Clarke

          Oct 7, 2014 at 9:53 am

          Hi Dan, it sounds as though the problem is your underlying beliefs and thought patterns.

          If those are in opposition to the “positive” thought you are holding, then of course you’re not going to get the outcome you’d rather choose.

          I’d have a look at this webinar as it includes a method for combating just this problem:
          http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

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5 Ways to Think Yourself Into Mind Blowing Results From Globally Renowned Leaders

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Many wonder why someone who’s less qualified is achieving greater success even though you’re smarter, work harder, or even have more influential connections. The only way someone succeeds is by thinking correctly. It doesn’t matter who you know, what school you attended, or what grades you got; all that matters are your thoughts. Both men and women around the world have been telling people “the secret” to success for hundreds of years. It’s time to listen.

Here are five tactics to begin today:

1. Writing Goals the Napoleon Hill Way

Thinking yourself into mind blowing results starts with the end in mind. Athletes know exactly what their goal is and how to earn the points to win. Life’s exactly the same.  In nearly every Napoleon Hill book, he lays out a goal achieving formula which has helped millions around the world. By following this, you will accomplish something you currently believe is impossible.

Start by writing a clear statement of your desire, then formulate a clear plan to attain it. You’ll also need to know what you plan on giving up in return. Set a definite time limit. Everything you wrote down, memorize it and repeat it to yourself often. It’s imperative you express gratitude towards receiving the results you’re still working for. Be grateful you achieved your desired outcomes long before you actually materialize them into your world.

“If you cannot do great things yourself, remember that you may do small things in a great way.” – Napoleon Hill

2. Creating Your Mental Image How Bob Proctor Teaches

In Bob Proctor’s’ book, You Were Born Rich, he titled Chapter 3, “The Image Maker” because we think in pictures. Our thoughts are like movie clips being projected on the screens of our minds; control the pictures, control the outcomes.  It’s vital to manage our thoughts and expel the ones that don’t serve us. Knowing this, you’re now the ‘mental architect’ of your life, of your destiny!

Once you have your desired outcome, it’s time to put that image on the screen of your mind. See yourself already in possession of what you desire. Clearly watch yourself living it, hearing the sounds and feeling the feelings you’ll experience.

A powerful question to ask to know which moment should be on the screen of your mind is, “what’s the last thing that needs to happen in order for me to know I’ve achieved the result I’m after?” This is the moment to focus on!

3. Allow Dr. David Schwartz to Give Yourself a Daily Pep-Talk

Start thinking more of yourself through self-praise. You’ll begin to discover how much bigger and stronger you feel when you upgrade your thinking habits. In Dr. David Schwartz’s book, The Magic of Thinking Big, he provides you with a daily technique. Constantly reminding yourself that you’re top-notch by using his “Sell-Yourself-to-Yourself 60 Second Commercial.”

Developing the “commercial” is as easy as writing down your assets and points of superiority. What’ll separate you from the herd is practicing your “commercial” out loud in front of a mirror once a day with enthusiasm and determination. Lastly, read it silently many times throughout the day as a constant reminder of your greatness. Just like a written goal, keep this with you at all times. It’s a great mental tool to regain enthusiasm and determination after the inevitable setback.

4. Experience Unlimited Power Like Tony Robbins

Have you heard about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)? It’s the study of success and how to emulate it; it’s the language of the mind and how to create concise results. From the many learnings gathered from both Tony Robbins and the study of NLP, controlling your state of mind is one thing that will drastically change the results you’re currently producing.

In his book, Unlimited Power, Tony Robbins gifted us with the technique, “memory management.” This is linking an emotion to a memory which instantly elicits that empowering feeling. Simply know your arsenal of positive memories to think about when you need that extra umph.

Successful people gain access to their most resourceful emotions on a consistent basis, you can too. What’s great about the mind is that they don’t even need to be real memories. Daydreaming about your fantasy life will do the trick too!

“People who succeed at the highest level are not lucky; they’re doing something differently than everyone else.” – Tony Robbins

5. Think Positive as if You Were Norman Vincent Peale

Believing in yourself is vital to succeed, but not crucial to begin. The path to attainment is by forming faith and expectancy that what you desire is going to happen. In Norman Vincent Peale’s book, The Power of Positive Thinking, he wrote a chapter for each of these important necessities; believing and expecting. By not having both of these right now, or even just one of them, that shouldn’t stop you from anything!

