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4 Simple Reasons You Lack Passion In What You Do

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Do you lack passion in what you do? Is it hard to find the passion in what you’re doing on a daily basis?

The first passions I ever discovered of mine was writing, creating, and music. Every Time I’ve stepped out of those realms, or the realms of my other passions, my happiness has suffered. And when your happiness suffers, the very thing you’re doing becomes frustrating, too much effort, a struggle, unexciting, and nothing more than a headache.

Not everything is or should be revolved around your passions, of course. Because not everything is a passion and some things are chores that need to be done out of necessity.

When it comes to career, business, activities, skills, and your professional life, there are 4 simple reasons you lack passion in what you do:

1. You haven’t practiced enough

Think of somebody like Lil Wayne. He’s been making music from the age of 8 years old. Today he’s around 33 years old. Music is his passion. And that passion developed through relentless practice and effort. Repeated dozens and dozens and dozens of times throughout his 20+ year career.

Take a look at someone like Katy Perry. She started making music when she was 16 years old. The passion you see in her work and her voice when she sings is because of years and years of practice beforehand. No matter who you use as an example, practice is the reason their passion remains intact. Or the reason their passion grows to be so strong overtime.

The reason practice is a huge part of passion is because without practice, you won’t become better at your craft. And if you don’t become better at your craft, you won’t enjoy it very much. There’s no passion without enjoyment and no enjoyment without passion. And from personal experience, I know this to be true.

“I’ve always considered myself to be just average talent and what I have is a ridiculous insane obsessiveness for practice and preparation.” – Will Smith

2. You hate what you do

Think of someone you hate (if anybody) who’s betrayed you, hurt you, or done something terrible to you. If given the choice to be around them or NOT be around them, you’d obviously choose to avoid them, right? Because hate only creates more hate. There’s no fun in hate.

Well passion works in the exact same way. If you despise what you do and detest every minute of It, there’s no room for passion to grow, build, and develop. Because all that hatred is blocking the entrance to the door of passion.

There’s a couple of reasons you may hate what you do:

  1. You’re no good at It.
  2. You’re doing it out of necessity.
  3. You’re doing it because society has brainwashed you into believing you HAVE to do It.

The solution is simple and obvious. But you’re smart enough to figure it out.

 

3. You haven’t learnt enough about it

This point is similar to the point I made about practice. If you don’t know enough about what you’re doing, how to do It, or how it works, then you’re going to end up frustrated, irritated, disappointed and uninterested.

Knowledge, if you know how to use that knowledge, makes it easier to become passionate about what you’re doing. But at the same time if you know all there is to know, and you still don’t understand It, then it’s best to abandon it.

When I first started blogging for example, I started to learn a little about website code. I dabbled with it a little, spent hours trying to figure it out and understand it, but in the end I let it go.

Trying to read code is like trying to read Chinese writing. I don’t understand it, my brain shuts down, and that’s why I dislike it and no longer waste my time with it. But on the other hand learning about blogging and websites came fairly easy to me, and now I’m really passionate about blogging.

 

4. It doesn’t match your skillset

This comes down to self awareness. I know I’m awful at coding, football, basketball, designing, anything beyond basic mathematics, etc. So doing anything in those fields is bound to bring misery.

But I’m good at writing, creating, listening, observing, retail, and a range of other skills. So dwelling and diving in these areas is to my own benefit.

If what you’re doing doesn’t match your natural skills or talents in the slightest, and there’s no room for potential growth, you’re just wasting your time. And when your energy suffers, passion can’t exist and won’t exist.

“A winner is someone who recognizes his God-given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills, and uses these skills to accomplish his goals.” – Larry Bird

Do an audit of your skills, talents, and areas where there’s potential for growth. Do an audit of the things you’re awful at doing. And be sure to shove your ego aside when you do so you can get real with yourself.

Are you lacking passion on your career? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Theo Ellis is a blogger, author, writer, and online retailer. Speaking on subjects such as confidence, personal development, he writes from personal experience to benefit the lives of others through justbereal.co.uk.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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