9 Ways To Encourage Yourself When Life Comes Crashing Down
There are those life-changing moments that each of us face in our lives, which makes us question our existence. Circumstances out of our control that overwhelm us and feel hopeless about the future.
For me, it was a divorce, losing a house and leaving a career that I had worked hard to achieve. For you, it may be a breakup, loss or other painful life event. You never saw it coming and now that it has wrecked your life, you have no idea what’s next.
Here are 9 reminders to help encourage you when your life comes crashing down:
1. It can’t get any worse
If everything is falling apart and you’re experiencing the most profound pain you’ve experienced, know that it can’t get any worse. You’ve likely hit rock bottom; there’s no further down to go. And when you are down in life, the only place you can go is up. Breathe a sigh of relief at life’s worst point; it can only get better from here.
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” – Confucius
2. You’ve come back from this before
Maybe not this painful or devastating, but you’ve come through this in your life before. When your back was against the wall and you didn’t feel like you had a future, you stepped up to the occasion and succeeded. You have the experience, tools and habit of resiliency to turn your life back around.
3. There is a lesson waiting for you here
There is a lesson, insight or growth waiting for you as you pull through. Your job is to find the meaning and the purpose of this pain. You may have a story to tell. This life circumstance may give you a message to share. This circumstance is your teacher, test and grade. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” ask, “What can this teach me?” Ace the lesson that life’s teaching.
4. Everything is temporary
Yes, everything. All circumstances, all pain and all hardship are temporary. Everything comes into your life and everything goes away. The challenges you are facing today will eventually disappear. The pain will lessen and tears will dry up. Your only job is to preserve each day until you get to a better day.
5. Success comes after failure
The good news is that failure is the breeding ground for success. Only when you find out what doesn’t work can you find out what does. After failing in a business, relationship or life goal, you would gain the experience and knowledge to do it better the next time around. The more you fail and the quicker you fail at life, the more experienced you become at navigating hardships and winning your life.
6. It gets better tomorrow
No matter how bad things are today, the sun will rise again tomorrow. You can welcome in new circumstances, new perspectives and a new day. Each day will bring new promises and hope, so hang on. Do the work you need to get through each day and also know brighter days are on the horizon.
7. This is your wake-up call
You may have been afraid to make changes or take a risk. This situation could be the unwanted but necessary wake-up call you needed in life. What do you need to know? What changes need to be made? What growth awaits you? What were you ignoring or not accepting in your life? How will you change now that it’s become more apparent and you’re more aware?
“Sometimes it takes a wake-up call, doesn’t it, to alert us to the fact that we’re hurrying through our lives instead of actually living them; that we’re living the fast life instead of the good life. And I think, for many people, that wake-up call takes the form of an illness.” – Carl Honore
8. This is your reset button
Ever wanted to start over but didn’t know how? Maybe you were in a unfulfilling relationship or in a career you hated. You always were wondering how to get out of it but had no options. Now that life has made the decisions for you, your job is to embrace the changes and make plans to start over. The best place to start anew and figure out a new life plan is when your life has fallen apart. This is your chance to start over from a blank slate.
9. There are rays of hope in the darkness
With every negative situation and dark life circumstance, there is a ray of hope in the distance. Instead of worry and fear, focus on what you can be grateful for today. What can you be thankful for today? What is the positive in the situation? How can this break in your favor?
Hi Vishnu,
First of all, Thank you very much for writing this wonderful article and Thanks to addicted2success to publish this.
I am completely agree with your all points. Life is full of challenges But we should not feel hopeless. we should keep our self motivated with different ways to make our future better.
This article is really amazing.
I am grateful to Addicted 2 Success for publishing this too Vikash. Thank you for reading and glad the post resonated with you.
A big ‘thanks’ for your post, Vishnu. It came in a moment when I was almost thinking to pull the plug… After some initial success with my consulting business, I found that an important customer was refusing to pay for the services they’d ordered and into which I had put hundreds of hours and enthusiasm. Their business priorities had changed, and that project was no longer important for them. Moreover, the customer had made sure that there was no way for me to legally claim the due amount.
Is this kind of events that makes one want to throw in the towel and instead of being happy when a prospective customer comes to your door, you cannot avoid thinking about being swindled again… But in fact, all the points you mention are being fulfilled one by one. Now there are more projects in the horizon, and somehow I’ve instintively learned to turn down ‘toxic’ customers, so it’s time to recover and going for a fresh start!
Awesome story and experience Bertie. Thanks for sharing how a shift in mindset can change it all. Sometimes our challenges have important insights and lessons that we need to learn. An obstacle becomes our teacher and ultimately the solution to the problem, like it did in your case : )