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A Tim Ferriss Like Japan Trip Rebuilt Me – Here’s Why

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“Art imitates life so you must experience life to create art” – Unknown (possibly Tim Ferriss)

This quote is the reason why I recently took a holiday to Japan and why from now on I will travel more. All of us have a dream, a vision, a goal, a business which is another word for our own “art.”

Anything worth doing has an element of creativity attached to it which in essence is art. While on the way to Japan listening to the Tim Ferriss podcast, I heard this quote above. I realized that my life’s work had fizzled out somewhat because I needed to experience life more.

This whole blogging thing only works when I experience life – travel is the best way to do that. Second to that, I have been listening to Tim Ferriss’s podcast for years, and he talks a lot about Japan and how the culture can really positively impact your life.

Hearing this advice second hand just wasn’t good enough for me. That’s why, in Timmy style, I booked an unplanned trip to Japan with only two days notice. It was what I called a Tim Ferriss like trip to Japan. I wanted to transcend my current circumstances and boy did I do that!

Things before Japan had become a bit stale. I wasn’t quite me and I needed rebuilding again. It was time to self-disrupt and grow more as a person. I’d stopped growing and that’s why I felt off. Japan changed all of that.

Here’s how this Japan trip rebuilt me:

 

We’re all the same: we’re all loved.

Sitting at the airport in Australia I saw everyone saying goodbye to their loved ones. I did the same and said goodbye to my family and girlfriend. I sat there for around ten minutes and realized that we’re all loved by someone.

We all have someone who would be sad or miss us if we didn’t return home. All of us want to come home safe and see our loved ones again. While tragedy can strike, these trips to places like Japan are a must – they’re part of our journey in life.

These journeys we take are how we find ourselves. Without travel, we become lost and can’t understand how we fit into this world.

Knowing I’m loved and knowing the importance of these journeys helped rebuild me.

 

Japan can show you what is wrong too.

So far I’ve made Japan sound like it’s all roses – it’s not. I saw people working ridiculous hours. I saw Japanese people who had become obsessed with meaningless westernized brands. I saw women who still appeared to be second class compared with men.

Japan didn’t show me perfection; it showed me reality and that means that there are always going to be things that need to change. Each of us can form part of that change.

 

Objectification of women has changed men in a bad way.

For some reason, Japan gave me immense clarity. I noticed that me (and all other men) have become hardwired to look at women’s bodies. Even the nicest most loyal men who treat women well have been affected. I noticed this unconscious behavior in myself while in Australia and began questioning it.

Do we need to look at women in such a physical way? Is it really necessary? Is this addiction taking up so much of our creative genius and potential?

The answer to all of these questions, after Japan, was that a problem exists and this addiction is not serving as well. I’m not proud of this fact and I for one plan on not only being aware of it but also changing it. This idea helped rebuild me.

 

The Samurai showed the benefits of discipline.

While being an Aussie tourist walking through the grounds of the Imperial Palace, I saw some of the emperors Samurai training. The facility was surrounded by fences but being a tall guy, I could still see over the fence.

I found these Samurai to be cool because they were laser-focused on what they were doing. The Samurai had purpose and precision accuracy. Their discipline taught them patience and you could see the courage in their actions. Everything was thought through and nothing was left to chance.

The Samurai helped me rebuild my life by reminding me of what discipline can do when we embrace it. A disorganized mind combined with actions that are all over the place results in a lot of nothingness. Start with being a master at one thing instead of trying to be mediocre at lots of things.

 

Concrete Jungle vs. Nature

Before Japan, I was obsessed with visiting places like San Fran and New York to see big concrete cities and skyscrapers. Now that I’ve been to Japan I’ve realized that I’m completely bored of that. Going to My Fuji and some of the mountains in Kyoto is far more impactful.

Concrete jungles are all the same once you’ve seen a few. They all have lots of box’s – some tall, some wide, some full of lights and some full of views. When you see enough of these, you no longer become impressed by them.

Nature is impossible to top though. No matter how many lakes, mountains, beaches or forests I visit, I never get sick of them. That’s because it’s in our human DNA to feel a connection with nature. Nature is a place we can relax and recharge the batteries.

Japan taught me that for the rest of my travel adventures I am going to focus on beautiful places that encompass nature instead of man-made structures and fake tourist attractions like theme parks. Knowing what nature means to me has helped me to rebuild myself.

 

See as many places as you can.

This trip to Japan made me see that I get bored after around five days in one country. I’ve discovered that it’s ideal to see as many places as you can. The more of this Earth you experience, the more your life changes.

 

Don’t forget attention to detail.

Japanese people, I learned, are obsessed with attention to detail. Everything from the signage at train stations to the way they present food has been thought of.

“It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being purposeful”

It’s the little things that the Japanese people do that make you fall in love with them by the end of your stay in their country.

 

Manners feel good.

I quickly saw that Japanese people are very kind and have amazing manners. They say thank you so many times. As you walk out of a restaurant, the whole team say thank you like a giant choir. Being grateful and acknowledging each other is at the heart of their culture.

You can’t help but smile when you witness this way of treating one another. Not every stranger you meet in a foreign country is trying to commit a terrorist attack.

All I can say is manners just feel good and it put’s you in a positive mood. Plus, you walk around with a big fat smile on your face and that feels refreshing.

 

Connection through transport.

Japanese culture feels very connected and that’s partly to do with their very efficient transport system. There’s a subway station on practically every corner that’s affordable. Trains run every few minutes, so there’s never any need to run to the subway station to catch a train.

The bullet trains allow you to skip between states or regions in a very short amount of time. No need to board a plane or go through the razzle-dazzle of airport bureaucracy gone mad (thanks to perceived terrorism and the news).

While sitting on the Shinkansen (bullet train) to Kyoto, I saw families that were on their way to visit one another. They looked so relaxed and sat there enjoying the countryside of Japan as I did. It was a regular occurrence made possible by a fantastic transport system that is orderly and well thought out.

 

Technology is exhausting.

The negative side of technology is prominent in Japan. There are cities that are littered with giant LED screens, bright lights and technology on every corner. In these places, I felt unable to think clearly and the bright lights made me feel like I suffered from Attention Deficit Disorder.

There was technology within the toilet seat, on the plane, at restaurants and ugly vending machines selling fat causing sugar water on every corner.

On the flip side, what I loved about Japan was that talking loudly on a not so smart phone was prohibited in most places and there were locations where phones were non-existent. Japanese people seem to know how to balance life between being “ON” and being “OFF” when it comes to their phone.

“Instead of wasting your life away on your phone, Japan teaches you to become present and appreciate the here and now”

You notice things that you normally wouldn’t where I’m from in the Western World. With so much empty space, Japan is a great place to rebuild yourself. The rebuilding process needs thinking time away from phones.

 

Minimalism and being space conscious is beautiful.

The Japanese people are obsessed with being space conscious. They have double-decker car spaces, cube-shaped cars, cars made for people who must be three-foot tall, hotel rooms where you can barely open the door and space-saving retail shops like you’ve never seen.

 

Time is money in Japan.

