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I thought I’d be single, unhappy and poor forever.

Music always seemed like what I was destined to do, yet it never happened. I tried, but something didn’t work. I liked the end result. I hated the work it required due to my lack of natural talent.

What I loved most was:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

I then dropped out of a business with my brother. I had it all: money, clothes, cars and a barbie doll girlfriend. Isn’t that the dream life? Absolutely no way. People thought I had lost the plot. I had.

I then joined a large organization and did the corporate thing. I took a massive pay cut and got forty-five minutes for lunch. Why would I do that? So I could find my sales personality that had been buried by all the failure and pain of not living a fulfilling life.

My corporate people leader showed me this thing called “Ted Talks.” I made a decision on that day that at some point I would be that motivational guy that inspired the pants off everyone watching. It took five years, but now I’m well on the path.

Every day, working that tough job, you couldn’t wipe the smile off my face.

All I did was to make that happen was:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

My next job was an intrapreneur role within the same organization which is what I do now. There are no hard and fast rules. Sign up partnerships and help tech companies come to Australia. Sounds simple enough.

This time, I compounded the results. If people do business with people then how could I do something cool? How could I be remembered ahead of everyone else so that I could give even more value? Blogging seemed to be the answer.

It took guts because it required me to be vulnerable and get out of my comfort zone. It’s hard to lay down your entire life in front of everyone you work with and know that they are going to judge you critically. “So what” I said. It’s now or never.

The blogging allowed me to do the following:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

How can you make the most of your life?

The little anecdotes above from my career show the power of these three tools. These tools can be applied to any pursuit. These tools are the secret sauce that you need to make the most of your life. Whatever is missing for you can be discovered through these three tools.

The tools allow you to go outside of yourself. I’ve found that by using these three tools, I can attract the right people in my life to help me to achieve any goal I put my mind to.

At first, my anecdotes look like stories of failure. The point of them is that nothing in your life is wasted. While I failed at a few endeavors, I learned the three driving forces in life which continued to show up in every passion I had.

Each of us will do something different in our lives, but what will always stay the same is the three tools you need to stop wasting time, and start achieving your dreams. Every time I feel like I want to grow more as a person or have more success I remember that I need to do the following:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

Why couldn’t you start now?

Most of us are not doing these three things. There’s no need to throw a tantrum.

“Becoming conscious of what’s missing in your life is the first step”

Add these three tools to your current passion. If you don’t have a passion then start experimenting. You can begin to love something without even intending to. The key is to try, fail, and then try again. Eventually, like I have with blogging, you’ll find a way to use these three tools.

Small steps are the best way to start using these tools. Setting some big goal with loads of complexity will stop you from moving into action. Commit to do one small thing for each of the three tools, every fortnight. Try them out and test your results.

I forgot to mention…..

These three tools only work if you do them for more than twelve months. If you do one inspiring speech, get no reaction and then quit, you’ll never see the results. Overnight success is for the dreamers who hope to be successful one day.

Hope won’t get you there pal. Working hard using these three tools will. Put every ounce of energy you have into showing people who you are with these tools. Leave nothing on the table. Let the emotion poor out of you.

Put opinions to one side. Forget the past for a moment. Act as if you were already successful because of these tools. Tell yourself regularly that you only get one shot. You’ll never get this breath right now back again. What have you got to lose?

The influencers and leaders you idolise are just like you. They’re using these three tools and laughing at how much success they can get because of them. These three tools will allow you to soar to new heights and come from a place of love. With love, we can achieve anything.

We can inspire a nation, bring down walls and create peace for everybody who lives on planet Earth. I believe these three tools can hep you make the most of your life. Do you believe?

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Sean

    Jun 8, 2017 at 10:33 am

    This was a monster article!

    Before (or at least, alongside) someone can identify the things that make him or her happy and optimized, attention needs to be paid to the ways that people have been unduly influenced by others.

    It all comes back to the primary struggle between Who Am I vs Who Am I Expected To Be

    True story: I was an Army Ranger. This was a goal that I didn’t truly want for myself, but was sort of nudged into by a father and grandfather who each made the vague association that Army Ranger = Their validation/respect.

    Had I known differently, or been better equipped when younger, I could have dealt with this problem earlier and made a different decision. Self-knowledge is the first step to making the most out of life.

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Don’t Want To Feel Like A Failure Anymore? Stop Doing These 6 Things

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

Those Who Failed Their Way To Success

Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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Some people will achieve great things. Others won’t. But why is that? We’re all just “talking monkeys on an organic spaceship flying through the universe,” as Joe Rogan puts it. So why do some “talking monkeys” build 7 or 8 figure businesses, travel the world, and live the life of their dreams while the rest of us… well, wish we were living the life of our dreams. (more…)

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