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Why Cutting Off Toxicity in Your Life is a Must



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Toxicity pertains to the state of being poisonous. Commonly, it is the term used when someone or something infiltrates your life making living unbearable. There are many toxic things that surround you, which can either make or break your life. These things crawl into your skin and make everything that you do a little less enough. Satisfaction and contentment will be hard to find no matter how hard you look for them. It is because you’ve already gone too deep in toxicity that it is almost impossible to be saved.

Every person has experienced being toxic to someone and likewise. These poisonous things can come in the form of a family member, a close friend, a significant other, and even yourself. However, it can also appear as insecurities, desires, longings, habits, behaviors, and characteristics. 

Regardless of what toxicity looks like, the most important thing is that you learn how to eliminate them before they start to take over you. It is not something that you should cling on for a long time for it will destroy you sooner or later.

“It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go.” – Daniell Koepke

Whether it’s you or others who are making your life turn upside-down, the only thing that matters is that you begin to cut the rope for life is not a walk in the park. You should start focusing on the brighter side and realize that not all the things around you are diamonds — some are only poisons disguising themselves as sparkly rocks. 

There are a lot of reasons why you must cut off all the toxic things in your life. It is not just for the sake of living a better life but also for the sake of saving yourself from destruction.

When you begin cleaning all edges of your life and start to enhance them, you will gradually meet confidence and be its best friend. Everything may seem scary before but these fears will start to fade away. Also, you may have been trapped in your shell for a long time, but once you erase one of the biggest toxics in your life — which is your insecurities, you will begin to love yourself. 

Self-love is the most important thing of all for that is where change and happiness come from. Once you begin to learn loving yourself despite your imperfections, such as crooked teeth, big belly, wide forehead, stubborn freckles, uneven skin tone, and more, the fear of being the subject for discrimination and not fitting in will not matter anymore.

Additionally, holding back will not be on your list of options once you begin removing the toxic aspects in your life. There may be things that you did not catch, opportunities that you rejected, and people that you shut down because of a handful of reasons. But now that you are starting over and living with contentment, you will start to embrace the change and will never restrain yourself on what makes you happy. 

There will be no more “what ifs” and “should have beens” that will constantly pop up in your mind making you overthink. You will no longer spend your night regretting the chances that you didn’t take; instead you will sleep peacefully knowing that you are bolder and much more capable now.

“If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Edison

Being toxic or being drowned in toxicity can become a little too much to handle. There can be instances where you forget your worth for you are focusing on what’s on your plate, but that is not what life is supposed to be. 

The more you concentrate on the things that might break you, the bigger the tendency that you’d overlook the most significant things in your life. That is why wiping all the toxics will help you see how shiny you are. Once you were a rock full of dust and mud but the moment you begin to clean and wipe that rock, you will discover how much of a gem you are

You really need to stop welcoming things that will not bring betterment to your life, especially those that only create destruction and chaos. Always focus on the good and if there are instances that will make your life a living hell, strive to cut them off and do not let them get in your head. Open your eyes so that you can see how beautiful you already are.

Toxicity may create a little hole in both your mind and soul but never forget that you are the captain of your ship. Do not let the poison continue to flow through your system, be the agent that stops this ugly thing from streaming so that you can be the best version of yourself. 

How do you make sure you get rid of the things in your life that make it toxic? Share your thoughts with us below!

Jennifer Jacksons is a professional writer and an amateur photographer. She writes for the ReadersMagnet during the day and goes on photo walks during twilight until the moon rises at its peak. She is also a regular blog contributor on Peter Justus website. She is a travel enthusiast who loves to take pictures of people and write stories about cultures.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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