My plane was on time to the second. Every train was on time. The tour guide at Mt Fuji was on time. The hotel cleaning was to the minute and so was the checkout. Time is money and it’s one resource we should take more seriously. Time gives you the opportunity to rebuild and grow.

 

Low energy states can be healed by travel.

More than a year since my last break, my energy levels in my career were at an all-time low. I had headaches every day and felt uninspired to a degree. It turns out all I needed was a holiday to rebuild.

Your body guides you.
Your heart guides you.
Your mind guides you.

This Japan trip taught me to take time to relax and recharge. Don’t ignore your body ever!

 

Climbing Japanese mountains is a metaphor for life.

I climbed this mountain in Kyoto. Halfway up I wanted to quit. I thought to myself “I’ve seen enough. Why go to the summit?”

That’s the problem right there. When we’re working on our goals, we give up too soon. We settle for okay instead of amazing. If this mountain were your life, would you give up when it got a bit hard? I’m telling you not to.

All the growth and everything you ever wanted comes from pushing that extra 2% to reach the top of the mountain. The feeling at the top is indescribable. Only those who are prepared to go the extra mile will know what it feels like to look down from the top.

Two more things to remember:

1. Once you reach the top, there’s always another mountain.

2. You must also help someone else climb the mountain to reach your full potential. Living is giving.

This mountain I climbed in Japan taught me so much about rebuilding my life (and yes I love mountain analogies).

 

There’s no place like a hot spring to contemplate life and rebuild your life.

While lying in a hot spring (Onsen) in Northern Tokyo, I sat there and thought I was going to be enjoying a relaxing time in a hot spring. What no one told me is that my entire life would replay before me. The onsen became a place to contemplate everything that had transpired thus far.

The hot water from the springs has a certain effect on your mind. I often find that my best thinking and ideas come from a shower and I’ve heard other people talk about this same experience.

“The hot spring sent my mind into deep thinking that I’ll never forget”

 

To enter a Japanese hot spring, you must be fully naked. You can’t bring clothes, material possessions, technology or a corporate mask. There’s nowhere to hide and no phone to look at. You sit there naked and bare your soul. It’s the one time where people can see you for exactly who you are.

Before contemplating my own life, I observed the men around me. Many of them seemed to be contemplating their life. Some looked tired and worn out from years of slaving away and doing hard labor.

Many of them looked like they were wasting away from years of working too hard and not remembering what truly matters. It was as if they had finally discovered what matters but that it was now too late. Then I saw the exact opposite – young men who had their whole lives ahead of them.

They too would sit there and weigh up their options. Should they follow their dream or fall for the Western myth that is collecting useless objects of little value? There were times where I wanted to answer this question for them.

I realized after a lot of thought that these young men had to come to that realization themselves. When you discover these truths of life yourself, everything changes and the principles stick.

I saw these young men by the end of my time in the hot spring for who they were and what they could become (their potential). I finally understood that they too could change the world in some impactful way if they chose too. We all have that choice and it’s ours to make.

“This stark comparison between the older men and the younger men was one of the most profound lessons of my Japan trip”

Both generations of men also looked up at the sky while doing this deep thinking. I found that quite bizarre and all of them did it.

What’s strange is that I also looked up at the sky without consciously being aware. Once I’d finished observing the men in the hot spring, I turned my thinking over to my own life. I had truth bomb after truth bomb as I sat there. I found myself running to the change room every 30 minutes to write stuff down.

What I had achieved so far and what I needed to do next became so clear. I sat in the hot spring proud of who I’ve become. For the first time in my life, I got to sit there and appreciate everything I’d put out into the world. I hadn’t stopped to see how far I’d come before this moment.

I was so focused on the present and trying to gain future success that I didn’t even know how proud I could be of myself. This fact has become the foundation of me going through the rebuilding phase yet again after five years since my last major self-renovation.

 

In summary….

Everyone reading this blog post has the opportunity to rebuild their life and consistently self-disrupt themselves. Going to places like Japan gives you the opportunity to experience life and see how far you’ve come. You can’t be ON 24/7 like those picture quotes tell you to be.

Once in a while, you need to be proud of who you are and think about who you can become.

Japan is a perfect place to do this and rebuild your life. Stay true to yourself and inspire others.

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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Never Forget Where You Can From.

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Last week, my mentor and friend Joel Brown, asked me to speak at one of his Circle Of Influence, Mastermind sessions.

What I thought would be a routine call with me sharing blogging tips, turned into a mini pep talk. I want to share the same advice with you because I know it can help you.

That advice is this: Never forget where you came from.

 

We all start somewhere.

On the mastermind call, I told the story of how I was a spoilt brat that had come to a crossroads in life. I was searching for what was next when I met Joel Brown for the first time in Perth. I’d followed his blog, Addicted2Success, for many years after a friend of a friend, Dave Nelson, introduced me to it.

Through a series of strange events, I started writing inspiring content for Joel’s blog. This was peculiar because I hated writing and saw myself as useless with the English language. None the less, I just got started with no plan in mind.

My online following through Addicted2Success soon became much larger than I expected. I started writing for other websites but always made sure Addicted2Success was at the center of everything.

 

Why acknowledge the source of your success?

Because without it you’d have nothing. Without being grateful for the good fortune you have been given, you’d become someone who thinks they did it all on their own.

None of us did it alone. We all had help whether we admit it or not. Without Joel’s help, I’d be nowhere and inspiring nobody.

That’s why every podcast interview I do, every guest post I do, I never forget where I came from.

 

It doesn’t matter what you start with.

I shared a story on the mastermind call that is not well known. Joel started his now infamous blog by writing other people’s ideas in his own voice and adding his thoughts to it.

“He didn’t start as some enlightened genius: he started with nothing”

He to came from nowhere and had help. A man named Jordan Belfort and another man named Tony Robbins inspired him. They were the catalyst for him reaching hundreds of millions of people through his content and blog.

Just like me, he also never forgets where he came from. He also points back to these early influences as being how he got his big break.

The secret to every successful person is they never forget where they came from.

They never forget what it was like to be broke. They never forget how bad their talent was in the beginning. They never forget how much they hated their 9-5 job.

“By not forgetting where you came from, you ensure you never go backward. You ensure you always remain grateful and humble so you can keep doing what you love”

 

Loyalty is never forgotten.

Sure I’ve had many opportunities to forget where I came from. I could produce content for any website I want yet I still remain loyal to the cause, and the people who helped me. This loyalty is never forgotten. When an opportunity comes up that is in your field, these people your loyal to remember you.

Loyalty is so rare and that’s why it’s not forgotten. The opportunities you’re missing may be caused by the fact that you’re not building in-depth, loyal relationships with people who’ve helped and mentored you.

 

Pay it forward.

Remembering where you came from is not enough. Once you reach some level of success, you must pay it forward. Otherwise, it’s a one-way street and your ego takes over. Great mentors like Joel have taught me that leaders breed more inspirational leaders.

If you’ve had your chance in the spotlight, help others get theirs. You don’t need to spend that much of your free time either. There are a few people I mentor and it’s mostly done through short email messages. It takes me no time at all. The growth these mentees’ have received has impressed me.

