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How to Think About Change and the Lessons It Teaches You

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Change – What is it teaching us? Change is hard not just today, but every day. And change has the ability to feel even more difficult when it is “forced” upon us. Many of us are feeling more frustrated than we ever have at any point in our lives due to the daily conditions that now exist – from being forced to “shelter in place” to having to wear a mask to enter stores for essentials to not being able to have access to even the simplest of things that made us feel good – like getting a haircut.

Rewind to just after the New Year – many of us were ready to show our New Year Resolutions who was boss, jet off to the next travel destination on our must-see list and reach new professional goals. Some of us had just recovered from an injury or were finally courageous enough to begin a new venture. And now almost all of us feel blindsided, and quite frankly defeated at times.

But I ask you this – life can be like yoga – so just because a pose is getting hard – will you give up? Or will you channel restraint and resolve to hold the pose and dig deeper? Will you realize you are right where you are at for a reason and be bold enough to seek it?

“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.” – Henri Bergson

We’re in a space in time where everything feels hard. From going to the grocery store to ordering essentials to navigating complex business deals – it’s hard right now to find the comfort we so desperately are seeking. Our ability to keep pushing forward is feeling diminished and our light within that burned bright is beginning to dwindle.

But consider this – just because where you are today isn’t where you thought you would be, it doesn’t mean you can’t or won’t get to your intended destination. It does mean however that it is time to course correct. The winds of change have blown all of us off course and now it’s time for a new plan. 

In order to do this, we must manage our emotional and mental state with care. It is SO easy to get lost in a barrage of negative news, deeply emotional conversations with others and become overwhelmed by fear that seems to be everywhere we turn. Now is the time to cultivate an active practice of conditioning yourself with healthy perspective. The healthier your mind is and the more thoughtfully your emotions are managed, the better your decision ability will be to help you course correct. 

Here are a couple quick changes you can make:

  • Turn to news sources that you trust – get the facts – and then go on with your day. Do not listen to endless hours of media on end. This is a sure fire way to harm your mental state.
  • Every morning when you get up – literally say “thank you, thank you, thank you” as the late great Wayne Dyer always did. This simple step literally sets your outlook instantly in a positive direction the moment your feet hit the floor.
  • Feed your mind with uplifting podcasts, music, and books. Your mind is a muscle and what you feed it, it will magnify.
  • Write three things that were positive in your day at the close of every day. This will help you celebrate even the smallest wins – maybe you washed your hair today for example. Sounds silly but right now even the smallest of things like caring for ourselves seems like a lot.

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” – Jim Rohn

So, it brings me back to my initial question – change, what is it teaching us? Maybe it is to understand that nothing ever is or ever was or ever will be permanent (and that is ok). Maybe it is teaching us to understand the beauty of growing through things that are stretching us to our limits. Maybe the lesson is to have more grace and empathy for others and ourselves. Or, maybe we are supposed to understand that there will always be more than one way to get to an intended goal or destination. 

For thousands of years, change has looked much like a foe – an enemy that must be defeated by a resolve to remain the same. But what if, finally, we concede that we’ve had it all wrong. That change is necessary for all of mankind to continue thriving, no matter how uncomfortable it may be. 

What if 2020 with all of its pain points, disappointments, and frustrations has been the shake-up that was essential for all us to achieve new levels of success? It may be time to accept that change is not a foe, but rather a long lost friend that has finally made its way back to us looking to guide, protect and elevate us.

How do you deal with change? Share any strategies or thoughts you have on change below!

Ken Kladouris is an esteemed wealth advisor and published author who believes you should be living your life, by design. Charting his own course in the wealth management industry, Ken has earned the respect of his peers and the trust of his clientele. Developing his signature tailor-made approach, Ken has been able to successfully assist countless clients in charting their course to financial abundance. This has allowed the men and women Ken is proud to serve the ability to infuse more life into their years here and now – not just in retirement. Ken’s book, “Get There!”, was developed as a tool that helps individuals discover the clarity they need to design their financial future. Learn more by visiting Ken’s website or connecting with him on LinkedIn.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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