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7 Steps to Becoming an Accountability Rockstar



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An accountability partnership equates to responsibility. This includes responsibility to your partner and to yourself. The accountability partnership involves keeping your promises. It is a willingness to lengthen your stride. It is an opportunity to propel yourself and your accountability partner to new heights of goal achievement.

The benefit of having an accountability partner is understanding expectations. You also have similar examples to look to. You can check in with each other on a regular basis about what is happening with your goals. You can also discuss how you feel about the situation and the progress. If you are unsure of how to solve a certain situation, you can gain valuable feedback.

The drawbacks of having an accountability partner are more logistical than relational. You may not be there in person for a natural conversation. Communication delays may prevent you from gaining needed advice for an important decision. 

Yet the benefits far outweigh the inconveniences. You both want to become your future selves. You want to become your best selves. You want to manage your time and talents. You enjoy giving and receiving feedback. You rejoice in each other’s successes, and inspire each other when you struggle.

The Ultimate Partnership

My own accountability experiences began when I became a health coach helping clients with accountability for their various health goals. Soon, I realized that I also needed an accountability partner. It wasn’t enough that I was helping someone else with accountability. I needed to also be on the receiving end of that partnership. I needed to experience it for myself. For reciprocity and experience, I sought out an accountability partner.

Here’s how to rock it as an accountability partner:

1. Find an Accountability Partner

Find a partner. That person may be a family member, friend, work colleague, coach, etc.

I actually have two accountability partners. My first was my husband. There are many benefits of having a family member as an accountability partner. One benefit is the in-person contact you experience each day. I love the opportunity to have a more natural conversation (instead of text or email). 

My husband and I discuss my experiences with business and personal goals. We focus on what I’m doing well and what areas I can improve upon. I also gain valuable feedback from him as I work toward my goals. 

For example, we talk through various questions:

  • Do I appear stressed out about my goals, or am I calm and focused?
  • Do I understand the WHY behind my goals?
  • Am I going about my goals in a methodical, logical way?

My second accountability partner has been a close friend of mine for many years. She has several children and grandchildren, and is now involved in a family business. Her focus is on her family and being able to give back to those who have served her over the years. She joined an accelerated momentum program a few years before I did, so the timing was perfect. We are able to share our perspectives and experiences as we go through the program together.

“Accountability is a statement of personal promise, both to yourself and to the people around you, to deliver specific defined results.” – Brian Dive

2. Create A Schedule and Commit to It

Determine the best contact method (in person, video, text, email, etc.). Determine your contact schedule. How often will you meet? For what duration of time? Be mindful of schedule changes, vacations, or other conflicts. You may choose to halt reporting to your accountability partner during these times. Add the accountability reporting to your calendar. Treat it like you would any other priority task, because it IS that important.

I report to both of my accountability partners every morning and evening. This creates a bridge between what I intend to do that day and what I actually accomplished. Reporting twice a day helps me to be more focused throughout the day.

3. Develop Hard and Soft Skills

Accountability partnerships are perfect opportunities to let progress blossom in your chosen profession. Your profession may include hard skills (medicine, computer science, engineering, etc. ), and soft skills (listening, leadership, communication, time management, etc.). I have also learned the importance of being present in the conversation. I make time and focus on the relationship and how I can help my own accountability partners do their best.

4. Ask the Tough Questions

Ask questions. Be an active and engaged accountability partner. Be interested in what your partner is doing and their thoughts on the process. Show sincere interest. During our accountability reporting, my husband brings up a variety of different ideas. He asks questions that get me thinking about my goals in more detail. Having that added perspective keeps your mind open to learning and growing.

5. Celebrate victories

My accountability partners show enthusiasm, excitement, and emotion when I fulfil my goals. I, in turn, await the results of their daily goals so I can celebrate with them.

6. Offer a Listening Ear for Defeats

Defeat is part of the learning process. Defeat helps you become more resilient. My friend gives a lot of encouragement when I’m hard on myself and I don’t achieve my goals on a particular day. She focuses on the positive and helps me to learn from that experience so that I can teach others.

“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the result.” – Bob Proctor

7. Desire Success

An accountability partnership is a symbiotic relationship. You learn from and nourish each other. The desire for success must be present for the partnership to work. Success should be your number one outcome. 

Accountability partnerships are learning experiences where you can serve each other. From my own accountability partners, I have learned to be more compassionate. I have resolved to be more service oriented. I have understood how to make time for skill development. 

An accountability partnership is about building relationships and fostering understandings. It is about developing communication skills and rendering service.

You can become an accountability rockstar!

As a Food Experience Architect and Instructional Psychologist, Michelle Seidling, PhD empowers working professionals to develop healthy, sustainable eating habits for life success. She is the CEO, coach, and podcaster at Food Experience Unplugged, where she works with individuals and organizations worldwide to help people transform their mindset about food as a catalyst for positive change and holistic health.

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I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

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The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

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While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

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