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The Life Truths That Will Reshape Your Future In A Moment



1. The truth is not elegant

Ever wonder why I swear, use the word “loser,” and am blunt or direct? It’s because the truth is not elegant. I’m not trying to impress you; I’m trying to interrupt your pattern. Change is not easy and so if I talk to you in a quiet, polite voice, you’re not going to move your ass into action.

“Stop trying to be polite and elegant all the time because the only person you need to impress is yourself”

2. Tap into what you already have

Most of what you want to achieve in your life can already be found within yourself. You already have most of what is needed to be successful. The art is figuring out how to tap into your already unlimited potential. Rather than trying to become something you are not, get comfortable with who you are.

3. Write stuff down

Your retention rate increases by 40%-50% if you write stuff down. Rather than sit passively and listen, take notes and write stuff down. Even if you know the content you are hearing already, still write it down. Repetition is the mother of skill.

Hearing the same content said a hundred different ways makes you ten times stronger and more intelligent. Eventually, one of those ways will be said in such a way that you can process the idea and use it in your own life.

4. Energy makes you beautiful

Ever wondered how people who don’t appear to be physically beautiful can still date the most attractive partners? It’s called energy. These unique individuals give off an energy that is so beautiful and infectious that they attract the opposite sex despite the way they may look. It’s not all about looks you know.

5. Energy comes from the way you move your body

The single most important thing to create energy in your body is movement. The way you move your body can help to increase your energy levels. Become conscious of how you stand. Realize that you can flick a switch at any moment and become crazy and outrageous. Try this:

– Do star jumps
– Play your favorite song on your phone and sing out loud
– Jump on a trampoline for five minutes

These little acts of movement will completely change your energy within minutes. Don’t tell me you can’t change your energy because you can.

For added energy watch what you eat and get plenty of sleep. Common sense if you ask me.

6. The truth is uncomfortable

I recently admitted to myself that I was sabotaging my success with thoughts like “I’m not enough.” It hurts to know the truth and it’s uncomfortable. Once you can move past this, you can make the real changes required. Stop softening the truth or avoiding it.

7. Pain can either drive you or destroy you

Pain is a double-edged sword, my friends. It can drive you to make a change and take your life to the next level or it can destroy you and cause suffering. How would you like to use pain? I choose to let pain drive me which is why I freaking love it!

8. You are here for emotion

There’s a reason you attend events, concerts and seminars; you are searching for emotion. We crave emotion in everyday life and these places allow us to embrace emotion. You get to feel emotions of joy, happiness and inspiration. You do things to experience emotion.

9. More than five hours on social media means you are depressed

Are you on social media for five hours or more? If you are, studies show you are depressed. It turns out that social media forces us into a state of comparing our lives to everyone else’s. This process makes us incredibly depressed. Stopped being consumed by social media. Create instead.

10. Most people don’t do well. Focus on those who do.

A lot of people don’t do very well at life. The one’s who do good at life are rare and you should focus your time understanding why that is. You can learn so much from these amazing individuals.

11. Great humans have had the toughest lives

All those extraordinary people that you admire all had the toughest lives. Having a really tough life is what will give you the drive and that’s what the great humans you admire understand. Your tough life is your biggest asset if you will let it be.

“Embrace the toughness. Use the pain to drive you”

12. Blaming only screws you

When you blame the environment, your workplace, the economy, your doctor, your parents, your spouse or anything for that matter, you are only screwing yourself. Blaming takes the responsibility away from you and transfers it to an innocent third party.

Turn blame into gratitude and you’ll see a real life miracle. Stop wanting everything and everyone to be perfect because they’ll never meet your expectations. Everyone’s expectations are different.

13. Information without emotion is forgotten

Where were you on September 11th 2001? I bet you can remember exactly where you were. The reason you remember is because you consumed the events of that day while enduring an extreme level of emotion. That place and time will never be forgotten because of that emotion.

The same goes for learning. Introduce emotion into the learning environment and the retention rate goes up significantly.

14. Freedom happens when you take back control

Want to be free again? Take back control. Stop letting events control you and give these same events an empowering meaning. You can only be free when you get out of your head and lead with your heart again. Being free feels so good so give yourself that gift. The decision is yours.