Seeing them grow has allowed me to grow at the same time. Their growth keeps me focused on the idea that any of us can achieve phenomenal results.

 

Where you came from is the inspiration.

Only seeing the success stops all of us from pursuing our own passions. When you share where you’ve come from, you show us how incredibly straightforward it can be. Success looks complicated until we see where our heroes started.

It’s how people get their big break that gives us the strategies and tools to do the same. You may think where you’ve come from isn’t that crucial: It is.

We need to see the tipping point in your success to see the same in our own success. Your beginning has more golden nuggets than you could possibly ever imagine and it’s your duty to share them with us. It’s your duty to duplicate your success in others.

It’s your duty to pay it forward and never forget where you came from.

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7 Radical Productivity Hacks You Should Implement Into Your Daily Routine

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When your productivity goes up, you get more stuff done, and when you get more stuff done, you feel a lot more accomplished. Even better, you get closer to your goals, you enjoy more success, and you feel a lot happier. Additionally, the huge, stress-inducing to-do list gets a whole lot shorter! If it were that simple, though, you wouldn’t be reading this.

The truth is that productivity evades a lot of us for different reasons. There are people who are insanely productive, and then there are people who claim small victories when they manage to get out of bed before noon.

What separates us? Most of the time, the pain of making a start outweighs the pleasure of getting stuff done. When this happens, you need to adjust your mindset — which I will show you how to do.

These are 7 productivity hacks anyone can add to their daily routine which will turbocharge your week:

1. Shrink that to-do list

First things first, you’ve got to shrink that to-do list. A huge to-do list makes us feel stressed and pressured. Sometimes, we don’t start because of the amount of stuff we have to do. Write down a list of all your tasks and separate them into three categories: High value, semi-value and no value.

Find a way to ditch or delegate the least valuable stuff, and then go through the tasks that would offer your life some value (but not loads) if you completed them. Are there any of these you can ditch? If so, ditch ‘em — or delegate them.

Cutting down your to-do list so that you’re only focusing on tasks that add value to your life, work, and your close ones, is a sure fire way of firing up your productivity levels. However, make sure to evaluate the least important tasks correctly before ditching them — sometimes there are things that you just have to do because no one else will.

2. Start saying no to people

Interestingly, even the most productive people on the planet struggle with saying no sometimes. Serial entrepreneur and author Tim Ferriss recently spoke to Gary Vaynerchuk about this, and the core of what he says is true: Saying no to people matters a lot. When you stop feeling an obligation to help people and realize that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person, you suddenly have so much more time on your hands.

Saying no to people isn’t being mean. It’s simply a case of asserting yourself and letting people know what you will and won’t do. It’s about defining your boundaries and standing up for your right to be happy. Some people will think you’re being mean, but you’ve just got to deal with this.

Put yourself first when possible. Don’t feel a need to take on other people’s burdens or project their frustration and neediness onto you. You’ve already got too much of your own stuff to deal with.

Of course, there are times when you should say yes. But if there is something you really don’t want to do, have no time to do, and have no obligation to do, then don’t do it. And, no, you’re not allowed to give a “maybe” response. Just say “Sorry, can’t do it” and move on.

“Say no to everything, so you can say yes to the one thing.” – Richie Norton

3. Eat that frog already

This is a great tip I first heard from Brian Tracy, but it’s based on a famous Mark Twain quote: “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, eat the biggest one first.”

Eating frogs sounds icky and disgusting. Why would anyone want to do that?! What Twain and Tracy mean is that we all have tasks we don’t look forward to. We associate more pain with doing the task than not doing it, and so we keep putting it off.

The problem is that the horrible task won’t just go away. We have to eat the frog at some point, and knowing this causes us more stress and worry. As such, it’s much better to eat the frog in the morning because it’s rewarding to get on with your day knowing that the most difficult task has already been completed.

In other words, do the hardest task first in the AM. All of a sudden, you’ll have a song in your heart because the rest of the day doesn’t look so bad.

4. Keep your “Why” in mind at all times

Discovering what motivates us helps to keep us on track with our goals. What’s the real reason you don’t stay productive? Perhaps you were super productive last Tuesday, but decided to be lazy on Wednesday and Thursday.

A lot of us are like this. We experience a major high where we get lots of stuff done and make a Facebook post about being productive, before lying in bed all of the next day.

It’s usually because we don’t have a strong enough why. Higher purposes and goals are so important for sustained productivity, otherwise, we’ll just ask ourselves, “What’s the point? Why are we working so hard when we could just be chilling?” Define your “Why” for yourself once and for all. If you know why you want to do stuff and keep reminding yourself of it, you’ll be much more motivated to stay on track.

5. Take a 20 minute nap each day

The late afternoon tiredness is real. However, rather than call it quits at 6 PM because your focus is dwindling, take a nap so that you can go for longer. Anyone who isn’t a napper might raise an eyebrow at this, but that’s okay. However, from now on you should consider joining the 20 Minute Nap Club (it’s free).

Studies have shown that a brief cat nap boosts short-term alertness. If you put your head down for 20 minutes during the afternoon, you get to restore your energy levels so that you can get more stuff down without losing focus. If you are still not convinced then start with a 20-minute relaxing meditation. This works, I swear.

6. Wake up early

You’ll need a nap if you wake up early. As well as having the time to get more stuff done, waking up early also gives you a psychological boost. While everyone else is still in bed snoozing, you’re up and being productive. From experience, that feels great, and it gives you an edge. Night owls, fret not: even 15 minutes earlier tomorrow will do the trick.

“Morning is an important time of day, because how you spend your morning can often tell you what kind of day you are going to have.” – Lemony Snicket

7. Work weekends

Technically, this is one for the weekends, but it still counts. Few people, especially those who work 9-5, want to be told that they should be working weekends. But the thing is that, if you see the weekend as precious time where you refuse to do any sort of work whatsoever because sports/cocktails/friends/family/tequila comes first, your tasks really will start to pile up.

Chill time on the weekend is important, and it’s super important that you connect with friends and family, but don’t be a massive stickler on this. If you’ve got a two-hour window on Sunday where all you’ll be doing is lying on the sofa or catching up on a box set, use this time to get some stuff done. You’ll feel productive, and it will save you a major headache during the week.

These are seven radical productivity hacks you should implement into your daily routine. Some of them will seem hard at first, but no one said being productive was easy and that’s the reason many of us fail at it! However, the more often you incorporate these into your daily routine, the easier things will become.

Have any radical tips of your own? Share them in the comment section above!

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The Absolute No No’s Of Social Media: Break These And Everybody Tunes Out.

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Everyone talks about what to do on social media. No one talks about the things that don’t work. What not to do is where the recipe for success on social media lies.

I’ve spent the last 12 months getting more engagement on social media than ever so that I can spread more good in the world.

Here is my absolute list of no no’s for social media:

 

Too much self-promotion.

“Here’s a selfie with the Alibaba founder.”

“Here’s me at blah blah blah exhibition.”

“Here’s me taking a break after working so hard.”

This nonsense doesn’t work. It’s all about you and it comes across as self-promotion. I still want you to share photos of inspirational people you met. I still want you to talk about taking a break and the places you’ve visited. I still want you to share events you attend.

