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Talking to Yourself Doesn’t Make You Crazy. In Fact, It Can Actually Change Your Life

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There is something interesting that happens inside your brain when you ask yourself a question: your brain has to answer. Try it now, ask yourself “what is the color of the outside of the building I live in?” and say it out loud. Your brain has a need to answer you when you ask it a question.

Ever since we were kids, we were taught that talking to ourselves makes us crazy. Studies show today that it is very healthy and helpful to talk to ourselves. As children we repeated things to ourselves to learn, and as adults we repeat things to ourselves to remember them.

What if talking to yourself and asking yourself questions could unlock who you are and ultimately save your life?

I think we are all a little lost. Even the people who “have it all together” are lost. It’s not a bad thing to be lost though. There is great humility in admitting you are lost. When you admit you do not know everything you open the door to infinite learning possibilities.

We are all searching for something in life. We search for love, the best workout tips, the best business hacks, the best recipes, the latest how-to’s, and most times we search for ourselves. Everyone is looking for something at all times, and if you break down why you are searching, the answers may baffle you.

There is a specific way to talk to yourself that could do you so much good.

There is a very common and well-known way to talk to ourselves that most people chalk up to ‘something only teenage girls do’. There is a reason that teenage girls do it, psychologists recommend it, and a lot of people are afraid to do it: it unlocks things inside of you. There are times we don’t want to face ourselves and we are afraid to look into the mirror, this will help you do exactly that.

I’m sure you are very curious now what I am referring to. I am talking about journaling. Yes, get a diary. This is a way that you can talk to yourself and find all of the answers you need within yourself. 

There is a specific way of journaling too, it consists of 4 things: I want. I feel. I need. Gratitude. These four things, when put in a journal daily, can help you to unlock things about yourself that you may be afraid to face. Facing yourself will ultimately help you overcome any issue you have going on.

“Journal writing is a voyage to the interior.” – Christina Baldwin

I want

Journaling daily about the things that you want can help you to focus on the positives in your life. You are able to be open with yourself and confront the things in your life that you are craving and may be lacking. If you don’t know what you want, just ask yourself “What do I want?”

I feel

Sometimes it is hard to be honest about the things we are feeling. Today’s society is still very big on the ‘suck it up’ sort of mentality. Yes, it is important to be strong and move on, however it is just as important to be open about the things you are struggling with emotionally. You are talking to yourself so no need to worry about judgment.

I need

We seem to forget the things we need in our lives when we focus on what we don’t need. Don’t focus on the things you don’t need surrounding you, focus on what your life is lacking. When you focus on what you are lacking you are able to begin looking on how to fill those voids in a healthy way.

“The act of writing is the act of discovering what you believe.” – David Hare

Gratitude

It is important to be grateful daily. Especially to find ways to be grateful for the difficult things in your life. For example: I am grateful that I was stuck in traffic today for 2 hours. It means that there is that many people who have jobs and can provide for their families. It also gave me a chance to finish my audio book today. Find ways to be grateful for the things that are hard to be grateful for and it can change your life.

Any barrier you may have in your life, no matter how tough it may be, you have the power to overcome it. No matter how hard it may seem, facing yourself and talking yourself through it can help you to unlock hidden potential you didn’t know you had so journal daily.

Do you journal? If so, how has it helped your life improve? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

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Stephen Dela Cruz is a best selling author, speaker and serial entrepreneur who specializes in helping budding entrepreneurs double their income in their first year. He’s built several 7 figure businesses and in his online school, The Mastermind Experience, he shares strategies around time and money management to help beginning entrepreneurs soar. You can see more about Stephen on his website and follow him on his Facebook page.

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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