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Life’s Toughest Questions After Seeing Tim Ferriss Turn 40

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Recently, Tim Ferriss turned 40. Many think of him as the ultimate form of success.

His life is not as rosy as you may think. After one particular episode of his podcast, he admitted to turning 40 and trying to answer life’s toughest questions. With all of his wisdom and success, he still has the same challenges trying to answer life’s biggest questions.

To solve this challenge, he started emailing these tough questions to people he thought were the smartest in the world at life. While I don’t know the result, I know I’ve struggled with the same questions as Mr. Ferriss.

No one prepares you for life and these tough questions that we all face surround even the most successful people. This was a real “lightbulb” moment for me when I realized that Tim Ferriss, and others, suffer from the same questions that I find hard to answer.

So let’s explore these questions, so we’re all on the same page.

Am I no longer young anymore?

Tim Ferriss has certainly brought up this one a bit. Now he’s 40 he’s no longer in his 20’s or 30’s which officially makes him a grown man in many cultures.

What I’ve learned about my own age is that I felt like an old man at 21 and feel like a teenager now that I’m a bit older. Age is determined by how you feel. I do think, though, that we all get to an age where our conscious and subconscious minds align and realize that life doesn’t last forever.

Tim appears to have finally reached this point and that’s why he’s asked the questions that follow this one. He’s at a point where these questions can no longer be ignored or taken as something to address later in life. That’s what age can do to you. This happens to all of us at different times in our life.

Don’t fear these questions. Use them as motivation.

Will I ever find my one true passion?

Just like with my blogging, Tim Ferriss has many pursuits himself. With only one life, it’s difficult not to consider whether this one pursuit that has got you where you are will be your last. For many of us, it will. For some, we may change paths.

I think this question is near impossible to answer. All I’ve learned is that you must do what you love and make it a passion. You have to become consciously aware of at least one thing you can invest your time into. Without even trying to find a passion, there’s a strong chance you’ll never get close.

Sometimes our passion is hidden. Like mine for example; I love inspiring people and have used music, blogging and even video to deliver my passion. Look a little deeper and you may find that all of your pursuits center around one particular theme (mines inspiring others) – that’s your passion.

Is this person my life partner?

Now that Tim’s 40 he’s definitely talking a lot more about finding a partner and even kids. Until he turned 40, these themes were somewhat ignored from his popular podcast or glossed over. When you realize that you can’t live forever, you start to think about three things:

1. Do I want a life partner?
2. Is the person I’m currently seeing my life partner?
3. Do I realize there could be multiple life partners in my life?

The reality is that even if you find a life partner, they could die, divorce you or even cheat on you. Nothing is for life. With that said, I think it’s healthy to at least try and find a life partner otherwise you may live to regret it later on.

“You have to decide whether a life partner works for your model of the world. For many of you, you’ll find it will”

Do I want kids and how will it change my life?

This one’s been mentioned a few times by Tim and I don’t think he knows the answer yet.

“The challenge is tossing up between the commitment kids take versus the legacy you want to leave”

I never thought I wanted kids but I think if I left this world without any physical human legacy, I’d feel like I hadn’t tried everything life has to offer. Everyone I know that has had kids describes it as a feeling you can’t explain. This is a question you need to contemplate.

This question is one of life’s biggest ones and many people (including Tim Ferriss) haven’t answered it yet. Unfortunately, at some stage, this question must be answered with a yes or a no.

How will I deal with sickness or death?

As Tim has gotten older and recently turned 40, he’s experienced what it’s like to have people close to him die. People can die at any age but this reality becomes more apparent as you get older. Each time someone passes away, you’re reminded of your own mortality.

With each death, you have a choice to make: will you use death as a motivator or will you let it make you sad and remind you of your mortality?

Dealing with death hasn’t been easy for Tim and I suspect it’s the same for everyone. We all have to find a way to move on in life when tragedy or sickness takes someone we love.

What does success really mean to me?

If you think about all the success Tim Ferriss has had, this question is something he clearly ponders a lot. When you’re at the top of the mountain, it’s not all that hard to forget how challenging it was to get there.

I think Tim is still defining what success means to him and I believe he has at least realized it has nothing to do with podcast downloads, books sold or money in the bank. All of us need to at least get to this level at some stage in our life. Defining what success is beyond these mediocre metrics is the mysterious puzzle to solve. Luckily puzzles are fun and intriguing.

“Based on what I’ve seen of Tim, I think the one thing he hasn’t mastered is how he can mentor others beyond his podcast and books”

While his podcast and books help us all greatly, deep down, Tim knows that it also tickles the fetish he has for experimentation and talking to leaders.

Doing something solely for the purpose of helping others and having no real personal gain is the next level. I’m not there yet either and I think we all arrive there at some point. Both Tim and I will hopefully discover this feeling later in life before we leave this world.

I’d love you to discover this same concept of success for yourself too.

So what do you do now with these questions?

We’ve come a long way in a relatively small number of words. This post is designed to point out these questions, so you don’t lose sight of them.

I may have presented more questions than answers and that’s okay.

Here are some answers to these questions to ponder:

– There’s a high chance there isn’t one of anything.
– You’ll know when something feels right. Trust your judgment.
– What you value could be very different to everyone else and that’s cool.

Tim Ferris, myself, and anyone else you may follow all have the same questions to ponder. If you realize that after reading this at the very least, then my job is done. If you didn’t, then read this blog post again.

Everyone you meet in life is having their own battle with these life questions. These questions create fear, sadness, awareness and happiness all at the same time.

These life questions are the meaning of your life. I’ve just given you the most difficult challenge you’ll ever face in life and only just come to terms with that. It’s okay though – someone has to be the messenger.

Answer these questions above and you’ll know what life means to you. Good luck!

If you want to increase your productivity and learn some more valuable life hacks, then join my private mailing list on timdenning.net

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. James Hughes

    Oct 10, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Great post Tim.

    I follow Tim Ferris and have many of his books.
    I’ve also reached the age of 41 where I’ve been asking myself these exact same questions.

    This is well written and made me think.

    James

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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