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25 Things You Can Do Everyday to Become Your Best Self



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Each of us want to live a long and happy life. You can achieve general harmony by creating your ideal path step by step. Each move is a new day that needs to be well planned. A large, attractive building is designed from small bricks.

Let’s try to figure out how to become the best version of yourself and spend this life joyfully just by building a smart daily routine:

1. Smile to yourself and wish the best day

This simple way programs your brain for a good mood. And if the first emotion in the morning is positive, this trial will remain for the whole day.

2. Start with morning exercises

Morning exercises help to cheer up, charge yourself with happiness hormones, improve concentration, and adjust you to the right choices during the day.

3. Eat right and drink more water

We all know the saying ‘You are what you eat’. Thus, try to eat wisely, calculating the right amount of calories. Try to make a choice in favor of healthy foods rich in vitamins and minerals. Plan your diet well in advance, and don’t overeat. Also, hydrate yourself and drink as much water as your body requires.

4. Write down your plans

When you write down things to do, this information goes into the buffer of your brain, preventing you from forgetting what you are planning to do today. It will also make it easier for you to evaluate your progress this way.

5. Set goals for the day and evaluate them in the evening

As mentioned above, make an effort to reflect on your duties which you planned. This practice allows you not to be lost on your path and highlight where you lag behind or what you can try differently.

6. Take regular breaks

Don’t overdo anything: give yourself time to rest, whatever you are doing. This is beneficial not only for keeping muscles from numb but also for overall mental health.

7. Go for walks

Walking in the fresh air is amazing to help you relax, “digest” what happened during the day, think about life, or not think about anything at all. Moreover, it strengthens your body and allows you to speed up your metabolism.

8. Take time to chat with family and friends

Even in times of turmoil, don’t forget those you love. There are always five minutes to call your Mom on the way home. A sense of belonging and self-worth fill the soul and give strength to overcome.

9. Practice meditation

Slow down, breathe in, let go of thoughts, relax, and become aware of yourself. Meditation brings us sensations that no other activity in the world can provide. This is a great practice to let go of all the trouble and get closer to your ideal version of yourself.

10. Move your phone away during business hours

If you want to do something well, do it thoughtfully. How often are you distracted by notifications on your phone, missing something noteworthy at work or in a conversation with friends? Make it a rule to put your phone away and be entirely at the moment.

11. Do not work outside business hours

This is something we all neglect working remotely. Not noticing the time spent at work, we slowly start to burn out. Don’t let work take over your life completely. Set a clear schedule for the day and stay within it.

12. Listen to music and get inspired

Have you ever met people who don’t like music? Listening to your favorite songs is about awakening those feelings that you cannot reveal in any other way. You literally feel more cheerful and active during and after listening to suitable compositions.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” – John C. Maxwell

13. Surround yourself with pleasant things

Do you know this thrill of having a cute new plant on your table? What about the feeling when a picture your friend drew appears on the wall opposite? Surround yourself with the things you love, and unconsciously you will feel more comfortable living.

14. Be in nature

Each of us is a unique part of nature. Merging with the forest, ocean, and mountains, you feel involved, find new meanings, and get inspired. Do not neglect nature and feel lucky to be on this planet.

15. Find a hobby you like

When you focus on what you truly adore, you involuntarily become the best version of yourself. Any hobby develops the heart, mind, and soul. Seek and find what really brings you happiness.

16. Learn something new every day

Cognitive development and brain strengthening are the path to success and a better understanding of the world. The more you learn, the smarter you get. And this, in turn, helps to live easier and more efficiently.

17. Read

Reading books increases a person’s vocabulary and contributes to developing thinking, which allows you to formulate and express thoughts more clearly. Also, it expands horizons, enriches your inner world, makes you smarter, and has a positive effect on memory.

18. Practice gratitude

Everything in this life happens for a reason. Be grateful for your efforts, other people’s actions, or the good fortune that something nice happened today. This practice will help grow kindness in your heart, making you even more significant.

19. Sleep enough

There is a lot of controversy about how many hours of sleep you need. Find your balance, get enough sleep to feel great during the day. We know first hand that when we have spent a good night, a pleasant mood remains for the whole day.

20. Allow yourself to mess around

Keeping a tight grip on yourself permanently means not letting yourself live up to the hilt. Relax and allow yourself hours or days when you can afford to do nothing. Body and mind will be very grateful to you.

21. Surround yourself with motivating people

A man is known by the company he keeps. What can inspire more if not communication with amazing people? Someone else’s incredible experience, interesting thoughts provoke you to grow intellectually and morally.

22. Visualize

When you imagine yourself in a wonderful place, with astounding people, doing what you love, the universe begins to help you implement your ideas. By drawing a picture in your head, you have a better idea of what you want and who you want to be.

23. Pamper yourself

Constraints can ultimately drain your life force. Allow yourself to get your favorite ice cream, buy nice little things, and do what may be useless but enjoyable.

24. Bring something new every week

Diversify your life with new activities coloring your routine. You will definitely feel better with new emotions and things.

25. Listen to your body and mind

Each of us is absolutely unique. Everyone needs their approach. There is no one instruction for different people. Listen to yourself to be happy. 

Adhering to these rules will not be difficult, and the result can exceed all expectations. Be the best version of yourself easily!

Valeriia Martyniuk is an ASO Specialist at Intelfit, a company focusing on fitness apps. She is currently working on an app that suggests full body workout at home for all primary muscle groups.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.



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Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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