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5 Things To Remember When Your Life Seems To Be Falling Apart

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5 Things To Remember When Your Life Seems To Be Falling Apart

Life is a long journey, loaded with ecstatic happiness as well as painful moments.

At one phase, you find your life to be falling apart and you realize that there’s nothing left to hold onto.

But wait, this is not the end. Not yet. You have to get up and put those pieces back in place.

Yes, it’s possible!

All it requires is that you remember the five things that will help you bounce back.

 

1. Cry Your Heart Out – Release Your Emotions

Some people choose to put on a brave face and decide to face the storms in life without a tear, while others may resort to shedding tears to relieve the pain within.

Being strong is an admirable trait.

Sometimes, it becomes essential to cry your heart out to give freedom to the bottled up emotions and to release the negativity from your thoughts.

Contrary to popular belief, crying is not a sign of weakness, instead it is a mark of staying strong for too long.

Even though we have come a long way as a society, men are compelled to abide by the social construct of staying strong during troubled times – the off beam stereotype being that crying is a sign of femininity.

Society at large needs to understand that it’s absolutely okay to cry, no matter what gender you belong to, as crying will help to heal your wounds and dull your pain.

Ultimately it will give you the power to attain closure, get over your grief faster, and move forward.

So don’t suppress your feelings.

Remember to cry your heart out when life seems to be falling apart.

5 Things To Remember When Your Life Seems To Be Falling Apart
 

2. All Experiences Are Part Of Your Journey

Life is a journey of ups and downs. It never stays the same.

It doesn’t matter if we accept or reject the changes taking place, as it won’t stop at any cost.

The series of experiences that make up the journey called life are a part of who we really are.

They make us and break us, and we have to live with them. If we look at life from a broader perspective, we will understand that our experiences nurture our soul and slowly transform us into who we are today.

Embracing your experiences as a part of your journey will help you gain insight by looking at life in a different light.

Every experience is valuable and helps you grow in life’s various spheres.

Moments of sorrow, stress, failure, and apprehension may make you believe that your life is falling apart, but you are the one who will ultimately have to hold all the pieces of life together.

Learn from your experiences, and develop a new self-identity to reconcile yourself with the realities of life.

 

3. Look For The Silver Linings

Sometimes, realities that may appear harsh to us carry sweeter endings with them.

You may remember the saying ‘every cloud has a silver lining’.

Similarly, your life experiences also have a silver lining. You might never know, they may have a diamond lining as well.

You just need to pause, step back, take a deep breath, look at the bigger picture, and be patient.

Life never stays the same. After every sunset, there’s a sunrise.

You just have to be awake to witness the glory that the sunrise brings with it. Don’t fret over the mishaps in your life; just wait for things to get better.

It may seem that your life is falling apart and you may feel helpless, but the sour turn of events may be heralding a better life and leading you towards your dreams.

Life is difficult for all of us at different points in time.

The difference is how we deal with it.

You must give up the victim mentality and realize that so many good things happened to you too in the past, and more will make their way towards you in the future.

“Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild yourself the way you wish you had been all along.” – Rae Smith 

4. Keep Moving

Low tides come in our lives and leave us stunned, broken, and hopeless. But that doesn’t mean that we must stop living our life and become inert.

Even if you stop, life won’t stop for you, it will go on.

You must remember that after every low tide, there’s a high tide as well, you just have to keep moving.

Take one step at a time, follow your routine, set goals for yourself, and steer clear from negativity.

Go out and have some fun, take a break, go for a vacation, and just do something exciting.

Read inspirational articles, spend time with your family, indulge in activities that make you feel happy, just remember to keep moving.

Don’t wrap yourself in your sorrows or you will drown in them. Keep moving with the tide.

Bear in mind, if you keep moving, this phase will pass away, and one day you will realize your life is not falling apart anymore.

Instead, everything that happened, happened for a reason.

 

5. Be Grateful

While things may look bleak right now, not everything might be going wrong.

There will be things that are going right.

When life takes a turn for the worse, we become negative about everything and end up forgetting what we have been blessed with.

This ungratefulness will not take you anywhere. You have to take charge of your life and learn to show gratitude.

Think about it, you’ve been blessed with so much in life. Be grateful for what you have been blessed with, and don’t take those blessings lightly.

Recollect memories of all the happy and blessed moments in your life. Write them down in your diary and feel the joy that those blessings brought you in your life, when you first got them.

This approach will help you focus on the brighter ends in life and give a boost to your self-confidence.

Your blessings will give you the power that is hidden within you, to deal with the hassles in your life.

Gratitude will heal your soul and relieve the pain of life’s wounds.

“Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life.” – Joel Osteen

If you are in pain, if your dreams have been shattered and your heart has been broken, try these five things and observe the change that they will bring in your life. With the help of these tips, the first thing that will change is your outlook on life, and with that, your whole life will take a turn for the better.

