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3 Psychological Facts That Can Unleash Your Inner Power

Some people will achieve great things. Others won’t. But why is that? We’re all just “talking monkeys on an organic spaceship flying through the universe,” as Joe Rogan puts it. So why do some “talking monkeys” build 7 or 8 figure businesses, travel the world, and live the life of their dreams while the rest of us… well, wish we were living the life of our dreams.
What’s the difference between them and us? The good news is, not a whole lot. You are just as capable as they are. You are just as powerful and full of potential as they are. They just know a few things about hacking their psychology and unleashing their inner power that you probably don’t know.
Here are 3 psychological facts that can unleash your inner power:
1. Your thoughts single-handedly determine how you feel
Throughout most of the 1900s, psychologists used behavioral therapy to treat people with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, you name it. We all sort of figured, if you want to change someone’s actions, then you need to change their actions!
It wasn’t until around 1960 that Albert Ellis suggested the radical idea that our deeply held beliefs about the world (i.e. the way we think), what he called our “Basic Irrational Assumptions,” determine how we feel and thus, how we behave. It was later suggested that if you want to change your actions or behaviors, you must first change the way you think.
Now, an entire branch of psychology, coined cognitive therapy, is dedicated to that premise. And the results are staggering; medication combined with cognitive and behavioral therapy is 75% to 90% effective. In other words, if you want to change how you behave and how you feel, then change the way you think. Easier said than done, I know. Read on.
2. Your mind can’t tell the difference between imagination and reality
Have you ever thought about something funny that happened and then caught yourself actually smiling or laughing in public? Of course you have! We all have. But why is that? After all, the funny thing already happened — so why are you laughing about it right now? Well, it’s because your mind can’t tell the difference between imagination and reality.
If you imagine something good happening, then you’ll experience all of the positive feelings you associate with that good thing as if it actually happened. The same is true for negative experiences. This is such a radical psychological fact that one study revealed there’s not much of a difference between imagining going to the gym and actually going to the gym!
So why is that important? Because it means that, with a little bit of intentionality, you can rewire your brain to associate pain or pleasure with whatever actions you choose. By imagining the future repercussions of your bad behaviors and the long term benefits of good behaviors, you can manifest real motivation to change and take the first step toward creating a life that excites you.
3. You’re far better at creating a new habit than you are at quitting a bad habit
You can’t quit a bad habit; not easily, at least. The habit pathway in your brain is already formed and there’s no currently known way to simply extinguish that pathway altogether. But you can change the pathway. You can put a new behavior inside the habitual trigger-behavior-reward system. Charles Duhigg, the author of The Power Of Habit calls this the “The Golden Rule of Habit Change: You can’t extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.”
This is why people who are trying to quit smoking, chew gum and alcoholics drink non-alcoholic beverages — because those things are replacements for the bad habit.
If you want to quit doing something — overeating, oversleeping, smoking, drinking, etc — don’t think about quitting, think about what you can replace the habit with. Often times, thinking about quitting just makes you want to engage with the bad habit more because you’re thinking about it! But replace the bad habit with something equally rewarding, something that’s good for you, and you’ll quickly be able to change any negative behavior.
Disclaimer: Mike Blankenship is not a certified psychologist. We advise that you see a professional psychologist for any serious mental difficulties you might be experiencing.
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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
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