There’s an undeniable cure for both. To believe in yourself and have the full expectation that what you want will come to pass, the only tactic out there are autosuggestions, commonly known as affirmations.

Developing statements in the positive, present tense and repeating them thousands of times a day, you’ll reprogram your subconscious mind to a success-filled mindset. By convincing your subconscious to believe in your end game, soon enough, you’ll begin to expect it; just like you expect to go to sleep tonight.

Since our minds are the most powerful force in all of creation, it’s time to start using it to its fullest potential. Start today by writing your goal the Napoleon Hill way!

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2 Secret Roads to Success – Why Some People Have It All and How You Can Too

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Have you wondered how some people seem to have it all – the 6-figure pay check, a healthy and fit body and amazing relationships? On the other hand, others are successful in one aspect of our lives (perhaps we are happy with our careers) but there’s always something that’s missing – that strong body, that perfect someone or living a meaningful life.

I’ve personally experienced having a successful career but failed at having a healthy and strong body. When I finally succeeded at getting and staying healthy, I realized that there are two completely different approaches, both of which need to be mastered to find success in life – the goal-driven approach and the process-driven approach.

The Goal-Driven Approach

A goal-driven approach is one in which our goals themselves, are sufficient to motivate us to act until we achieve them. This works well for:

  1. Short-term goals lasting a few days or a few weeks, where we can see the end in sight and push ourselves to get there.
  2. Goals that are usually within or just outside our comfort zone.
  3. Goals that have some certainty of success at the end. For example, working overnight and acing the client presentation the next morning makes us feel proud of our achievement and gets us recognition from our boss.

This approach inherently rewards speed, agility and short bursts of intense work. We end up relying on quick wins or successes which make the task worth it and help us feel motivated to achieve our goals.

Most of us are very adept at using this approach because we’ve grown up in environments, traditional education and companies, which operate this way. Schools and universities set exams and corporate jobs require us to complete tasks upon which we get good grades or promotions.

When the Goal-Driven Approach Doesn’t Work

What a goal-driven approach doesn’t teach us though is how to approach long-term goals like staying healthy, having meaningful relationships or building our careers around our purpose in life.

  1. These goals are usually so big and so long-term that we don’t fully understand all the steps to reach them.
  2. They don’t have any immediate reward associated with them so our motivation to chase them decreases after the initial burst of inspiration. For example, it’s impossible to lose weight and keep it off by just eating healthy for a week.
  3. Because they are so long-term, any future action of ours can completely wipe out the gains made in the beginning of the process which is even more de-motivating. For example, a week of eating healthy can be wiped out by one night of bingeing.
  4. There is also no artificial sense of urgency like deadlines -so we need to find the motivation internally to engage in the task every day. If we ever try to impose timelines on these tasks, it only stresses us out and we compensate by completely sabotaging ourselves like eating an entire pack of cookies one fine night exhausted from a week of eating too little.

“If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.” – Yogi Berra

The Process-Driven Approach

The process-driven approach breaks down our big goals into minute goals and creates a habit to execute these minute goals regularly.

Putting such a habit into place is simple. Just follow these four steps:

  1. Break down your big vision into multiple long-term goals all of which have to work together to make your big vision come true. For example, for your big goal of feeling healthy and fit, you may break it down into eating healthier, exercising regularly and sleeping more.
  2. Pick one of the goals to focus on, ideally the one you think will have the biggest payoff.
  3. Break this goal down into a series of simple activities that you can do without much effort. For example, let’s say you picked eating healthier as your priority goal. One of the activities that might be sabotaging you is your regular McDonald’s dinner on the way back from work. A simple activity that can replace this is to stop driving by McDonald’s if it’s triggering your craving and take a different route back home instead.  This might take a little bit of willpower on the first day but as you get used to the new route over a couple of weeks, it’ll become an automatic habit.
  4. Once the first activity feels like a normal part of your day, stack on the second activity and so on. Similarly, once you’ve achieved the first goal, stack on the second, third and remaining goals to reach your long-term vision.

How to Succeed with the Process-Driven Approach

Though this seems simple in theory, there are two emotional and mindset changes needed to succeed with this method.

