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Talking to Yourself Doesn’t Make You Crazy. In Fact, It Can Actually Change Your Life

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There is something interesting that happens inside your brain when you ask yourself a question: your brain has to answer. Try it now, ask yourself “what is the color of the outside of the building I live in?” and say it out loud. Your brain has a need to answer you when you ask it a question.

Ever since we were kids, we were taught that talking to ourselves makes us crazy. Studies show today that it is very healthy and helpful to talk to ourselves. As children we repeated things to ourselves to learn, and as adults we repeat things to ourselves to remember them.

What if talking to yourself and asking yourself questions could unlock who you are and ultimately save your life?

I think we are all a little lost. Even the people who “have it all together” are lost. It’s not a bad thing to be lost though. There is great humility in admitting you are lost. When you admit you do not know everything you open the door to infinite learning possibilities.

We are all searching for something in life. We search for love, the best workout tips, the best business hacks, the best recipes, the latest how-to’s, and most times we search for ourselves. Everyone is looking for something at all times, and if you break down why you are searching, the answers may baffle you.

There is a specific way to talk to yourself that could do you so much good.

There is a very common and well-known way to talk to ourselves that most people chalk up to ‘something only teenage girls do’. There is a reason that teenage girls do it, psychologists recommend it, and a lot of people are afraid to do it: it unlocks things inside of you. There are times we don’t want to face ourselves and we are afraid to look into the mirror, this will help you do exactly that.

I’m sure you are very curious now what I am referring to. I am talking about journaling. Yes, get a diary. This is a way that you can talk to yourself and find all of the answers you need within yourself. 

There is a specific way of journaling too, it consists of 4 things: I want. I feel. I need. Gratitude. These four things, when put in a journal daily, can help you to unlock things about yourself that you may be afraid to face. Facing yourself will ultimately help you overcome any issue you have going on.

“Journal writing is a voyage to the interior.” – Christina Baldwin

I want

Journaling daily about the things that you want can help you to focus on the positives in your life. You are able to be open with yourself and confront the things in your life that you are craving and may be lacking. If you don’t know what you want, just ask yourself “What do I want?”

I feel

Sometimes it is hard to be honest about the things we are feeling. Today’s society is still very big on the ‘suck it up’ sort of mentality. Yes, it is important to be strong and move on, however it is just as important to be open about the things you are struggling with emotionally. You are talking to yourself so no need to worry about judgment.

I need

We seem to forget the things we need in our lives when we focus on what we don’t need. Don’t focus on the things you don’t need surrounding you, focus on what your life is lacking. When you focus on what you are lacking you are able to begin looking on how to fill those voids in a healthy way.

“The act of writing is the act of discovering what you believe.” – David Hare

Gratitude

It is important to be grateful daily. Especially to find ways to be grateful for the difficult things in your life. For example: I am grateful that I was stuck in traffic today for 2 hours. It means that there is that many people who have jobs and can provide for their families. It also gave me a chance to finish my audio book today. Find ways to be grateful for the things that are hard to be grateful for and it can change your life.

Any barrier you may have in your life, no matter how tough it may be, you have the power to overcome it. No matter how hard it may seem, facing yourself and talking yourself through it can help you to unlock hidden potential you didn’t know you had so journal daily.

Do you journal? If so, how has it helped your life improve? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

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Stephen Dela Cruz is a best selling author, speaker and serial entrepreneur who specializes in helping budding entrepreneurs double their income in their first year. He’s built several 7 figure businesses and in his online school, The Mastermind Experience, he shares strategies around time and money management to help beginning entrepreneurs soar. You can see more about Stephen on his website and follow him on his Facebook page.

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How to Write a Personal Destiny Statement in 3 Steps

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We all have a God-given destiny to fulfill that we were each born with. I personally believe it is buried deep down within us. The number one secret to success is to let it emerge out of you and release it to the world. What is my destiny you may ask? It is the thing you would regret not doing before leaving Planet Earth. (more…)

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

Those Who Failed Their Way To Success

Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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Why You Never Have Enough Time and What You Need to Do About It

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Has this ever happened to you? You had an assignment, and the deadline was far away. You didn’t work on it much, but in the back of your mind, that insistent little voice was always whispering, “I gotta get this assignment done.” (more…)

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6 Unusual Exercises to Effectively Increase Your Creativity Faster Than Ever

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Although a vast majority of people think that creativity is something you are born with, the truth is a bit different. While we cannot deny that you need natural talent to a certain extent, stimulating creative thinking is indeed a matter of practice. If you give this thought a bit of thinking, you can realize pretty quickly that even the most fascinating and creative minds have faced the lack of creativity at some point in their lives. (more…)

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