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10 Simple Steps To Living A Purpose Driven Life

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These 10 steps below are how I added my marketing expertise to social media startups funded by the Co-Founder of Facebook and saw traction in the multiple thousands in just 30 days. It’s also how I became a #1 bestselling Author by the age of 22. Selling more than 3,000 copies in 3 months.

I’ve studied a number of successful people over the last several years, paying particular attention to identifying common elements and themes. In this article, I describe the 10 principles I discovered that drive successful living. By success I don’t mean anything related to money, power or status. What I mean by successful is an act or person that is aligned with pursuing one’s highest possible potential. If you achieve that kind of success, the money, power and status is more likely to follow.

The 10 patterns that tie together all the individuals I’ve studied over the last several years are all intangibles that, for the most part, go unseen to the untrained eye. They are present in the moment, they ask incredible questions, they listen, and they make sure they understand what they are hearing. They thrive in this world by doing less and creating more. They build their foundation by enhancing, not expanding. Once a stable foundation was established, it served as a platform from which to launch the greatness that others see and recognize.

From my three-year study of receiving mentorship from executives of Fortune 500 companies, a President of one of the top universities in the world, and a retired CEO, here are the 10 patterns that all these successful individuals had in common:

 

1. Direct Focus On One Thing

The only formula these individuals seemed to need was the 80/20 principle, also known as the Pareto Principle. What it says is that 80% of your success comes from only 20% of your effort. And the principle applies not only to their business lives, but to all areas of life, whether health or relationships or anything.

They do less but accumulate more.

 

2. Treat Yourself With Self-Compassion

The people I studied all engaged in a simple process for being successful: Becoming a master. And the only way you become a master is through action. Perhaps you’ve heard of the 10,000 hour rule, which gives you an idea of the kind of time you have to put in to become world-class at anything.

Too many individuals fear failure, but the path to success is to put in your best effort all the time. You will fail, but failure is merely a bump on the road to success. Successful people don’t beat themselves up over mistakes. They are gentle on themselves, creating an internal environment to reflect and learn, not to rant and rave.

 

3. Practice Self-Awareness

Self-awareness has to be accessed and cultivated daily, but once a certain level of self-awareness is attained (and for everyone that special point differs), it will bring great value and clarity to your life.

Self-awareness will give you a clear perspective of your personality, strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, values, beliefs, and motivations. This awareness is how decision-making happens among those who are decisive.

 

4. Be Present In the Now

Successful individuals seize not only the day, but each moment. And the only moment that’s worth anything is the one happening right now!

Timing, as they say, is everything.

 

5. Show Up To Life With Passion

This is where it all starts.

The energy that the people I studied bring to life an energy that radiates outward, and you can actually feel it. It’s both contagious and magnetic. This energy is what attracts the people, the money, and the resources. This is what allows them to “work” long hours and still have the energy to spend time with family and friends.

This passion allows them to “show up” in all aspects of their life.

 

David Scott Purpose Life Quote
 

6. Live A Purpose-Driven Life

The successful people I’ve met all have a vision of who they want to be and what they want to do. This purpose isn’t just thought about, it’s both felt and known.

Although the specific expressions of this purpose may change over time, such as in a career path, the overall message is constant.

 

7. Learn to Give and Receive

They lose themselves in others. Giving and receiving in love is important to all of them.

By giving to others they became aware of their abundance and become flooded with gratitude. Appreciation of others and themselves becomes an uplifting experience. In today’s age, I’ve seen more individuals lack success because of the inability to receive anything.

Receiving the gifts of others is the only way one can create abundance in life. Accept the greatness of others when it is given to you.

 

8. Listen To Understand

Individuals of this caliber realize the full power that is inherent in listening. They listen to others in order to understand them, not to be understood.

Too many people fail to listen because they’re busy crafting their own response, usually with the intention of being understood, rather than first taking the time to understand the speaker. Failing to learn and live active listening is a recipe for costly mistakes in life.

 

9. Subtract, Not Add, to Your Lives

It’s not in adding (whether it’s cars, clothes, prestige, or money) that we find happiness and growth, but in subtracting.

Successful individuals realize this on a deep level. They also realize that the only reason they don’t have what they want is because of their own limiting beliefs about what they can accomplish.

Successful individuals consciously or unconsciously eliminate beliefs that don’t support their vision, replacing them with beliefs that do.

 

10. Set Goals With Deadlines

Successful individuals have a clear vision about what to focus on and how to accomplish their goals. They have deadlines and stick to them, holding themselves accountable for their progress. Their word is everything, so much so that It’s the easiest way to literally speak their reality into existence. Once they say they will do something, they do it!

The people I’ve studied aren’t successful by chance. They chose to be successful and then made it happen by first nailing down their vision. They don’t ask for permission and they don’t search for acceptance. The successful individuals I surround myself with don’t win by getting angry or using force. They win with love, which is the definitive difference between force and power.

Choose love. Gain power. Be in the now.

Social media start-up marketing expert and Author of the #1 best seller "How to Find Your Passion". Tom is an emerging thought leader on the exciting combination of passion and purpose for performance.

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    Apia Julius

    Dec 23, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    nice

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    Apia Julius

    Dec 23, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    I really enjoyed this article. thanks so very much.

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    wilfred tarimo

    Oct 30, 2016 at 9:19 am

    It’s great post to understand my purpose in life.

    Thanks so much for sharing!

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    Bradley thomas Finkeldei

    Jun 21, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    Thanks for a great article.

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    Neha Mehra

    Jan 27, 2015 at 11:27 am

    Great post Tom..Each points you mentioned should be applied in real life because they can make a huge difference…One more key point is working smart as well as hard specially in today’s world working smart and hard attitude matters the most.

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    Tom Ayling

    Jan 5, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    Hey Ram,

    Thanks for the note. I will check out Adam Leipzig’s TED Talk, I appreciate the recommendation.

    I have a book that expands this topic of, finding your purpose. Simply put, finding your passion inherently leads you to your purpose. This book is more of a process than a quick read, so going through it chronologically is advised. If there’s any other way I can aid you in finding your purpose, let me know.

    Here’s the book link: “How to Find Your Passion: 10 Simple Steps to Living a Purpose Driven Life”
    http://amzn.to/YtXXbl

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    Ramnik Singh Saandal

    Jan 3, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    That was a great article. I’ve been looking for some good articles on the topic of finding your purpose in life. I feel that allot of books and articles get carried away.

    However your article was straight to the point. I also found a good video on TED Talks by Adam Leipzig. Not sure if I can paste the link here, so just search for his name on youtube.

    Cheers

    Ram

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    Tom Ayling

    Dec 11, 2014 at 5:37 pm

    Thank you for your kind words, James and Nene :)!

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    Nene

    Dec 7, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Wow! I really enjoyed this article! Thank you for sharing. I will refer to this often to remind myself of where I am heading. Thank you! Nene.

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    James Hughes

    Dec 3, 2014 at 9:27 pm

    Great post Tom

    Thanks for sharing!

    James Hughes

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