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Boosting Your Creativity in 3 Easy Steps



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“I am simply not creative.” How many times have you said this to yourself or others? I’d imagine quite a few times. Many people believe that creativity is a gift they do not own, a very luxury gift actually, only destined for a select few. I want to break this myth right now and say that creativity is a gift that every single one of us has within ourselves.

The reason why many people do not see it is because they do not allow it to be, they hide it and fear it every single day. Many believe that creativity is only for certain types of people working with art for instance or other creative professions. Albert Einstein said that “Creativity is intelligence having fun.” So every possible intelligent person on this planet can have the chance to be creative and every one of us is intelligent in our own creative way.

Creativity to me is about freedom of expression, freedom of words and behaviour, freedom to be who you truly are and show what you truly love. It is often suppressed because it can be judged as foolish, not being adequate enough, not serious enough, too colourful or too flamboyant. How many times do you wish you could wear that beautiful colourful hat you are keeping in the loft but are too scared to do it as people might think you have gone crazy?

This is a very typical example of how creativity is suppressed daily. Today I want to encourage you to connect deeply to your creativity, to find it, unleash it, and let it be the light in your life. I want to invite you to play with it and start realising that creativity is a gift you have that wants to be expressed and that can be used positively in many areas of your life.

  • Creativity can help you stand out in your business.
  • Creativity can help you give positivity and fun to your life.
  • Creativity can help you connect to your true desires.
  • How can you connect to your creativity more?

“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul.” – Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Here are three easy steps for you:

1. Connect to your inner child

Just close your eyes and go back in time to all the games you used to play and all the activities you used to do as a child. Go back to relive the things you truly loved doing. Were you passionate about colours? Did you use to make clothes or play with marionettes? Maybe your passion was acting, or you always dreamt about flying?

Give a voice to your inner child, let him or her out and play and fully express themselves and bring that expression and passion into your daily life, your ideas and projects. Your life will start to be much more colourful and joyful through using creative imagination.

2. Stop the self-critics

This is such a fundamental step to take if you truly want the creative inner you to come out. Bringing out your creativity can feel scary especially as humans always fear being judged and criticised and have a strong desire to fit in and to comply with the masses. 

Ask yourself what is more painful for you, to repress your inner creativity and conform or to be fully creative and possibly not being liked by a few? Put your hand to your heart when you ask yourself this question and see what feels right for you.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use the more you have.” – Maya Angelou

3. Stop rushing and start observing more

Creativity will have a tough time coming out if your mind is always busy with stuff, worried, and overthinking about daily problems. Taking time to relax and calm your mind will help you notice the beauty around you. It will help you “see” things you might not see while running around, which could give you lots of creative ideas.

Some of my most creative moments are when I am out in nature watching the leaves moving and the birds flying or simply watching people passing by, without worrying about the whole world. During those moments, your mind is relaxed and can more easily generate ideas and get inspired by the world around you.

One last piece of advice I want to share with you is this: every time you get a creative idea, a creative hit for doing something, creating something, or writing something just do it. The more time you leave before taking action, the more your fears will jump all over your creativity and leave very little left of it. And if that happens, the same old same old boring patterns and ideas will keep dominating in your life.

How do you boost your creative side when you need it? Share your ideas and thoughts with us below!

Debora Luzi is a passionate writer, a mother and an entrepreneur. Debora teaches other entrepreneurs how to write powerful and authentic content that connects, converts and impacts millions. She is the founder of The Writing Academy  for Entrepreneurs, the only global online community focused at content creation. Debora is also the founder of the Women Who dare to Desire Global conference.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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Balance…it requires an equal distribution of value between two or more subjects to maintain steady composure and equitable proportionality. (more…)

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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.



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It’s 2023, a new year, new you, right? But how do we start over? How do we make the changes in our lives that we crave so much to see?  (more…)

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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