The first is to be patient – instead of focusing on the big shiny dream, measure progress against the habit that you’re trying to cultivate. Accept that seeing the big vision come true takes months and sometimes years. Our biggest Achilles heel is impatience and while this works well in academia and work, it backfires in building health and relationships because we end up taking short cuts that harm us long term.

The second is to build rewards into your process – Having rewards is the best way to motivate ourselves and makes our mini-habits easier to stick to. For example, if you don’t eat at McDonald’s then your reward could be having a spa massage at the end of the week.

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson

Find The Right Balance

At the end of the day, we need to master both goal-driven and process-driven approaches to succeed. Use the goal-driven approach for short-term goals or when you need a burst of energy to push you through a task. Use the process-driven approach for long-term lifestyle change journeys such as getting healthier, having more meaningful relationships or pursuing a career that resonates with your purpose in life. In this way, you too can soon be the person who seems to magically “have it all”.

What are you doing today to reach success later on? Let us know your tips in the comments below!

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You Don’t Have To Listen To Every Bit Of Career Feedback. Some People Just Don’t Get You And That’s Fine!

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I recently got rejected from what I thought was a fantastic career opportunity. I was told that I was “Not entrepreneurial enough.”

Those that know me well know that it’s probably one of the few things I’m good at. Many of my mentors who I told this story to laughed out loud.

These three words were career feedback and I was always led to believe that to ignore this feedback would be ignorant and stupid.

I pondered that thought for a few days and then had a revelation: “I don’t have to listen to every bit of feedback I get.”

 

Pissed off is a natural first reaction.

That’s how I felt after someone told me I was crap at the very thing I love and have dedicated most of my time to. Our brain wants to be angry and fight back. Our first reaction, though, is often not what we should pay attention to.

“Empty space and time to reflect is how we process career feedback for what it really is: an opinion”

Don’t let your first reaction dominate how you think about the feedback. Maturity that can come at any age will show you to question everything – even your reaction.

 

Some people just don’t get you.

You’re not their type, they don’t like you, you speak a different language or you may have different values. Not everyone is going to get you and what you stand for and that’s okay. In my case, I didn’t connect.

Buying into the circus that is me is not for everyone. If you don’t like vulnerability or breaking comfort zones, then you probably won’t like me.

If you’re not obsessed with big goals, doing the impossible and trying to improve just a little bit every day, then you probably won’t like me.

That’s okay and I forgive you. I don’t have all the answers and I’m far from perfect – like the rest of us.

Learn to accept that some people will never get you and what you’re about.

That realization is how we overcome career feedback that we may not agree with.

 

Sometimes it’s any excuse. The real answer is something different.

Feedback can be disguised by the truth. The truth is maybe there was someone else the whole time and I never had a chance at this career opportunity. Maybe it wasn’t me at all.

Sometimes feedback is given because the real reason is much harder to deliver. It’s not easy to say “Tim, thanks but we hired someone else and you were never in the running.”

Admitting you never even had a chance is something many of us would never want to say. Being brutally honest takes courage, and courage is not everyone’s kind of kebab with garlic sauce on top, sprinkles and chili flakes.

 

We all get rejected.

I nearly forgot this fact. Everyone gets rejected. In fact, right now, someone is being rejected.

Rejection is not limited to you and me; learning to deal with it will only help us, not hinder our ability to achieve success in any field.

“We’ve all got 99 problems and thinking you’re special will only create more pointless thoughts that won’t serve you or your goals”

 

You’re responsible.

The thing about career feedback is that you have to take responsibility. Maybe in my case, I didn’t deliver the message of how obsessed and skilled I am at entrepreneurship. Maybe I could have done a better job at explaining my entrepreneurial background and passion.

It’s highly likely that I am entrepreneurial enough for this career opportunity and that it’s not a lack of skill at play here but a lack of effective communication.

“Responsibility always trumps the blame game and it helps us grow more as a person”

 

There’s always one lesson.

Mine was to develop more skills in strategy.

Let’s stop for one second: I hate the word strategy. The other career feedback I got was to do more strategy yet that’s not a skill of mine and I have no desire to do lots of that in my career.

The key here is that there’s always a lesson from all feedback and it might not be the intended lesson that the giver left you with.