Daniel is the founder of Entrepreneur Abroad, father of two amazing children, coach and passionate about motivating and inspiring others to start something that matters . Check out his services at entrepreneurabroad.com or follow him @thinkbiggerr

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Here’s Why Productivity Hacks Don’t Work

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How many times have you eagerly tried out a new productivity hack or tool and not gotten the result you expected? There is wealth of information available to us giving us everything we need to know to increase our productivity, but most people live their life in chaos.  Why do still see so many people struggling to manage their time and simply not able to get the results they desire?  What is missing? (more…)

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4 Lies You Keep Telling Yourself When You’re Afraid to Do Something

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When’s the last time you let fear get the better of you? Whether we want to admit it or not, fear keeps us from doing a lot of the things we know we really should do to achieve our goals. Fear is especially detrimental to entrepreneurs (read ‘wantrepreneurs’) that want to launch their first big project. (more…)

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Tips, Tools, and Techniques to Create Your Curiosity

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Curiosity is a great characteristic that people rarely sustain in their lifetimes. Some people struggle to sustain curiosity because of their internal and external challenges. They cannot encourage curiosity to come to the fore as they condition their mindsets with their learning, experience, and environment. However, there are very few individuals who sustain their curiosity levels throughout their lives to excel as extraordinary achievers.  (more…)

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5 Life Tips You Didn’t Know You Needed to Hear

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Life is a battleground, we need to keep fighting until our appointed time on earth comes. So, in this post, you will see the best of the best life tips you have never heard before. These tips are life-changing and can change you immediately. Let’s go!

1. Be independent 

Hundreds of millions of people make this mistake. We depend on people like us. “he will get it done for me, she will get it done for me”. You rely heavily on people and guess what, you are making a big mistake. 

There are a lot of people that have helped others and perhaps time changes for them, they become poor and rely on the people they have helped, guess what comes out at the end of this reliance? Disappointment, promises backed by failures, etc. 

Who are you depending on? Who is that person you can’t do without when getting things in your life done? If there is anyone, you are making a big mistake. And starting today, all you have to do is add a prefix – what if!

What if my friend stops helping me, what if I get disappointed by people I trust with my life, what if they neglect me and turn me down”.

A man or woman that depends on people like him is equal to a feeble pillar holding the four corners of a house. What happens when the feeble pillar falls? The man’s house falls down super-flat. Your trust should only be in Jesus. Man can fail us at any time but God is always faithful till his Kingdom comes. 

2. Love your neighbor as yourself 

The gravity of this word is enough to shatter the whole earth into pieces. 

Only if the whole world just kept this simple commandment Christ Jesus gave then, there will be no murders, poverty, greediness, anger, envy, betrayal, disappointment, etc. 

Why are there such things in the world? Because we hate ourselves. As long as you are fine all is well. You care about yourself only, selfish, you have and yet you cannot give. 

Those are the characteristics of over 90% of the 7.6 billion humans on earth. Why can’t you do to others what you would have them do to you? Why can’t you help that suffering neighbor who needs food? Then, a lot of people will say 

“Go away from here beggar, what did you do with your youth, I can’t give you a dime, beggar”. Why are we so cruel? This is the best tip you must dear to your heart. 

No matter what you have, no matter how little or in whatever way you can help. Help people, show them love, love them as you love yourself. Don’t forget this, today’s beggar, uneducated, debtor, poor person, etc can later become the greatest person in the world tomorrow. 

“Don’t settle for what life gives you; make life better and build something.” — Ashton Kutcher

3. Have a growth mindset

A growth mindset is what makes one successful and go far in life. However, a fixed and stagnated mindset throws one into jeopardy of life.

A lot of people have a fixed mindset, what they believe is what they believe, nothing you say on earth can change their mindset, they are the most educated in the world so they don’t need to learn any further. Did you have a fixed or growth mindset?

A growth mindset leads to success, achievements, happiness, learning more, and becoming better. On the other hand, a fixed mindset leads to complacency, pride, lack of achievement, ignorance, the stagnancy of the mind, etc. 

Let’s see an example of someone with a fixed mindset:

Cait tells Alice: Alice stop being so proud it’s annoying. 

And Alice responds:

“How dare you say I am proud, I am not. I am the most humble woman on earth”. In the example, Alice with a fixed mindset has a fixed mindset. However, what she does not know is that she is in the darkness of her ignorance. She is ignorant of the fact that she is a proud person thus, she can’t see it. 

People with a fixed mindset are ignorant. You must never have a fixed mindset. Always be willing to learn and to grow with humility. Pride can take you nowhere. 

4. Forgive everyone and give as many second chances as you can  

A lot of people have done all they could to be happy and have peace. But, they find out that happiness is not just there and that peace of mind is absent. 

Why is that? It is because you have a lot of grudge against people that have offended you. Yes, we know, it pained you to your heart, and what next? Keep malice? But, do you know what that unforgiveness does to you?

I call it the seed of unforgiveness because it plants a seed in your heart and this seed further grows to become hatred, depression, lack of freedom, zero peace, etc. 

If in only one person’s heart are all these things, then a person like that can never know peace and happiness. For example, if you were to go to a party with your friends and you hear that perhaps the other friend that you keep malice with is coming to the same party. 

Naturally, the only thing you would think of is not going to the party anymore because you want to avoid the person at all costs. And what does that add to you? It doesn’t add instead, it subtracts from your life because you could have gone to the party, had fun, and even have new friends or even new opportunities.

If not for anything will you forgive people, forgive them for the sake of God, for the sake of Christ Jesus. Because if you cannot forget the trespass of people, don’t expect God to forgive you. Forgive everyone, give them as many second chances as possible. 

Mind you, they can still mess up and make terrible mistakes all you have to do is keep forgiving them. This may not be so easy to the flesh. However, it is only The Spirit of God that can make you forgive the trespass of people. Without The Holy Spirit, it is impossible to do so. 

5. Love God

Do you love God? Are you a child of God? Do you believe in Christ Jesus? Even if the rest of the tips on these lists do not resonate with you, I want you to hold this very important to your heart which is to Love God with all your heart, soul, and strength.

And you can do that only by being a child of God. This life is too short. It is like a vapor, it is nothing. Life is more like an empty barrel that makes noise. You will grow old, your strength will leave you and you will die but, what happens after that? Where are you going to spend the rest of your eternity? 

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