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A 5 Step Meditation Technique for a Stress Free Life



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Given the demands of today’s society, we often find ourselves stressed in one way or another. Whether it’s an issue in the office or a conflict within our family/friends, these things will slowly drag us down. Before we know it, we begin to carry that draining feeling within us.

As such, one way that these things can affect us negatively is through sleep. By invading the subconscious and unconscious thoughts, our problems can disturb our sleeping pattern. When we continuously think of such negative things in our life, they become part of our unconscious thoughts. In doing so, it damages the psyche which in turn affects the things that we dream of.

To visualize such, we can think of our minds as a water well. Present in classic historical tactics for biological warfare, poisoning the well is one of the ways to defeat the enemy. While that tactic such can be interpreted differently today, the same imagery can be used in understanding the whole concept of dreams.

If our minds are the water wells, our problems constitute the poison that infiltrates it. Drinking from this well will definitely bring diseases, just like a poisoned psyche becomes a catalyst for nightmares. Just like actual diseases, these instances will lead to sleepless nights resulting in fatigue and stress that carries over.

With this, one solution to address this problem is by way of meditation, because you’ll be able to tap the unlimited potential of your brain, allowing you to remove the negative stuff that affects your sleep patterns.

Here is the five-step meditation technique which will help us address these problems:

1. Breathing in-and-out

First off, breathing is an essential part of human life. As we inhale and exhale, oxygen flows while carbon dioxide goes. Nonetheless, it’s an undeniable truth plays an essential role in the way we live.

But more than that, proper breathing is also the first step in doing meditation. When we breathe, we also release and consume energy; a fundamental principle in meditation. Allowing ourselves to inhale and exhale properly means that we become more sensitive to the flow of energy.

2. Try to heighten your senses

Heightening your senses is another crucial step in physically preparing yourself for the whole process of meditation. As you try to concentrate and redirect your focus, try to improve your body’s sensitivity.

To do this, you have to focus on sensations in your body. For instance, you have to get a general feel of your body’s heaviness, or the warmth at your fingertips. You can also pay attention to the background music around you and identify if there are unnecessary noises. In doing so, it will significantly improve your focus to achieve the best meditation mood.

“Meditation is not a way of making your mind quiet. It’s a way of entering into the quiet that’s already there.” – Deepak Chopra

3. Review your day and let the thoughts flow

After preparing yourself for the whole activity, this third step is the actual meditation itself. By reviewing the events in your day, you’ll be able to see the bigger picture. With the calm state you’re in, allowing your thoughts to simply flow means that you don’t focus on one positive or negative thought.

Rather, by making it flow, you can get a holistic view of things. Such a bird’s eye view is necessary for removing the negative thoughts because you’re slowly able to identify which parts are causing the problem.

By knowing which parts are affected, you can sift through things and identify aspects of your life that cause these nightmares.

4. Identify a chakra point that addresses your problems

Since you’ve now identified your stressors, the next step to remove these nightmares and sleepless nights is to address the relevant chakra points. While this isn’t the only way to resolve such struggles, chakra meditation is one of the key practices that we can do.

Why so? Given that negative energy plagues our system, one of the best ways to sort it out is to identify which points are blocked. When some chakra points are overactive, we are unable to let positive energy in.

Without positive energy, we can imagine our body filled with carbon dioxide alone. Filled with toxins, we will end up having those sleepless nights as such plagues our whole system.

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” – Buddha

5. Do a charka practice that relieves the affected area

To complete the meditation, the end goal is to ease the area that is blocked or overactive. By performing specific methods together with healing crystals, you’ll be able to address the affected area.

For instance, if you’re having trouble with your relationships, focusing on the heart charka means you can slowly deal with the sleepless nights and the dreams you’re having right now.

Although one session won’t entirely change things overnight, continually doing this strengthens your core charka points which will eventually remove the unnecessary stuff and let the good ones in.

Slowly but surely, doing your meditation together with Chakra cleansing will allow you to deal with your nightmares. By calming yourself through such, you’ll be able to destress and let things flow. This will give you time and space to reflect and rest, leading to a better and renewed you.

Do you meditate? If so, how has it impacted your life? Share your thoughts with us below!

Chris writes for, a website dedicated to helping individuals identify and learn about their personality archetypes. The site also offers a wealth of wisdom about spirituality, self-discovery, and astrology. You can identify your archetype by taking their archetype test here. You can also check them out on there Facebook page.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

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