There’s either a great lesson in the feedback or a reminder in the feedback of what you stand for. Don’t let any feedback compromise your values and who you are.

 

You are good enough.

You just have to believe in yourself and eventually, the right opportunity will find you.

Don’t give up your hopes and dreams because of one rejection. Interrupt the story in your head that plays on repeat and focuses on anger towards another person.

Replace that story with thoughts of how you can do better and get to the next opportunity.

Through rejection and bad career feedback, you find your way to what you’ve always wanted. That’s the hack and it works.

I’m off to suck up the rejection and take my own advice. Much respect.

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6 Important Lessons That Will Lead You to Success

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Failure is a part of life and it’s nothing to be ashamed of because the most highly successful people are the ones who have experienced failures the most in their life. The general public usually learns about people and their work when they become successful but only a handful of people know about the immense struggles that those people have gone through. Unfortunately, we do not have the stories of their failures to which we can relate our own setbacks and this is why we perceive failure to be a bad thing.

People are afraid of failure because, from a very young age, they are taught that making mistakes and being wrong is a bad thing so when a person suffers from a failure, it’s possible for that person to experience some form of depression. It is important for you to understand failure is a way for you to learn and move on from the experience. It is literally impossible to live life forever without failing at something, unless you live your life so carefully that you forget to live at all.

Here are 6 lessons that you should embrace that will change in your life:

1. Keep Your Expectations Low

When it comes to life, people often expect things like family, business, and marriage to be constant and consistent throughout the years. However, this is not the case because life is not that simple and there are always ups and downs which you need to confront.

Having low expectations is totally understandable and justifiable but having high expectations from relationships and businesses could prove to be harmful if those things don’t last forever. In addition to this, keeping your expectations low helps you accept whatever comes from the situation. High expectations tend to result in disappointment, pain, and loss, so it’s better for you to have low expectations, yet continue to work hard with what you are doing.

2. Acknowledge the Change

Most of the time, people think they may not experience change at all in their life because they are expecting things to last forever, but little do they know that change is always waiting to take place and can happen at any point in time. Acknowledging change means you’re fully aware of the situation and this will help when change occurs and you move from the stage of shock to acceptance.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

3. Accept the Change

The acceptance of change can be difficult and you might resist it at first, but you need to understand the fact that accepting the change will help you make the necessary adjustments that you need in your life. Preventing and stopping the change from happening can prove to be disastrous for you because you are rejecting the fact that the situation has changed and are still living in the past.

Things turn out to be different from the way you expected them to be and this is completely  fine because you will be able to deal with the change more effectively by embracing the new situation.

4. Learn from Your Past

Once you accept the change and are ready to embrace it, it will start making sense and you will find lessons from which you can learn a lot. It is important to learn from your previous mistakes because learning and moving on eliminates the probability of you making those mistakes again in future.

5. Grow Stronger than Before

Accepting, embracing and learning from the change makes you stronger and better than you were in the past. The ability to learn from your past makes you a better person who is able to deal with the changes more easily and is able to move on without having any regrets in life. Moreover, this change will take away the fear of making new adjustments in life.

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” – Bob Goff

6. Acknowledge the Wisdom and Embrace it

The more you permit change to happen in your life, the better you grow as an individual. Embracing the wisdom will bring new found energy and strength into your life with inner peace and calmness. Embracing the change proactively and accepting it as a part of your life will result in you being calmer and stronger than ever. Change is not your enemy but the greatest teacher from whom you will learn most of your life lessons.

It is worth mentioning that during the process of accepting change, you need to be brutally honest with yourself because most people are in denial and fail to realize the real reason behind the change. It is insane to repeat the same mistakes again and again with the expectations of a different result. So, if you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to fail again.

Failure can find you again, but if the situation is different from the previous one, then it’s just another experience. You need to stand up after you fall since you cannot stop problems from occurring in your life. What you can do is handle them in a more strategic way.

Problems are a part of your journey, however, the important thing is to keep your eyes on the final destination. Once you reach your final destination, you will realize that all those problems you faced were totally worth the success.

Failure is the one who falls and never stands back up. When you stand back up and keep on trying to achieve what you want, you’re not a failure but a winner in life. So, never lose hope and always look for the positive side, even in the toughest of situations because this is what successful people do.

How do you embrace change and keep pushing forward in life? Let us know in the comments below!

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