Life
The Truth Is Beautiful: Better Yet, It’s Phenomenal

There’s more to life than lying to yourself each day.
That’s what many of us do and then we wonder why we feel like garbage and need to drink alcohol, get angry at random strangers and behave like idiots.
I’ve learned of late that the truth is beautiful. The truth is not always easy, but its immense simplicity is something that will free your mind.
I’ve learned over time that lying to myself is dangerous.
We can’t pretend we’re in love. We can’t pretend we are happy when we’re not. We can’t pretend to love our job if we hate it.
So if we can’t pretend then why don’t we stop?
Let’s stop lying to ourselves. Let’s learn to see life as it is rather than how we wished it could be. Take the good with the bad. Know that some days are going to be happy as Larry and other days are going to suck like that dirty rag you keep under the bathroom sink to wipe the toilet seat.
“I want to tell you something that’s crazy: the truth is far better when you’re open to it”
What I mean by this is that when you expect some stuff to suck balls, you find it easier to live in your truth. You expect stuff to go wrong and you learn to be okay when it does. To live the truth is the most vulnerable thing you can do. To live your truth is like playing the video game of life at the extra hard level and loving every bit of it.
What holds us back is when we live a lie. We tell ourselves stories that we know are not true so we can trick our brain to make our heart feel something that’s not real. Our heart knows the truth and that’s why you feel horrible when you lie to yourself.
I often sit quietly and contemplate the truths of my life.
I wish I were better at public speaking
I wish I could have done more travel by now.
I wish that I could affect more lives than I currently do.
Knowing these truths helps keep me grounded. I know where I am at and I know where to put my time. I can only get better each day and strive to overcome these challenges. That’s what makes the truth so beautiful. It’s like a compass that tells us what we need to do.
The truth stops your mind from wasting time on silly, little games that you play with yourself, and instead, focusing that energy on how you can live a purposeful life.
“Like I always say, we have all the answers we’ve always been seeking inside of us”
The truth is beautiful because it helps unlock those answers for us so we can get to work. So we can hustle with the feedback our truths give us.
I’ve always loved simplicity and that’s what the truth does. It helps us see everything we need to see. We no longer need to hide from our past or regret the future. I’ve also found that sharing your truths with others takes you to the next level. Sharing your truths is how you go from good to phenomenal.
It’s a vulnerable display, to say the least, but it will shape who you become. The truth is beautiful. The truth is even better when you share it with the world for everyone else’s benefit.
The truth is you. You can be phenomenal.
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Life
The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance
Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.

Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see? (more…)
Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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