There’s a subtle difference though – share the lessons and value these experiences gave you rather than sharing your ego’s proximity to them.

“Make your social media posts about how you can help and add value rather than putting your name on everything and trying to sound important”

 

Tagging people without permission.

Ever seen one of those posts where there are twenty names at the bottom that are tagged?

Ever wondered why you’re tagged in someone’s post who you’ve never met?

This careless tagging occurs because the originator wants to reach more people. They think by tagging strangers with lots of followers, they’ll reach more people and get more attention for their ego.

“Tagging without permission is rude and doesn’t work”

I want you to tag people and reach more people. I want you to do it with respect. How?

Reach out and tell the person you’re going to tag them first and why the post is relevant to their audience. Don’t be lazy and tag them because they’ll do nothing and most likely unfollow you. Also, don’t overdo it. Aim to tag three people or so instead of twenty. Less is more.

 

Linking out.

If I only teach you one thing it’s this: Don’t link out.

In plain English, this means that you should avoid posting a link that takes people off the social media platform they are viewing your post on. For example, if you’re on Facebook, don’t put a link in your post that takes me to YouTube.

Always post natively.

In plain English again, post your content directly on the platform. Instead of linking to YouTube, upload the video to Facebook directly.

 

Scheduling doesn’t work as well. It’s all about live.

We’ve all used software like Buffer to schedule posts and make people think that we are content machines that write something new every 2.5 hours and then upload it at peak times of the day.

The algorithm that runs a lot of these social media platforms and decides who see’s your content has figured out the game. Live, original content that is unplanned will always get priority. Try doing things on the fly. Upload your content in real time. Better yet, create your content in real time.

 

Polished is getting old.

Joel Brown taught me this lesson. One day, he was getting ready to shoot a video in the park. He was going to get a haircut beforehand, so he looked good for the camera. Laziness took over and he decided to shoot the video on his iPhone, with messy bed hair.

This video got lots of engagement because he shot it in a moment of passion and it was unpolished.

We’ve all seen the polished YouTube videos with perfectly positioned product placement, special lighting and high definition cameras. All of this pre-preparation kills the idea and the creativity that is attached to it.

Try being raw.
Try being authentic.
Try keeping it simple.
Try to avoid the temptation of becoming a gear/technology junkie.

 

Be original (thoughts on resharing).

I get people I work with all the time saying “How do you get so many people to engage with your posts?” I then click their social media profiles and look at their own posts. Every one of them is a reshare of someone else’s content.

At least 70% of the posts you put up should be original. Just resharing someone else’s stuff is boring. Create original pieces. When you reshare, put some detail around why you liked the content and how it helped you. Make your resharing personal.

You can’t just regurgitate other people’s content and then expect to get noticed.

 

Don’t post the same piece on every social platform.

Every social platform has a different voice and different functionality. Creating one piece of content and then sharing it on every social platform doesn’t work.

For starters, focus your attention on one or two platforms. Go deep on a few social channels rather than going wide and posting on many.

 

The time of day.

Consider the time of day when you post but don’t be obsessed with it. Good content will get people sharing it regardless of when it’s posted. Great is great and the time of the day won’t change that.

With that said, early shares of your posts is important for gaining traction and getting the social platforms algorithm to let you be seen by more people. Consider avoiding times like Sunday nights when people are having family dinners and not on social media.

 

What you’re forgetting is what not to do.

So to wrap all this up, it’s what you don’t do on social media that will elevate your success to the next level. Breaking this list of no no’s will see the social media platforms you’re posting to limit your audience. Play by these rules, and you’ll have more engagement than you can poke a stick at it.

Use this engagement to do good in the world.

 

PS.

I don’t shoot videos of me driving in a Lamborghini or taking selfies with Oprah. I’m just a humble guy from Australia who’s living the dream, working hard and trying to inspire all of you to do big things, and use social media to elevate your message.

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13 Ways I Totally Changed My Life Story And So Can You.

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In 2011 my entire life story changed. I went from having nothing and having a disgusting, toxic mindset, to changing my life story and inspiring millions online.

I don’t tell you that to brag; I tell you because if I can do it, so can you.

The reason I changed my life story is because of a website called Addicted2Success. It all started with one new opportunity that I decided not to waste.

I concluded – after hours of personal development – that if Tony Robbins, Martin Luther King and Tim Ferriss can come from the darkest of places, to change history, then so can I.

Here are the 13 super simple, easy to implement tips that can change your life story:

 

1. Look who you are surrounded by.

The people that you spend time with transfer their beliefs and mindset to you without you even realizing it. Make a list of all the people you spend time with and then put a red line through any who are toxic and bring you down.

Do a second pass through and delete anyone else that is not serving you or always complains. By the end, you should be left with the people to keep. That list will be short and that’s the whole point. You need to make room for new connections and new friends.

This exercise is harsh and so is life. Doing the difficult stuff is how you change your life story.

 

2. Become a podcast junkie.

Stop being pissed off at traffic or long waits at medical appointments. This forced spare time is a gift. The challenge is most of you don’t use it. You sit there and look at your phone rather than doing something that will alter the course of your life.

Your life story will only change when you get some new inputs and a few fresh ideas. Podcasts are the quickest way to get these free sources of inspiration. During 2011 when I went through a change in my life story, I started by doing short walks around my local neighborhood and listening to audio tapes from Tony Robbins.

His opinions and thoughts were different to everything that people around me were saying. He planted new seeds in my mind that eventually turned into massive success several years later.

“School taught me how to follow the rules; podcasts taught me how to break the rules and forget everything I thought I knew”

Podcasts disrupted my thought patterns and that’s exactly what you need too.

 

3. Start creating something online.

Building an online presence in what I loved was the start of something new. When I began sharing my message with the world, it helped me refine my thoughts and ideas. I also got to engage with lots of other people who shared their wisdom with me for free because I had given them free content.

Before I changed my life story, I was scared to create something online because I was worried I’d be judged or not good enough.

“As soon as I dropped this superman complex and started creating something online, I became comfortable in my own skin and with who I was”

The story of your life is best told online. Pick a channel (any channel, just pick one!) and then stick to it. Post on their as much as you can. Don’t hold back, be vulnerable and tell stories. This will alter the course of your life.

 

4. Turn your media habits upside down.

Take your TV and put it in the closet. Replace your daily habits of watching the news with audiobooks or podcasts. Take those endless TV shows that make you stupid and read a book instead. Most of the traditional media is negative because that’s what sells.

“Media is a business to get your attention and make money from you. Disconnect from that Ponzi Scheme and consume media that educates and transforms your life story”

Watch a documentary on Warren Buffett, listen to Oprah’s online show that interviews extraordinary people crushing their field, and see what Tim Ferriss is experimenting with on Facebook.

Just stop consuming endless amounts of information that doesn’t serve you. Focus is key and media will distract it if you don’t make the right decision.

 

5. Sell your car and buy a juicer.

That’s what Tony Robbins said in a book I read and he’s right. My life story changed when I started to have more energy. Giving my body a metaphorical injection of nutrients every morning stopped me from getting sick, and made me feel like I had just consumed 15 espressos.

