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4 Ordinary Actions That Empower You to Create an Extraordinary Life

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Why are there only a few that truly live an extraordinary life while the majority is “dying” inside and giving up on their dreams? Were they born special or more significant than you and I?

When I was a child, I believed that only the “chosen” ones get to know what extraordinary feels like. I was raised in a low-income family and we often didn’t have money. When I looked around, it always seemed as though others were better off than us.

Fortunately, when I was 20 years old, someone handed me the movie “The Secret.” It was a starting point when I realized that we aren’t born special. We all have the opportunity to live and experience an extraordinary life. We all have the greatness within us. Being extraordinary means doing the ordinary activity on a constant basis.

Here are 4 simple actions which will help you to produce remarkable results and create a magnificent life:

1. Commit yourself beyond possible

Have you ever heard about highly talented people who live miserable lives? Do you know anyone who wasn’t as talented as others but achieved significant results? I certainly do because the world is full of these examples. Talent is important, but commitment pulls you through the worst and keeps you on track.

People who are firmly committed scare me in a good way. There is something “crazy” about them. Their energy is intense, and you can feel that they are not going anywhere until they get what they want.

Being committed requires your patience and dedication. Always focus on the end result. Don’t beat yourself down with temporary failure because it only disempowers you.  Your goal is clear so always keep your head up.

“A change is brought about because ordinary people do extraordinary things.” – Barack Obama

2. Have the courage of a lion

Is there anything you always have wanted to try? Have you been stopping yourself with excuses and disempowering self-talk? If so, change it. Find a way to motivate yourself and do it in spite of fear. Everyone is afraid at some point in life. The important thing is to overcome this illusion of fear.

A great way to take the first step is to remember a courageous moment from your past. Maybe you moved to another country that scared the heck out of you? Maybe you went to college which seemed impossible before? Or you experienced some hardships and overcame it?

Visualize this moment, feel it as it is happening right now. Put your mind and body into that state so you can experience the feeling of confidence and courage again.

 

3. Be in service to others

If you look at any successful person, they all have one thing in common. They are in service to others. They are donating money, building schools in developing countries, improving animal shelters, helping people with cancer, you name it.

They are extraordinary because they are making a significant difference in the lives of others. It doesn’t matter what you decide to contribute. Maybe it is your time, money or clothes. The important question is: “Are you making a difference in someone’s life?” That’s all you have to ask yourself.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” –Mahatma Gandhi

4. Accumulate enough pain to make a change

What bothers you in life? Do you feel strongly dissatisfied with who you are? Do you feel stuck and it seems like you are walking in a circle and can’t get out? Something is stopping you from making a change, and it’s painful. I totally get it because I was there.

Do you know what pushed me over the edge? Intolerable pain. I couldn’t take it anymore, and it forced me to do anything and everything to change it.

You don’t act when you are happy. You act when you are frustrated, dissatisfied and unhappy because this is what forces you to change. Use it to your advantage and destroy this pain by becoming the person you always wanted to be.

Extraordinary results are often the outcome of dissatisfaction and suffering in life. It is a signal which lets you know that change is necessary in order to create something significant.

What is your recipe for extraordinary life? Share your story and leave a comment below!

Silvia committed her life to many things but one of them is helping people in turning their pain into power and teach them how to find benefits in the most difficult events of their lives. She is a motivational speaker and founder of CourageWithinYou platform.  She has written well over 200 articles oriented on personal development, success, and healthy mental growth. You can connect with her on Facebook or on her personal website www.silviaturon.com.

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  1. Silvia Turonova

    Aug 17, 2016 at 12:34 am

    Exactly Thea Dunlap. Pain is magical. We don’t want to feel it, but once it passes, we are proud of ourselves how we were able to handle it. And this is what makes us stronger. I am thankful for your comment.

  2. Silvia Turonova

    Aug 17, 2016 at 12:27 am

    Thank you JustPost for sharing your opinion. I always believed that pain is a great motivator. From my personal experience, when I went through tough times, I made the best decisions of my life. Pain gave me the courage to change.