15. The ultimate resource is emotion

If I were to identify the one resource that you have to achieve anything it would be your emotions. Your emotions can drive you to commit suicide or marry the love of your life. You choose your emotions and the one’s you will use moment to moment.

If a negative emotion starts to come through, break the pattern. Escape the moment and go to your happy place. Remember something that makes you appreciate who you are and what you have.

16. Fear Vs Desire

It can be said that life is a dance between your fears and your desires. Get the balance right and you take back control. Get the balance wrong and you’re guaranteed to suffer.

17. Do more for others than anybody else

Why do millions of people listen to what I say every day? They listen because I do more for them than anybody else in a similar position to me. I genuinely care and I make it about everybody else, not about me.

“Find more ways to give more rather than trying to be someone you are not to impress people”

18. The most important skill is influence

If I could give you one skill to master its influence. Influence makes you a leader and it means you have the trust of the people. When people trust you, you can inspire them to take action.

You can’t influence someone though unless you first know what influences them. Where people get it wrong is that what influences you, is very different to how everyone else is influenced. Understand the driving force behind the person you are trying to influence and then they will take action.

Inspiring people to take action and make a change is one of the most fulfilling things you can ever achieve. It’s what I attempt to do every day and I love it.

19. When you reach your best, there’s always another level

Have you ever achieved a level of success and then discovered you could actually go further? This happens because when you get to the top, there’s always another level.

There’s always further to go and the journey never ends. It’s for this reason that you need to stop and smell the roses once in a while. Otherwise, you’ll never appreciate how far you’ve come. Be present once in a while and focus on the progress you’ve made. You have come much further than you realize. Enjoy it!

20. Don’t wait to laugh

It’s so easy for us to delay gratification. If something is funny, then laugh about it now. Don’t say “someday we’ll laugh about this.” Every time you delay, you will forget. Your brain has enough to think about already. Laughing right now is one of the best things you can do. Shall we try it?

21. Your brain is designed to make you survive

We find it hard to be happy because we rely on our brain which only knows how to make us survive. Your happiness comes from within. The moment you ask your brain a question, all it knows how to do is look for what is wrong and then highlight that fact to you, so you avoid harms way.

22. Our reasons for feeling lousy don’t need to be big

Ever wondered why it’s so easy to feel lousy? It’s because we only need small reasons to feel like crap. We’re experts in letting things like people, annoying habits or someone stealing our car spot ruin our day. We’ve become entitled and overly sensitive to all the wrong things. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Shake it off. Change your state!

23. New results require new actions

If you don’t like your results, then take some new actions. Sounds simplistic and that’s because it is. Try something you haven’t done before and you’ll quickly find a new way of getting different results.

24. What you focus on is what you’ll physically feel

If you focus on your other half cheating on you, then you’ll physically feel it. What we focus on, is what we feel throughout our body. Our body can’t tell the difference between what you are thinking a lot of the time and what is happening in the real world.

There’s heaps of power in this truth and you can feel good feelings or negative ones depending on what you focus on.

If you focus too much on what you’re missing, you’ll become messed up.

If you focus on what you can’t control, you’ll feel depressed.

If you focus on the past too much, you’ll feel dreadful.

25. Do what you did in the beginning at the end

If any type of relationship you have is coming to an end, do what you did in the beginning. At the start you are always more inspired and full of energy. Once you get to know someone, it’s easy to let these positive emotions disappear.

Always do the nice things you do in the beginning and there will never be an end to a relationship. The difference is that at the start of a relationship, you are not evaluating what you are getting and you’re focused on giving. Interesting huh?

26. Absolute certainty has power

Ever met someone who is at the top of their game? You’ll notice they have absolute certainty about who they are and their goals. Certainty gives you power in an uncertain world where everyone is running around scared from all the bad news that’s so easy to find.

27. Complexity is the enemy of execution

If you are failing to execute it’s because you are surrounded in complexity. Simple things are easy to take action on. Whatever you create in this lifetime, keep it simple. The simpler something is, the more people you can reach, inspire and transform.