 

If you need to sell your car to buy the juicer, then great. The extra energy you get from juicing will double your productivity which will give you extra income. Within a year you’ll probably have enough extra income to buy two cars. Energy is king.

 

6. Bounce your way to a new story.

For me to help you create this new life story you’re going to need even more energy. Bouncing on a trampoline gets the blood flowing and your passions started.

You feel good after bouncing (I won’t go through the science of why as Google can tell you that) and it will give you another block of time to listen to podcasts. Bounce baby bounce!

 

7. Become ruthless with negative talk.

The bloke behind you want’s to chew the fat about how bad his day was? No thanks.

Lunch lady wants to tell you how she lost money in cryptocurrency? Sorry, she’s not qualified and you got enough to think about already.

These meaningless, negative conversations are screwing with your mind. Negative people love to complain yet they forget how lucky they are to have even been born.

If someone starts a conversation with you and it’s not serving you, politely excuse yourself and make something up if you have to. Just escape like you’re stuck in Alcatraz.

“Walking away from negative conversations will teach you discipline and demonstrate to yourself that you’re in control”

 

8. You’ll never know the answer.

Racking your brain over any obstacle that’s put in your way will chew up time that you could be using to create something phenomenal. No matter how much you plan, you’ll never predict correctly the outcome of every challenge.

So if I don’t know, and if the universe can’t tell you, and your mentors can’t tell you, then don’t worry. Worrying is not going to get you anywhere. Stop getting lost in the desert with no water and take a drink from the fountain of faith. Faith that says:

“I am good enough.”
“I will find the answer.”
“I can be amazing.”

These are the answers you should seek. Believe in yourself.

 

9. See the world.

With your own two eyes. Not on social media or through your mates Instagram account. This whole “Work Till You Die Hoax” is stopping you from changing your story.

“Warren Buffett spends time every single day doing deep thinking and that’s one of the reasons he’s a billionaire”

Deep thinking happens naturally when you’re traveling. You begin to compare your surroundings at home, with the paradise you’re visiting (Notice I said paradise? That’s because the world is beautiful when you get off the couch and see it).

 

My 2011 change in circumstances all started when I got out of Melbourne and saw places I had always dreamed of. The subtle art of getting on planes and carrying suitcases through customs became a quarterly experience.

The first trip to Sydney showed me that I could fly 60 minutes and not get trapped in a storm and die in a horrible plane crash. The fear of flying subsided and the love of travel began a new page in my life story. Seeing new countries gives you inspiration and that’s exactly what you need if you’re stuck in a rut and going nowhere fast.

 

10. Quit your current job.

This one’s not straight out of one of those self-help blog posts that says we can all be rich if we quit our 9-5. That’s BS advice. There’s a good chance though that you hate your current income-producing activity known as a job.

I was at this same point in 2011 and it bugged the crap out of me. So if you really are serious about changing your life story then let’s get serious for a minute and make a decision to quit your job. The cool thing about quitting your job is that you’ll be forced to find another one (unless you don’t like eating). Urgency will motivate you to do something else.

You’ve got to where you are now based on your previous decisions and so we can’t create any change without making some new decisions. The biggest benefits will come from the hardest decisions. The more tough decisions you make in a short space of time, the greater the change in your life story.

We all get bored in our career and quitting your job is how you escape this nightmare.

 

11. Use the Internet to reach out.

The cliché of “We’re all connected” has been beaten into our head like a boxer that’s taken one too many punches to the temple. We know we can talk to anyone yet we still mingle with the same people. It’s similar to when you go to a seminar with a friend and the speaker asks you to find a partner and you pick the same person you came with.

My life changed when I backed myself and began using tools like LinkedIn to reach out to interesting people that I could create mutual value with. Out of the ten requests you send, probably half of them will be declined or ignored. The rest will probably lead to conversations.

These new conversations will demonstrate to you that anyone can be reached. Therefore, you can access the blueprint for almost any successful person’s life. Then you can copy part of those blueprints and paste bits of them on the pages of your life story.

I’ll say it again: You need new inputs and to mix with different people who won’t accept your lame excuses.

The cold reach out that transformed my life story was thanks to a man named Joel Brown. He’s why I am here today typing these words to you.

 

12. Experiment with giving.

In the early stages, I gave back through writing blog posts like this one. As my formula for life became more evolved, I started volunteering at homeless shelters. This year I’m taking it a step further and trying to impact the lives of 300 disadvantaged / victims of domestic violence.

Even if you impact only one person, that one person could become the next Mother Teresa. I’ve been like a scientist in a lab for the last five years testing the act of giving. I’ve bought cars and tech that made me happy for a short while, and then I’ve experimented with giving my money and knowledge to people who have nothing.

The second experiment has given me the most growth and fulfillment. The material things literally did nothing to change my life story. Try the act of giving. Watch it transform the story of your life!

 

13. Give up the perfection game.

Wanting people to follow the rules of how you play the game of life is sabotaging your success. No one is ever going to act the way you want them to so quit expecting this false idea to come true. Accept the fact that humans make mistakes and piss each other off.

Get used to quickly moving on from disappointments that are created by your circle of colleagues and family, and get back to reality. What’s that reality? Creating something that will be remembered long after you’re gone.

Create a blog, business, a family, a charitable cause, speech, a funny stand-up routine.

The story of your life won’t be perfect either so leave your expectations at the door and get to work showing us all what you got. You’re capable of achieving so much more than you have done to date. I want to see you double your results by getting focused and cutting out all the noise.

Life can be full of disappointment or packed with joy and happiness. The story is yours to write so get the pen out and make a decision which one will be true for you.

Go all out. Be you. Change the world.

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Never Forget Where You Can From.

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Last week, my mentor and friend Joel Brown, asked me to speak at one of his Circle Of Influence, Mastermind sessions.

What I thought would be a routine call with me sharing blogging tips, turned into a mini pep talk. I want to share the same advice with you because I know it can help you.

That advice is this: Never forget where you came from.

 

We all start somewhere.

On the mastermind call, I told the story of how I was a spoilt brat that had come to a crossroads in life. I was searching for what was next when I met Joel Brown for the first time in Perth. I’d followed his blog, Addicted2Success, for many years after a friend of a friend, Dave Nelson, introduced me to it.

Through a series of strange events, I started writing inspiring content for Joel’s blog. This was peculiar because I hated writing and saw myself as useless with the English language. None the less, I just got started with no plan in mind.

My online following through Addicted2Success soon became much larger than I expected. I started writing for other websites but always made sure Addicted2Success was at the center of everything.

 

Why acknowledge the source of your success?

Because without it you’d have nothing. Without being grateful for the good fortune you have been given, you’d become someone who thinks they did it all on their own.

None of us did it alone. We all had help whether we admit it or not. Without Joel’s help, I’d be nowhere and inspiring nobody.

That’s why every podcast interview I do, every guest post I do, I never forget where I came from.

 

It doesn’t matter what you start with.

I shared a story on the mastermind call that is not well known. Joel started his now infamous blog by writing other people’s ideas in his own voice and adding his thoughts to it.