  3. Silvia Turonova

    Aug 17, 2016 at 12:23 am

    Tim I can only agree with you. Knowing that we can help someone out of difficulties and support them make us truly grow. I appreciate every single post from you here on Addicted2Success or your personal website which I already got the chance to explore. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.

  4. JustPost

    Aug 12, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    No pain no gain. Sometimes we have to commit to all of our potentials in order to achieve our goals.
    Great post, Great inspiration.

  5. Thea Dunlap

    Aug 10, 2016 at 2:04 am

    Nice points here. I like the ‘Accumulate enough pain to make a change’. Yes we will encounter some pain as we go through life but we can turn that pain into something much better.

  6. Tim Denning

    Aug 8, 2016 at 1:09 am

    Silvia, service to others is so important. It should be the driving force behind every business and it’s where success lies. My goal is to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development and I have this dream because I want to serve others.

  7. Silvia Turonova

    Aug 5, 2016 at 1:35 am

    Yes, Bryan, I think commitment and courage can take you beyond anything. I am grateful for your comment and that you enjoyed this article.

  8. Silvia Turonova

    Aug 5, 2016 at 1:33 am

    Glad you liked it, Chris. You are right that is better to make changes in life when we are happy and full of energy. Unfortunately, many of us don’t because we feel good and comfortable. Sometimes when you are going through the biggest pain, you make biggest breakthroughs. Thanks for sharing your opinion, Chris.

  9. Chris Targett

    Aug 4, 2016 at 4:59 am

    “Talent is important, but commitment pulls you through” – Love this part of your article. Everyone has the same opportunities in life, it’s the successful ones that take hold of them and don’t let them go.

    And you’re right, most people only make change when they are unhappy. Why not make the change when you are happy and are living life to the full- surely this is a better time to make change as you have a lot more energy and drive.

    Great article, thanks

  10. Bryan Oliver

    Aug 2, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    Love these points, Sylvia. I especially like the commitment and courage. You are right, there is a different energy when you meet someone that employs these.

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6 Reasons Why You Should Never Glorify Failure After You’ve Failed

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Many people are ashamed of failure. If they so much as smell a whiff of failure, they quit instantly because the public notices it quickly. But you shouldn’t be ashamed of failure. A lot of people have failed. I’ve failed over and over again in my career, business, relationships and more. Yet, I keep trying because failure isn’t the final verdict. (more…)

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How to Move Forward When All Seems Lost

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A few weeks ago, the relationship of my venture with a long-term client turned rocky. Losing them would mean a huge loss for my business, but it appeared like that’s where we were headed. My mind raced with unpleasant thoughts. Maybe the client had figured out that I couldn’t lead my team well. Maybe I was not good enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe I was not good enough to do anything.

Why was the world so unfair?! Within moments, my anxiety had shot through the roof and my heart was racing faster than an F1 car engine. But I know I’m not the only one who feels like this.

Why Problems Overwhelm Us

As human beings, we’re good at solving problems, so they shouldn’t stress us out. Yet, they do just that. Why?

Consider some of these situations in life. When a relationship is headed for troubled waters, we wonder whether our partner loves us anymore. Our mind unearths memories of when we got dumped or rejected. We blame ourselves for falling for the wrong people and tell ourselves that we’re not worth receiving love.

How do you think the relationship will steer after that? If we cannot stick to a diet, we think of other times when we gave up. We remember what people said about things that we couldn’t do and ask ourselves, “were they right?” We tell ourselves that we don’t have what it takes to succeed at anything.

Do you think we’ll find the grit to stick to the diet after this? So here we are… thinking we’re not good enough to be entrepreneurs, to be loved, to get promoted, or to achieve our personal goals. Notice a pattern yet? We move in the wrong direction. The destination is to achieve the goal. And unless we stop giving into emotions and start addressing situations, we’ll keep failing to get there.

Negative emotions (and even extremely positive ones) blur our vision. The more we focus on them, the deeper we go into how we feel. We either get angry because things aren’t the way we want them to be, or get paralyzed by the fear of the worst possible outcome. This means we pull away from the one thing we must do to set things right — take action.