“It’s one hundred times harder to make something simple than it is to be complex and long-winded”

28. Money doesn’t change people it magnifies who you are

If you are a tight ass before you make your millions, then you’ll be a tight ass when you are rich. Money doesn’t change you; it just shows more of who you are in greater detail.

Focus on becoming a phenomenal person when you’re not rich and then when you are, you’ll magnify all of your good traits, to give more to the world. What you give is what will make you fulfilled.

29. Happy people are rare

In fact, there are quite a few billionaires and more are being created every day. What’s rare are people from the past who are truly happy like the Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa.

30. What’s wrong is available and so is what’s right

You can access what’s right and what’s wrong simultaneously. Make the smart choice and choose the good from every situation. It takes more discipline to choose what’s right, but you’ll be ten times more powerful if you do.

31. You can’t eliminate suffering altogether

The myth that we can avoid suffering is total BS. Suffering is guaranteed, but it gives us so much valuable motivation. It shows us what we don’t want, so we can have more of what we do want.

“Suffering can take us to the lowest point in our life and then help us to go all the way to the top again”

32. Move from suffering to appreciation

Suffering is caused by obsessing about ourselves too much. When we focus too much on ourselves, we go into the mind, which causes us to suffer. Our mind wants to help us find what is wrong. You know you are triggering a state of suffering when you use one of these three words:

1. Loss
2. Less
3. Never

When you appreciate and enjoy things, this focus takes your mind off looking for what’s wrong. You can also end suffering by growing more, loving more, giving more and being grateful.

When you end suffering, you’ll find that you become a light for others. Ending suffering causes everyone to want to be around you. I’d say that’s pretty good motivation right there.

33. It’s all small stuff

Have you heard the saying “don’t sweat the small stuff?” Guess what? Everything you sweat about is the small stuff. Remember that next time you feel yourself worrying about anything at all.

34. Negative thoughts are patterns

All a negative thought is, is a pattern you’ve been running for years without even realizing it. You do not own this negative thought because you’ll pretty quickly find out that everyone around you has the same negative thought.

If you start to own a negative thought as your own, then you are screwed. Your problems are not unique and are shared by everyone. Remember that the next time you think that your thoughts are unique to you and no one else can understand them.

Start becoming curious about your negative thoughts and that will change your life. Being curious allows you to become consciously aware and to kill these negative thoughts.

35. If there’s a way out you’ll revert to the past

This is why having a plan b is not a good idea. Only having one option forces you to succeed and to find a way when all hope seems lost.

“Burn the boats so you’re forced to take the island”

36. The mind looks for what’s wrong

Your negative thoughts are like small monsters that you can kill early on when they don’t have any real size. The best way to kill negative thoughts is to label them the moment they appear. Label your negative thoughts with words like silly, disempowering, untrue etc.

37. Trade your expectations for appreciation

That’s when your life will transform.


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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website

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    Jul 11, 2017 at 11:32 am

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8 Things You Can Do to Rise Above Failure and Attain Success



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Highly successful people have tasted failure more than success. Whether its Nikola Tesla or Michael Jordan, everyone had his/her fair share of failures before rising to the pinnacle of success. Yet, most people I know are averse to the idea of failure.

When ambition fuels your desires, you become so conscious about avoiding failure that you forget to learn how to cope with it when you actually experience it. So, when you come face-to-face with adversity, it often overwhelms you.

This brings us to the question, how can you train yourself to overcome these difficulties and use them to your advantage? Here’s how:

1. Acceptance is important to overcome failure

When the going gets tough, one of the most frustrating things you may get to hear is “stay positive.” The idea of positive thinking has been misconstrued, misused, and abused continuously. Contrary to popular belief, positive thinking has nothing to do with smiling and being happy with everything that happens to you all the time. Anyone who preaches that is either lying or crazy.

Use positive thinking to learn, grow, and evolve from the experiences we gather in life. Positive thinking simply means that if you are faced with a setback, you work hard to overcome the challenges. When you experience hardships, it is alright to feel upset and disappointed. Our objective, however, is not to stay down.

