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4 Brutally Honest Facts About Life That We Should All Live By

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We are living in a world which is overflowing with love and good people. We have things which create comfort and opportunities to become so much more than we thought. We are so used to all this luxury around us that gratitude is becoming only a “corny word” and losing its meaning. What if you wake up one day and you lose it all? What if today is the last day of your life?

I got inspired to write this article based on the information I received just a few days ago. My friend has leukemia, and she has been fighting it for over 3 years now. It is one of those stories when you know the person so well but stay speechless because you don’t know what to say. It is the moment which makes you forget about all your “problems”.

I am not here to judge because we all are guilty of taking things for granted. I guess it is a part of human nature. I simply want to share with you why it is time to realize everything that is allowing us to live.

Here are 4 brutally honest facts about life that we should always keep in mind:

1. You have one life

Let’s think about it. Do you want to be a shoe? Or a kangaroo? I bet you won’t. It always comes down to the fact that we all enjoy the privileges of being a human. Those chances and opportunities, feelings and experiences. We love it because life is phenomenal. So what is the catch?

Life itself has a lot of downfalls. You experience tons of struggles and hardships and pain. You deal with daily problems and challenges and somewhere there, among all these shenanigans, the true meaning of life disappears.

Look, I don’t blame you. Life sometimes gets so busy, we don’t notice it. The important thing is to appreciate those little things like a hearty laugh or great people we have around because nothing lasts forever. Life can change in an instant. Take advantage of what you have now.

“We have one life to live – and one chance to live it in the richest way possible.” – Judith Therman

2. You are limitless but time isn’t

What is the most common thing you do with your time? How much time do you spend by complaining, being angry or frustrated? If I tell you that you have a week to live, would you still behave the same way?

I love the fact that the sky has no limits because it makes me feel that everything is possible. But if we waste too much time on things and people who don’t matter, get stuck in the drama and sadness, one day we wake up with a heart full of regrets.

You have 24 hours in a day. How you use them is solely your responsibility. If you aren’t happy where you are now and you feel empty, lonely or unfulfilled, stop waiting around for some magical person or event to show up. You are the game-changer of your life.

3. You were meant to help people

If you think that life is all about you, I must respectfully disagree. Let’s say you want to make more money or gain more respect; you want to build legacy and wealth. If you are doing all this just for you then your effort is useless. Who are you going to share this “success” with?

The real meaning of life and fulfillment we are seeking will always come from the service we give to others. So if you ever wonder what the secret of life is, go out and help those worse off than you.

4. If you lack gratitude, you lack happiness

Since you are reading this article, I assume that you have some internet connection and a device you can read it on, food in the fridge and a roof over your head. Do me a favor and go on Google.

Check out some places around the world where children are starving or where the war is and read about it a bit. I am not asking you to save the world or become another Mother Teresa. I just want to show you the real deal.

Just the fact that you have the internet is giving you the opportunity to make money in an online space, travel the world and gain freedom. How crazy is that? Now, look at the other side where people are literally killing each other over clean water.

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust 

Take those pink glasses off and see life as it is. As easy as it was given to you, it can be taken away, and you can’t do anything about it. Enjoy work you do, change things you don’t like and wake up every day with the gratitude of seeing another day. The best opportunity you’ve been given is LIFE. How are you going to use it?

Are you taking full advantage of being alive? If so, how? Please leave your thoughts below!

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Silvia Turonova is a mindset coach who teaches women how to develop more self-trust and inner confidence while learning how to bet on themselves. She hosts a podcast Courage Within You and is passionate about teaching others how to coach themselves. Get her free self-coaching worksheet here.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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