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3 Simple Techniques To Keep Negativity Out Of Your Life

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Keep Negative Thoughts Out Of Your Head

If you don’t control your mind, you will never control your life.

It doesn’t matter if you believe it or not, everything that gets inside your mind has a tremendous impact on how you feel, think and act. On what you achieve or don’t achieve. On who you become or don’t become.

Sometimes it’s so instantaneous that a great day becomes a nightmare after you hear a demotivating word or someone looks at you with an angry face.

Your mind starts doing its work, turning the seed that has been planted into something huge and out of control.

Do you feel that this situation is familiar?

This is the natural state of an unguarded mind.

 

The 2 Keys For Taking Control of Your Mind

You are exposed to thoughts and ideas all the time. Your mind picks the ones that have a bigger impact, positive or negative, and starts working on them until it receives something more impactful to replace them with.

This is one of the saddest elements of human nature I have found, but also one of the most encouraging.

If you are not aware of what’s going on in your mind, your life feels like a roller coaster, and your destiny is at the mercy of external factors.

So, how do you lock out all the negative factors and influences you are bombarded with all day, so they don’t impact you?

Simply put, you can’t.

If someone shouts angrily at you on the street, it’s going to impact you.

But what you can do is DECIDE whether your mind is going to pick that thought and turn it into a monster that ruins your day, or pick something optimistic and inspiring that lets you flow seamlessly through your day instead.

 

There are 2 key factors for taking more control over your subconscious:

  1. Reaction: How you react to your environment. How aware you are of when a bad thought is starting to grow in your mind and how fast you can take action to replace it with the thought you want to have there.
  2. Action: Placing in your mind the thoughts you want it to work on. Then letting them repeat, amplify and grow until you soak them up completely and they push you towards the goals you define for yourself.

After years of testing techniques to master my mind, I have collected a few that produce great results.

Here are three of my favorites:

 

1. Word Amplification

The simplest way to interact with your mind is by repetition of words.

If you detect your mind working on an idea that makes you feel bad, start repeating a word or sentence that makes you think immediately about something that inspires you or makes you smile.

For instance, if you would love to go to Japan on your next vacation, start repeating the word “Japan, Japan, Japan…” or the sentence “I’m in Japan.” It will make you feel better immediately and move your mind and feelings to a different place. .

A curious thing I have found is that using the exact opposite thought doesn’t work as well as using a thought that represents something different and positive for you.

If, for instance, you find yourself thinking that you don’t like your body and start repeating “I’m fit,” it will be harder to make yourself believe it and you will have to struggle to replace the negative thought.

If, instead, you avoid the fight and focus your mind on a different thought, you will forget the original thought more easily and soon everything will start to revolve around the new one.

Whenever you find yourself trapped by a negative thought, stop everything you are doing and repeat to yourself 10 or 20 times the most uplifting words you can find. Let your mind do its magic before coming back to your daily routine with renewed vigor and focus.

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2. Painting The Picture Of What You Want To Achieve

This is a habit many successful people have used all their lives. In some cases, it is the only one they have kept after becoming extremely rich.

Write down your goals in the morning, at night, and every time you cannot remember clearly what you are aiming for and realize you are doing something that is not taking you closer to your goals.

After you have them in writing, take a minute to visualize each of them. If it’s hard for you to do this on your own, find some related pictures on the Internet.

This will help you start quickly producing bigger ideas for achieving your goals, what will get you out of your negative mental processes. Remember that the trick is to offer yourself thoughts that are bigger, more inspiring, and more exciting than the ones you are busy with at the moment.

Between two fruits, the monkey in your mind will always pick the one with the strongest flavor.  And guess what, he doesn’t care if it’s sour or sweet.

 

3. Acting Like the Person You Want to Become (AKA Playing The Part)

You can call this technique “playing the part” or “fake it till you make it.”

Your goal here is to trigger a mental reaction from your physical actions. You have to ask yourself what the perfect version of yourself would be doing if they were in your shoes right now.

Then do it.

Well, you may ask, “What if I don’t know the details about the person I want to become?”

Let me give you some support and ask you a few questions to help you remember how you would like to be, or what you would like to have right now.

  • What do you hate about your life? What would you like to have instead?
  • What is missing in your life?
  • What are the attributes and habits you would like to have?
  • What do you enjoy doing but can’t do right now?
  • If you had all the money and time in the world, how would you choose to spend your days?

There you have some food for thought to help you describe the perfect version of yourself.

Now forget about money and material things and think only about that human being. What would that person be doing now?

Start acting the part, and soon you will find that your thoughts seem to be more aligned with that person. You may start having thoughts that seem to come from a far more developed person, and that’s simply because you are acting like that.

 

Need Extra Help?

This is the magic of triggers. Cause and effect is one of the most amazing laws you can apply to your life. It can revolutionize the way you see and do things forever.

I have developed a blueprint based on these laws (and others) that can improve your lifestyle and career dramatically, in less than 10 days. You can get it for free here.

 

What techniques do you use to protect your mind from negative influences? Please share them in the comments field below.

Sergi Trivino is on a journey to meet the top achievers in the world while putting the lessons learned into improving his training programs. After a life-changing experience, he realized he already had all he needed to turn defeat into victory and strive for the bigger goals.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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