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The Honor Code: Unlocking the Key to Success and Fulfillment

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As I look back over 2020, I think it is safe to say that this year has been anything but ordinary. Our lives have been interrupted and inconvenienced in so many ways. So many people have allowed this season to make them toxic and ungrateful. While I am not being insensitive to their experiences, I think we need to get rid of this cancel culture mentality and embrace an attitude of gratitude.

Personally, this has been the greatest year of my life. I have grown so much as a person, accomplished so many of my goals and I have seen dreams realized in my life. It has been my most productive year yet and I attribute a lot of that to having unbreakable focus. I believe that every human being on this planet desires to live an honorable life. However, most people do not have a clue what that looks like or how to do it. I want to share a few life strategies with you to help you master the honor code and unlock a life of success and fulfillment. 

You must understand that there is an honor code

No, I am not talking about the honor code you heard about in school or in your industry. I am talking about the honor code of life. As someone that has trained and developed leaders around the world, one of the challenges I see in leadership today is the challenge to develop and deploy moral and ethical leaders. 

The reason this has become so challenging is that we have so many leaders in positions of power that do not have a code. An honor code is a set of core values, life principles, and soul constitutions that govern how we think, choose, and behave. Essentially, it’s the principles and standards that govern how you live your life. So many people want to overlook it and move right into the highest realms of leadership and influence. 

However, what we fail to understand is that if we do not live with a clear honor code, we will bring dishonor and reproach to leadership. As you are fulfilling your purpose and realizing your potential, make sure that you establish your honor code so that you can build your life on a strong foundation and demonstrate to the world what authentic leadership looks like.

“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.” – Socrates

Master harnessing the law of honor in your life

Over the years, I have had so many people ask me about the number one key to success. While I believe that mindset, intentions, vision, and strategy are all important factors, I believe that mastery of the law of honor has been one of the greatest contributors to my success. It states that whatever I honor will honor me and whatever I dishonor I will repel from my life. 

The thing that concerns me about this generation is that we covet positions and crave power. Unfortunately, I have not seen many people that have mastered the law of honor. I believe that the key to succeeding and experiencing sustainable success is mastering that law. In other words, we should never emphasize the destination more than we do the development. I realize that my success is the product of those which I have chosen to honor in my life. I have honored my mentors, coaches, and advisors that have helped shape who I am today. 

More importantly, I have honored the wisdom, lessons, and failures that produced growth and empowered me to become a person of excellence. In a generation that is obsessed with power and prestige, I want to take a moment and say that you must learn to honor the process. Honor is a law that will keep you humble, grounded, and constantly stretching your capacity for greatness in every area of your life.

Understand that your true power lies in your process

Some people have told me that it seems like my success was overnight. However, those that really know me understand that my success story has taken over three decades to write. In other words, it is easy to make assumptions about my journey when you have not taken my journey. Unless you have really followed my work over the years, then you do not know about the three times my business almost collapsed, all the failures I experienced along the way, the betrayal that I experienced in business, and the moments I felt like walking away. 

People see me in magazines today and featured on television and assume that this has been an easy journey. However, I know that my true power is not in the platform that I have built or the wisdom that I share with people around the world. My true power is in the process that has made me who I am today. If you take away my process you essentially take away my power. 

The process is the only authentic path to power and unleashing your greatest potential. So do not become so obsessed with the destination that you cannot stop to appreciate the journey. The lessons you learn along the journey are much more valuable than the excitement of reaching the destination.

“Humility forms the basis of honor, just as the low ground forms the foundation of a high elevation.” – Bruce Lee

Soul significance only comes from living an honorable life

While I could talk about honor forever, I wanted to share some valuable insights and life strategies to help you on your journey. A few months ago I celebrated another birthday. This birthday was different for me. I woke up with a renewed sense of purpose and passion. More importantly, I woke up with a new perspective and appreciation for the gift of life. I made a decision that this next era of my life is about reinvention. So I said goodbye to the old me and hello to the brand new me. It was one of the greatest decisions I ever made.

Jamelle Sanders is the CEO of Jamelle Sanders International. Jamelle is committed to empowering leaders and entrepreneurs around the world to live up to their true potential and to profit wildly in their businesses. Jamelle is a life coach, business strategist, author, leading empowerment specialist and highly respected thought leader. Jamelle has been featured on CBS, NBC, Huff Post Live and contributed to numerous media outlets such as Thrive, Inspiyr, Young Upstarts, Elite Daily and numerous others.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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