“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.” – Dale Carnegie

How to Take Action in the Face of Problems

Most human beings are good at solving problems. Where we get blindsided is at diagnosing the right problem. To diagnose the right problem, we must address the situation instead of emotions. We must see things for what they are, collect facts on what we’re worrying about, and then ask ourselves, “What should I do next?”

In his book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”, Dale Carnegie wrote: “Neither you nor I nor Einstein nor the Supreme Court of the United States is brilliant enough to reach an intelligent decision on any problem without first getting the facts.”

To address the tricky situation with my client, I took the following three steps:

1. First, I acknowledged the feeling

Solving a problem doesn’t mean ignoring emotions. It’s important to acknowledge how you feel because it reveals the path, but domesticating your emotions is more important. I acknowledged how I felt by saying, “I feel anxious because the client might not want to work with us anymore and this will be a financial loss for us.”

Note how I said “I feel anxious” and not “I’m a loser.” If I had given into negative chatter, I wouldn’t have uncovered the direction to move in (the part after “because”). This is why domesticating emotions is crucial.

2. Next, I prepared for the worst

We often run from our worst fears rather than facing them despite knowing that the worst outcome rarely comes true. The result is that we stay stuck in fear instead of pushing beyond it. And we never discover what we’re really capable of, which sucks.

In my case, the worst meant losing the client. It would hurt but it was the truth. However, we could get more clients. Plus we already had other clients who helped us pay the bills. In other words, I wouldn’t have to live on the street.

The moment I accepted this, a huge weight got lifted off my chest. This prepared me for the third and final step.

“Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Lastly, I examined the situation

Examining a situation means setting aside your emotional baggage and focusing on facts. When you trust that you’ll be okay, you become better at diagnosing the real problem. Once I felt lighter, I could see things clearly.

I used the 5 Whys Technique (asking “why” five times) to figure out the real reason for the client’s dissatisfaction. Then I collected data on the issue and on what we had previously delivered.

Finally, I reached out to the CEO of the client and held a detailed and constructive discussion based on my findings. Within four days, the CEO and I were back to the way things were before.

The best way to prepare for tomorrow is to give today your best. I’m not sure whether the issue with the client got resolved for good or whether the client won’t pack up and leave one day. However, I am sure that I’m prepared to handle such cases better today than I was yesterday.

Control your emotions instead of letting them run amok. Accept things for what they are instead of what you want them to be. Be realistic instead of delusional. Address the situation instead of succumbing to emotions.

Don’t preempt what lies ten miles ahead and get paralyzed by fear. Address what lies clearly in front of you and keep moving. One day you’ll be surprised about how close to your destination you are.

How do you move forward when all hope seems to be lost? Share your advice below!

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8 Effective Tips to Improve Your Emotional Wellbeing

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You know what they say, “Health Is Wealth”. But, more often than not, we only mean it in the context of physical health. There’s no question that being fit is the world’s greatest treasure. Unfortunately, not a lot of us take time out to look after our emotional health and wellbeing.

Let’s not forget – it’s ‘Mind Over Matter’. So, if you are able to take control of your emotions, thoughts, how you feel through the day and how you respond to myriad situations; there’s nothing quite like it. When you become the master of your emotions; health, prosperity, and basically all good things are bound to follow you.

With that said, here are 8 surefire ways that will improve your emotional wellbeing:

1. Practice Mindfulness

Half the time, we don’t even know what we’re thinking or how we’re feeling. That’s because we let our minds operate on autopilot. It’s time to take control of your mind. Be aware of what and how you feel throughout the day. The upside to this practice is that you can detect negative emotions right on the onset and quickly change them and their corresponding feeling.

Feelings of anger, jealousy, hatred; they are not good for the mind, soul, or the body. Paying close attention to the spectrum of emotions you experience throughout the day, will help you detect the negative ones and kick them away before they fester deep enough to take away your happiness and emotional health.