2. Be honest with yourself

The most crucial part of dealing with a failure involves pausing for a couple of minutes and pondering over what happened. You need to be completely honest with yourself on why it happened.

It is easy to pull out the Smartphone, turn on the laptop or find other forms of distraction. Most people would do anything to distract themselves and keep their eyes shut to the mistakes they have made.

However, if you don’t confront, you don’t learn. And if you don’t learn, then you are setting yourself up for failure again. Albert Einstein famously stated that it was insane to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome. If you don’t derive a lesson out of mistakes and failures in life, then you are doomed to keep repeating them, whether you realise it or not.

“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford

3. Don’t beat yourself up over a temporary setback

When you have experienced a setback, many of you may succumb to the feeling that you’ll always keep failing. It is easy to convince yourself that you are indeed a failure. Don’t let such destructive ideas or thoughts creep into your head. Instead, keep reminding yourself that just because you failed today, it doesn’t mean you’d fail the next time as well.

It is also important that you treat your failure as a passing phase. When you keep moving forward, focus on the right things, and keep learning. Perceiving the setback as a temporary phase rather than something permanent is vital to developing an optimistic attitude in life.

4. Focus on nurturing and improving yourself

Failures don’t discriminate, and it comes to everyone at some point. The trick lies in learning to deal with it and what you do about it that makes all the difference. In many cases, failure happens because a person wasn’t prepared, didn’t invest time on planning or was ill-equipped. It can also be because Lady Luck decided not to shower her favours.

Except for the last one, the rest of the issues can be fixed. Prepare a list of all the things that you think resulted in your failure. Start working on them one at a time. Do everything in your capacity to rectify, improve, resolve, and develop.

5. Find inspiration and support in abundance

Interacting with someone close can be more helpful than you think. You can also learn from people who have been through similar situations and have achieved what you hope to. Gain insights on how they managed to sail through the setbacks or low-points before and during the moment of success.

Or you can gain the motivation or enthusiasm by listening to someone else from an audiobook or podcast for maybe 30-60 minutes. It doesn’t have to be focused on your current setbacks.  Change your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.

6. Adopt a constructive approach and learn from the adverse situation

Consider it as valuable feedback and take home something you can implement in the process of overcoming your failure. The following are some of the questions you need to ask yourself:

  • What is the lesson for me?
  • How can I rectify myself to avoid making the same mistake and do better next time?
  • What can I do to enjoy guaranteed success?

You don’t need to rush through the process. Some of the answers may be immediate, while others might take an hour, a day or even a week to pop up. The significant thing is to start thinking about the situation from this perspective. Also, you need to be constructive about things rather than getting stuck with denial, negativity and apathy.

7. Stop mulling over and move on

Processing the situation and accepting it is the ideal way to deal with failures. Any individual who has experienced failures will know that it is quite easy to stay stuck in the loop of similar thoughts. In fact, this may go around and around for weeks or even months.

Now, in order to be free from this trap, the one habit that might help you is the set of questions like the ones shared above. You can also create a rough plan for how you wish to move forward from here. So, take some time to sit down and write them down.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

8. Purge out all the negativity

Another impactful way to handle the emotional meltdown and the thoughts that emerge from experiencing failure is to purge out all the negativity. In order to let everything out, you need to confide in someone close to you. There are two ways to go about it: Engaging in a conversation with someone will allow you to see it from a different perspective. The person you talk to can assist you in grounding yourself in reality again and motivate you to look for a way forward.

Or you can simply vent about it while the other person who is listening can sort things out for you. He/she can help you accept what happened and boost your spirit by instilling a sense of hope.

The significant thing to remember is that while you can’t stop obstacles from appearing in life, you can devise smart ways to handle them. If you persevere, you can easily discover opportunities that have been waiting for you on the other side. Now, as you become more efficient at dealing with the failures, you will allow yourself to see the positive side in even the toughest of scenarios.