“He didn’t start as some enlightened genius: he started with nothing”

He to came from nowhere and had help. A man named Jordan Belfort and another man named Tony Robbins inspired him. They were the catalyst for him reaching hundreds of millions of people through his content and blog.

Just like me, he also never forgets where he came from. He also points back to these early influences as being how he got his big break.

The secret to every successful person is they never forget where they came from.

They never forget what it was like to be broke. They never forget how bad their talent was in the beginning. They never forget how much they hated their 9-5 job.

“By not forgetting where you came from, you ensure you never go backward. You ensure you always remain grateful and humble so you can keep doing what you love”

 

Loyalty is never forgotten.

Sure I’ve had many opportunities to forget where I came from. I could produce content for any website I want yet I still remain loyal to the cause, and the people who helped me. This loyalty is never forgotten. When an opportunity comes up that is in your field, these people your loyal to remember you.

Loyalty is so rare and that’s why it’s not forgotten. The opportunities you’re missing may be caused by the fact that you’re not building in-depth, loyal relationships with people who’ve helped and mentored you.

 

Pay it forward.

Remembering where you came from is not enough. Once you reach some level of success, you must pay it forward. Otherwise, it’s a one-way street and your ego takes over. Great mentors like Joel have taught me that leaders breed more inspirational leaders.

If you’ve had your chance in the spotlight, help others get theirs. You don’t need to spend that much of your free time either. There are a few people I mentor and it’s mostly done through short email messages. It takes me no time at all. The growth these mentees’ have received has impressed me.

Seeing them grow has allowed me to grow at the same time. Their growth keeps me focused on the idea that any of us can achieve phenomenal results.

 

Where you came from is the inspiration.

Only seeing the success stops all of us from pursuing our own passions. When you share where you’ve come from, you show us how incredibly straightforward it can be. Success looks complicated until we see where our heroes started.

It’s how people get their big break that gives us the strategies and tools to do the same. You may think where you’ve come from isn’t that crucial: It is.

We need to see the tipping point in your success to see the same in our own success. Your beginning has more golden nuggets than you could possibly ever imagine and it’s your duty to share them with us. It’s your duty to duplicate your success in others.

It’s your duty to pay it forward and never forget where you came from.

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When your productivity goes up, you get more stuff done, and when you get more stuff done, you feel a lot more accomplished. Even better, you get closer to your goals, you enjoy more success, and you feel a lot happier. Additionally, the huge, stress-inducing to-do list gets a whole lot shorter! If it were that simple, though, you wouldn’t be reading this.

The truth is that productivity evades a lot of us for different reasons. There are people who are insanely productive, and then there are people who claim small victories when they manage to get out of bed before noon.

What separates us? Most of the time, the pain of making a start outweighs the pleasure of getting stuff done. When this happens, you need to adjust your mindset — which I will show you how to do.

These are 7 productivity hacks anyone can add to their daily routine which will turbocharge your week:

1. Shrink that to-do list

First things first, you’ve got to shrink that to-do list. A huge to-do list makes us feel stressed and pressured. Sometimes, we don’t start because of the amount of stuff we have to do. Write down a list of all your tasks and separate them into three categories: High value, semi-value and no value.

Find a way to ditch or delegate the least valuable stuff, and then go through the tasks that would offer your life some value (but not loads) if you completed them. Are there any of these you can ditch? If so, ditch ‘em — or delegate them.

Cutting down your to-do list so that you’re only focusing on tasks that add value to your life, work, and your close ones, is a sure fire way of firing up your productivity levels. However, make sure to evaluate the least important tasks correctly before ditching them — sometimes there are things that you just have to do because no one else will.

2. Start saying no to people

Interestingly, even the most productive people on the planet struggle with saying no sometimes. Serial entrepreneur and author Tim Ferriss recently spoke to Gary Vaynerchuk about this, and the core of what he says is true: Saying no to people matters a lot. When you stop feeling an obligation to help people and realize that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person, you suddenly have so much more time on your hands.

Saying no to people isn’t being mean. It’s simply a case of asserting yourself and letting people know what you will and won’t do. It’s about defining your boundaries and standing up for your right to be happy. Some people will think you’re being mean, but you’ve just got to deal with this.

Put yourself first when possible. Don’t feel a need to take on other people’s burdens or project their frustration and neediness onto you. You’ve already got too much of your own stuff to deal with.

Of course, there are times when you should say yes. But if there is something you really don’t want to do, have no time to do, and have no obligation to do, then don’t do it. And, no, you’re not allowed to give a “maybe” response. Just say “Sorry, can’t do it” and move on.

“Say no to everything, so you can say yes to the one thing.” – Richie Norton

3. Eat that frog already

This is a great tip I first heard from Brian Tracy, but it’s based on a famous Mark Twain quote: “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, eat the biggest one first.”

Eating frogs sounds icky and disgusting. Why would anyone want to do that?! What Twain and Tracy mean is that we all have tasks we don’t look forward to. We associate more pain with doing the task than not doing it, and so we keep putting it off.

The problem is that the horrible task won’t just go away. We have to eat the frog at some point, and knowing this causes us more stress and worry. As such, it’s much better to eat the frog in the morning because it’s rewarding to get on with your day knowing that the most difficult task has already been completed.

In other words, do the hardest task first in the AM. All of a sudden, you’ll have a song in your heart because the rest of the day doesn’t look so bad.

4. Keep your “Why” in mind at all times

Discovering what motivates us helps to keep us on track with our goals. What’s the real reason you don’t stay productive? Perhaps you were super productive last Tuesday, but decided to be lazy on Wednesday and Thursday.

A lot of us are like this. We experience a major high where we get lots of stuff done and make a Facebook post about being productive, before lying in bed all of the next day.

It’s usually because we don’t have a strong enough why. Higher purposes and goals are so important for sustained productivity, otherwise, we’ll just ask ourselves, “What’s the point? Why are we working so hard when we could just be chilling?” Define your “Why” for yourself once and for all. If you know why you want to do stuff and keep reminding yourself of it, you’ll be much more motivated to stay on track.

5. Take a 20 minute nap each day

The late afternoon tiredness is real. However, rather than call it quits at 6 PM because your focus is dwindling, take a nap so that you can go for longer. Anyone who isn’t a napper might raise an eyebrow at this, but that’s okay. However, from now on you should consider joining the 20 Minute Nap Club (it’s free).

Studies have shown that a brief cat nap boosts short-term alertness. If you put your head down for 20 minutes during the afternoon, you get to restore your energy levels so that you can get more stuff down without losing focus. If you are still not convinced then start with a 20-minute relaxing meditation. This works, I swear.

6. Wake up early

You’ll need a nap if you wake up early. As well as having the time to get more stuff done, waking up early also gives you a psychological boost. While everyone else is still in bed snoozing, you’re up and being productive. From experience, that feels great, and it gives you an edge. Night owls, fret not: even 15 minutes earlier tomorrow will do the trick.