2. Stay Physically Active

As you engage in physical activities, your brain produces a whole bunch of feel-good hormones such as endorphins and dopamine. These hormones are what causes the ‘elated’ or ‘euphoric’ feeling. Being physically active uplifts your mood and your outlook towards life. It readies you to take the challenges more head-on instead of becoming overwhelmed by the littlest of inconvenience.

You are better able to analyze tough situations and take a more proactive rather than a reactive approach. It’s no question physical health is in direct proportion with emotional health. A healthy mind resides in a healthy body and vice versa.

“Caring for the mind is as important and crucial as caring for the body. In fact, one cannot be healthy without the other.” – Sid Garza-Hillman

3. Get Sufficient Sleep

Ever noticed how you feel depressed and cranky, and just out of focus the day you fail to get a good night’s sleep? Well, if you fail to get sufficient sleep for a couple of days, you are bound to feel more depressed, cranky and eventually more prone to a host of negative emotions. Research shows that sleep deprivation sends amygdala – our brain’s emotional response center into overdrive.

Amygdala controls our immediate emotional responses. When it becomes overactive, we become more reactive rather than active. We become more irritable, angry and anxious. A good night’s sleep is vital to improving your emotional wellbeing.

4. Develop a New Hobby

Learn to swim. Try arts and crafts. How about painting? Swimming is a ‘happy’ activity. You get to make new friends and stay fit. Arts and crafts, as we all know, tends to have a relaxing effect on the mind and the nerves.

Just the process of creating something from scratch makes you confident and gets those creative juices flowing. Similarly, painting helps you express yourself. All these factors together create a ‘happy you’. The one who likes to engage in new things instead of resisting change or difficult situations.

5. Eat Healthy

Ever heard of the phrase, “You are what you eat”? Well, it’s true to the last syllable. When you eat foods rich in salt, sodium, fat – you are bound to feel lethargic. It takes longer for the body to digest such foods. That means the body is forced to deprive organs of blood and use it for the digestion purpose.

Result? You become lazy, moody, not ready to take any responsibility which leads to feeling cranky and irritable. On the other hand, eating fibrous vegetables, fruits, salads, and complex sugars keeps you upbeat and healthy.

6. Laugh Your Heart Out

Laughter is the best medicine. That is why they have a dedicated ‘laughter session’ in yoga studios. You don’t even have to mean it. The simple act of spreading your cheeks and pretending to laugh sends a signal to your body that you are happy.

And what happens when you are happy? Your brain releases happy hormones like dopamine, serotonin and what not. In fact, many studies have gone so far as to stipulate that laughter alone is capable of treating all kinds of physical ailments. Why should emotional ailments be any different?

7. Try Relaxation Techniques

‘’Visualization technique’’ where you imagine yourself in a happy place is a surefire way to calm your nerves if you find yourself distressed. You may also try praying to elate yourself. Praying is good for the mind and the soul.

Controlled breathing or ‘biofeedback technique’ are some other relaxation techniques that can tame how you feel and even your bodily functions. Try surrounding yourself with aromatherapy or scented candles because the smell is a big factor in governing how we feel.

“Positive emotional energy is the key to health, happiness and wellbeing. The more positive you are, the better your life will be in every area.” – Brian Tracy

8. Count Your Blessings

We all have so much to be thankful for. It could be a friend who stands by you or a happy family. Good health. Financial freedom. Make a list of all the things that you feel grateful for in your life. If it’s a person, be sure to communicate your feelings and express your gratitude.

You will feel so much happier. Happiness is the diet of a healthy mind and an intelligent emotional response mechanism. You could also try writing a poem or simply expressing your gratitude through the power of prayers.

There are so many ways to become emotionally intelligent and not one of them requires any investment or special skills. Practically anyone and everyone can do it. All you need is the will and the desire.

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How You Can Use the Power of Gratitude to Your Advantage

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The word gratitude has been tossed around, but do you know exactly what it means or how to implement it into your life? Someone has probably told you in your life, “Express more gratitude.” Well, that sounds like a great idea, but if you don’t know what gratitude is, how can you fully express it in your life? It’s a concept that once you grasp, it will change your life. (more…)

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