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How Stress Can Actually Improve the Quality of Your Life



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Naturally, those of us who experience less stress in our lives are more likely to succeed. So, it’s important that you learn how to reduce your daily level of stress, right? Maybe not. Recent research has shown the common wisdom about stress might be dangerously inaccurate. Psychologists tracked the health of 30,000 adults in the United States over an 8-year period. Participants were asked two important questions:

1.    “How much stress have you experienced in the last year?”
2.    “Do you believe stress is harmful to your health?” (more…)

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The Truth About the Law of Attraction



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When we want something, we generally imagine the form it will take when it manifests. If we’re not careful, however, we can find ourselves attached more to the imagined form than the actual desired outcome. This is like placing an online order and expecting it to come in a blue box shipped by UPS. If we then receive a red box delivered by FedEx, we might not realize that it’s what we ordered, and never even open it!

For example, most of us say that we want money, but when money comes in the form of a free coffee or a gift or a discount, we don’t see it for what it is. We overlook it, and maybe we even say “No, thanks” and decline the gift which is, in one way or another, still money. In doing so, we fail to appreciate the value of the discount, the gift, or the freebie. If it isn’t cash being handed to us, we don’t see it as a manifestation of our desire.

The law of attraction is a funny thing.

It is much more complex and much more intricate than what it seems to be and yet, at the same time, it’s so very simple: We always get what we want. We always receive more of the energy at which we vibrate. Always.

However, if we’re acting from the energy of “I don’t deserve it” or “I don’t think I’m worthy,” then whatever it is that we receive will be negated and essentially unseen. On the other hand, if we are open, observant, and maintaining an abundance mindset, we will receive our request on numerous levels and from plentiful sources!

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill

This is because we “place our order” not only through our words, but through our actions, our beliefs, and our thoughts.

Last month, I was open to receiving a new client. I didn’t know how it would happen, but I’d set my intention: I was going to get a new client. That night, out of nowhere, I got a message from an old student of mine. She was looking to hire me again as her coach for the upcoming college entrance exams in the U.S. But wait! I didn’t want an entrance exam client.

What I actually wanted was to get life and business coaching clients. This student was my “red box from Fed Ex.” I wanted to decline at first, but as I was about to reply, something made me stop. I asked myself, “Why am I rejecting this?”

This student is an amazing client. She pays on time. She’s not needy. She does her part. Best of all? She doesn’t short-change me. So I said yes, because I realized that the Universe was simply responding to the essence of my desire.

You see, my “Big Why” in everything I do has always been to facilitate an accelerated personal and business growth for my clients, and this student fit the bill in every way. She wanted the personal growth, she was ready to go all in and she reached out to me.

It didn’t look like the package I was expecting so I didn’t recognize it at first—and I nearly turned it away—but she was the perfect answer to my request.

Serving people like her has always been a driving force in my life.

The Universe knows that. It also knew that I wanted a client asap so that I could re-invest the money into my business, so it responded in the most ideal way… but in an unexpected form. And I came so close to missing it!

How many times have I missed other opportunities like this? How many times have I dismissed a “red box” because it wasn’t “blue?” I’ll never know. But I do know that, had I not stopped myself from sending a “No, thanks,” I would have felt as though the Universe wasn’t listening.

That’s the thing: the Universe is always listening.

The more open we are in receiving, the more we thrive. The more open our energy is, the greater the possibilities. Don’t just return that red box to the post office and keep waiting on a blue one. Ask yourself, first and foremost, if what you’re receiving at the moment matches up with your underlying desire.

See yourself living in abundance and you will attract it.” – Rhonda Byrne

The key is to be willing to receive anything and everything. How? Keep on reading1

1. Get clear on your “underlying desire.”

Identify exactly what it is that you really want—in my case, it was an ideal client (underlying) as opposed to a coaching client (surface)—and focus on that. Clear out all the mental noise and static that clouds your awareness.

2. Be flexible

Keep your eyes and mind open for anything that fits the description. When you ask for money, recognize that free coffee for what it is: $3 you were going to spend anyway, that can now remain in your pocket. Every penny on the ground, every coupon, it’s all money.

3. Keep an attitude of gratitude.

The more you appreciate what you have, the more that comes your way. Your grateful mindset opens the energetic door for more to flow your way, because “where attention goes, energy flows.” The more you focus on the things you want, the more you will draw them into your experience.

