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How To Grow Your Mind And Business Without Adding To Your Schedule



How To Grow Your Mind And Business Without Adding To Your Schedule

In our journey to success we realize that time is a required element. All of us are busy and want to know how to learn what we need without using more time.

Most of us are engaging in daily activities which are either not helping us grow or actually moving us away from success. However, it is possible to exchange something that is a time waster for an activity that grows us as people. We don’t lose any time but we gain growth that fuels success.

The question is where are the changes to be made?

Here are four ways you can grow your mind and business without adding to your schedule:

1. Exchange music for knowledge

Music is a powerful medium for conveying emotions. Sometimes we use music to pump us up before we speak to a group, to energize us in the morning or power through part of a tough workout. Perhaps you also enjoy music while driving or doing mundane tasks such as housework or business related activities that don’t require much thought.

A simple way to grow your mind without added time is to exchange music for knowledge. If you have a short commute, perhaps an hour or less, this is the perfect opportunity to play a podcast focused on business strategies or personal growth. For longer commutes or drives to clients or conferences find audiobooks appropriate to your goals. Some libraries offer free audiobooks for checkout or you can purchase a subscription for less than $15 dollars per month.

“Music is a moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and charm and gaiety to life and to everything.” – Plato

2. Change your reading habits

Do you know the current status of political candidates in the upcoming election? Did you read about the latest news on global warming? Are you up to speed on the most recent developments in the Middle East? Unless these items have a direct impact on your business or you have a personal interest then taking time to know these things is a waste.

Instead of reading news about events that are irrelevant to you, spend that time reading books that will grow your mind and business. Again, some of these books are available in your local library. Others you can purchase online new or used. Finally, take advantage of the generally lower cost and portability of eBooks.


3. Conquer social media

Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram and other social media platforms can either make you their slave or become your servants. Most people allow these sites to be their time master overlords. A few minutes to check a notification that a friend tagged you in turns into an hour of wasted scrolling through unimportant and often negative posts.

Change social media into your servant. Use automated tools to schedule your posts, set aside specific and limited periods for direct interaction with clients and fans online. Use your social media time to spread your message and engage with your audience.


4. Create content during downtime

For most entrepreneurs growing your following is essential. One of the best ways to do so is create engaging content to be shared online. These may be blog posts, articles on large media sites, podcast interviews or courses you offer. For some, a book is another great method of reaching people. Creating this content takes time.

How long is your lunch period? If you still have a job it’s probably an hour. It is certainly possible to eat your lunch in 30 minutes, which would give you an extra 30 minutes at least five days per week to create great content. If you wrote just 300 words over lunch each day (10 words per minute), you could complete a 50,000 word book in less than 6 months. You could write two quality blog posts or articles in that same time. You could be interviewed on up to 5 podcasts every week, just on your lunch hour.

“Make it simple. Make it memorable. Make it inviting to look at. Make it fun to read.” – Leo Burnett

The problem isn’t that we don’t have time to increase our knowledge, improve our people skills or grow our business. The problem is we are wasting time in other useless activities. With small changes to daily habits you can take back many hours each week.

Does success require a time commitment? Absolutely! But by exchanging music for knowledge, changing your reading habits, conquering social media and creating content during down time you can move further and faster than you ever thought possible.

How are you going to grow your mind and business? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

I help people develop amazing relationships and love what they do every day. I'm a writer, speaker and coach and you can read my articles on great sites such as the Huffington Post, Addicted2Success, the Good Men Project and Lifehack. Happiness in life and passion in your work are my goals. Meet me at and Troy Stoneking on Facebook.

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Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

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Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

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This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

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These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

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If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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