“Morning is an important time of day, because how you spend your morning can often tell you what kind of day you are going to have.” – Lemony Snicket

7. Work weekends

Technically, this is one for the weekends, but it still counts. Few people, especially those who work 9-5, want to be told that they should be working weekends. But the thing is that, if you see the weekend as precious time where you refuse to do any sort of work whatsoever because sports/cocktails/friends/family/tequila comes first, your tasks really will start to pile up.

Chill time on the weekend is important, and it’s super important that you connect with friends and family, but don’t be a massive stickler on this. If you’ve got a two-hour window on Sunday where all you’ll be doing is lying on the sofa or catching up on a box set, use this time to get some stuff done. You’ll feel productive, and it will save you a major headache during the week.

These are seven radical productivity hacks you should implement into your daily routine. Some of them will seem hard at first, but no one said being productive was easy and that’s the reason many of us fail at it! However, the more often you incorporate these into your daily routine, the easier things will become.

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The Absolute No No’s Of Social Media: Break These And Everybody Tunes Out.

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Everyone talks about what to do on social media. No one talks about the things that don’t work. What not to do is where the recipe for success on social media lies.

I’ve spent the last 12 months getting more engagement on social media than ever so that I can spread more good in the world.

Here is my absolute list of no no’s for social media:

 

Too much self-promotion.

“Here’s a selfie with the Alibaba founder.”

“Here’s me at blah blah blah exhibition.”

“Here’s me taking a break after working so hard.”

This nonsense doesn’t work. It’s all about you and it comes across as self-promotion. I still want you to share photos of inspirational people you met. I still want you to talk about taking a break and the places you’ve visited. I still want you to share events you attend.

There’s a subtle difference though – share the lessons and value these experiences gave you rather than sharing your ego’s proximity to them.

“Make your social media posts about how you can help and add value rather than putting your name on everything and trying to sound important”

 

Tagging people without permission.

Ever seen one of those posts where there are twenty names at the bottom that are tagged?

Ever wondered why you’re tagged in someone’s post who you’ve never met?

This careless tagging occurs because the originator wants to reach more people. They think by tagging strangers with lots of followers, they’ll reach more people and get more attention for their ego.

“Tagging without permission is rude and doesn’t work”

I want you to tag people and reach more people. I want you to do it with respect. How?

Reach out and tell the person you’re going to tag them first and why the post is relevant to their audience. Don’t be lazy and tag them because they’ll do nothing and most likely unfollow you. Also, don’t overdo it. Aim to tag three people or so instead of twenty. Less is more.

 

Linking out.

If I only teach you one thing it’s this: Don’t link out.

In plain English, this means that you should avoid posting a link that takes people off the social media platform they are viewing your post on. For example, if you’re on Facebook, don’t put a link in your post that takes me to YouTube.

Always post natively.

In plain English again, post your content directly on the platform. Instead of linking to YouTube, upload the video to Facebook directly.

 

Scheduling doesn’t work as well. It’s all about live.

We’ve all used software like Buffer to schedule posts and make people think that we are content machines that write something new every 2.5 hours and then upload it at peak times of the day.

The algorithm that runs a lot of these social media platforms and decides who see’s your content has figured out the game. Live, original content that is unplanned will always get priority. Try doing things on the fly. Upload your content in real time. Better yet, create your content in real time.

 

Polished is getting old.

Joel Brown taught me this lesson. One day, he was getting ready to shoot a video in the park. He was going to get a haircut beforehand, so he looked good for the camera. Laziness took over and he decided to shoot the video on his iPhone, with messy bed hair.

This video got lots of engagement because he shot it in a moment of passion and it was unpolished.

We’ve all seen the polished YouTube videos with perfectly positioned product placement, special lighting and high definition cameras. All of this pre-preparation kills the idea and the creativity that is attached to it.

Try being raw.
Try being authentic.
Try keeping it simple.
Try to avoid the temptation of becoming a gear/technology junkie.

 

Be original (thoughts on resharing).

I get people I work with all the time saying “How do you get so many people to engage with your posts?” I then click their social media profiles and look at their own posts. Every one of them is a reshare of someone else’s content.

At least 70% of the posts you put up should be original. Just resharing someone else’s stuff is boring. Create original pieces. When you reshare, put some detail around why you liked the content and how it helped you. Make your resharing personal.

You can’t just regurgitate other people’s content and then expect to get noticed.

 

Don’t post the same piece on every social platform.

Every social platform has a different voice and different functionality. Creating one piece of content and then sharing it on every social platform doesn’t work.

For starters, focus your attention on one or two platforms. Go deep on a few social channels rather than going wide and posting on many.

 

The time of day.

Consider the time of day when you post but don’t be obsessed with it. Good content will get people sharing it regardless of when it’s posted. Great is great and the time of the day won’t change that.

With that said, early shares of your posts is important for gaining traction and getting the social platforms algorithm to let you be seen by more people. Consider avoiding times like Sunday nights when people are having family dinners and not on social media.

 

What you’re forgetting is what not to do.

So to wrap all this up, it’s what you don’t do on social media that will elevate your success to the next level. Breaking this list of no no’s will see the social media platforms you’re posting to limit your audience. Play by these rules, and you’ll have more engagement than you can poke a stick at it.

Use this engagement to do good in the world.

 

PS.

I don’t shoot videos of me driving in a Lamborghini or taking selfies with Oprah. I’m just a humble guy from Australia who’s living the dream, working hard and trying to inspire all of you to do big things, and use social media to elevate your message.

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13 Ways I Totally Changed My Life Story And So Can You.

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In 2011 my entire life story changed. I went from having nothing and having a disgusting, toxic mindset, to changing my life story and inspiring millions online.

I don’t tell you that to brag; I tell you because if I can do it, so can you.

The reason I changed my life story is because of a website called Addicted2Success. It all started with one new opportunity that I decided not to waste.

I concluded – after hours of personal development – that if Tony Robbins, Martin Luther King and Tim Ferriss can come from the darkest of places, to change history, then so can I.

Here are the 13 super simple, easy to implement tips that can change your life story:

 

1. Look who you are surrounded by.

The people that you spend time with transfer their beliefs and mindset to you without you even realizing it. Make a list of all the people you spend time with and then put a red line through any who are toxic and bring you down.

Do a second pass through and delete anyone else that is not serving you or always complains. By the end, you should be left with the people to keep. That list will be short and that’s the whole point. You need to make room for new connections and new friends.

This exercise is harsh and so is life. Doing the difficult stuff is how you change your life story.

 

2. Become a podcast junkie.

Stop being pissed off at traffic or long waits at medical appointments. This forced spare time is a gift. The challenge is most of you don’t use it. You sit there and look at your phone rather than doing something that will alter the course of your life.

Your life story will only change when you get some new inputs and a few fresh ideas. Podcasts are the quickest way to get these free sources of inspiration. During 2011 when I went through a change in my life story, I started by doing short walks around my local neighborhood and listening to audio tapes from Tony Robbins.

His opinions and thoughts were different to everything that people around me were saying. He planted new seeds in my mind that eventually turned into massive success several years later.

“School taught me how to follow the rules; podcasts taught me how to break the rules and forget everything I thought I knew”

Podcasts disrupted my thought patterns and that’s exactly what you need too.

