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3 Ways to Adjust Your Routines and Upgrade Your Mindset



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Life can become quite boring, if you let it. All of your life, you’ve been doing things the same way. A routine has been established and it makes the day easier when you just follow it. Day in and day out, it’s the same thing. After a while, you aren’t being challenged. Your mind slowly becomes sluggish because you haven’t done anything to stimulate it. You’re living your life on autopilot and that’s not good.

Having a constructive routine is good, because it helps with productivity. It prevents you from having to waste time and energy on small decisions and pushes the day forward. Certain routines can also suck the life out of you. Eating the same thing at the same restaurant, going the same way to work everyday and doing the same thing every weekend are examples of dull routines.

Actually, you can change that monotonous routine. It doesn’t have to be a huge change, but little changes will do. The little changes will be enough to get you started. In order to break a boring set of habits, you must stretch yourself and do something different. This not only sparks your mind into thinking, but it gives you something more to look forward to throughout your day.

Here are 3 things you can do right now to change up that monotonous routine:

1. Try talking to different people

When you engage with different people, it forces you to think outside the norm and learn something new. Instead of having the same conversations with the same people, immerse yourself in an environment that encourages you to think and respond, accordingly. Participating in communications with a new crowd gives you another level of interest. It’s not better or worse than your usual crowd, but it adds a new layer of engagement that you’re not used to.

“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” – John C. Maxwell

2. Watch something else on TV or listen to something different

Your mind is unable to learn if you’re stuck on the same TV channel or radio station all the time. Watch another TV show or listen to a podcast, as opposed to the radio. It’s guaranteed that you’ll pick up something you didn’t know before.

Your eyes and ears are overloaded with images and sounds everyday. Why not look at or listen to something other than what you’re used to? If you’ve never watched a football game, see if you can catch on and follow the rules of the game. If you’ve never listened to classical music, see how many instruments you can identify. Challenge yourself and open your world to something new.

3. Believe in yourself

Just because you do the same thing everyday doesn’t mean you can’t change and do something else. The downside to getting used to a routine, is that you slowly forget how to think for yourself. Without noticing, you’ll begin to unconsciously look for someone else’s directions to follow. Your mind wants someone or something to give it instructions.  

Slipping into this nonproductive void can be dangerous. Not only will you begin to do what other people tell you to do, but eventually, you’ll lose control of your life, because it’s being dominated by someone else. Believe in yourself and know that you can change and adjust your thoughts to your liking and enjoyment.

Set your standards high. Don’t be afraid to do things that you wouldn’t normally do. Explore things on another level and see how you like it. Plan to go after the goals you think you’re unable to reach. You’ll begin to realize that if you stretch yourself and make the attempt, it is very possible to achieve them.

When you upgrade your mindset, the impossible becomes possible. We’re so used to others molding our minds and telling us what to believe, sometimes, we forget to listen to our own inner voice. We forget that we have the power to become just as great as anyone else. The potential is there, we just have to remember that it’s there and be ready to grow.

“The less routine, the more life.” – Amos Bronson Alcott

Upgrading your mindset is not a simple thing to do. It’s easier to NOT upgrade it, but that’s not beneficial to you. Placing yourself within various groups of people, environments and thought patterns will prevent boredom and it is more gratifying.

Doing these tasks won’t be easy. It will take time to start because, more than likely, you’ll face a great amount of resistance. Your mind will tell you that nothing needs to change or it’s too hard to do. Remember, your objective is to break that dull, day in and day out routine of your life. It is easier to sit back and let things go as they always do, but also keep in mind that you won’t experience any growth that way.

Improve your life today by upgrading your mindset. Become the focused, disciplined and productive person you want to be. Everything begins within the mind, so lead yourself to a more rewarding and fulfilling life!

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S.R. Roberts is a motivational writer, who inspires others to excel in everyday life. She contributes to the blog, The Goalden Lady, which has encouraged numerous girls and women to grow into their greatness. Her book, “Help! I’m Stuck: 10 Strategies To Push You Through To Achieving Success,” allows her to continue the lifelong movement of driving others to become their best.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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