Remember, that the Universe responds to our requests in whatever way fits best within the big picture.

It’s a picture so big that we couldn’t possibly begin to see how it comes together. Trust it. Know that when you ask, you will receive. It may not come in the form you anticipate, but always in a form that responds to your underlying desire. You just have to be ready to see it.

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7 Simple Ways to Master Your Emotions When Making Decisions



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A lot of people have big regrets when lying on their deathbed. These regrets are often related to bad decisions or decisions not taken. Thus, as it turns out, decision-making is dependent on great self-confidence. A person who has confidence in their decisions has an easier time making them.

Emotions also play a big role in all of this. This is a debate that has confronted two great thinkers. According to Descartes, “decisions are the product of the rational mind.” In other words, decision-making is essentially based on facts and mathematics.

But this thesis was refuted and proven to be wrong by Antonio Damasio in one of his works called “The Error of Descartes”. This was partly based on the story of Elliott, a kid that was very smart, who had above average rational capabilities, but incapable of making a decision, after a surgery to remove a brain tumor on the surface of his frontal lobes. After all his work in that matter, he concludes that a person who is incapable of emotion is incapable of making the most rational decisions.

The management of emotions is therefore completely inherent to good decision making, especially when making the most important decisions. To this end, here are 7 tips to put into practice to really master your emotions thus making the best decisions possible and never regreting them.

1. Take a step back

You must learn to take the time to identify and understand your emotions. Since physical reactions are emotionally related, also take the time to detect the reactions you have to some of your emotions. To be able to take the distance necessary to make decisions, it’s important to refer to your prefrontal cortex. This is the area of ​​the brain responsible for reasoning. To do so you need to put yourself in a stress-free environment for a few minutes.

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins

2. Breathe

The best way to do this is to learn to breathe deeply. This will allow activating your prefrontal cortex again, therefore, to have better control of your emotions so you do not react to them, let alone to the event that causes these emotions. Do this exercise for at least 15 minutes. It’s amazing how you can train yourself never to react, no matter what the situation. Ideally, let at least 24 hours go by before responding to a situation that would normally cause tension.

3. Pay attention

Once you are in the prefrontal cortex, put one hand on your abdomen, at the level of your intestines, and the other hand on your heart, and take the time to listen. These two parts of the body are the two major centers of vibrations and emotions. This is why it’s important to listen and pay attention to them.

The purpose of this exercise is to become aware of your gut and heart. What you need to remember is that the only person you need to trust is yourself. By practicing this exercise, one thing will become very clear: what the emotion you feel seeks to convey to you about the decision you have to make.

Since everything is energy, first make sure that the vibration of the decision you are about to make and that of your heart and gut are in sync. You will then know whether to go ahead with your decision or reject it based on whether you feel serenity or heaviness.

4. Discern untruths

It is important to know whether your nervousness is the result of an untruth you’ve told yourself. These can corrupt the vibrations that should help you make the right decision. You have to throw out all of these untruths and come to the decision-making without any filter. Stop thinking that you’re unlucky, that you’re in a bad situation, that your life is a failure, or that you are a victim.

5. Become aware of your emotions instead of avoiding them

To become aware of your emotions, you must learn to coach yourself. Ask yourself questions: How did you feel the last time you had to ask these types of questions? What did you get in return? Rename what you felt and the result you obtained from what you decided to do. You will thus be much better at assimilating, understanding, and welcoming your emotions.

6. Be as present as possible

There is no point in focusing on the big events surrounding the decision you want to make. Concentrate instead on the present moment, without analyzing the events. Judge based on emotions rather than the event. By being more present, you will be better able to listen to your emotions and feel them.

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.” – John C. Maxwell

7. Make your emotions your allies

Each of your emotions speaks to you through the physical and physiological reactions that they generate in you. Look to the weight of their impact on you as an indicator. Only by listening to them, using them, and managing them can you manage your emotions.

Habit comes with practice. With time, these 7 points will become much more natural and will become automatic. You will make better decisions for yourself.  This is one of the best ways to not end up with one of the big regrets.

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