 

3. Start creating something online.

Building an online presence in what I loved was the start of something new. When I began sharing my message with the world, it helped me refine my thoughts and ideas. I also got to engage with lots of other people who shared their wisdom with me for free because I had given them free content.

Before I changed my life story, I was scared to create something online because I was worried I’d be judged or not good enough.

“As soon as I dropped this superman complex and started creating something online, I became comfortable in my own skin and with who I was”

The story of your life is best told online. Pick a channel (any channel, just pick one!) and then stick to it. Post on their as much as you can. Don’t hold back, be vulnerable and tell stories. This will alter the course of your life.

 

4. Turn your media habits upside down.

Take your TV and put it in the closet. Replace your daily habits of watching the news with audiobooks or podcasts. Take those endless TV shows that make you stupid and read a book instead. Most of the traditional media is negative because that’s what sells.

“Media is a business to get your attention and make money from you. Disconnect from that Ponzi Scheme and consume media that educates and transforms your life story”

Watch a documentary on Warren Buffett, listen to Oprah’s online show that interviews extraordinary people crushing their field, and see what Tim Ferriss is experimenting with on Facebook.

Just stop consuming endless amounts of information that doesn’t serve you. Focus is key and media will distract it if you don’t make the right decision.

 

5. Sell your car and buy a juicer.

That’s what Tony Robbins said in a book I read and he’s right. My life story changed when I started to have more energy. Giving my body a metaphorical injection of nutrients every morning stopped me from getting sick, and made me feel like I had just consumed 15 espressos.

 

If you need to sell your car to buy the juicer, then great. The extra energy you get from juicing will double your productivity which will give you extra income. Within a year you’ll probably have enough extra income to buy two cars. Energy is king.

 

6. Bounce your way to a new story.

For me to help you create this new life story you’re going to need even more energy. Bouncing on a trampoline gets the blood flowing and your passions started.

You feel good after bouncing (I won’t go through the science of why as Google can tell you that) and it will give you another block of time to listen to podcasts. Bounce baby bounce!

 

7. Become ruthless with negative talk.

The bloke behind you want’s to chew the fat about how bad his day was? No thanks.

Lunch lady wants to tell you how she lost money in cryptocurrency? Sorry, she’s not qualified and you got enough to think about already.

These meaningless, negative conversations are screwing with your mind. Negative people love to complain yet they forget how lucky they are to have even been born.

If someone starts a conversation with you and it’s not serving you, politely excuse yourself and make something up if you have to. Just escape like you’re stuck in Alcatraz.

“Walking away from negative conversations will teach you discipline and demonstrate to yourself that you’re in control”

 

8. You’ll never know the answer.

Racking your brain over any obstacle that’s put in your way will chew up time that you could be using to create something phenomenal. No matter how much you plan, you’ll never predict correctly the outcome of every challenge.

So if I don’t know, and if the universe can’t tell you, and your mentors can’t tell you, then don’t worry. Worrying is not going to get you anywhere. Stop getting lost in the desert with no water and take a drink from the fountain of faith. Faith that says:

“I am good enough.”
“I will find the answer.”
“I can be amazing.”

These are the answers you should seek. Believe in yourself.

 

9. See the world.

With your own two eyes. Not on social media or through your mates Instagram account. This whole “Work Till You Die Hoax” is stopping you from changing your story.

“Warren Buffett spends time every single day doing deep thinking and that’s one of the reasons he’s a billionaire”

Deep thinking happens naturally when you’re traveling. You begin to compare your surroundings at home, with the paradise you’re visiting (Notice I said paradise? That’s because the world is beautiful when you get off the couch and see it).

 

My 2011 change in circumstances all started when I got out of Melbourne and saw places I had always dreamed of. The subtle art of getting on planes and carrying suitcases through customs became a quarterly experience.

The first trip to Sydney showed me that I could fly 60 minutes and not get trapped in a storm and die in a horrible plane crash. The fear of flying subsided and the love of travel began a new page in my life story. Seeing new countries gives you inspiration and that’s exactly what you need if you’re stuck in a rut and going nowhere fast.

 

10. Quit your current job.

This one’s not straight out of one of those self-help blog posts that says we can all be rich if we quit our 9-5. That’s BS advice. There’s a good chance though that you hate your current income-producing activity known as a job.

I was at this same point in 2011 and it bugged the crap out of me. So if you really are serious about changing your life story then let’s get serious for a minute and make a decision to quit your job. The cool thing about quitting your job is that you’ll be forced to find another one (unless you don’t like eating). Urgency will motivate you to do something else.

You’ve got to where you are now based on your previous decisions and so we can’t create any change without making some new decisions. The biggest benefits will come from the hardest decisions. The more tough decisions you make in a short space of time, the greater the change in your life story.

We all get bored in our career and quitting your job is how you escape this nightmare.

 

11. Use the Internet to reach out.

The cliché of “We’re all connected” has been beaten into our head like a boxer that’s taken one too many punches to the temple. We know we can talk to anyone yet we still mingle with the same people. It’s similar to when you go to a seminar with a friend and the speaker asks you to find a partner and you pick the same person you came with.

My life changed when I backed myself and began using tools like LinkedIn to reach out to interesting people that I could create mutual value with. Out of the ten requests you send, probably half of them will be declined or ignored. The rest will probably lead to conversations.

These new conversations will demonstrate to you that anyone can be reached. Therefore, you can access the blueprint for almost any successful person’s life. Then you can copy part of those blueprints and paste bits of them on the pages of your life story.

I’ll say it again: You need new inputs and to mix with different people who won’t accept your lame excuses.

The cold reach out that transformed my life story was thanks to a man named Joel Brown. He’s why I am here today typing these words to you.

 

12. Experiment with giving.

In the early stages, I gave back through writing blog posts like this one. As my formula for life became more evolved, I started volunteering at homeless shelters. This year I’m taking it a step further and trying to impact the lives of 300 disadvantaged / victims of domestic violence.

Even if you impact only one person, that one person could become the next Mother Teresa. I’ve been like a scientist in a lab for the last five years testing the act of giving. I’ve bought cars and tech that made me happy for a short while, and then I’ve experimented with giving my money and knowledge to people who have nothing.

The second experiment has given me the most growth and fulfillment. The material things literally did nothing to change my life story. Try the act of giving. Watch it transform the story of your life!

 

13. Give up the perfection game.

Wanting people to follow the rules of how you play the game of life is sabotaging your success. No one is ever going to act the way you want them to so quit expecting this false idea to come true. Accept the fact that humans make mistakes and piss each other off.

Get used to quickly moving on from disappointments that are created by your circle of colleagues and family, and get back to reality. What’s that reality? Creating something that will be remembered long after you’re gone.

Create a blog, business, a family, a charitable cause, speech, a funny stand-up routine.

The story of your life won’t be perfect either so leave your expectations at the door and get to work showing us all what you got. You’re capable of achieving so much more than you have done to date. I want to see you double your results by getting focused and cutting out all the noise.

Life can be full of disappointment or packed with joy and happiness. The story is yours to write so get the pen out and make a decision which one will be true for you.

Go all out. Be you. Change the world.

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